thahir, mangalore/abudhabi

thanks prema for believing on my comment, thank u alot, and also i m reaaly sorry suman for hurting your feelings, i didnt mean it, it was just my feeling which i have expressed,its not necessary that all thoughts have to be the same, i m sure that whatever u have experienced u have commented on that basis, and i have commented on my personal experience, no hard feelings. sorry suman if i have hurted u unknowingly, i really apologise from the bottom of my heart.

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Prema Shetty, Mangalore/Kuwait

I strongly agree with THAEER. Well written Thaeer Men cannot be compared with women.Women should be in the house & look after the fly. Today most of the divorce case taking place between working couple.offcourse you earn money, good life style. Best of everything. But at the end no peace.

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Suman, Mangalore

Thahir, i totally disagree with ur opinion. My mom was a working woman and i did not feel that it affected me or my siblings... What i am now is because of my mom who taught us to be both independent and take care of the family by balancing both work and home...There are many wonderful moms in the world like my MOM...never ever blame women because she is working and not a homemaker

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Thahir, mangalore

I m totally against  women going to work,  It increases the problems within the family,when a husband returns from work his wife is not available for him to share his feelings,even if she is back home early on a particular day she will be having her own headache & might not be in a mood to talk to her husband, 

Secondly the children dont recieve the love from his/her mother to whom they are mostly attached.nowadays we can hear a lots of moms complaining that my children dont listen to me & its quite common these days.  Instead of complaining have you ever thought that how you  had  brought up your children,where were you when they needed you,when they had something to tell you. 

Most of the new borns are bottle fed instead of breastfeeding because they have to go out of house for their job.  As I m a Muslim & Islam teaches " as long as you breastfeed your child the much the child will be bonded/attached with you ".people complain that the revenue is not enough for a family if only the husband is working so even we are forced to work & this is totally untrue,no matter even you both work "still are your problems over"? Just think about it, you will recieve only that what you have to recieve its been fixed by God.and please stop saying woman are  equal to men, when god has made some difference between us who are we to change it,but both are equally useful to this earth,both are been assigned their own job by God.however lets all be happy.

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A.D'Cunha Shenoy, Mangaluru

At the ourset I must say this is a disturbing trend and perhaps will get worst if a correction is not made. The big correction what I am talking about is lower our expectations in life. What I mean by expectations is. Never compare yourselves with the "Jones" and live your life and expect to live like them. Yes, we need work, yes, we need income, yes, we need social life and yes, we need comforts, But at what cost?

In todays world all want to become affluent, want to give top education to the children to prepare them for life. But are we preapring them for real life. Real life meaning a meaningful life. A life to live and not a life to survive. Do we have time to look after our children or we expect sombody else to look after them? Do we want to play with them or we want them to play with the toys instead? Do we weant them to pray with us in the evening or we want them to wander around in the neibourhood or hang around at the shopping malls? Do we want them to eat dinner with a family table or we send them to fast food outlets? do we want them to live like a wholesome family or a nuclear family? Do we want to talk to them at home together or want them to chat on mobile phones?

Living has different meaning for different people. Make your choice. Bring up your children right, make time, spend time with them so that they will bring their children that way. They are your children, your responsibilty not daycares. Remember health ( yours and children's) and not wealth is important. This will go a long way.

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usha, mangalore / dubai

well said Alexander!!!!!

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Nancy, Belman

No Choice. In this competitive world both mother and father has to work to give better education, lifestyle to their children. But still if wish is there,anyhow working parents spend the quality time with thier children.

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Alexander P Menezes, Karkala/Dubai

These days in this compititive world and ever increasing cost of living most families are two income. This fact is both pleasing and disturbing, depending on your opinion and your outlook. Our modern lifestyle has made it a virtual necessity for both parents to work. You work more to afford better clothes, more food, and a nicer home, which is all, eventually, for your children.

However, this work is what takes you away from your child. It is a vicious catch. The good news is that children are given positive role models when both parents work. It’s a firm work ethic and a good example of dedication and motivation. After all, any child who sees a parent get up at 5 AM and stumble around gathering their work items, as well as their child’s backpack or shoes, has to have respect for their dedication to not crawl right back into their nice, warm bed. In my opinion these kids become more independent, and less dependent on their parents. Teaching a child that hard work pays off is an invaluable lesson in humility and personal character. However, if it pays, it also costs.

There are many different prices to pay when both parents work. 1. Your children are with other people more than they are with you and you end up spending very less time in their company.Familiarity is what leads to habits. If your child is not around you, your choices for their behavior and habits are few. . 2. Your child may become insecure/shy and prone to sickness. This will happen when a child is afraid that they are not ‘worthy’ of your attention. Children, especially young children, do not understand that you are working for them. The only thing they understand is that you are gone all day, and you leave them with someone else. Due to the cramped size of the day care centers and baby sitting houses, your child is prone to infect with those sickness and deceases through the unhygenic practices prevailing in the daycare centers. 3. You lose touch with your spouse. After days, months or years of being separated all day, and rushing past each other all night (doing dishes, paying bills, grocery shopping, bathing the kids, doing laundry, etc) you can forget who you are, and who you fell in love with. Give each other permission to occasionally be out of sorts. Stop, touch, reconnect and remember what it was that made you want to commit your life to this person. 4. You lose touch with yourself and your friends.

This may not seem like a big deal, but anyone who has ever thought “Why am I here, and what am I doing?” you need some down time. Maybe you can relax, or read a bedtime story to your child. Think of ways to save time and spend your time doing things you and your family enjoy. After all, when your child is twenty do you think he/She will remember that you did the dishes every night faithfully and worked like a donkey, or that you never read him/her a bedtime story? Life is full of choices. Choose well.

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Alfred J. Rebello, Kundapur/Dubai

Though I do not want to comment on this matter, but surely say, what we give now, we get 10 times one day be it positive or negative.

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