Mangalore: Five Members of D'Souza Family Attempt Suicide En-masse


Mangalore: Five Members of D'Souza Family Attempt Suicide En-masse
 
Pics: Dayanand Kukkaje
Daijiworld Media Network - Mangalore (RS/SP)
 
Mangalore, Jun 6:
Five members of a family living near Peddeyangadi, Padupadav near Katipalla in Surtkal, who had allegedly attempted to commit suicide, were admitted to a private hospital in the city on Saturday, Jun 6.
 
Those admitted to the hospital in serious condition have been identified as Henry D' Souza (70) and his wife Leticia D’Souza (65), their Son Jossy D'Souza (32), daughters Anitha D'Souza (35) and Savitha D'Souza (26). All of them are undergoing treatment in a private hospital in the city. They were found in a precarious condition when their neighhourers opened the doors of their house.

One of the relatives who came to the hospital said, the family has been facing a grave financial crisis. One of the daughters of Henry named Sunitha got married recently in a mass marriage function. The family found it difficult even to conduct this marriage, as it could hardly pool enough money to meet the bare minimum expenditure involved in the mass marriage.
 
The family lives in a small house and there has also been a long-standing dispute over its ownership between their relatives and the family, said the relative. 
 
The doctor in the hospital said that the family members had consumed an overdose of sleeping pills and is now out of danger. The family members have now been shifted to the intensive care unit of the hospital after the preliminary treatment.
 
Henry D'Souza used to work under contract for the railways. Jossy is working in a private company. Though Jossy has been the bread winner of the family, his earning is meager.
 
The police personnel from Suratkal station visited the hospital. 

  

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  • Prakash Lasrado, Singapore

    Thu, Jun 11 2009

    Eric Coelho, Refer my comments yesterday. I just want to add that Jesus did not stone the woman caught in adultery, but showed compassion despite the fact Jesus knew that the law of Moses allowed stoning. As Catholics we should not only be just but be compassionate like Jesus. We all know suicide attempt is a crime against God and man, however we must show compassion to these people before acting as judges. Justice without mercy easily turns into cruelty.

    Even a good judge uses his mind and his heart to give judgement and does not merely follow the letter of the law. By showing compassion and help we can make them realize that suicide attempt is wrong and they will not do it again just like the woman repented after committing adultery. Also note that one of the victims was mentally retarded. What will you gain by arresting them? Nothing. It will only worsen the situation. This will defeat the purpose of the law which is meant to improve society and not condemn it.

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  • Jacintha Castelino, Mangalore, USA

    Thu, Jun 11 2009

    Mr. ERIC COELHO , First of all dont make assumptions .. You are assuming that the head of fly is alcholic , Secondly dont tell other people what to do.. If you dont want to help them, thats your decision, you dont have to say others what to do .. You know what God has given me brains to think, heart to listen . I have a very gut feeling ... Do you by any chance belong to their relatives fly who is fighting for their property .. You may be ..

    I am assuming that , and if you dont like that, stop assuming bad things about tragic situation .Stop polluting peoples mind. As for you big talks about getting jobs, Do you know how hard it is . Do you know if they are educated ? Do you know if they have not tried? I know the hard times, when my Dad was paralyzed, and mom had to work to raise her 3 children ,they care of our school, dads medicine, food .Its Gods grace that I am here today .

    So by Gods grace they are going to rise again as a family .. They just need some loving people around them ... Do you read Bible. What did Jesus say about forgiving your brother if he sins against you .. He said seventy times seven .. And this D''souza fly has done nothing wrong to you , then Why are you speaking so bad about them .. And lastly I have written one more post in the next article, do make time to read that ...

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  • Jacintha Castelino, mangalore,USA

    Thu, Jun 11 2009

    I feel really sad reading this article ... Thank you God for keeping them alive, and showing us they need help .. As for Mr. ERIC COELHO you are no one to pass judgement on them .. Its only God who can do that, becoz only he knows what they have gone through in life .. Do you know anything about their past Sir ? No right, then keep your MOUTH SHUT ...Relatives can do a whole lot of bad things on a person , mind, relations, ego .. I have this experience ... I would really like to help this family ..May God give them the strenght ...

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  • Prakash Lasrado, Singapore

    Wed, Jun 10 2009

    Eric Coelho, You are arrogant and mean and incompetent to pass such cruel comments. You have not faced the same problems as the D''Souza family to make such uncharitable comments. We would like to hear your comments after you experience third degree torture at Guantanamo Bay prison or when you survive a Nazi concentration camp. Till then it is better that you keep quiet otherwise God if he gets angry can reduce your life to scratch since you brag about starting life from scratch. By the way this is not a thing to be bragged about as many Mangaloreans have started life from scratch and doing better than you.

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  • Eric Coelho, Mangalore/Ajman

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    Rekha Lobo and Syble there is no point in attacking me. Just read the article of Daijiworld about a mother of two deformed Adult Kids seeking financial help. That itself will explain how they are mentally strong to face the difficult and cruel life in today''s world. I applaud daijiworld for this ARticle. In the case of D''souza family committing suicide shows how coward and shameless they are when majority of the family members were physically fit to work but mentally not interested to put in efforts to search for jobs. Let them thank God for giving them Second life which is an opportunity to change. Before that they should face the Law and be Punished for their Cowardly act.

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  • Ambrose DMello, Pangla / Riyadh

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    Life must have been terrible that pushed the family to resort to this extreme step. Rather than dwelling on the merrits of the incident,we need to do our mite to alleviate the suffereing of our less fortunate brethren.

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  • Remy DSouza , Katipalla- Qatar.

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    A question to all those who say parish priest should have been aware and helped this family, - How many of you go around your own parish looking for poor families about to commit suicide ? If you say ''It is not our job'' then it is not the job of the parish priest too. The clergy are not government officials responsible for handing out food packets. Being a parishioner, I hear that not many people were aware of the plight of this family. What drove them to take such a drastic step will have to eventually come from their own mouth.

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  • Kevin Mascarenhas, Mangalore/UAE

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    Its a tragic story, and anyone of us could resort to such measures if we are faced with miseries. I do not know the extent the family was suffering, but sucide is normally resorted when one sees no light. Hope the church comes forward to help this family with counselling, financial help as well as legal. May all their problems get solved. I will be glad to chip in with financial help.

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  • Harold d''cunha, Mangalore, India

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    Dear Syble. Your kind visit and right information will open the eyes of many readers who only imagine and write. tks.

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  • Shane, Karakal

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    Very sad to hear things like this .Having such a problem like this ,may god help them to come out of this trouble.

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  • Rekha Lobo, Mangalore / Dubai

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    The reality of the Dsouza family expressed by Ms. Syble mangalore is enough to shut the mouth of Mr. Eric who is a imaginer for this incident. Better you find out the root cause before commenting on anyone like this Mr. Eric. If you dont have willingness to help others - better dont stop others who are willing to help.

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  • Syble, Mangalore, India

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    Dear Readers, if possible just go and visit this family in A J Hospital 5th floor male general and 3rd floor female general wards. Very pathetic situation. The Gurkar was aware of the problem, the families eldest child is mentally retarded, father and mother are sick, Jossy is the only bread winner the family. St.Vincent De paul society, small christian community should wake up and request dear brothers and sisters see that your charity reaches the needy. Let us support such families and give them hope.

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  • wilfred.maxim.d''souza, kulshekar/ saudi arabia

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    let us not only send comments and let us not ignore comments but at this moment with such situation we should join hands together and try to help this family.but i cannot wait for that. send me the account number and bank details to this e-mail and the best possible will be done. mr.henry and mrs latecia dont worry but trust in god.

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  • Dr. Zita Lobo , RAk Medical and Health Sciences University

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    It is not a question of how deep your trials or difficulties are, it is a question of how much more one is able to bear one''s troubles. For the whole family to come together and resort to such a self destructive state, it must have been really serious. If the family has seen good times in the past, future could look bleak for them. The fact that they did not resort to a really fatal means of commiting suicide also is an appeal for help. instead of being judgemental and condemning the family let''s do what ever we can to help, or else provide at least emotional support.

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  • STANY MATHIAS, kinningoli - SAUDI ARABIA

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    SAD NEWS - NO WORDS TO EXPRESS. POVERTY - SICKNESS - DEBT - ETC ARE THE CAUSES . PLS. SEND ME THEIR CONTACT AND BANK ACCOUNT.THANK U.

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  • Ronnie, Mangalore

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    Is it true that Eric Coelho is right? One of his comments was "Also I feel the Head of the Family must be an Alcoholic" With this statement he must have really analyzed the prior history or the current activities of D''Souza family. If this person has no prior reliable knowledge of this family then in addition to helping the family we should make every effort to sue this guy for the simple reason that he is 100% sure that head of the family was alcoholic (used the word "must")

    Again: "But when it comes to getting Jobs in India they are nowhere. Most of the Catholic go abroad for jobs and settle there itself or come back after retiring." Mr.Eric should understand that Ajman is also a part of "abroad" where booze is cheap and does not require permit in addition to cheaper rent. These may not be his priorities for settling down in Ajman

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  • Deepak Kumar, Mangalore / Dubai

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Eric Coelho, Mangalore/Ajman Whoever U are and whatever u have been through .... Its Only Grace of God that brought U through .... The very fact , u r judging someone whom u dont even know , shows u r true self !!!! No one asked you for any opinion or any Advise .... If u dont have any good words for anyone , then please zip it up ... Thank God that u havent gone thru these tough times.... I agree that No one has the right to take away the Life God hads given....But lets not kill people with our Harsh statements !!!!

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  • Manohar Veigas, UDUPI

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    I appreciate the readers who have genuine concern for the plight of this Souza family and ignore the insensitive comments. Daijiworld has joined hands in promoting Cultural and Literature work. My only appeal to Daijiworld is to also kindly initate a Fund Account which would be contributed by our interested readers and also identifying and reporting us such families who are fighting to maintain a decent living inspite of all their efforts. I am sure Mr. Walter will think over it.

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  • Richard Rodrigues, kinnigoly/Dubai

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Dear eric Coelho,it is better to help the fly. and not right time to judge what they have done..Your words explains your experience in life.but sitituations makes brave man also to act as a cowered. kindly note there is possiblity readers of daiji may read one day my and YOURs stories with same simpathy.(if our bad time comes)lets try to help the fly. Dear editor please dont publish the photos of on duty police..it is a waste of space . kindly focus on the other things such as helping people,photos in the hospital,example last but one photo explains a lot.

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  • Cyril DCunha, UAE

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Why they did not die by consuming poisin is that the mercy of God has saved them. I feel pity for the people who give judgement. Do not judge others, You will be judged. (I recollect a story of poor Lazarus and a Rich man) Remember, God lifts the man from the dust and man returns to dust. God do not want prayers but looks for a good heart.

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  • Dr. Haneef Shabab, Bhatkal

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    What a cruel and heart breaking comments Mr. Eric! Its just over smartness. Its very easy to advise others to face the problem and live in this world and the life is God''s Gift. But we forget what''s our duty and responsiblity laid upon us towards the "have nots" and deprived section of our society. If every one can solve his problem at his own without any help and kindness from others, then Why should God have laid this responsiblity of charity on us? Mind you Mr. Eric no one in this world would like to give up his life happily. I think you have not experienced really tough times in life and you don''t know what the agony and pain of family suffering from financial crisis is. If you can''t do something good, for God''s sake plz don''t put salt on the wounds of D''souza family.

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  • Nihaal, Mangalore

    Mon, Jun 08 2009

    I agree with Mr. Coelho on the fact that the family must definitely be punished by the law as suicide is a crime. we, as human beings, do not have the right to take lives, even if it is our own. Its with God''s will that we have come to this world and only He can decide when do we leave. suicide is never an option. it is a cowardly act, no matter what the situation may be. May God help the D''Souza family and lead them in the right path.

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  • Eric Coelho, Mangalore/Ajman

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    My Comments to this article has pricked the heart and mind of many people. I do not regret for it and I stand by my comments. I even stand up for that family published by Daijiworld recently where a mother had two deformed children wherein they had the will to live. They knew the Art of Living. If people help for their rehabilitation they will be blessed all their life. Definitely not for D''souza family as they adopted the cruel way of taking their life and should be punished for their irresponsible act.

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  • akhtar, India

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Have a heart Eric Coelho. Do you think it is easy to get jobs or make two ends meet. May be you have a nice cushy job in Ajman but dont tell folks not to help please. God forgive you and bless you.

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  • Roseane Pinto, Dubai

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Dear Eric Coelho/Ajman, you think that the catholic run institutes are waiting for the job seekers to come and join them? How well do you know the D''souza family, that you are saying head of the family is Alcoholic?? if you cant help the needy atleast Think twice before saying something...

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  • Ernest, KADRI,MANGALORE

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    The Parish preists have to aid these people . I am sure many families would contribute . Its a shame the church did not help them .

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  • Eric Coelho, Mangalore/Ajman

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Comments to this article may not be to the liking of certain people. Me Being in the Gulf is not the answer as I have seen Life from Scratch. The D''souza family still adopted the cruel method of death i.e., "SUICIDE" because they could not face life. The Law should put them behind Bars for Attempted Suicide and then only they will realise that LIfe is God''s or Nature Gift which can be taken away only by God or by Nature. If people are thinking of donating or financing them to recover, it is my sincere advice to hold back their purse. I am sure this second life will bring change in their life. A family can live on Congi and Pickle but not with Shame. This Suicide is a Shame to their Life or Existence which they have to overcome by knowing the True Value of Living. A Few days back Daijiworld had published an article where both children were deformed and now adults. If they can face the toughness of life then I would consider the D''souza Family Big Cowards. People should not bother about them but ignore them so that they struggle and work hard to meet both ends. I find that financial crisis cannot be the solution to suicide. Daijiworld should find out more details about this family so that we make them understand the Art of Living.

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  • rovina, mangalore/Dubai

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Mr. Eric Cohelo dont give wrong statement. life is very tough for poor people. you cannot understand because you are in the Gulf.

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  • Harold D''cunha, Mangalroe, India

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Fully endorse Lavina S. Pinto, Mangalore/Dubai comments. If something happens then ONLY community people wake up and try to help the needy. If the needy person goes and ask for any help, nobody cares but if he try to commit suicide, then all are ready to help. REQUEST TO ALL PEOPLE, PLEASE TRY TO HAVE A LOOK AT YOUR NEIGHBOURHOOD AND HELP THEM BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE

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  • GEORGE PAIS, URWA -MANGALORE

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Shocked as well as sad to see the comments of Mr. Eric Coelho!s comments,looks like enjoys this incident. For his best knowledge the head of this fly is not a alcoholic as dreamt by Erric,he was well off earlier but lost heavilly, even his son Jossy (36 ) is non alocoholic, who too underwent finanaical losses in his venture, having a phYsically challenged elder sister who too is now recovering from yeasterdays incident. It is sad to see Errics remarks and attempts to stop the helping people to this poor family.

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  • Manoj K.Sharma, Bangalore/Kuwait

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Very Sad. Please provide contact details to provide assistance. It is high time that a hotline is created where people in distress may contact and seek help/guidanace. NGO/Social Worker please take note and do something so the next distressed person may live. Hoping and Praying for the speedy recovery of D''Souza Family.

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  • mundir, Riyadh

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    There are many families in and around us who are facing grave financial crisis. If we dare to have a look around our own neighborhood certainly we meet such people. So let us change our hard heart and mind.

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  • zaks, Mangalore

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Sad news wake up people of mangalore to help the needy.

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  • Blanche , Dubai

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    It’s truly shocking to see the plight of the Dsouza family. I also agree with the comments made on this article re parish priests. Here we have parish priests who seem to ignore the wants of the needy in their parish but concentrate more on collecting funds to put together facilities like party halls etc. Is this really important compared to the needs of their parishners? Are facilities like party halls, shops near church premises etc., a priority to parish priests? Instead why don’t they collect donations to feed the poor in their parish, to buy school books for children who cannot afford it or moreover provide transportation to the little children who have to walk miles to go to school?

    There are so many other instances where most of the time people are tongue bound as they cannot refuse priests when they ask for donations. There are these poor parishners who have to sacrifice their daily bread just to pay donations as they fear that the priests may keep vengeance. There are situations where priests blindly tell off such people during their sermons in church and quote them as examples without naming them. People fear this humiliation and will do anything to please the priests. Finally we sincerely hope that the family in question can overcome this ordeal they had to go through. We also request diajiworld to put in details wherein we can all come forward to help this family who us genuinely in need of assistance.

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  • Lavina S. Pinto, Mangalore/Dubai

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    One thing is sure. If something happens then ONLY community people wake up and try to help the needy. If the needy person goes and ask for any help, nobody cares but if he try to commit suicide, then all are ready to help. REQUEST TO ALL PEOPLE, PLEASE TRY TO HAVE A LOOK AT YOUR NEIGHBOURHOOD AND HELP THEM BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.

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  • Abdulrub, Gangolli,Saudi Jubail

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    Very Sad Incident...leaders of Karnataka,wake up,we have lot many associAtions collecting money in the name charity. where are they.It is our societal obligation to find out real needy people who do not go begging for their basic requirments. It''s a pity that entire family had to resort to suicide for not being able to meet the basic requirements.What is the use of government which claims to alleviate poverty?Surely,government is for rich people not for poor.

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  • ronald d souza, mlore/abudhabi

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    its not the duty of parish preist to find out who is in fin problem and who is going to commit sucide the real god fearing christian never do such attempt i m not against donations but this could have been avoided if they approch the right person

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  • R.Pai, USA

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very sad news. Hope they all recover soon and live a full life.

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  • Rajesh, Barbados

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Lucky at least poor ones are still alive. I am sure their problem will be addressed and sorted soon. God bless them. Question- What are the authorities in their respective church does? Where the huge funds in each of these organisations are spent? What really happens after week end prayer meeting? It’s a good time to initiate rather than making it too late for the Government and legal authorities.

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  • irene, Houston

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    It the duty of the priest to find out how many needy people are there in parish and help them accordingly.Olden days priest used to visit the famlies in the parish and enquire about their well being now a days they visit only rich people houses where they can get lot of honey and money. Just preaching will not do one has to practice.Give the people who are facing lot of poverty that is what our lord want all of us to do that.

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  • Eric Coelho, Mangalore/Ajman

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    D''souza family is in the news for the wrong reason. Feel sorry for what has happened. Now coming to real issue for the catholics in India. An Article in Times of India about a Year back mentioned that when it comes to Catholic Girl and Boy they are the highest educated in India and the Girl is taken well care of in the family. They lead a Social life. But when it comes to getting Jobs in India they are nowhere. Most of the Catholic go abroad for jobs and settle there itself or come back after retiring.

    I am sure the D''zouza family could have taken up jobs in Catholic Run Institute or could have sought help through the Catholic Church to meet their daily needs. Also I feel the Head of the Family must be an Alcoholic. Sending Donations is not the only solution. We need to find the root cause of their suicide and rehabilitate them in a way that they live a dignified life than depend on donations and charity. Those who are sending donation I advice them not to do so. We are spoiling their habits.

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  • Fr. Leslie Shenoy, USA/Mangalore

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    I am shocked and saddened to read this. I wonder where is St. Vincent de Paul or the Parish Council? Why this poor family''s case is not brought to the notice of any such Christian charitable organisations? I strongly request Daijiworld to give us the address and the phone number for contact, where help could be extended, PLEASE. I am sure many more good people of God will come forward with their generousity for this wonderful cause. Praying for their recover and promise my support.

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  • Vanita, Mangalore/Canada

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    How very sad, please provide us with an address or contact ph. no. so that we can help this poor family

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  • Nurya, Kundapur

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    All comments are by words, what we need is immediate action to help the needy, feed the hungry and clothe the naked.

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  • William, sharjah

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is very sad. We are duty bound to help. If Daijiworld can provide us with Bank account# and address where we can do the needful to our brother & sisters in need. I can arrange a job for Mr.Jossy, so that he can take care of his family

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  • gregory, Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It very sad and unfotunate for this family. Such families need help! Hope now the so called Mangalorean philanthropist businessmen come forward and help such families.

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  • Cyril DCunha, UAE

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Manohar Veigas Udipi, William Rodrigues Milagris, If we have some common goal for good cause I will join with you.

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  • Purushottama , Byndoor

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Oh! God! Dont give poverty to your own children.... Very sad news.

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  • Pius D''Souza, Kundapur / Sri Lanka

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Certainly we have many families like this, in our own native places. So this incident is an eye opening for us and an opportunity to break ourselves like the Eucharist Lord, who comes in our hearts in every Eucharist. Can the Vincent de Paul Socities (with the help of the Parish Priests) make a study of the poor people’s situation, who suffer financially to the extent of the following incident and publish the requests on daijiworld and other websites or send to many other social work, charitable institutes or recourse to the help of the governmental or non governmental schemes? It would be an ideal if we show the same concern to all communities of people. The representatives of the Vincent de Paul Society from different Parishes can also come together and discuss this matter along with the input sessions from the resource persons.

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  • AMAR NATHAL, ITALY

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Well, absolutely sad news. Basic question is how a community and its leaders care for the economically marginalized? It''s easier to befriend the rich and the powerful than defend the poor. While we all like to debate about One God and all about the doctrine of His existence, we fail to recognize the existence of poor human beings. Difficult to that the poor are our brothers and sisters. We need Mahatma Gandhi to remind us each day that the nature has enough resources to take of the needs of all but not enough to satisfy the greed of a few.

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  • w.e.pinto, mangalore/now usa

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    sad news.

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  • Manohar Veigas, UDUPI

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    We have many charitable associations under the Church, where individual members in the Community contribute to the fund. But we do not have the associations floated by our community people. This might be a serious lapse since it is quite possible that those families living in poverty may distance themselves from the church, which in turn exempt them from being beneficiaries of these charitable associations under the Church. It is the duty of the Parish Priest and the Ward Community Leaders to identitfy the poor families and also those who have distance themselves from the community and leaving in isloation. It is a myth as conceived by many of our community leaders that there are very few poor families within us. Our Charity should first begin at Home (within our community). I am pleased to see many readers expressing concern and ready to help in all ways. Such Samaritan should see that they render direct help to poor families they come across. Thanks Daijiworld for bringing this incident to light. Let us not allow such incident to repeat.

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  • Lloyd Dsouza, Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Really we i agree with willams. we should help these needy people.

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  • Rony, Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    My dear friends Stop talking this type of the nonsense theologies talking about community n all…now this family need our help… ..let we all join together our hands and save their life and this family… Daiji…please ..give us their bank account number…we are here to save our brothers n sisters.

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  • NAVEEN BELVE, BELVE/ KUNDAPUR

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    please give any contact details of MR.HENRY. so that we send some help to them.WHERE IS THE CATHOLIC SABHA ? TRY TO SOLOVE THIR PROBLEMS.

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  • mabel pereira,

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    we all pray for their good health and face the earthly life

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  • Yogish, Mangalore/USA

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Being human being we shouldn''t allow this to happen in any community whether they are Hindu or Christian or Muslim. God is great that the family is admitted to hospital at right time. Can someone please send their e-mail id, phone number to contact them and to give some financial help. Let''s pray for their speedy recovery Yogish

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  • sahail, mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Its really heart touching.. every individual should give proper attention for improving miseries....

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  • ASHRAF, KANNANGAR/RIYADH

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    very bad decision!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Alwyn, CANADA

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Please advise the contact and bank account of the family on this site to send money tho meet the initial need of this family. Do it ASAP.

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  • Eddie , Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Whatever we earn today, is NOT belongs to us. Atleast a small part of our earnings has to be parted to the poor especially in our own community and within our own church. Our church leaders should take some initiatives how to implement this system and some sort of financial help should be extended to such less fortunate ones. The above one is very sad state of affair.

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  • clarence pereira,

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    shocking news may god forgive them and bless them so that they can come in their concious and face the earthly problems. i pray specially for their family and the concern church congregation could come forward and help them.

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  • Jaya Shetty, Karkala/Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very sad news.Why they not informed their problen to Charity or church.Sucide is not solution for financial crisis.

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  • Shareef Moideen, Mangalore/Jeddah, Saudi Arabia

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very sad news! 5 in a family were trying to kill themselves due to financial difficulties, someone should come forward to provide job for the son and improve their financial status and lawyer should volunteer to fight in the court for land dispute, so they shouldn’t think again to end their life. Even small contribution from all of us can make the family happy and can give them the hope to live and even make them feel that they are cared by their fellow citizens.

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  • zainul abidin, byndoor//dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    very sad news

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  • Ansar.Shiruru/Dubai,

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is really a bad news, atleast they can inform to the charity,where is politician? voting time all are coming to the door but this time no one can help....to them,

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  • george borromeo, angelore, mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is shocking to note the tragedy has befallen on D''Souza family of Padeyangady, Padu Padav, Near Katipalla. Financial crisis made them desparate, and they en mass ventured in to sucide pact. I do not know exactly they come under which parish. However the onus rests upon the Parish Priest, Vice President, Gurkar, Parish Council Members, CLC, ICYM, SSVP, Catholic Sabha. Are we waiting for the people to come to us for the help? Are we not supposed to search for them and render our helping hand? While collecting Donations are we not going to the people? What type of social bonding we got in our Parish? Small Christian Community, recently started Concept, Was it started only to counter New Life Preachings? Really I am confused and frustrated. Can any one tell me who is responsible to drive this family to commit sucide en mass?

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  • Edward Rodrigues, Katapadi/Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    What follows are some do''s and don''ts on what to say to a suicidal individual. 

    • DO ask people with suicidal symptoms if they are considering killing themselves. Contrary to popular opinion, it will not reinforce the idea. "In fact, it can prevent suicide,". Since the suicidal person feels isolated and alienated, the fact that someone is concerned can have a healing effect. 
    • DON''T act shocked or disapproving if the answer to the question "Are you suicidal?" is "Yes." Don''t say that suicide is dumb or that the person should "snap out of it." Suicidal feelings are part of being clinically depressed, just as a high white blood cell count is a symptom of an infection. 
    • DON''T lecture a suicidal individual about the morality or immorality of suicide, or about responsibility to the family. A person in a state of despair needs support, not an argument. 
    • DO remove from easy reach any guns or razors, scissors, drugs or other means of self-harm. '
    • DO assure the person that although it may not feel like it, suicidal feelings are temporary. 
    • DO ask the person if he or she has a specific plan. If the answer is yes, ask him to describe it in detail. If the description seems convincing, urge the person to call a mental-health professional right away. If he or she is not seeing a therapist or psychiatrist, offer a ride to the emergency room for evaluation, or call the local crisis line. 
    • DO make a "no-suicide" contract. This means that the person agrees (in words or in writing) that if he feels on the verge of hurting himself, he will not do anything until he first calls you or another support person. You in turn promise that you will be available to help in any way you can. Ideally, it is best if the suicidal person has prepared a list of people (three or more is ideal) that he or she can contact in the midst of a crisis. 
    • DON''T promise to keep the suicidal feelings a secret. Such a decision can block much-needed support and put the person at greater risk. If a person needs help from a medical professional or a crisis-intervention center, make sure that he or she gets it, even if you have to go along. 
    • DO pay particular attention to the period after a depressive episode, when the person is beginning to feel better and has more energy. Ironically, this may be a time when he or she is more vulnerable to suicide. 
    • DO assure the person that depression is a treatable illness and that help is available. If the individual is too depressed to find support, do what you can to help him or her find support systems-e.g., psychotherapy, medical treatment, and support groups that are described in this book. 
    • DO call a suicide hotline or crisis hotline if you have any questions about how to deal with a person you think may be suicidal. Help is available for you, the caregiver. Finally, there exist a nu

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  • Cyril DCunha, UAE

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Every church and its members should find out poor families in their respective church and help them to rebuild. Also like to know if any organizations in mangalore takes a stock or inventory of poor families and help them to rebuild, procure job etc.,

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  • Lavina Noronha, Mangalore

    Sun, Jun 07 2009

    I appreciate Daijiworld for the coverage of this horrendous incident and an attempt to bring the real issue (financial hardship as the cause for such a drastic step by this family) to light. However, I do feel that discretion could have been exercised in protecting the identity of the family in the photographs. In addition to the stigma attached to suicide and attempting suicide, our blessed country still considers it a criminal offence (Indian Penal Code).

    This adds to the trauma of survivors of suicide and makes their lives more miserable. I do hope this family receives the help they desperately need and that their cry for help is heard.

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  • Lancy Moras, Bendur - Jeddah, KSA

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    My mind is dismayed after knowing this fact. The dark horse case I''ve heeded from our Mangalore Christian Community. Shouldn''t occur to an enemy even. Almighty God is gr8 and gentle to his mankind. At this underlying agony, this poor D''Souza family needs all genus of provision to come up from this colossal bloodbath and all must unite amalgamate to bestow either in cash or in kind including me. Mr. walter and Daiji media hats off for your fabulous surveys and we would plea your auxiliary help to refurbish poor christan D''souza family. caringly advertise the helpline antidote and it will be helpful to us to give away "Phul Ya Phulachi Pakli".

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  • Naveen Monis, Shankerpura / Kuwait

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Each Parish Priest and Church leaders must find out the poor families of their Parish and keep a special charity fund for the poor and needy people. We spend several thousands of rupees to build party halls, schools and churches. Why can’t we raise funds to save lives of our own people?

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  • Harold D''cunha, Mangalore, India

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Security and hope are one of the few basic qualities in which human being survive. Here we find this D’souza family has lost hope and security &they found easy solution to end their life by consuming sleeping tablets. Thank God they are out of danger. Every family has enough problems financial, family relations, neighbors and so on. That does not mean one has to end life to overcome it. Rather find solution with the right people or right chartable organization we all are part of this society and our duty to support the aggrieved family. Daiji pls send the address of this family so that one can contribute whatever one feels to this poor family.

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  • Sam,

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    every single human being as a problems i pray that this family will get the strength to face the problems and try to recover their needs

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  • S.M. Nawaz Kukkikatte, udupi

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    This is not a Solution of Life.. so sad...

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  • Saleem G.H.Puttur, Abu Dhabi

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    I really appreciate Mr.Wilfy, to support needy family to find new job in gulf..May God bless him

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  • ravindra, thokkottu/mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Really very sad...i don't know why they have made suicide attempt for all..

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  • JOBA ALVA, UDUPI/DUBAI

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is really sad news. We need to review our policy. lot of money using our associations name of charity.please help who is in real problems

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  • Regina Fernandes, Mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Philanthropists and donors should come forward to help this family immediately.

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  • Ben, Mangalore/K.S.A

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very sad to hear the news..All our leaders wake up..help the poor first Dear Daiji - please keep a watch on them and as soon as they are well please provide more details of them and also their contact numbers and account details for us to help. Also requesting Daiji if possible get in touch with all the parishes and identify the poor so that all of us can help them and this type of incedents do not repeat

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  • Kenneth S, Mangalore / Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Hope they overcome this ordeal they had to go through. As pointed by various readers, one should consider why this families issues was not addressed by local church. Its a shame we play politics and preferences at our church too. I pray that this family and even other who are in dire needs, finds better options from now onwards instead of contemplating the actions which results in rude awakenings. I would even go to say that they should contact Daijiworld, who are doing an excellent job to bring out such painful issues to the public. God bless them for their untiring efforts.

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  • Robert Pinto, Bombay Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very Sad Incident...

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  • Staney Fernandes, Mumbai/AUH

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Dear Wilfy, Great thought of bringing one of them to the gulf. If someone like you can come forward for such type of genorisity it would mean lot to D''Souza family. We can help them financially but bringing and giving them a job overhere is entirely different. May the good lord blesss you and your family.

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  • Manohar Veigas, UDUPI

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is sad to note such incidents in a community where there are end number of philanthropist ready to help anybody in need. I feel local ward community leaders have failed to acknowledge and report the plight of the said D''Souza family which is very sad. It is never too late to help this family. Our community leaders should be aware of the fact that the families in our community facing poverty, live with self-respect, but it is for us to acknowledge their plight. We should not allow such incidents to be repeated. I hope Daijiworld will give the necessary details to do the needful.

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  • Saleem GH, Puttur, Abu Dhabi UAE

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very Sad !! Come up community leader.. help this family.. let us know their plight

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  • Lawrence D Souza , Karkal - Oman

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is much more sad news for our C - Community because living under one parishioner definitely parish priest and other community (like Vaduo, catholic sabh…..) of parishioner must knew the wealth ness of this family. They must have take precaution before take place of such type of incident. however we will join together and support them

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  • rohithkumar, PUTTUR\DARBE\KUWAIT

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is really a bad news...Please Save this family.God help those who help themselves. Let us all pray for this family...

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  • shahnawaz kukkikatte, dubai/udupi

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    I am saddened to read this. Christians are known for charity and social service works. Why this poor family''s case is not brought to the notice of such christian charitable organisations? I strongly appeal Daiji to come up with an idea of establishing a SOS fund where volunteers can donate generously so that such funds can be helpful and such painful incidents can be averted.

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  • Antony T. D'' Souza, Karkala / Qatar

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    How sad, what a drastic attempt ! I believe Church Leaders should have advised the parishioners about their plight and to bare their financial burden to a certain extent or even by offering them some good jobs. Was it a impossible task and now on ?

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  • P.A.Shanu, Mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    The sadest thing happend again . Dear brothers and sisters , let us join hands together is sharing our peoples sorrow.Let us find out in our neighborhood first, let us find the needy , let us help them to live.please take it as achallenge .

    Let us start working on that from now onwards.It will be a service to the mankind and thus it will become service to the GOD. We will find out the needy and help them in whatever way we can.We dont want to see such incidents in future .each one of us must join together now. Pls pls .. comments and suggetions welcomed

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  • mw, mangaore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    This is the real problem of our society. people are living in dignified way, despite having lots of financial problems. thank god they didnt died. govt. must take appropriate measures. it may be one example, there might be many families living in the same condition.

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  • kumar Fernandes, Mudarangadi/Dubai

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very sad news.Why the their parish supported? Not to worry if they do not care.Dear Daiji, as you have did before, please provide the contact address in the news article. We will try to help.

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  • William Rodrigues, Milagres Mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is shocking to note this can happen in Mangalore(suratkal). We have so many gurkars,Vincent DePaul society, Parish Priest and so on... Pl somebody take care of such things and if required am ready to help. Contact me at wllm.rodrigues@gmail.com

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  • wilfred.maxim.d''souza, kulshekar/ saudi arabia

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    it is really sad to hear such incidents taking place in the Christian commmmunity where there are so many millionaires . Anyway please send me the address to whom I can forward my short helping hand. Mr.Henry and Mrs Leticia and family do not worry but trust in God who will wipe your tears.

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  • Roshan , m''bidri/AUH

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very sad to read the tragedy. daiji please can u provide the account no.of MR. jossy so that we can contribute something for this poor family.

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  • Rayyan Ali, Mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Come on Community Leaders! help this family... Even rich christians in Mangalore contribute atleast 1000 rupees each , this family can survive and can solve their problems. Please Save this family. GOD HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES.

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  • shilpa, mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    It is really a bad news I am very sad

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  • deekshith, mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    govt has to over come this prob..

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  • B.N.R.Rao, Mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Very sad and unfotunate. May God Save them from this tragedy and this crisis.Let us all pray for this family. BNRRao. Vivek Nagar,Kulur.

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  • Wilfy, Mangalore/AUH

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Soo sad.May i can help them out by finding a job for Mr.Jossy in the Gulf if it is ok with him.Can anybody send his detail to me? my email id:wilfy_insep@hotmail.com.

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  • Vincy Pinto, Mangalore

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    Its shocking news. Now is the time to wakeup our community. We build only church''s & community halls. We never think our own poor brothers and sisters.

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  • Anil Pinto, Bannur,Puttur/Sharjah

    Sat, Jun 06 2009

    its really sad news .....

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