Mangaluru: 'Why should I cry when I haven't done anything?' - Sexual harassment survivor


By M.K. Ashoka

Mangaluru, Jan 3 (IANS): The survivors of sexual harassment usually do not speak out of fear for societal backlash. When the accused is powerful and influential, the pressure on the survivor could be unimaginable. However, this brave 21-year-old woman from Maharashtra, studying law in Mangaluru, is putting up an inspiring fight, compelling the mighty accused to kneel before the law and surrender before the local Mangaluru court in a sensational sexual harassment case that made national headlines.

The victim, a law graduate student, filed a case of sexual harassment against the accused advocate K.S.N. Rajesh Bhat on October 18. He finally surrendered before the local court in Mangaluru on December 20. The Karnataka High Court recently rejected the anticipatory bail plea of the accused, who is presently in police custody. The bench headed by Justice K. Natarajan opined that the accused is a professional advocate and he could influence police, university and judges. The anticipatory bail can't be provided in these cases, the bench said.

Even after the police had issued lookout notices through Intelligence Bureau (IB) to all the airports of the country to prevent him from escaping to a foreign country and forming four teams, they failed to arrest the accused. As the victim stood her ground, the accused advocate was suspended from the membership of the Karnataka State Bar Council. Anti-Corruption Bureau (ACB) authorities removed him from the Special Public Prosecutor (SPP) post.

Although not belonging to the place, the survivor, who faced the sexual harassment, threats, media trial and depression, alleged non-cooperation by police. She shared her experience with IANS. "My native is Maharashtra and I don't have a dad. I would like to give the credit for my fighting spirit to my mom. She is a strong mother. So, it was never like for me to give up. She told me never to give up," she says. "Why should I cry when I have not done anything? I am not liable to cry," she says.

"One thing, it is not that we (girls) should be careful in all situations. It is those people who think of doing such a thing should be careful about not doing it. They should have that fear. For years, history is just going on like this that women are weak, it's not like that now. It's changed. I want every person who has, who does it, he should get punished. I will make sure that I do it after I complete the law," she said.

"I was depressed for one and half a months. Later on, I thought it is not worth being depressed, at least not for him (the accused). Honestly, I would tell victims of sexual harassment to come forward and keep hopes on the law. I am a law student and I trust my law. But, from the police department, I can't tell anything. Seriously, I can't say anything. You can trust the law. That is one thing," she said.

She further said, "I will win this case. No doubt, I will win this case. It's not about winning. It's about the way I felt for that one month before filing the FIR regarding the incident. And, whatever the accused had done, he had abducted my friend. She had done nothing. He made an affidavit that my friend and I did all this for money which is impossible. He deserves punishment. Because, if I had let him go, I am pretty sure in a a few days or few months he would have done it with some other victim, thinking that girls don't have the power and he can do anything whatever he wants."

Talking about the incident, she said, it was difficult in the beginning. But, then she got people who stood with her and because of them, she could do all these things like filing of the FIR and filing case, etc. She says she wouldn't have done anything without their help.

"I joined there for an internship on August 18, 2021. The atmosphere was very friendly. It was good in the beginning. Later on, he started texting me, I told him not to text me. He was like are you feeling bad, you are like my daughter, like my elder daughter. Later, the incident of harassment took place on September 25. He threatened me after the incident. When I ran from the office, he threatened me not to tell anyone about the incident. If I tell, people will see my dead body. Somehow, I shared my experience with a few of my friends, some girls who were working there," she said.

"After that, I was very scared. I had to face mental issues. I didn't go out and I was very scared and there was an audio on social media platforms. He called me after the incident. He was crying and apologising. I was like no, that audio I sent to some two, three people and it also went viral. People knew that it was me because of my voice and there was also my name in the audio like he brings up my name in the audio. It was very difficult for me to face people. I used to feel like it is something very wrong to socialise with people. Later, many people tried contacting me and I didn't contact anyone," she revealed.

"All India Students Association contacted me, somehow I felt these people could best help me. So, people helped me and I met the commissioner, he told me that I file the FIR, we will see and give you protection. But, he didn't give any protection," she said.

"They (the Karnataka Police) didn't even find him. It was he who surrendered. It was very difficult during the investigation. We had to go to places. We didn't eat anything, like the whole day I used to go with the police only for the investigation... The police didn't even send transport, no facility was given. They didn't inform me what was happening. And, we did one small protest near Vidhana Soudha in Mangaluru, ACP called me and said what am I doing? He advised me not to trust others. I know the people who helped me to file FIR and did everything to help me. Why should I not trust them?" she said.

"The police officer was very rude and they called people who were there with me useless. We were very upset. Now, that the accused had surrendered and we don't know anything. Like what is going on we don't know. What is happening we don't know? The police are telling my friend that I am not communicating with them. The officer didn't even call," she said.

"It was me who was cooperating and they weren't cooperating. Till now we don't know what is happening and where he is and what is going on? What about the charge sheet... nothing? They (cops) tell others, my friends I am incommunicado. If they call I will only communicate. Whenever I called him they were like come here," she said.

"The first thing was I don't know people here. I am new to this city. It was very difficult. But, later I came to know some. If I file an FIR and legal proceedings are initiated and people would come to know and he wouldn't be able to do anything, I believed in this. Thanush Shetty, Vikhyat Ullal and social worker Prasanna Ravi madam they were with me. They met me just one or two days before filing of FIR. They were like they are ready to stand with me till the end. I told the whole story and they were like we will support you and file the FIR. I even said I don't know singular, plural. It was Prasanna Ravi madam and all of these people assured me that why am I worried as they are with me. Wherever I had to go, if I had to go to the police station to file an FIR report these people were there with me," she said.

"They meant their words. They did it and they are still supporting me. After filing FIR, we met the commissioner on October 18, it was around 4 a.m. We filed the FIR at around 1 a.m. It took time. The next day we were searching for his house. He was absconding and his video was on the media, he only put that video. Everyone came to know about the incident," she says. "Now, I am going to college and I have exams. I am not totally able to focus, but I am trying to. Recently I went to Maharashtra and I met my mother," she said.

"When it happened to me, people came to know it's me. Because many of my friends were telling me to file an FIR, telling me that it happened with them also. But, they couldn't do anything and I was like why? They were like ... the family didn't allow or they faced some or the other problem. Maybe their family member is someone who also did it. They were insisting for me to do it," she shares her experience.

"The other victims told me they are feeling good that at least I did it. It's like the victim always faces the bad side of society. Even when I filed the FIR, people were literally asking me why I am not crying in the audio. Why should I cry when I have not done anything? I am not liable to cry. People will think that way. It should not matter what people will think about what happened to you. Persons should stand for themselves. It's okay if the police are not cooperating. The case will go to the court and court proceedings will start," she said.



 

 

 

 

 

 

  

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Wed, Jan 05 2022

    Missing leopardess needs to be traced and caged.

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    "Time has come to change one famous quote....which goes like this.." JEALOUS, THY NAME IS WOMAN"....I will make slight change in this which will huge difference....Jealousy, thy name is FLAVIAN" you have crossed all the norms of a civilzed behaviour. Why I should be jealous of you as if you have something extraordinary in you. You are a pocessed woman who keeps fighting , arguing and applying maska with all to be on the news. What is your worth. I crown you forbeing an chandi Kori rackling all the time. If you are suffering with some prickly heat go and rub at Tamrind tree. Itching koroz ravtha. Zaizalyar steel wool use ker. Sickly woman

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    You are possessed man using all dirty telepathy and saying worshipping almighty. Shame on you a creature like you who is not fit to receive my comments. Applying maska is your nature and try to chase everyone from this forum who speaks truth. You dont count my worth. Count your worth first .... how worthy you are !! Shameless man replying to my comments.... i dont get any benefit for applying maska on anyone. You comment on the topic and not on my comments. Shameless ..today why your comment is not short and sweet ? Big lecture you were giving yesterday. Follow what you practice.... Its none of your business to abuse others by your derogatory comments. Stay in your limits.

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    As if you have behavior..?? Civilization? Culture ? Your filthy words and changed statements and derogatory comments show your personality exactly what you are !!! Enough....dont write more and show your filthiness....

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    . bore disagree kartay tu eklo maatr mujya comments voir. 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬....👈 I learnt from you ! Thuni une nanhi Aavn kiri ani thun sermavachi Rani.

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    Tu sirf kirikiri subba maatr nei...piripiri yee. Pavsabori. Sook mun dislyar have kitya sermanv deevnk nozo ?? Kitya ? Kaale learnt from you ? Bore shik...Revenge, farikfon, dubhav, hage, raag, imitation etc nei. You sing a hymn that R³ wrote after reading bible verses about what is love and its qualities...😡😡😡

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    You are superb ! Top most, Fantastic, fabulous, sizzling, spot less , story writer, achiever. Happy New Year. I like to see a red sun on your face.

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    Whatever qualities you have mentioned in the first line speak your personality Kirikiri Subba, kuwait (usa).... especially expert in writing stories. I never write stories...Nanjiss tuka poorainthee....!! . bore disagree kartay tu eklo maatr mujya comments voir. 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬....👈

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  • Sadiq, Mangalore

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Beti bachabo and Beti padavo…

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  • Naresh, Kerala

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Disgusted to see that a victim who is fighting against all odds against the perpetrator is termed as 'chicken'..... Kudos to AISA who has been fighting the communal politics in JNU, BHU and other universities since 1990., for supporting the victim.... Where are those who were talking about 'Beti Bachao'......

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  • k b r, Mangala Uru

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    naresha karela, pls allow beti to visit shabarimala... she is not impure because she menstruates... menstruation is God's rule and not choice of human being...

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    What stories you are building ? No connection or link at all. Odli maincho kanio? Laamb laamb bogi sodthai kithyak ? Shart n sweet borai bhaye😇🤦‍♂️

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Tujyo kaniyoyee vodlimaychyoss asthat sabar pavti. Tuka matr tuje kalana. Tujya points ak have zap dilya. The sodun tu, tuje tharu ulte guvdainaka. Tyass dishen mukar vor. Vasunk time na zalyar vasinaka bawa.... dusre comments vasunk tuka avkas asa. Observer yee, henss sangtalo adlya pavti...What i wrote reply on that. Dont change the topic by your usual derogatory comments

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    What build up stories ? What way no connection? No link ? Before commenting anything read the article fully. All connections/links of my comment, you get in the article. Just reading the headline is not sufficient to put up comment. This article is not short and sweet like the way you want.... sir!!

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Yes Rooster only has to vomit. Even chicken goes behind, rooster should have kept distance from it or should have chased and given warning or could have taken matter to the college management as well as parents if she troubled her. RAPE IS NOT CALLED AS "EATING TOGETHER"... And thats why its called as rape. Rooster calls her as daughter and same so called father does atrocities on her ? Why rooster hidden in the bushes since so many days ? Become the habit of making others as victims very often ? Probably, rooster didnt know, which step of its will turn unlucky for him .....

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Chiken follows Rooster and eat (ate together) and in bad times only rooster has to vomit?

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Rooster learnt a lesson for running behind a better piece of chicken....Whatever rooster had eaten, time has come to vomit now..... 🤢

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  • k b r, Mangala Uru

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    student internship is a sham... practically no pay (or shamelessly low 'pay'), all useless sundry work dumped on the interns... add to that the prospect of harassment including sexual harassment ... universities should not make internship mandatory for any course (except medical)... students should be given option of internship / thesis... if internship is mandatory for law / archi students, they will definitely be exploited... most law firms / archi firms are one or two people outfits... not corporates...

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  • Mangalorean, Mangaluru

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    In our Mangalore so many ladies clubs, women organizations are there, but nobody supported her. Why these organizations are very selective?

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  • Rita, Germany

    Tue, Jan 04 2022

    Mangalorean Mangalore,they didnt support ,may be thought she is only making noice to get some money or she was telling lies ,Since he is a lawyer ,he may not do it ,Now it looks like she is not lie ing and also talking with her steady voice to know the world ,she is the victim .Lawyer is now at the loosing end .wish her all the best and win the case.It is always the fate of practioners ,in medicine or anywhere

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    To get a better piece of chicken you'd have to be rooster"

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  • Shanthi Quadras, Kundapur

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Kudos to this brave lady... I too being a lady lawyer I feel proud of her.

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  • francis lobo, Mangalore

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    I hope this law student becomes stronger by fighting this case on her behalf. She will be an asset to all the women for her courage. Hope she gets more support from the public

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  • Muhammad Rafique, Kaup

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Wonder why Sobakka, Naveena and a person from pumpwell didnt support this victim? the so called saviours of Hindu sisters

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  • Peace lover, Karkala

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Why are you bringing religion and politics in this?

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Raheja Waterfront

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    We need to Liberate our Women ...

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Ek dusre se haath jod ke aage bade.... Your motives are just and mind blowing...

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  • SKM, MANAGALORE

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    It is very sad that women is seen as a material object for fun by many men. Meanwhile it is better to take care by all women by avoiding the danger by monitoring the intended rapists especially in workplaces.

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  • Lawrence, Mangalore

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    A very senior congress leader of Karnataka who was past speaker also said recently on lighter tone that when you cannot stop sexual harassment, enjoy it. These irresponsible and insensitive leaders are the main cause why our laws are so mild today and why the victims are suffering. Once the crime is proven why we should wait for years to hear verdict from the court. Police must put the culprit behind the bars and give severe punishment.

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  • Ajay Rebello, Kallianpur

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    This is what happens when bad behaviour is institutionalised. You can't expect all this behaviour not to affect majority hindus who are without any political backing like sc/st community.

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  • real kujuma, kodial

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    the real face of INdia....very difficult for women at work places...only when minority guys do it,..they are targettted...if majority does no issues..even now..i very much doubt whetehr justice will be served to this bold girl...after all we live in third world country where things are hard..

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Mon, Jan 03 2022

    Rajesh bhat's .... crookedness/cunning nature correctly visible in his eyes....posing like as if he is won....I agree with you Kujumaji....I said somebody, not only this Maharashtrian student he misused ..he misused others as well. When others were quiet due to personal reasons, feathers of success were growing on this fellows body and behaved like a rooster....🐓

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