Mandya: Bride says 'no' at altar, walks away from church for lover

Mon, Dec 30 2019 10:07:08 PM

Daijiworld Media Network - Mandya (MS)

Mandya, Dec 30: All of us have watched various climaxes in movies that are based on love stories. But it is not possible for such endings to happen in real life. However, in a shocking incident that has taken place at Pandavapura of Mandya district, the bride, when asked by the priest whether she is willing to marry the groom said, ‘No. I am not interested in this marriage’, and walked out of the church.

The nuptials of Christian girl Meena (name changed) was fixed at a church in Pandavapura on Sunday, December 29. But she there was anti-climax in the event as she walked away refusing to marry the groom.

Meena was in love with Harish (name changed), a Hindu boy, since two years. But her family members had fixed her marriage with a Christian groom from Mysuru. Both Meena and Harish had decided to inform their respective families and get married in future. However, as Meena is a minor she agreed to marry the boy her parents her fixed for her.

The engagement of Meena with the Christian boy had taken place two months ago and the marriage was fixed on Sunday, December 29. Incidentally, Meena also completed 18 years of age on Sunday. On Sunday, when the priest, as per the Christian tradition asked Meena to give her confirmation to marry the Christian boy, she surprised everyone by saying no. The family members of Meena were shocked and tried to convince her to change her mind. But Meena was adamant and said that she is in love with the Hindu boy and she will marry him only.

Meena called the Hindu boy, with whom she is in relationship since two years, and requested the priest to conduct their marriage. There was chaos in the church for some time due to this request of the bride. However, Pandavapura police, who got the information of the matter, immediately rushed to the spot and took the situation under control.

The police called the parents of both Meena and Harish to the police station. But they refused to oblige. So the police kept Harish in the police station and sent Meena to the Mahila Santvana Kendra in Mandya.

Public is curious to know the climax of this story, which is still not over.

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J.F D SOUZA, Attavar, Mangalore
Tue, Dec 31 2019
What kind of drama is this ? Better say no for arranged marriage if the girls love some other guy. They put the parents and relatives in an embarassing position.

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Roshan, mangalore
Tue, Dec 31 2019
This is totally wrong.engaged before 2 months and enough time to take decision
at the end moment changing decision very bad ,now recover all the money spent
and handover to boy side .

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John Dmello, Sharjah
Tue, Dec 31 2019
What Meena has done will one day be repeated by her children. Then she will know how painful her parents felt for what she did. Remember the proverb, if you sow wind, you will reap whirlwind. We have several stages before the final "I DO" to be given before the altar.

The submission of Baptism and Confirmation certificates, the Marriage Preparation Course certificate, the Pre-Nuptial Enquiry, the reading of Banns in the Church or displayed in the Notice Board for 3 weeks. After all these stages the final vows are taken in front of the altar.

She could have avoided all these by just informing her parents that she is not interested in marriage. Once she was above 18 years, she could have revealed her love for her boyfriend. Instead she did a wrong thing by going through the whole process and then abandoning the last step which could have been avoided and the financial costs of both the parties. Anyway good luck for her and her boyfriend if she feels they can live happily.

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Rudolf Rodrigues, Mumbai
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Nowadays youngsters enjoy all the privileges of marriage right in young age, so what excitement is then left in "marraige"?? Girls earn more than boys by virtue of which they dominate the boy & his family!!

IMHO, the institution of marriage is dying down; here I am reminded about Osho!!

Above comment is not connected to the above incident!!

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Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Ek Phool aur Do mali
Doosra wala do gali

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russell D souza, Bejai, Muscat
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Ek Phool Do mali

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Anand, Mangalore
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Meena will fly to kailash soon....

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I wish I was There, Bahrain
Tue, Dec 31 2019
RSRB, Kundapura & Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait
Young man, the fact that she did not accept your proposal for a relationship does not define why you should hate her.

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RSRB, Kundapura
Tue, Dec 31 2019
I wish I was There, Bahrain

Dear Sir/Madam,
Not sure what exactly you wanted to tell us....
We are not hating anyone here.....

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I wish I was There, Bahrain
Tue, Dec 31 2019
It is better to get confuse.
I will see You next Year...
Happy New Year

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H Kunder, Mangalore
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Are you in the Jio Pio scheme, as your comments does not make any sense.

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Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait
Tue, Dec 31 2019
RSRB, Kundapura

You are right, I did not go through the full contents of the article.

"Regarding the marriage, I don't like such marriages against parents wishes.
Parents take care of us for so many years and we can not ditch them"

All are not equal in their attitude and fulfilling their hearts desires.
The generation is changed and partly it depends on the family up bring and parents moral guidance how they shape their children.

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Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait
Tue, Dec 31 2019
She could have avoided making all the arrangements and spending lots of money and final letting her parents and loved one down.
One way good that she broke the marriage to join her lover, instead of running away with her boyfriend after completing the wedding process. Hope that she will not repeat the mistake yet once again.

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RSRB, Kundapura
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait

Read the news fully....
Bride has already told to her parents and all knew very well

here parents wanted to play smart and girl proved she is smarter than parents.
If she runs away before marriage date 29th Dec, parents can book case against lover Harish for taking away underaged girl
After 29th Dec, parents were sure that girl will be major and openly go with lover Harish.
Hence, they planned the marriage on the very same day and this is what happened at the end of the day.

Regarding the marriage, I don't like such marriages against parents wishes.
Parents take care of us for so many years and we can not ditch them
I am saying this, even if the same caste, against parents one should not get married.
If possible convince parents fully and they will agree after initial denials

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ca girishkk, m'lore/dxb
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Can this be called as.... Love Thugs.....!!!!

jh
jai hind..,

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T Dsouza, Mumbai/Udupi
Tue, Dec 31 2019
No doubt 3 lives were saved from the girls decision,but the girl took the wrong path,imagine the embarrassing situation for the groom and his family,mental pressure on the would be groom who has done no wrong.

The girl could have gone to the police earlier or even inform the parish priest instead of creating a drama till the point of exchanging the martial vows at the altar,she has directly mocked her religion in doing so.

Another ascpect being the financial loss cost by her decision to both families as marriage these days cost significant expenditure.

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Shankar, Mangaluru
Tue, Dec 31 2019
I am ashamed of our policemen.
Why do they need permission from the parents to allow two consenting adults to get married?

Why the boy is kept in police station and girl sent to Mahila Santvana Kendra?
Is there any amendment to the Indian constitution silently that we take permission from police or parents to get married to the one we love?

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Cynthia, Kirem
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Yes.....my questions are also the same...

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Shankar, Mangaluru
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Or, is there any new amendment that only those who listed in NRC is allowed to marry? Have you heard anything?

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gm, Mlur
Tue, Dec 31 2019
It's better in police custody than moral policing.

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richard, shirva
Tue, Dec 31 2019
let the law remains same for all...why Hindu boy in custody?? it is her wish, who matured now!!...

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Anwar, Mangaluru
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Im surprised by your comment here !

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Fernando, Ujree
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Shankar Sir,
Policemen is aware we are not in America. We have our most respected 'INDIAN CULTURE' over and above our law and order.

How they respect their parents they too felt to respect the parents of both boy and girl. It is only a matter of RESPECT to the parents of the girl who put them in embarrassing situation. I am sure if this happened to you, you would have realized this!

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Shankar, Mangaluru
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Fernando Sir,
First of all i would never get my daughter to anyone without her consent. Second, I will respect her choice, be it a Hindu, Christian or Muslim. Definitely, I would have apprehensions if she chose a Pakistani and I would persuade her against it, If failed, I would accept.

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Rudolf Rodrigues, Mumbai
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Marriage has become a farce!!!!

More than 50% of American marriages end in divorce; God knows how others carry on!!!

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Manju, Mangalore
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Its a sad story. No need to drag in religion to every story. Its about two young people. First of all parents should try to convince the children and children should also think about their parents. How much have the parents sacrificed for them. At the same time parents should also not be adamant. Children should also remember that one day they too will become parents. I think it is a matter of communication.

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Jossey Saldanha, Mangalore
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Sometimes it’s better to Abandon ...

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Krishna, uDUPI
Tue, Dec 31 2019
like??????????

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michael, mangaluru
Tue, Dec 31 2019
This is possible only in Christian community. In other two communities, she would have been hacked to death on the spot.

Praise The Lord. One should be allowed to follow their will, but with some parental advice. Rest is left to destiny as no one knows how any arranged, love or relationship will turn out after months or years.

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Sunil Pinto, Dubai/ Udupi
Tue, Dec 31 2019
That's because ours is a forgiving God who will pardon us for our sins as long as we repent for our sins...

There is no point worshipping any God who can get angry at a moment's notice and cast you to the demons and hellfire if u upset him by going against his preaching.

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Sanjay, Hebri
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Please read a bit ..you may have a change in mindset.

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Fernando, Ujree
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Michael you are 200% perfect. We read a lot real stories where in the girl was burned to death, poisoned to death. All the disagrees are well aware of this truth, yet they don't won't to surrender to your comment.

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Fr Victor Machado, Mangalore/Tanzania
Tue, Dec 31 2019
There are many girls who get married and after a few days run after their former lovers. This is more shocking.

A marriage without the concent of both the partners is both illegal and illicit. Therefore there should not be force by any party to get married.

However in inter religious marriages the families of the boy and girl can try to convince them but the final decision should be kept to the latter.

There is also a provision in Catholic church to marry a person of other religion. The other party has to promise that he/ she will give freedom of practicing his/her religion to his/her spouse.

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Cynthia, Kirem
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Yes... Fa... Thank you for your beautiful clarification regarding such issues... It is needed...

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Mangalorean, MANGALURU
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Right decision. This marriage could have spoilt three lives and three families as well. This is an eye opener for most parents that forcing kids to get married to the parents choice is not the right thing always, esp in suvh cases.

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Harish, Kadaba
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Poor boy,he not found with these days phone chats and all about her fast!
For.sure he might have sensed it in two months wethaer she loves him.or no

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mohan, Mangalore
Tue, Dec 31 2019
This is the present generation.,.... for this parents only responsible ...

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Santan Mascarenhas, Kinnigoli/Mumbai
Tue, Dec 31 2019
I do not know whether it is true, but, my grand mother told me this:
She told "It is true that you never forget your first love, whether you move on, marry someone else, no matter what you do, your first love will be there in your heart somewhere".
I like the courage of the girl and I wish her all the best.

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Vivek, gangolli/Leeds, UK
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Very true sir. I am a Hindu and my first love was a Mangalore Catholic lady.

Her elder sister had married against the wishes of her parents and hence parents cut off all connections with her.

Subsequently her father died which her mum blamed on her sister.

When I proposed to her, she refused with a heavy heart and told me that she loves me but she doesn't want to see her mum sad again as it had taken 5 years for her mum to recover from the "emotional" trauma.
She is still in my heart and even shared our story with my wife !!

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Fernando, Ujree
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Instead of insulting the groom and the entire community, she should not have come to the church at all. As happening in the movies she could gone away with the boy of her choice.
Dear marrying Boys or Girls do not hurt and insult your parents in this way. Some mighty power is watching all this, which is not good for a happy married life of long years in our life.

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prem, moodbidri
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Miyaan biwi raazi, toh kya kare Kaazi???

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Suman, Mangalore
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Proud of her. She told truth in the church

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James, Bendur
Tue, Dec 31 2019
You are proud because this didn't happened in your family.

What is the mistake of the boy and his family. What will be their mental situation.

Girl should have called the boy whom she got engaged and explained to him before fixing the marriage.

Even she said the truth in front of the altar, she is a cheater in front of the same altar.

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Thomas Andrade, Toronto
Mon, Dec 30 2019
The parents should understand that it's their child's future who cannot be tied up with a person she does not want to spend rest of her life. Jab miyan biwi razi, toh kya karega qazi? Let's just wish the girl and her boyfriend to have successful marriage.

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Peter D'sousa, Mumbai/Dubai
Mon, Dec 30 2019
What is going on with brides in these days? Bride is running away from groom day before marriage or same day.

Lot of un wanted affair issues. In some cases bride is looking for high end expectation , Bungalow, car , cook, servent...etc where groom hardly can afford these things even if he holds 5 different jobs in Dubai.

Bride is not willing to stay with mother in law not even for 2 weeks which is most common almost everywhere.

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Apoli Alvares, Bajpe , Bahrain
Mon, Dec 30 2019
Hope this story is happening now , If it happen some years back then........I dont know , God save this World,

A A
Bajpe, Bahrain

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H. Almeida., Bendur/Andheri
Mon, Dec 30 2019
Bollywood producers, have received another emotional script... perfect inspirational real life episode, will certain become a boxoffice money spinoff movie !!!

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R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru
Mon, Dec 30 2019
How Cute ...I mean Acute ...
Name changed to Meena....Was it No Na in the first place ?
If only Girls of our times were so bold and strong willed ....picture would have been very different.....

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Cynthia, Kirem
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Heart will break if your other half reads this comment Bhandar sir... Forget the past... Live the present and future is yours... Old is gold.. Present is precious diamond.... Be happy girls in the past god fearing, parents fearing... Difficult to live with the bold girls dear... Any time they may walk away... Hope you understood... I can't console you more... Thak gayi no... Na 😆😆

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Eustace, Mumbai
Tue, Dec 31 2019
@Bhandarkar Forget the religion for a moment. The child gets all the care till she is 18. The day she is legally adult, she abandons everybody. Yes, it is a bold decision, but don't you think it is cruel. These children are the support during infirm age of the parents? Indian culture is dying.

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Felix, Mangalore
Mon, Dec 30 2019
Such a sad incident. Kids do not realize the pain and effort their parents put in. May almighty grant peace within the family.

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AMAR NATHAL, MANGALORE
Mon, Dec 30 2019
Stupid. She should have gone to the police before the ceremony and not ask the priest to marry her with her lover at the time of ceremony in the church. She has the right to marry whomever she wants, but not to make her parents look like idiots on the day of such a great event.

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Shobith Paul Dsouza, Turuvekere.
Tue, Dec 31 2019
Might be she couldnt convince her parents who might be very rigid in their decision, she shud ve told her fiancee before the marriage, even if he was not in a mind to give up his decision of marriage, the system of marriage in christian marriages were both the groom and bride is asked for their true decision has showed up its importance..
But again the bride and the lover would be responsible for their future consequences.. God give strength to parents and couples to lead their lives happily..

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J.F D SOUZA, Attavar, Mangalore

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