Mangalore: Mother who plunged into river with child rescued, child dead


Sunil Haleangandy

Daijiworld Media Network – Mangalore (SP)

Mangalore, Sep 9: A woman attempted suicide with her child in tow, by jumping into River Nandini from Pavanje Bridge near Haleangady on national highway in the taluk on the night of Monday September 8. While the child got killed after being swept away by strong water current, the woman was saved by some youth who plunged into the river.

Geetha, wife of Divakar Jois from Shirva Manchakal in Udupi district had plunged into the river with her 42-month-old son, Dheeraj. Geetha, who was rescued by some locals who saw her jumping into the river, got her admitted into a private hospital in Mukka. As she was provided with first aid followed by regular treatment immediately, she survived, and is out of danger, it is gathered.




Geetha told in her statement given to Mulky police that Ramanath Jois, elder brother of her husband, and husband's sister, Malati, used to torture her and her children both mentally and physically, which drove her to take this extreme step. She said her husband works as delivery boy for newspapers and milk sachets. 'I was frustrated and depressed as I was facing harassment day in and day out. On Monday, Sompu (harvest festival) was celebrated at home. As the torture continued even on a day of celebration, I could not take it anymore, and started in a bus towards Mangalore, got down from the bus near Pavanje temple, approached the bridge, and jumped into the river with the purpose of ending my frustrating existence. Although I wanted my elder son, Deepak (9) to accompany me, he refused,' she explained.

Geetha is now repenting for the hasty decision which resulted in the death of an innocent life.

Some youths who had watched Geetha loitering around the bridge, had warned her to stay away from the edge of the bridge. However, when they returned by the same road within minutes, they saw that the lady had suddenly jumped into the river. Rajesh, Praveen, Anish and Sunil, all from Pavanje village and members of local organization, 'Om Friends', as well as Haleangady gram panchayat member, Soorya Kanchan, jumped into the river and succeeded in saving Geetha. The lifeless body of the child was found from near Arand some distance away after sometime, said Soorya Kanchan, who led the operation.

A case stands registered in Mulky police station. The policemen have taken up investigation.

  

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  • Shalini, Mumbai

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    Bhandarkar please also see the number of people who have agreed to what I and you have said. Most of them have agreed to me so thats more than enough and I dont need to give justification on your silly talks. Good luck to you

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    Dear Shalini...
    Agrees ..Disagrees may matter to some like you as you have made your 'Debut' I think.
    So You think..You have won? O.K.
    Did I ask for your justification by the way? You only buttted in
    with yours on my comment.
    Cheerio and carry on encouraging
    the mothers who act in a fit of rage your own way.Who's to stop you?

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  • christine, manglore

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    It's too late to realize, spirit of anger, bitterness, and hatred worked in her, hard for mother to come out from the pain, sorrow,
    May she no need others torture, herself inner been she will regret, mainly may it will hit emotional, and her condition may go mental also, for her everything look like hell. Day by day child pic will come front of her eyes, and she cannot avoid, Word said what is the use of man gain the world and loose own soul. For her what is the use loosing own child and live myself, this taught will hit her emotion. it can be lead self mental torture also. she need inner healing by counseling….
    It is easy to comment who experienced only understand the pain. When in poverty, condition is worst to face harass, torture, and may she don’t had husband support also.
    May God save her and protect her and give her peace,patience, strength to overcome, may again she don’t take other step….

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  • Santosh, Shirva

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    Rest In Peace

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  • Ganesh Pai, Sangeetha Complex, Shirva

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    Dear friends,
    The name of the elder brother is Ranganath and not Ramanath. The entire family is poverty stricken and the issue is far more complex than reported here. It was heart-wrenching to watch the little child being laid to rest yesterday as we have known this child since his birth and was a bright little boy who loved to talk. May god bless the little soul.

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  • Judith L, MUMBAI

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    Mr. Ganesh, thanks for the info. really I feel sad the for the little one cannot express my sorrow we adults should realise that children are innocent,vulnerable and physically weak, so it is difficult for them to understand and retaliate cruel adult world. Wished commnity would have supported this woman and know what the problem is and given support so that a small precious child could be saved and we would not be reading this sorrowful news

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  • Rita, Germany

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    Very sad that a innecent child died because mother wanted him to take with her.A big thanks to the friends who agitated immediately to save the woman.Atleast by now the husband has realised what is going at home.Atleast in catholics ,parents ask always first when thier daughter to be given married,whether there is a unmarried sister/Girl at home.when yes,hesitate .because they know a unmarried Girl at home can make a Newcomer life to hell.Not all.and by Hindus is not better I feel.so always thinking is better first.Now this Ladys life will be not better than before.may be worse.It is better she should take a seperate haus/flat now.Otherwise they will now tell her that she killed her son.she will be more harrassed.hope the Police too will not give her fault of killing her son.she Needs more Attention than before.some social worker should give her counsel and otherwise she will do it again .Hope husband will Support her .Many sometimes men dont understand why wife is complaining.They think she should adjust.Because they are out to work.and woman is under in law and rest at home.when husband is at home they are quite nett and friendly.so he cant be knowing the scenery behind him.May the Little Boys Soul rest in peace and may he forgive his mother for her deed.heartfelt sympathy to parents and Family.Hope the Police may forgive her.

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  • Sundari Ashoknagar, Mangalore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    The mother though rescued, will die each day thinking of her grave mistake in plunging the child to the water. God, please give her solace.I just cannot imagine the act of doing that. Bhandarkarmamu, you are right. When one is tense, angry, must count 1 to 9 instead of this drastic act.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    We need a strong and educated Moral force ...

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  • Kusuma Kumari G, Nellore/Kodyadka

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    I feel very sad for the poor child who lost the life A mother should never do such things

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  • Ronald, Mangalore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Geetha, it would have been better if you eliminated those who tortured you and your child (while they were in deep sleep) rather than ending your child's life.

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  • AA, Doha Qatar

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Very Sad incident...we can write any commentment what we want...but what is the real matter nobody knows... what is happening between them in family we dont know... yes i am agree her husband's financial status is not good... if like .. there is so many ways..she can work anywhere...i hope she is ( educated ....no need end her life this way... today her mistake and family mistake one small kids life ended.. please make proper investigation...my big salute for four of them even to other people... really they did great job..Gold bless them...(Rajesh, Praveen, Anish and Sunil & Soorya Kanchan )THEY MAKE US PROUD..

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  • christine, manglore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    For A mother, hard to keep small, children and die, she think about their feature, such a small, after her death what will, who take care, how they grow, they will be loved, abused , harassed, hunger, become beggar, criminals…this is mother heart, in reality she is alive and will regret about now,
    For a women man is the pillar. If pillar of the house is not strong the house will collapse.
    When marry she have great dream about own family, husband, children,
    Responsible man don’t know how to handle situations and treat family, wanted control and handle situation from family why he has to marry ?
    When emotion is weak, torture couldn't handle. All don't have same kind wisdom and knowledge, and all don’t have patience.
    I will not say because he married he has to leave completely family, without family he was not. same the way own family he will not….
    Honor parents, keep relation and love for family, and take care of own family. problem come handle the situation wisely, it must not hurt parents either wife. parents will not be forever, when they pass away ur own wife. children has to be with you, now when young you don’t have good fellowship, love for them, they are controlled by family and stay under parents, family torture, abused, harassed than don’t blame in old age they harass you, left you, abuse you. you are own responsible for for your situation, after speak, try for counseling, forgiveness to solve no use.
    Husband and wife must recognize the weakness and strength for your relationship to last or survive, endure. how ever happiness or sad, weak or strength share and enjoy together, in that forgiveness and forget work, because there is no perfect relationship, without share and adjust. here important, roll of love only in use and no force

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  • Judith L, MUMBAI

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    I agree with you at the same time woman should be independent so that if the marriage is not working she can leave with her children. Also, she needs support from her parents even after marriage normally parents thinks their duty is over once a girl is married and gone. I cannot understand so many years she bore the mental pain and torture. Infact a woman has more mood swings soon after childbirth or when children are infants/very small. Even society should support women and children atleast psychologically

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  • Shona karkera, Mangalore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Shona
    Agar Hona
    Shudd Sonaa
    Khayeen Hathodon Ki maar Se
    Hai Gujzarnaa !!

    Please Mr. Bhadarkar i unable to understand it elaborate pls.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Madam Shona....
    It's the hits and hammerings that gold gets which makes it completely pure.
    Likewise it's the hits and hammerings tha a man suffers in life which makes him more mature.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Shona...Meri Shona...
    Listen..do not get agitated.
    Let's start from the end....
    1. "you say if we meet we will love you how can you judge yourself let others decide it for you.".See it's confidence. And not misplaced. It's this thing first that takes negativity of all kinds out of your life.You have the 'Power' , in the first instance Sona. If you give it to others then they will rule over you. Others will torture you only IF YOU LET THEM .Remember.
    Where there isn't any expectations, bindings 'love' abounds. This is where one feels supreme. Love only begets love remember ..nothing else. What is there to judge? Your definition of 'love' therefore is slightly different than mine ,but considering your age I do not mind.With age, you'll come to know ,what I mean.
    2. What do you expect of 'weaklings' to do?You have asked narrating about hardships and going on...Certainly not jump into the river killing her 42 moth old son..Sona!! You expect everybody to jump into the river? The rivers would have been overflowing with dead bodies by now!! Everyone has hardships...mind you. I will tell you my story ..when we meet soon...O.K.??
    3."A Mother when she is ready to kill herself and her children just think how painful it might be for her take such a drastic step." Unquote.
    Now read the article once again properly. She now regrets it. Will she jump again? No she never will.
    End result of a momentary 'fit of rage'...Death of 42 month old son? You get my point??
    So even if you are very angry at me..Stop. Count 1 to 10. Then you will see reason and also why I wrote..what I did!
    Shona
    Agar Hona
    Shudd Sonaa
    Khayeen Hathodon Ki maar Se
    Hai Gujzarnaa !!

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  • Shona karkera, Mangalore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Hello Mr. Bhandarkar..... after reading your comment one thing i wanted to ask you if a person is tortured daily what do u expect him/her to do? when the person is financially weak, not educated helpless and facing problems at home as well what do you expect her to do? How can you comment for her ghastly act without knowing what she is going through and how well you know her personally?A Mother when she is ready to kill herself and her children just think how painful it might be for her take such a drastic step. so think before you comment. you say if we meet we will love you how can you judge yourself let others decide it for you.

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  • Shalini, Mumbai

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    Bhandarkar please also see the number of people who have agreed to what I and you have said. Maximum of them have agreed with me so that itself proves who are sensible.I dont need to give justification on your silly talks. Good luck to you

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  • Janet fernandes, Mangalore / Dubai

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Dear bhandarkar,

    i agree with you, janet.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Wed, Sep 10 2014

    Thank you Madam Janet and Sundariji.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    "Although I wanted my elder son, Deepak (9) to accompany me, he refused,' she explained" Unquote...
    This goes to show that this lady wanted 'innocent company' to carry out her ghastly act. This lady for this sole reason does not deserve any sympathy.'Heartless' also does not come near to describing her and her act.What now??
    Every one else at home will have 'change of heart'? Happy ending??

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  • Shalini, Mumbai

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Bhandarkar you are wrong. Try to understand her mental state. If she would have left her kids home, the in laws would definitely trouble the kids and ill treat them for sure. Hence, she wanted to end her life with the kids. Its the mother who will always think about the future, and definitely her kids would suffer without the mother. Secondly when there is no moral support it is but natural for her to end her life with her kids. Husbands are so useless at times and this lady is not strong enough or is poor, what could she do. Bhandarkar you better dont comment because your comments are all stupid and has no sense. Some people encourage you as they want some time pass and you get carried away. You need to read properly what is said and dont under estimate anyone.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Dear Shalini...
    1.This is a case where a mother in a 'fit of rage' or whatever has killed her child. Got it? Killed. You know the commonest procedure to be followed when in a terrible 'fit of rage'? No?
    Count till 10. You try it.
    2. 'Husbands are so useless' at times -You write..conveniently forgetting to write about times when they are useful. In Life you have to take the 'good with bad'.
    Life's like that..The way you write, it seems like 'Wives are Useful' all the times which isn't correct either. You maintain a 'balance' in any case. If one thinks too much, broods, ponders, compares all these ghastly things are bound to happen. This lady in question, does not seem to be 'educated' from the looks of it. You staying in Mumbai and supporting 'mothers killing children' is appalling.
    3.May I gently enquire as to which 'hold' you have over me to ask me not to comment.You have any? You come across like a lady wanting to dominate but cannot Madam! Try the soothing and loving way Madam! It will surely help.Not everything is attained by howling, cribbing,blaming etc.
    4. How do you come to a conclusion that I get 'carried away'? How well do you know me?
    Don't jump into conclusions Madam.
    Meet me . There isn't a single person who hasn't loved me after he has met me! You will not be an exception...I assure you!
    5. Stupid comments you say...but I HAVE A FEELING THAT YOU KNOW ALL OF THEM BY HEART! Why is that?
    You read all of them-don't you?
    6. To end you are the ..Well I have lost count of those who found fault with me! However on meeting ,knowing me well ,everyone has fallen in love with me! You see..I give them no option !And with 'passing of time',they come to know that it was no 'time-pass', but time well spent with me.
    Wish you the best Madam.

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  • Rajesh, Mangalore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Bhandarkar, Good one man. You know what you forget to understand is that at times you got to be ignorant such as cases like this where some one comment just out of their frustration. leave it. Lets pray for the innocent sole to rest in peace. Its very sad to see such things happening around how can some one do this too an innocent baby..i wonder how.

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  • Ayub, Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Good work Om Friends, God Bless you all but sad to hear loss of innocent child.

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  • AMAR NATHAL, MANGALORE

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    People like Rajesh, Praveen, Anish and Sunil & Soorya Kanchan make us proud. In India we have Heroes like these.

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  • Stan, Udupi/Dubai

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Its time to send her husband and in -laws into jail.Its better for the person to die rather than getting married and torturing his better half.

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  • JSaheb,

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    YOu killed your son..May allha grant this boy jannah

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  • PINTO, Doha/Qatar

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    Shame on all those husbands on earth who cannot protect the dignity of their wives. Better they remain unmarried throughout their life.

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  • joe Gonsalves, Mangalore

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    It is unfortunate that a hasty decision was taken by the lady to end her life along with her little child. In instances like these it would have been best if this aggrieved person had gone to some elders in the village and sought their help instead of taking this extreme measure. What is the result!!!. Life of a little child is over and now the lady concerned will have to face the police.

    It would be a great idea for people in various places to form advisory committees to help people in distress. They could in turn have sub committees to council people having marriage problems.

    Joe Gonsalves

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  • Nancy, Belman

    Tue, Sep 09 2014

    May be, once in lifetime everyone might think of committing suicide.

    Where all to set up advisory committee.? Do anyone has time for others? Everything runs on Money.

    In each and every family, this type or other type of problems are going on. Some are blamed without reason and some face the problem with brave heart and some live life as if nothing affects them. My question who will advice/console whom?

    If everyone has mutual respect towards one another, understanding, sacrifice and more over patience, then life will be peaceful. There are ups and downs in life.One must understand this and in difficult time we must have faith in God, that he will resolve all problems.

    Coward lady could not understand this and lifelong she has to face the Truth that she killed her Son.

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