Mandya: Greed gaining upper hand - martyred soldier's family fights for money


Daijiworld Media Network - Mandya (SP)

Mandya, Feb 27: A huge inflow of financial assistance into the family of H Guru, who was martyred in Pulwama terrorist attack recently, has reportedly given rise to differences between the family members. The family has been the recipient of generous donations from the people who have filled the family coffers with over Rs 15 crore so far. But this money has been causing heartburn within the family.

After the bank account details of Guru's wife, Kalavathi, were shared through social websites, people have contributed to the possible extent to her account. Contributions have come in small as well as large quantities. A person having running business abroad has contributed one crore rupees. State government and Reliance company have donated Rs 25 lac each. Infosys Foundation has given ten lac rupees while National Travels too has given Rs 10 lac. Alva's Education Foundation has paid Rs 10 lac to the family. Sumalatha Ambareesh has announced her decision to donate 20 guntas of land to the family.


H Guru

But, the money, it is said, has given rise to greed, and relationship between the family members has soured. Friction has broken out between Guru's wife, Kalavathi on one side, and her in-laws, and brothers of her husband on the other. People living in Gudikere Colony where the family lives, say that they could heard loud voices till late into the night from the family house. After fighting among themselves, the family members even approached the police station, but the police who refused to register the case, told them that their fights will convey a wrong message to the society which extended help to them out of patriotism.

The police, it is said, have advised the family members to wait till the conclusion of post-funeral rituals including the 13th day ceremony. The police have asked the family to revert to them after these things are over.

It is said that Guru's mother, Chikkahollamma, brought pressure on Kalavathi to marry her younger son, Madhu, so that the money now flown in remains within the family. But Kalavathi refused to accept this proposal. Guru's family is unable to digest the fact that the relatives from the side of Kalavathi's parents are eagerly waiting to take her back to parental home once the rituals are complete.

The pregnancy issue too has also made public the differences within the family. While Guru's mother said that her daughter-in-law was four-month pregnant, Kalavathi dismissed the information as wrong. The doctor then intervened and clarified that Kalavathi was not pregnant.

  

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  • Realview, Place

    Mon, Feb 07 2022

    It is natural tendancy of any people to fight on Such situations. Anybody who have lived in poor conditions, be it north Indian, South Indian, etc etc.. this situation would have arised. We have seen such things in lots of incidents. If they were little stable family or qualified ones they could handle the situation by discussions. wherever there is no settled way of understanding​, it is natural such situations occur. So people should stop hatred comments on such posts by judging. You all have not fought for money elsewhere??

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  • KV Kamath, Mangalore

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    Govt. must ensure that,
    1)the aged parents may have been dependent on son's income. They lead life with that part of his earnings. Govt needs to check their comforts from time to time so that their son's martyrdom does not come in their way of living style as lived earlier. Similarly,his wife too was able to lead life within the ceiling of his earnings with her in-laws or independently.

    2)If Shmt Kalavathi wants to get married again,she must not draw pension/salary/ other benefit amount from the Govts or Private Institutions and people. That amount came only because of martyrdom of her husband.

    3)The amount that has got credited in account out in compassionate grounds must be kept as separate account and the funds can be utilised to build few sainik schools, play courts (sports complex), some educational institutions,parks etc in the martyr's name.

    4)If the younger brother or relatives wants to enjoy money and riches , they can do so by earning on their own.

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  • judith, Navi Mumbai

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    WELL DOCUMENTED. Should be implemented.

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  • KvKamath, Mangalore

    Sun, Mar 03 2019

    The family members have come together in pointing out the news report error. They have never visited police Station. I commented only the next day waiting for the police to report on wednesday. Sorry for my earlier comments.

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  • abdul, udupi

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    A few days ago when her husband died, this very lady told that she will join Indian army to avenge his death.
    Now it seems the crores have taken their toll on her.
    there cannot be a better example for Hana kandare henavu bayi bidutthade than this

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  • KV Kamath, Mangalore

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    If the martyr's family is behind that money quarreling with one another, then none of them are patriotic.

    But it is only Bharath Matha who lost a valiant son.Now the inheritor of that money becomes Bharath Matha only.

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  • Sudheer, B.C Road

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    They say 'Hennige Henne Shathru'. How can a MIL force her DIL to marry just after 10 days of her husbands demise? That too with her own BIL!

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  • Roshan, Mangaluru

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    This is the reality of India today. A India which stood for the virtues today completely changed, within a span of 20 years. Economic progress has its side effects.

    They all lost some one close. It may not be rightful for wife alone to gain from the loss.

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  • Sunil K, Mangalore

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    People come out with similar suggestions when someone wins a big lottery - give this much to charity, invest this much there, ...

    At the moment of grief, if the wife is asked (forcibily ?) to marry her late husband's brother, then this is wrong and shameful.

    The amount of money that has come in is extraordinarily high and the wife will first need a honest financial advisor (and one who hopefully doesn't get corrupted in the process).

    As for Guru's parents (including the wife's parents) - it needs to be seen how much they were currently dependent on their son and if they have no other source of income or a support system to take care of their needs for the future. Anyone else (brothers, sisters, 3rd cousins, coconut vendor etc) should mind their own business.

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  • Rita, Germany

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    When greed gains upper hand ,then own family members forget their relation ship as here.Mother in law is forcing to marry her husbands younger brother so that money emains in family.Did she ask what she feels?I find widow should /can give to her in laws some money as they lost their son.Afterall she has enough money there..But no need to share with brothers and sisters of her husband.On free basis she can give some money if they are not in a good position ,about their livlihood.Afterall she is alone no children.It is left to her .Better she goes to her parents ,and take some help of lawyers.Otherwise in laws and rest of them will not allow her to live in peace.Afterall she must have brought some dowry as she married.where is it?she can help her parents too.It is left to her.let her marry again and lead a happy life.

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  • Wilson DSouza, Moodbidri

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Money spoiling relationships is not new ....

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  • VALERIAN RODRIGUES, UJIRE

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    IN INDIA MOST OF THE PEOPLE ARE IN THE BACK OF MONEY.NOW GUR'S WIFE KALAVATHI GOT A LOT OF MONEY.NOW SHE MAY FORGOT THE MOTHER IN LAW BEFORE OF MONEY.KALAVATHI'S MOTHER IN LAW CAUSED MR.GURU'S BIRTH.TILL GURU'S MARRIAGE EDUCATION,MORAL TEACHINGS,PHYSICALLY NOURISHMENT MADE BY GURU'S MOTHER.LAW GIVES RIGHT TO MOTHER OF DECEASED IN HIS PROPERTY.EVEN NOW SHARE IN COLLECTED MONEY GOES TO GURU'S MOTHER.SOCIAL WORKERS SHOULD SUPPORT THE GURU'S MATHER.TILL THEN COURT WILL GIVE STAY ORDER ON MONEY IS IN THE BANK TILL FURTHER ORDER.

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  • Eric Coelho, Mangalore

    Thu, Feb 28 2019

    With that money they will buy a High End Cars, they will be build a big house, and they will live a high life style.

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  • dylan, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    When there is no money problem, more money bigger problem. In fact a trust will be ideal and family members wife and parents get money from the trust eg., interest after investing in a bank. Get the interest equally and live peacefully.

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  • Harold Dcunha, Mangalore, India.

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    If the soldier's wife had received money in crores, a good sensible wife will share part of the money to the soldier's parents. After all, the parents have lost their son and if she shares part of that money, at least she will be blessed for her entire life.

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  • Don, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    The government should establish a trust for all soldiers and martyrs of the country right away and have it very strongly monitored by a group with strict supervison. So that all his dependents get a fair share of his money, in particular his children who are too young to deal with it themselves till they become majors.

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  • JNB, Mangalore_Mumbai

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Together they can start a Charity fund after keeping enough for themselves in deposit.

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  • Harold Dcunha, Mangalore, India.

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    With due to respect to the martyred soldier, my simple question, why the sympathy and contribution to only Pulwara martyred soldier. What about soldier's martyred daily. Why political parties politicizing the blood of martyred soldier.

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  • mms, FALNIR MANGALURU

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    ಹಣದ ಮಹಿಮೆಯೆ ಹಾಗೇನೆ. ಹಣದ ರಾಶಿ ನೋಡಿದೊಡನೆ ಹೆಣವು ಬಾಯಿ ಬಿಡೊ ಸಮಯವಿದು. ನಿಜ ಅರ್ಥದಲ್ಲಿ ಭಾರತದಲ್ಲಿರೊ ಯಾರು ಬಡವರಿಲ್ಲ. ಬಡವರ ಹಾಗೆ ನಟನೆ ಮಾಡೊದ್ರಲ್ಲಿ ನಾವು ಪ್ರವೀಣರಷ್ಟೆ. ದೇಶಕ್ಕಾಗಿ ಪ್ರಾಣತ್ಯಾಗ ಮಾಡೊ ಹುತಾತ್ಮ ಸೈನಿಕರ ಖಾತೆಗೆ ಜಮಾವಾಗುವ ಹಣಕ್ಕಾಗಿ ಜಗಳವಾಡೊ ಇಂತಹ ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರಿಗೆ ಧಿಕ್ಕಾರ ಘೋಷಿಸಬೇಕು.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Now people will think twice before contributing towards a Martyr ...

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  • Nithyananda Beskoor, Udupi,Dubai

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Guru is watching

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  • Af,,, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    50:50 is best option

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  • kumar, calicut

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    I think it will be better to establish charity organization in the name of the martyred soldier and help the needy people. A portion of the fund may be given to family members. Too much money has given rise to enmity between the family members which is not a good sign. they may kill each other for the sake of money. Govt should take custody of the amount till all the issues are solved. Donors also should think before making donation of big amount. Rupees one to 2 crore is enough for one family to lead their life. We have thousands of needy people all over India and they should also be considered.

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  • Jairam Mulky, Moodabidri

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Establish some trust type of a thing....so much of money even we have not seen in our lives...so greed is obivious. People need to wake up to all this...not being emotional

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  • Santan Mascarenhas, Kinnigoli/Mumbai

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    The insurance money and provident fund money goes to the nominee initially. As per law, nominee is only in trust holding the money for the beneficiaries. If he has died intestate (without will), both his mother and wife being dependents, get the money equally, if they fight in the court. On other money, which has gone into wife's account, given on compassion, only wife has the right. Wife will get husband's full last drawn salary as pension till the time he would retire. After that, may be the normal pension till her death. Considering a large amount, it is morally (not legally) expected from his wife to share at least a fraction of it with the solder's mother, since she too lost her son.

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  • Lenson, Udupi/Africa

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Even you can find some solutions to India -Pakistan border, there will not be solution for above issue.

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  • PenMightierThanTheSword!, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    This is the sad part of the “BharatKeVeer” app where people can make direct contributions to the family. Some soldier families will receive in crores while other martyrs receive nothing.

    It is about time the senseless govt woke up and set up a corpus so that all families of martyrs benefit from donations!

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  • Saihu, Udupi/Dubai

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    with all due respect to the martyred soldier and to our armed forces. they do their duty like our farmers do, both are back bone of our nation and they do the duty to earn livelihood except few who take this duty out of passion. 15 crore is not a small amount and families like of Kalavathi may take ages to earn such a huge amount. The great soldier has given his martyrdom for the nation and mother nation and his mother has lost their son. Kalavathi may get married to somebody else and life will be normal for her. why dont we show the same respect to the farmers when they get pressured under debts and steps towards suicide.

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  • MohammedMangaluru, Mangaluru

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    All people who are fighting for money was waiting for their son or husband to die... Very unfortunate... Just think of the jawan who gave his life to save you and country...

    Really feeling sad...

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  • Shashi Shetty, Santhoor

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    15Crores... life time dream for ordinary citizens. worth the sacrifice by the Matyr for his family as well the nation. But, this should not give wrong signal to the society at large.

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  • J L Mangalore, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Yeh paisa boltha hai...
    yeh paisa boltha hai...

    hana nodidre yena bayee biduthe...

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  • Sainik, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Mother has all the right to claim for 50% amount from the Soldiers wife.
    Wife is definitely greedy in this case for not agreeing to share the money with her MIL.

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  • Rao, Udupi

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Very unfortunate state of affairs.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Rs. 15 Crore is a lot of money.
    We pray to the Almighty to put some sense into these people & divide this money Amicably ...

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  • Mohammed Ilyas Byndoor/Dubai.U.A.E, Byndoor/Dubai.U.A.E

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    Apply Sharia Law.,

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  • Anseema b, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    IPC only applies in India. No religious laws.
    15 crores please take back and issue the same monthly salary and some insurance money. Charity cause greed.

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  • Jayanth Arora, Delhi

    Wed, Feb 27 2019

    It is very controversial subject. Man died is gone to eternal rest and now paisa bolta hai. Money and Property destroys everything no matter whatever relationship share. This is not only Guru's family and this will be a story of every family.

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