Kundapur: Unable to bear harassment, young woman ends life; husband in custody


Silvester D'Souza
Daijiworld Media Network – Kundapur (EP)

Kundapur, Dec 12: A newly married woman who could not bear the alleged harassment at her husband’s house here reportedly jumped into a neighbour's well and committed suicide. The incident took place at Manganasalu, Siddapur on Monday December 11.

Gauri Devadiga (21), elder among two daughters of Achuta Devadiga and Kamala Devadiga, residents of Bandwadi Kelakali, Hakladi here, got married to Raghavendra Devadiga, son of Siddapur resident Manganasalu Sadhu Devadiga on May 21 this year.

It is alleged that her husband, mother and brother-in-law started harassing Gauri after marriage. Gauri, who was tired of the alleged ill treatment, used to speak to her parents often about it. She had gone to her mother’s house last week as she could not bear the harassment. Her parents had asked her to go back to her husband's house and promised to visit her next week to discuss the matter with her in-laws. However, Gauri who could not tolerate the harassment any longer jumped into the well and killed herself on December 11.

It is also alleged that Gauri was harassed on Monday afternoon which prompted her to take the extreme step. Her husband Raghavendra informed about it to the police much later. As it was night, police retrieved the body the next day and conducted inquiries in the presence of tahsildar. They later sent the body to KMC hospital, Manipal for postmortem.

Gauri’s husband, sister-in-law and brother-in-law live in the house. Raghavendra was an alcoholic and used to allegedly harass Gauri together with his mother and younger brother since the day of the wedding. Locals say that there was a quarrel on Monday afternoon and expressed suspicions of murder.

Raghavendra, sister-in-law Sadhu Devadiga and brother-in-law Mahendra Devadiga have been taken into custody and a case has been registered against them in Shankarnarayana police station.

Investigations are in progress.

  

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  • JNB, Mangalore-Mumbai

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Problem is parents in hurry!
    They wants to wash their hands by daughters reaching sharp 21,(here parents responsibility ends?)?? they think! is big mistake.
    Why don't they allow daughters to start a job work few years then let them choose her own life partner- it would nit end up with drunkard husband and in-laws tortures.

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  • Rudolf Rodrigues, Mumbai

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    FYI, dowry harassment takes place in very affluent, n well to do families, even with top IAS etc cadre qualified families n is not restricted to poor families only!! Dowry system is n Indian scourge!

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  • Rita, Germany

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    JNB,mangalore, Mumbai,I wouldnt say so.As parents think so many things about a girl when she reaches puberty.we see and hear how many times girls get in problematic affairs ,run without notice.land elsewhere .Specially who are not completed school or have no means to study ,higher,daily wagers.when someone says a good boy less dowry,ready to marry off instead of in a waiting list.They didnt even bother that husband dont work,sick,there are more people at home etc.Sheer bad luck of the deceased.

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  • mahesh, Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Hope the culprits are convicted soon.
    No justification whatsoever for the harrassment

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  • Rita Pinto, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    A precious life lost at such a tender age. What was her fault? I hope the in-laws are punished and never let out of jail!

    RIP young woman.

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  • Vincent Rodrigues, Bengaluru/Katapadi

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Proper capital punishment to be pronounced by the court to all who are directly and indirectly involved in this crime

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  • Rudolf Rodrigues, Mumbai

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Even with the educated n working gals there r myriad other problems which end with suicides or divorce; many marriages of so called "educated class" end in divorce nowadays for a variety of reasons, hence u can find many couples preferring live in relationships in metro cities! Day is not far off where marriages will be a thing of the past like in the US!! In Mangalore itself there r a lot many divorces taking place in our community itself due to varied reasons other than Dowry!!!!

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  • Af,,, Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Iam sure that man is belongs to shameless party.just wait and watch.

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  • SHAHID, SHIRVA

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    RIP....where BJPiss Lover???no comment why...??beacuse its not love jihad and its arranged so..or her husband is active member of any of your group...???

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  • B. Shetty, mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Why BJP lover....what about the other parties? Hindus are not only BJP , instead all the party.

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  • SHAHID, SHIRVA

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    That are real hindus not like Piss lovers who make false sentence for communalism...

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  • Wilma Pinto, Belman/Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Running away with somebody is not a solution, most of run away Brides/Girls taken for one way ride for one night stand, do you aware of it? if not, ask somebody to try, this is the way you motivating others?
    Sick Mind!!

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  • Jenifer, Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Just because our traditions, culture demands that we marry off our daughters suitably, if does not mean that we dump her in her in-laws' house whether or not she is happy ? Look at this girl - she came to her parents seeking help - she was again chased off, assuring to help in the future. Why ? Isn't a daughter's life precious for parents, or is it a burden that you dump it on somebody ?

    How happy are the unions that have been arranged by parental supervision if this is the case ? I assert that girls must be educated, allowed to work and permitted to chose their spouse whether or not its of parents' approval. Because then they both take their own responsibility and fight for a decent existence than their fate decided by the parents. Which, eventually leads to end like this !

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  • Santan Mascarenhas, Kinnigoli/Mumbai

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Jenifer
    Let the people agree or disagree, your view is 100% correct and let the custom, family value and culture go to hell, one's life is more precious.

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  • Jenifer, Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    "let the custom, family value and culture go to hell, "

    Do I sniff a sarcasm in your this phrase of your complete sentence ?

    Those who think that by allowing a girl/boy to choose their own life partner, the custom/family values/custom gets distorted - by the time they start to earn and begin to be more responsible, they also get mature in their evaluations of social existence. They are not quick to make a decision and elope, they think amply about the trouble their parents took to reach them till there.

    Mark my words, they will evaluate it hundred times before doing something that will hurt their parents. Well, there can be one/two cases, then parents don't honor-kill them, by this time the parents too may be nearing their fifties, a time when a daughter/son nearer irrespective of caste/creed/faith is more important - not what the others say about it.

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  • Rudolf Rodrigues, Mumbai

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Marriage is a big gamble, no particular formula works however much well planned; destiny too plays an important part here!

    Seen so many cases where wayward males having completely changed after getting married n the bond prospering!!

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  • Rita, Germany

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Very sad.Anewly married girl did suecide because of her in laws with husband and rest at home made her life hell.I doubt here really she herself jumped into well.probably a quarell about not bringing some money from parents as dowry?had gone too far and husband out of rage in a drunk stuper hit her and she was dead?may be out of fear later as situation had gone out of hand ,they must have thown her in neighbours well.Hope postmartum brings right report.Sad that parents didnt bring her back right on her return and cleared the situation.May ebe it would save her life.No wonder many parents are not willing to give their daughter ,where other woman (daughter or brthers wife)in house lives besides mother.specially in a not so good educated familys.May her soul rest in peace atleast in Heaven.Heartfelt sympathy to her parents.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    In Love Jihad women do not kill themselves ...

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  • Lavina Cardoza, Katpady

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    I have failed to understand why do these families even get their sons married if they don't want to accept their new daughter- in - laws......I hope someday this so called husbands may receive some wisdom....that only your wife whom you have abused so much ...mentally, physically and psychologically will stay and look after you not your so called family who instigates and create so much of differences between the two.....

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  • Michael, Mangalore/US

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    May her soul rest in peace. Poor parents out of whatever they have and after borrowing money, get their daughter married hoping that their daughter's and their living conditions will improve one day and look what happened. In most cases girls get trapped like this. When she narrates the story, her parents believe her but have no choice but to persuade her to go back. The reasons are fear of society and their financial condition. Poor lady must have felt so helpless to take such a decision at such an early stage of her married life.

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  • THERESA LOBO, Mukamar, Sharjah-U.A.E.

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    SAD INCIDENT.
    May her Soul Rest in Peace

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  • Roy, Bangalore

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    Bhakts, Are you people not going to protest this time? An innocent soul need justice.

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  • Ahmed K. C., Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Roy,
    Would any bhakht go against another bhakht?
    Their fight is against "love Jihad" and "cow jihad"

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  • Declan, Mumbai

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    They are more busy worried about Gujarat.

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  • readerwriter007, pune

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    do you think exploring the truth is so difficulty. Don't you think few hours of locker and nice whatever degree treatment should bring out the truth... still we will not do that... now this case will run for years and years... many people will make money...

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  • Peter D'souza, Vasai East/Mumbai

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    Put MIL (Mother in Law) behind the bars, No way out forever. 99% of marriage problems are created by either Mother in Law from both sides or sister in laws.. Recently I heard one similar story around here, this is become a bad culture.

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  • Jenifer, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    Its best that we girls run away with somebody we love and live a life we ourselves shaped than giving in to this type of traditions and reaching a stage when only suicide is the solution !

    Pathetic ! Cruel world !

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  • Santan Mascarenhas, Kinnigoli/Mumbai

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    Jenifer
    Yes indeed. A man should not call himself a man, if he cannot handle the responsibility of being one. I think daughters should be given good education that makes them to stand and get out from such cruel husbands and family members. May her soul RIP.

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  • Nishar Ahmed, Mangalore / KUWAIT

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    I call this is a "BRUTAL MURDER "it's MURDER...MURDER.. How sad it is, she Just 21 and got married a few months ago and lives in such a situation which led her to suicide. What about her life? Dreams???? No Bhakths/ Bhjrangi's will protest against the death of this poor girl, they cant get any political gain, No political party will stand against that evil husband and his evil family members. where are we heading to.?

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  • NAGESH NAYAK, MANGALORE

    Tue, Dec 12 2017

    TRIPLE TALAQ SHOULD BE ALLOWED FOR WOMEN ONLY. NOT FOR MEN

    IT COULD HAVE SAVED HER LIFE

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  • Lavina Cardoza, Katpady

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    even if this privilige is given to woman .....she will stick to her husband and family despite going through all abuse in the name of love...sacrifice...social stigma whatever.....

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  • Nelly, Karla

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Time for you to retire.... you really can't handle pressure ..

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  • Jenifer, Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Then, you must also allow 'Qubool Hai'. You can't take other religions' methods that are just convenient to you. Give girls the liberty to choose their partner too !

    Hypocrite !

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  • Nishar Ahmed, Mangalore / Kuwait

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    It's already allowed and being practised, It is prohibited for the father/guardian of the woman to force Girl to marry someone she does not want and does not like.
    “The virgin should not be given in marriage until her permission has been sought.” (Qubool Hai').
    Al-Bukhaari, 6968; Muslim, 1419.
    Woman granted choice even after marriage, Parents can't force the woman to live with someone she doesn't pleased with.

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  • Rocks, Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Nisar Ahmed.. You took my words thank you,

    That's what i wanted to say . . Girl will be asked permission for 3 times before nikah and if at all she says NO for any one of these, then parents are not allowed to get marry her with that man... It's prohibited in islam.. . Please its not that what media shows about islam and its totally different...

    Every religion is beautiful on earth and need to practice it in the way it has said . ..

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  • S. M. Nawaz Kukkikatte, Dubai

    Wed, Dec 13 2017

    Timely very well pointed Nisar bhai.
    Women's very much secured and they has own dignity in islam if they learn and understand in open mind.

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