Kundapur: Man whose love affair sparked tension in 1992 commits suicide


Silvester D'Souza
Daijiworld Media Network - Kundapur (EP)

Kundapur, Feb 6: A man whose love affair had made headlines in the state over two decades ago allegedly committed suicide by jumping into a well in the premises of his house at Moodubage, Amparu here on Tuesday February 6.

The deceased, Bhasker Kothari (47), had made news 26 years ago across the state for falling in love with a girl from another community.

Bhasker Kothari, an alcoholic, had reduced drinking lately as he fell sick. However, he went into depression as his sickness became acute.

The house warming programme of his younger brother Diwaker was held on Tuesday. As Bhasker was not seen in the programme, the family members started looking out for him. They did not find him in the vicinity and went to the well and found that the rope of the pulley used for drawing water had broken. Locals grew suspicious about it and contacted expert diver Manjunath.

Manjunath got into the well and found the Bhasker's body in the well. As the house warming programme was in progress, the locals waited for some time and disclosed the information after the programme.

Bhasker's wife Asha did not know that her husband had committed suicide till the programme got over. She only knew that he was missing.

Manjunath lifted the dead body after the arrival of police. The family members were later informed about the tragedy.


Controversial love affair

Bhasker and Asha's love affair and marriage had brought about shoot at sight orders and curfew in Kundapur back in 1992. Bhasker had fallen in love with Manavar (who later became Asha), a girl belonging to another community. Soon after Manavar's family came to know about it, Bhasker fled. Meanwhile, there was news that people of the other community allegedly killed him. Munavar too went missing soon afterwards. A tense situation prevailed on both the sides. Several acres of farming land belonging to a businessman in Kandlur was completely destroyed during this incident.

Police led by Dalagar who was in Mangaluru and was DySP in Kundapur traced the couple and brought them back. The police convinced the people of both the communities and conducted their wedding in Narayana Guru auditorium, Kundapur in February 1992. Elders say that the incident gave rise to communal violence in Kundapur which was otherwise quiet.

Their married life was not peaceful though. Manavar’s name was changed to Asha after the wedding. Bhasker could not shoulder the responsibility of married life as he was an alcoholic. Asha used to roll beedies for their living. Though they did not have children for some time, a girl child was born to them six years ago.

Shankernarayana station police conducted investigations and have registered a case of unnatural death.

  

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  • santhu birve, Mumbai/Udupi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    today only i come to know about this historical love story of kundapur youths. daijiworld commentators helped me to have detail idea about it. Sad he could not committed to his life partner who left her everything and gave her everything for her true love. RIP

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  • kas, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Rajesh .... Do not be under the impression, that by doing Haj all our sins are washed .....NO..NO... only the sins , we commit by not obeying Allahs rules may be washed away ... Because Allah is merciful.... But any wrong doing done to other human beings , can be pardoned by the victims only ... Allah will not pardon such wrong doings .... he is answerable in Allah's court for all wrong doings .....Life is NOT SO EASY as you think ....

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  • Saihu, Udupi/Dubai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    I do remember those incidents we were studying in Manipal College those days and one of our class mate was from Kumdapur and he was updaing us on that incident. The Girl was from rich family and due to this incidents, her uncle's acres of farms and fruit yielding trees has been destroyed. This is eye opning incident for those who fall in 'blind love' but same time there are lot of incidents where people has true love and had a successful married life.

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  • Dinesh, Dubai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    "bele ejandinakul love malpuver, bele itinakul kass malpuver."

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  • Ismail, Basrur/ Kundapur

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    I remember those days when I was passed from Sharada college Basrur the three youths were came to me and beaten like street dog . even I doesn't no anything . they beaten me because of am other religion.

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  • Vikram, Dubai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    A proverb always remembers 'Jab Garibi Darwaje Se Andar Ati Hai,...Tab Pyar Khidki Se Bahar Chala Jata Hai'

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  • Ahmed, Bangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Sad to see such ending fate. But have no pity on this fellow as he was totally alcoholic, irresponsible and moreover physically abuser to his own wife whom he acquired her through his Love affair.

    His wife belonged to a financially stable family, blindly falling in love with such an alcoholic had to lead a hell life. This fellow completely shattered her life. We are witness to it what happened in our naked eyes in those days.

    This is a lesson to those youngsters that your parents are not your enemies as they want you to get marry to a suitable guy who can take care of their daughter well. But young girls, completely blind and no wisdom of the worldly affair, fall in love many a times with such person that they not even think that life is not just for one or two days of love affair, its a matter of living a dignified life till their last breath.

    May God provide all of us guidance to walk into the right path,

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  • Prashant Karkera, Hejamady/Mumbai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Very good advice sir, pyaar se pet nahi barti, jab bhook lagta hai na tab roti chahiye, pyar nahi.
    Young generation fall into such infatuation and spoil their life, moreover inter religion marriages lack support of family and society for life long.

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  • Vikram, Dubai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    SOME ARE THINKING IF HIS NAME WAS BASHEER INSTEAD OF BAHASKAR ... ASHA ALIAS MANAVAR'S LIFE WOULD HAVE BEEN HAPPY ..... BUT ANYONE'S DESTINY CANNOT BE CHANGED.

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  • Rajesh, Udupi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Sad
    Those days Bhaskar was lucky to have survived.
    But Ankit Saxena is not that lucky.. he was beheaded by the isis chelas for loving.
    Love jihad is ok .. opposite is just not ok..

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  • Stan, Udupi/Dubai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Do not mix personal life into religion. True followers of a religion will not lead a life like this. We know to laugh at others stories , but are not ready to help anybody to take them out of their misery/ sinful habits. May his soul rest in peace.

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  • Rajesh, Udupi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Sad

    But then Bhaskar was lucky to have survived that year..
    Ankit saxena was not lucky.. He was beheaded by isisi chelas last week for loving mullsm girl.

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  • nazeer husain, jeddah KSA

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    The lady has got still opportunity to ask almighty for forgiving such a sin of leaving islam and continuing an immoral marrittal tie and she must now accept islam. Alchoholic culture of majoritarian community in india is one of the main reason that lot of girls belong to them are going behind believers paradise. But in this case the lady has sufferred lot and lately come to know that marriage is not a short story of youthful drama but it should be an inspiration for whole life. A HOPE OF LIFE SHOULD ALWAYS BE ALMIGHTY ALLHA FOR BELIEVERS AND NOT INDIAN SPECIAL MARRIAGE ACT.

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  • Nitin, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Alcoholism is not community oriented neither love. Please raise above such steroid type mentality and understand that final goal of all religions, scriptures is to seek and reach almighty the ultimate. You can always twist this ultimate infarence for your advantage which is done by Osama or ISIS or any other Anti social.

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  • Dev, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Your comment shows concern for a lady who you think lost paradise due to change of religion.
    It shows a narrow minded thinking -"ours is only true religion"
    God created all the people on earth & all religions are people's quest to attain heaven in their own way, nobody has proved by going to the other world & come back with proof to say only their followers are in heaven or hell.
    Keep your prejudices & beliefs for your self is my request to all blind followers of any faith. Let us be better human beings first & spread peace here first, then all will reach the same destination in afterlife let us hope.

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  • Rajesh, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    When the isuue of alleged love jihad appeared in daiji, lot many pounced on Hindu groups saying that they should not poke nose on love between two consulting adults. The reality is if the opposite happens there will be baying for blood to kill unless the other person converts to their faith. It happenned to Ankith recently and happenned to many others in the past. A few celebreteis are left as they marry rich and powerful.

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  • kas, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    You are talking as though people are opposing the punishment to the killers of Ankith ..
    Come out of this Nagpur cave .... Develop the habit of punishing the criminals and respecting the innocents ...
    See today how the goons were beating a aged muslim and forcing him to say sri ram ... the abusing words are unfit for hearing ....

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  • Rajesh, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    I am not enlightened in Nagpur or Hira caves but i know that many who cry foul when allegation of love jihad happens give lot of sermons but for them their women falling in love with people of another religion is a religious crime.

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  • santhu birver, Mumbai/Udupi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    I am having good number of minority friends in Mumbai who are badly addicted to daily alcohol and other bad habits. So never say alcohol is community oriented..from every community you will get an alcoholic man/druggist addicted man.

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  • Roshan braganza, mumbai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Its sad that such a thrilling love affair going threw hiccups like this , succide at times gives leverage to person who is in extream agony or stress , with no help arround results in such extream step . Lets pray for his soul . Its sickening some comments justifying karma , its unrelated as they fell in love and got married .Plus love at young age , say at teens is very real and innocent . In some communities girls marry very late , ie after mid 20s , they r normally gold diggers looking for rich boy plus all baggages of wrinkles or past relationships.

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  • Ajay, Kallianpur

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    In a lot of cases innocence is taken advantage of and lives are ruined. It is only after maturity that people are able to identify the qualities that they want in their life partner. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and should not be done blindly

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  • Roshan braganza, mumbai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    maturity comes with age of pubert .Late marriages breeds pre marital sex and stray relationships. Plus girl looks faded once they cross mid twenty , so earlier the better .

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  • Dev, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    It is said Love is Blind, this incident proves why parents are concerned about their kids welfare when they fall in or rise from love.
    Arranged marriages too have their own problems but both families support them except rare cases which makes them last a life time. Love marriages lack that support or the initial fantasy goes out when faced with realities of harsh life that every couple face & lead a successful life together.
    When normal marriages end in divorces these days these marriages end in tragedy & daily fights leading to depression, alcoholism & tragedy is the result & data too proves love marriages are more prone to end in divorces than arranged.
    Lovers always see only the best or positive side whenever they meet, but once married they see their negatives & bad habits too, which is the root of fights & divorces or living separately in many cases. Hope kids will learn a lesson from this real life story.

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  • Rash beary, Mlore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Right punishment to Asha for going against her parents.. he had been beating her until his death so totally she is leading hell life.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    This is also a sort of Love Jihad ...

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  • shaji, Calicut

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Dear Saldhana, Love Jihad is referred only if the girl belongs to Hindu religion and boy belongs to other communities or girl belongs to upper caste and boy belongs to lower caste. This is called chaddi jihad.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    I said 'sort of Love Jihad' ...

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  • Moshu, Mangaluru

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    A hindu man destroyed the life of a muslim girl. This is not the first time muslim girls in the "region" are drag into hell. Chaddi brigade should understand why hindu girls are eloping the muslim boys. This is one of the core examples.

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  • Sampath, India

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Please explain how the voice of crores of Muslim women are silenced in India and across globe...talk about this too...

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  • Devkumar, Mangalore/New Delhi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    How muslim girls cross the boundary having well guarded fence..???
    It means love is no boundaries and it proved time again and again.

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  • Moshu, Mangaluru

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    You guys are smart enough to beat around the bushes. Lets stick to the subject. You are the guys who cry for Love Jihad so its manadatory recall your foulplays. Arn't you?

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  • moshu, mangaluru

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    I am happy to have knowing you saying Love has no boundries. Hope you will stay firm with your similar views encountering on so called (you) Love Jehad incidents as well.

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  • Ummar, Santhekatte

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Even though he did a love marriage but he was never spent a day happily in his martial life.
    ಬಡವರ ಕಣ್ಣೀರಿನ ಶಾಪ ಎಲ್ಲಿಗೂ ಹೋಗುವುದಿಲ್ಲ.
    Now Munawar also get the same fate.

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  • Vivek, Hirebyle / Abu dhabi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Love at Young age is Not love... in real it is LUST...........the people at their time must be inspired by Films like Qayamat se Qayamat tak....or Dil....... the Generation now is afraid of immoral police ......better choose girl from Own community at least girl wont be blamed for ditching Family / community / Society .....

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  • Mohammed, Kundapur/Qatar

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    "The police convinced the people of both the communities and conducted their wedding in Narayana Guru auditorium, Kundapur in February 1992" , will it same apply if girl from hindu and boy from some other religion ? ? , so tolerance started in India since 1991.
    so these sanghis and anti-social elements will beat you until you stand and fight back, this is what the lesson we need to learn.
    "Bhasker could not shoulder the responsibility of married life as he was an alcoholic. Asha used to roll beedies for their living." alchohol is the reason to start many problems in life, but no one speak against it and everyone act like blind in this matter, this is what our society now, and even after love-marriage, the girl roll beedies for their living, how sad, where there is love here, it's only lust. and politicians and sanghis used their love-marriage to attack innocent muslims and loot properties and valuable from muslims.
    this a lesson to all girls, when you will go against your parents wish, you won't be happy in life.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Thank God it was not a Murder ...

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  • Prakash Rebello, Kundapura /Dubai

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Sensational news and case of Kundapura history, First time ever curfew was imposed in kundapura taluk and several youth tasted the Laati charge by CRPF. College student were united and supported the love affair since, the youth built fantasy about different communal love affair resulted in huge support for them. Thousands of people attended the marriage ceremony and wished them well.
    But in the real life all have their own challenges !!!! Couple got married at very young age and later social support might be deprived . Very sad end to love story. Kundapura become Bombay film story similar situation during 1992 is still fresh in mind. RIP

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  • SMR, Karkala

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    This man not even crossed half of his age but his true love proved to be fail. Whatever one may call it as reverse Love jihad or so. But he has left widow and orphan because of alcoholism, now depended only on rolling 'beedis' for rest of her life to feed her daughter as she can't go back to her parents.

    Jai Hind

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  • Ibrahim, Bahrain

    Tue, Feb 06 2018

    The love incident is fresh in my memory, as it was a sensational news of that era.

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  • MAYUR, MUMBAI

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    RIP....

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  • Devkumar, Mangalore/New Delhi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Ibrahim...it's the year of babri demolition for that reason international news.
    People all over in the world comes to know that there exists one more ancient religion exists on this earth apart from jewism christanity and islam.
    Most of them started to read history.of india and much surprised having many similarity with all the religions.

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  • comman, man

    Tue, Feb 06 2018

    Jaise karne waise bhaarni..

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  • Devkumar, Mangalore/New Delhi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    suzanne d/o hritik also left her husband. kisski karni..kisski barni..

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  • Ummar, Santhekatte

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    @ Dev,
    Suzanne was w/o Hrithik. Not daughter. Know difference between wife and daughter. Or you may...........

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  • Ummar, Santhekatte

    Tue, Feb 06 2018

    Bhagwan ke ghar me der hai per andher nhi. He has to bear in this life what he did for others.

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  • G M Hegde, Udupi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Doosron ke dukh par hasne wale khud ek din dukh ki andhi mein barbaad ho jayenge!!

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  • Ahmed, Bangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Hegde,

    Sacchai kadvi hoti hai na? Waise ek ladki ki zindagi barbaad hogai, kya tumko ye afsos nai lagta? Insaan ko Qudah ki laati zarur padti hai.

    His life story is a lesson to all youngsters who go against their parents wish and also to those who blindly fall in love without even seeing the background of the person.

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  • kas, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    That is why Kothari and Asha barbad hogaye ..... Do you know how many innocent muslims have suffered because of this love affair.... Buses in Uppunda were searched and Muslims were attacked.... Many shops and houses were looted in Kundapura and Gangolly .... Coconut plantations were burnt and damaged .... Do you think that KARMA will keep quiet over such goondagiri ....
    CURSES OF INNOCENTS WILL NOT GO WASTE .....

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  • Rajesh, Udupi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    when did you start belieing in karma? LOL
    if karma has to happen, the miseries someone brought to this word for last 1500 years, the lsalvery, the ra*es, murders in the past. or even the present day on kashmir pandits or bengal or yazdies..

    the repay from nature will happen and it will be brutal too? or karma jsut for one side of the story?

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  • kas, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Who ever does atrocities will face Karma .... Take lessons from the life of Ariel Sharon, Tagodia, Muthalik, Vajpayee, Advani, Joshi, Jaswant Singh ....................
    you and me too will have to settle our Karma .......

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  • Ahmed, Bangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Mr. Rajesh,

    Do you really know the prior history before 1500 years ago or just blindly uttering the Sanghi words?
    No sane person living on earth after knowing him his biography, will ever blame the person whom you are trying to blame after his contribution to the world to make so called humans, true human beings who had completely gone astray in every part of life.

    You call such a person misery, the one who stopped humans practicing many false God's and made people to worship One Abraham'c God?
    You call such a person misery, the one who stopped parents from burying their daughters alive?
    You call such a person misery, who asked people to stop gambling, alcoholic, rape, murders, theft, astrology, palmistry, blind and superstitious belief, slavery etc etc and brought in social, economic, political and Religious reform?

    The list is endless.

    It's was neither a joke, or a fun, or even a time-pass where famous historian, philosopher, mathematician, and a teacher Mr. Thomas Carlyle in his book "On Heroes, Hero-Worship, and The Heroic in History" being a Christian himself named Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) as Number 1 hero/influential person on earth, giving 2nd position to Jesus son of Mary (peace and mercy be upon them all).

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  • Rajesh, Udupi

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Ahmed
    You said false god? Then I call it misery when others deity is refered as false God, and his alone is supreme.
    I call it misery where a ra*e victim gets killed calling it adultery
    I call it misery killing a non-believer is perfectly ok, even if he is innocent
    I call it misery siding with believe who is at fault against the non believer who is not at fault.
    I call it misery people think sau billi kaake type, who think their sins will be washed away and they are welcomed in haven even though inocents are killed

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  • kas, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    Rajesh .... Do not be under the impression, that by doing Haj all our sins are washed .....NO..NO... only the sins , we commit by not obeying Allahs rules may be washed away ... Because Allah is merciful.... But any wrong doing done to other human beings , can be pardoned by the victims only ... Allah will not pardon such wrong doings .... he is answerable in Allah's court for all wrong doings .....Life is NOT SO EASY as you think ....

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  • Ummar, Santhekatte

    Wed, Feb 07 2018

    @ G M Hegde,
    I do have sympathy towards all people except these kind of people. Who ruined many lifes for his love or lust. We will not forget those days chaddies vandalise without poor peoples fault.

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