11-year-old Commits Suicide after Mother Discovers her Friendship


Mumbai, Mar 15 (Mumbai Mirror): An 11-year-old student of Holy Family School in Ulhasnagar committed suicide on Tuesday afternoon after her mother had read her diaries in which she had written about her friendship with a classmate.



Sayoni Chatterjee and her father Subhash Chatterjee

Enraged, her mother had gone to school on Tuesday morning to complain to the authorities. When she returned home at 1.30 pm, she found her daughter hanging from the ceiling fan in her room, still in her school uniform.

The police have registered a case of accidental death, saying they would record the statements of the parents after the funeral.

Sayoni Chatterjee, who studied in standard VI, was friendly with a boy in her class and the two used to regularly exchange letters.

Sayoni Chatterjee, 11, exchanged this last note with her classmate at  Holy Family Convent School on Monday morning.  She apologises to him about her mother finding out about their relationship. He writes back, “Now ur mother will tell to teacher.” She scribbles an emphatic ‘No.’ But later that morning Sayoni’s concerned mother landed at school demanding to see the principal which upset her greatly

In a note she wrote to her classmate on Tuesday morning, at around the same time Shampa Chatterjee was waiting to meet the principal, Sayoni wrote a note to her classmate saying her mother had gone through her shelf the previous evening and found her diary.

“Having already confronted Sayoni, the mother came to meet the principal in the afternoon to discuss the matter,” a school official said on condition of anonymity. “On seeing her mother in school, Sayoni was visibly upset and tried persuading her to not talk to the principal.”

Since the principal, Sister Blossom, was busy at the time, Shampa met Sayoni’s class teacher, who promised to counsel both the children and asked Shampa to return the next morning. “The mother, however, insisted on meeting the principal right then and all this time, Sayoni, was standing by her side pleading with her mother to let the matter be,” said the official.

While the mother waited for the principal, Sayoni left school. And by the time, the mother got home, without having spoken to the principal, Sayoni was already dead.

In the letter to her classmate, Sayoni wrote, “Yesterday I had gone to my aunt’s house. My mother and sister were at home. I had gone with my father. When I was not there she (mother) opened my shelf and read my personal diary. In this diary every one and all things are wrote.”

When Mumbai Mirror contacted the school’s principal, she confirmed that the child’s mother had come to school with the problem for the first time. “As I was busy with HSC and SSC exams I asked her to come the next day.

 
Sayoni Chatterjee’s father Subhash Chatterjee (right) says he can’t believe that she would kill herself

In such cases, we counsel the children and then counsel the parents. In this case, however, even before we could act, this unfortunate incident took place. Probably the child was scared of being humiliated in class,” said Sister Blossom.

The principal added that they would counsel all students in light of this incident. “We will have to deal with the kids in a sensitive manner. We will devise a proper plan to deal with this issue,” she said.

The girl’s father, Subhash Chatterjee, who works with a chemical company in Rabale, said, “I can’t believe my daughter is no more. I have no reason why she killed herself. She was bright girl who was good at her studies,” he said.

Psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty said that in such cases it’s important for parents to understand that their child is in distress.

“They need to make their child understand that they are with them. It should not be taken as a bad behaviour as then the parents will react with anger instead it should be taken as sad behaviour so that parents take an understanding approach toward the child.

In such cases it is best for the parents to seek help from a counsellor who can guide them so that the child can be counselled and hitting or getting angry at them would only make the matter worse.”

  

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  • anjali jumrani, sneh sadan

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    hi I am too studing in holy faimly convent school very sad to hear this

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  • A. D'Souza, Kodialbail

    Fri, Mar 18 2011

    Vasant raj:
    You sound more like a prophet from Udupi, except that you are not and that you have not paid any attention to your choice of words. In your comments ‘Our own daughter’ sounds a lot better than ‘Your own daughter’.

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  • vasant raj, udupi/Abudhabi

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    As long as the people like DEV SAGAR MANGALORE there, our society will not improve.Your own daughter, sister or relative dies, that day you will come to know the truth.

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  • A. D'Souza, Kodialbail

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    It is sad to see so many people blaming all others, blaming everything else that is not theirs & criticize anything and everything that they do not like. Why don’t we understand and thank God for the blessings that he has showered on us, for all the beautiful things in life, which includes good and bad things. Most importantly he has also given us REASONING POWER and a brain to be used in order that you do a right choice all the time. Internet, just like a knife has good side and a bad side to it. Instead of blaming it why don’t you use it to it’s rightful purpose instead of blaming it after putting it through a wrongful ones. Blaming the GIFT amounts to blaming and GIVER – don’t’ you think !!

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  • Habeeba Mohiddin, Bajpe

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    Very sad indeed. May her soul rest in eternal peace.

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  • Haneef, Puttur / Dubai

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    Sad News.. Seriously we must think the importance of the reality shows now.. Reality shows are really driving the kids in the wrong direction by filling their mind with bad things.. Parents will never know how these shows affect the little minds.... Keep your kids away from reality shows.. and of course the killing internet sites ..

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  • Prisha Mascarenhas, Kirem,mangalore

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    Mr. A. D'Souza
    My comments were exactly for your second point. That is why I said we, all of us parents need parental guidance because of today's children who are exposed to the world unlike 30 years ago, it clashes with different thinking

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  • Nimmy, India

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    Hi Matt,

    I completely agree with you that the western culture has got nothing to do with this incident. It was all a matter of lil understanding that was required from Sayoni's mother .Insead of blowing things out of proportion, she could have spoken to her daughter and explained things to her.

    But. Matt, when you say that "Kamasutra was not written in America or Rome and neither does the west woman had 5 husbands at a time" APPRECIATE HER AUDACITY TO MARRY FIVE GUYS AT A TIME AND THEN LIVE THEM ALL FIVE OF THEM TOGETHER IN A SOCIETY.

    UNLIKE U GUYS SLEEPING WITH MANY, NOT EVEN REMEBERING THE FACES OF GUYS WHOM U HAVE SLEPT WITH.

    where do u think the concepts of dating, live inrelationships, one night stands have come into picture, THESE HAVE ORIGINATED FROM U GUYS AND SOME AMONGST US BLINDLY FOLLOW U. DONT KNOW FOR WHAT JOY.

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  • Judith L, Mumbai

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    Dear commentors, pls. refrain from passing irrelevant comments. this is a sad episode where a child has lost her life and her family in grief. perhaphs the mother might have not imagined in her wildest dreams that the consequence of her being strict would lead to such event. May the child's soul rest in peace.

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  • Sabir, Katpadi/ Bangkok

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    Children are in so much stress these days. incidents like these are the outcome of the parent's stress on the kids. its just the parents who can become companions to them specially in the adolescent age. the widening generation gap has to be narrowed down..

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  • Dev Sagar, Mangalore

    Thu, Mar 17 2011

    Mr Vasant raj Bannanje, Udupi/Abudhabi, nobody is forcing anybody to accept and adopt foreign culture. It is a matter of personal choice and freedom. So please be Indian, buy Indian and also stay in India. It would be better if people refrain from passing meaningless comments.

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  • Daisy, Mangalore/Canada

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    My heart goes to the parents. Indeed they lost their very loving child. Here we cannot finger point anyone in this case. Ofcourse the child got upset and she didn't wanted to face the consequences. It's a shame that happened but it is a eye opening for all of us. We cannot stop media, channels or anything out of the sights. More u avoid more kids get curious. It is very important to have a close bonding and a loving conversation with the kids. Answer each and every questions of the kids even though it is awkward to answer. The mother didnot think of the extreme things but yes ofcourse she just wanted her daughter to be safe and unfortunately the things went into different directions.

    Schools and communities should have councillors and educators who face similar situations and instead punishing their kids just take advice and act differently.

    I pray that little girls soul rest in peace and give strength and courage for her parents to come over this sadness very quickly

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  • Anitha Dsouza, mangalore/kuwait

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    Really sad and disturbing! Lets pray for the poor soul, and also the surviving parents especially the mother whose condition must just be terrible and must be blaming herself for the incident for the rest of her life.

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  • Charles D'Mello, Pangala

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    Unfortunate !!

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  • chennai, chennai

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    Yes!! you are exactly right! remove all private channels. and give only durdarshan. even though this is a different problem media makes life hell.

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  • A. D'Souza, Kodialbail

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    Prisha Mascarenhas:
    While reading your comments I get a feeling that you are bit confused but you want to say it anyway. (1) You say that ‘it is easy for all of us to give comments’ – apparently you have forgotten that you are also in the same boat. (2) As you correctly pointed out it is very clear from the episode that ‘the mother reacted what she felt right’ and that is exactly where the problem lies. (3) There is no such thing as ‘sometimes it is correct and sometimes it is wrong’ – you aught to know that you can’t have it both ways. This is also said in most of the religious books, you do good you will go to heaven and you bad and you’ll go to hell. You can not go to one place and change your mind later.

    Right, wrong, fortunate or unfortunate – these are just words. It is very important to know what responsibility is. Young children have their own share of it while the older have theirs but both have it for sure, irrespective of any generation gap. Every problem has it’s own solution so it is pointless blaming others, other’s culture, TV’s, every thing other’s and none your own and that is why we find it difficult to find solutions. Community leaders do not have to make any arrangements since they are also flesh and blood just like you and me. The change needs to be IN YOU & ME and not in the church, temple or mosque. This is what we have to learn from this example.

    We all know that this sweet girl Sayoni whether in love or not is still only 11 years old.
    A cute little letter she wrote to her admirer which is shown on Mangalorean.com is a testimony to it. Getting upset or worried are all natural things in one’s life but this grown up mother with all her many years of live experience in life could have handled the situation slightly differently, without getting over excited. Her one slip destroyed everything, like a small little leak which can drown a huge big ship.

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  • Rajesh, Cochin

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    Extremely sad event,
    But dont we need to treat children with dignity and respect the same way we expect from others. They also have their own personality and individuality that we must accept.

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  • Antony Pereira, Bejai, Mangalore.

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    Very sad to hear that a 11 year old girl committed suicide..! I think it is high time for parents to understand their children very well. We are all human & bound to commit mistakes knowingly or unknowingly. So, parents when they face this type sitution first instead of making a big issue or serious thing they have to study their own child and never beat or illtreat the child including insulting them in front of their classmates, teacher or Principal.

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  • Juliet, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    This is an eye opener to all the elders parents and teachers.

    Keep telling your kids you love them unconditionally and its human to do mistakes in life and we as parents are there to tell them gently whats right and wrong.

    Let them know you are always there for them AND keep saying this everyday.

    Be a friend first then a parent. Do not come to conclusions fast. Spend some time with your children everyday HUG THEM AND MAKE THEM FEEL LOVED.

    Talk to them openly about life's ups and downs now a days kids understand.

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  • Dianez, Mlore/Muscat

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    My heart goes out to the parents who have lost their precious little one! No point in playing the blame-game. Mother's concern is quite understandable! May the soul of little Sayoni rest in eternal peace!

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  • Mohiddin, Moodbidri

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    Its a tragedy,
    But...
    Do we Think seriously who will be held responsible for this...
    I blame Media only... All are in race now. no body has social responsibility, no media remember their professional ethics.. All are busy by filling... their pockets...
    some one feel are media concerned about this after such incident?
    had they serious thinking how to over came from such problems?
    WE ARE FUN LOVERS AND NEVER CARE WHAT GONA RESULT OF WHAT WE WATCH THERE IN TV..
    WILL THEY DISTURBS SOME ONE'S LIFE IN OUR NEIGHBOURS...
    DO WE SEND FEED BACK OF ANY PROGRAMME... BY THINKING HOW IT WILL APROACH PEOPLE.

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  • reckson pinto, TACCODE/UAE

    Wed, Mar 16 2011

    Very sad to hear this news, we will pray for the innocent may her soul rest in peace, todays generation is peculiar this age they do not know what they r doing? please all the girls mother be friend with their daughter and guide them make them understand in this case it is totally wrong mother ran to complaint principal insteasd of guiding her daugter in friendly right way very sad innocent life is lost we will pray all the teenage childrens to walk right path and pray for this family and soul of sayoni very much upset to see this news!!!!!

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  • Prisha Mascarenhas, Kirem,mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Yes, it is easy for all of us to give comments now that this unfortunate tragedy has happened in this family. The mother reacted what she felt right. Remember that all of us have got different thinking. Sometime it is correct and sometime it is wrong. If this tragedy hadn't happened the same commentators would have said, 'the mother doesnot know how to correct her eleven years old daughter' and that why my request is to the leaders in the society is to initiate periodical free public parental guidance.

    Always there is a generation gap and we parents are unable to understand the younger generation. 25 years back my friends son had committed suicide at the age of 15 and since then i have never seen her smile or laugh, always sad and worried. Community leaders should make arrangement to render compulsory free parental guidance - be in church, temple or in mosque

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  • joegonsalves, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    We parents have to learn from this very unfortunate tragedy. In situations like these it is always prudent to be cautious. These instances are not uncommon. Again calf love as you call it should not be considered as crime and as something seriously wrong.

    My heart goes out to the parents who never imagined that the little child would take such a step. However all parents should learn from this unfortunate event and always seek council before taking any serious step.

    Joe Gonsalves

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  • A.S.Mathew, U.S.A.

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Suicide by any person, for whatever reason it might be
    especially by an eleven
    year old child is rather heartbreaking.

    Though times have changed very
    rapidly, some parents can't digest
    that new reality of life, and they
    are very adamant to keep their
    children in the same old traditions
    as the parents have lived, half a
    century back.

    The "puppy love" in between
    boys and girls even very early
    is life is quite natural in an
    open society.

    I pity the total ignorance and
    narrow mindedness of the mother
    for creating a mountain out of a
    molehill. The innocent and petrified
    child didn't find consolation
    from any source so took her life
    earlier. Let this be an eye opening lesson for the parents.

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  • Alister pinto, Agrar/kuwait

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    children are very sensitive and lovable,we should know to handle dem with lots of care n a special love to be shown them in their difficulties,by showing anger v cant do anything ,everything in this world can be solved by a hearlty love,so plz respect the feelings of kids,watch the movie taare zameen par and lets try to improve our patience and care about our kids.....

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  • NTM, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Girls should be educated, because they are going to become wifes and mother. If this mother was educated and understanding the little girl would have been alive and happy today. 11 Yrs old little girl what does she know about love and friendship? She is not even in her teens, mother should have understood this, and dealt with the little girl with love, care and understanding. if there is TV influence that was with the mother not the little girl, mother who misunderstood the little girl. Please all mothers wakeup and grow and try to understand your kids and spend time with them, specially with your daugthers, in their teens, this is the time they need your care, love, understanding and guidence. I am so sorry for the little girl, May her soul rest in peace, let her be happy whereever she is! This a lesson to all the mothers.

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  • Nikita Pereira, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    This mother is really stupid for making a big issue just b'cos her daughter n a classmate were exchanging a few friendly letters. its very obvious tat in a co-education school the teacher keeps the student boys from talking to girls. but tat wont stop them talking outside school. n its very natural these days. i dont see anything wrong with tat...
    n i've no idea wat the article meant when its says "Relationship" she's 11years old for crying out loud u dumb female.
    wat type of mother ru? u cudnt talk n solve the matter between ur daughter n the boys n his parents in a nice manner.look wat ur stupidity cost u.
    may little Sayoni's soul rest in peace.

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  • Abdul Rahman, Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear Bulsam,
    Why are you talking of sexualism here? What happened in Mumbai was only matter of friendship between two classmates, nothing more.Don't see every friendship between a boy and a girl from a sexual angle.

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  • ashenoy, mangloor

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Its a tragedy indeed. Scary child and motherly worry. Indian TV is a menace to the society young and old. Growing up has become a challene in todays times and parenting is a horrendous task to todays generation where mind, materiality and madness living has become a norm ignoring the lifes true values.
    By the way, many hangings happen in India by hanging through a ceiling fan inside houses and flats. Has the government considered banning these fans and intrducing floor movable fans?

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  • Yathish Kumar, ATTAVAR/ DUBAI

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Sensitive situations should be handled sensitively and with extra care. what did the Mother achieve by taken such a harsh step and making it public in the school,and do you all think that the child would have continued to go to school if she would have been alive when mother had spread the news in the school?

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  • Deep, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    We need more understanding and loving approach from parents to deal with this kind of problems.

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  • Anil D'souza, Taccode/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    This is heart-breaking incident.

    Child's mother would have enquired peacefully rather than confronting straightaway.

    In cases like this,parents need to figure out friends of their children.They must guide,make them understand what is wrong & right rather than rebuking.

    Children must be treated affectionately,with love & care irrespective of mistakes they may make.

    May her soul rest in peace

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  • Bulsam, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    The biological aspects of human sexuality deal with human reproduction and the physical means that increase in body temperature increase in levels of pleasurable hormones. Hence the parents should under their children and act very cautiously because the child realises that something terribly went wrong in their act of little pleasure.
    The age and manner in which children are informed of issues of sexuality is a matter of sexual education. The school systems in almost all developed countries have some form of sex education, but the nature of the issues covered varies widely. In some countries "age-appropriate" sex education often begins in pre-school, whereas other countries leave sex education to the pre-teenage and teenage years. Sex education covers a range of topics, including the physical, mental, and social aspects of sexual behavior.
    It is astonishing to know that there are some weird sexual interests that deviate from the normal sense like sexually attracted to same sex, sexually attracted to post-pubertal adolescents called 'Lolita Syndrome', sexual attraction towards the pre-pubescent female children, a sexual interest in a child of 24 months or younger, sexual interests involve on non-human objects, non-adults and other non-consenting people, sexual interest toward a pre-pubescent child or children etc. The parents should identify such cases and treat them accordingly through a specialist.

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  • ISMAIL K PERINJE, PERINJE/YANBU-KSA

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Sayoni Chatarjee's parrent has to introspect where went wrong.I believe she is too early to decide to sucide for the simple matter of friendship of an classmate!TV and reality shows contribute certain extent to this sad incident.May the soul of kid rest in peace.

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  • vasant raj, udupi/Abudhabi

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Mr.Matt Faris, Brisbane. Kamasutra is an Indian Gift, no doubt. But it never exceeds its limit, it thought a safe sex. Whereas, foreign culture is an curse to our Indian culture. It looks fine at the same time its danger, India doesnot given not only Kamasutra, it has given Maha Bharatha, Ramayana etc.. Mr.Matt.

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  • shekhar,

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    u expect an 10-11 year old kid to understand the parents feeling...
    is this a joke????

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  • Sandesh P, Mumbai, Manama

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear Augustine, AUGUSTINE, Karkala, I am not agree with you. For this our parents only responsible. They should keep their children in their hand.

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  • VEENA DSOUZA, M'LORE/Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Very sad to hear this news, we will pray for the innocent may her soul rest in peace, todays generation is peculiar this age they do not know what they r doing? please all the girls mother be friend with their daughter and guide them make them understand in this case it is totally wrong mother ran to complaint principal insteasd of guiding her daugter in friendly right way very sad innocent life is lost we will pray all the teenage childrens to walk right path and pray for this family and soul of sayoni very much upset to see this news!!!!!

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  • T S Thomas, Colombo

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    This is the most disturbing news I read this year, even more disturbing than the earthquake and tsunami in Japan. Any parents who cannot respect the feelings of their little children must not father or mother them!

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  • Rao, Udupi/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear All,
    It is an unfortunate incident.We will blame many things now, media, culture, parents etc. I believe we should consider the below points to avoid such incidents doesnt happen in future.

    1. Parents should build a trust with the child, so that child feels secured in sharing any information with parents.
    2. Value education by parents to child is very important so that it acts as a shield against any evil coming in from media, friends etc..
    3. Parents should be responsible enough to watch their child and guide them always and they should compulsorily devote time for this.
    4. Dont load child with too much study, tuitions etc. Understand the child's capacity and feed accordingly. Every child cannot come first or score high marks.

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  • clasy, kuwait

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    plz give time to GOD.Instead of giving time for useless TV serials hours and hours.

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  • Santhosh Bhandary, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    This incident is very unfortunate and I am really saddended with this incident. The parents should stop living in the past. We have progressed in life so much in each and every field and such things should have been a thing of the past. People falling in love at an young age and inter caste marriages have become the order of the day. There is no option but parents have to accept the reality. The only other option is to keep their daughters at home without sending them anywhere and supervise them 24x7 which is not practical. Parents have to accept the change and guide their children instead of over reacting to the issue.

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  • Alpha, India

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Blaming Western or Eastern culture is wrong. The actual problem is within the household. Every child is exposed to things that they should not come across either TV, or the lifestyle they observe all around. The parents should observe the growth of their children, the changes taking place in them and in particular daughters as they mature rapidly and any change can be noticed if you communicate with them on a daily basis

    In this particular case, the mother should have been closer to the daughter and being 11 years, I am sure she had reached certain level of maturity. The mother on discovering the diary, should have examined were she went wrong and not the daughter? Here it looks like she wanted to blame the school? It is like passing the buck! If she was sensitive, this would not have happened.

    So, parents spend time with your growing children rather sitting in front of crappy serials. There should be at least one hour of family time where you sit and talk, say your evening prayer, thank God and I am sure things would be totally different

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  • Arshad Kadli, Bhatkal / Al Khobar

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Generation gap is the prime factor behind the parents not understanding the behavioural pattern of their children. We all need counselling on parent children relationship.
    I fully agree with readers who blame TV serials and some vulgar reality shows.

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  • RTN MICHAEL MATHIAS SHIRVA ROTARY, PILAR SHIRVA

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    very sad news.why like this happening in india.

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  • Abdulla Madumoole, Abu Dhabi

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    I agree with Dr.S Kamath's professional advice and would like to add one more advice to all parents -do not panic.In this case mother pressed the panic button and rushed to the school to complain as if some great sin has been committed.She failed to be with her daughter when she badly needed her.She failed to understand what impact her actions would have on her daughter. Now more important thing is to counsel the boy, definitely he would be experiencing a feeling of guilt, shame and lonliness because of her death. I feel these days more than children, parents need counselling. We should understand that if we don't adjust to the changing times, "change" will make us obsolete.Repenting later is of no use.

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  • Flavy, Dubai/M'lore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    very well said, V.Dsouza, Saudi. highly apprecated. Hope all the children around the world will read your msg.

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  • Alwyn Maxim , Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Yes madam, you are absolutely right and this is the wake up call for all parents, how to deal with their childrens as well make the time for their own creation. Let Sayoni, rest in peace and will pray for her soul. Soyoni's mother is over smart because when her loving darling pleading with her for mercy and she don't have pitty on her, what sort of mother she is if she dont understnad her child's heart feelings ? ? ? ?

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  • M Fernandes, Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    This was innocent love and carebetween two kids. Children should be told that there is nothing wrong in this. The mother is to be blamed for humiliating that child in front of people, even alone. Sure that child was terrified of the consequence that would be the following day.

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  • Basil, Mangalore/Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    In such cases even parents have to be counselled.This incident is totally unfortunate and the child must have done it innocently.Parents should forgive and guide the children properly under such cases.May her soul rest in peace.I pray that the parents gets the courage to face the situation boldly.

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  • Augustine, AUGUSTINE, Karkala

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    TV serials are poisoning the people. It is educating the society with negative things. Ekta Kapoor is responsible fo such incidents.

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  • AMAR NATHAL, MANGALORE

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Very sad incident. Innocent life is lost. As long as our films and TV are full of "Love-stuff" and guns and violence, we can expect more of these tragedies. The situation is beyond the parents' control. Our media is full of junk, indeed full evil.

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  • avani, mlore/uae

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear all, we all now the film industry (especially b'wood) is controlled by whom. Dons & underworlds. TV serial making is an allied business of those in film industry only. So what we can expect from them? They only potray violence, school college romance, a mrried woman loving another man & vice versa, in total all illegal things which is not suitable for viewing by children at all.

    They glorify valentene's day, item songs even so called live shows like dance etc now a days are not free from body exposure & glorifying boy & girl intimacy. This is corrupting the children minds. Parents have an extra task to guide children right in time. I pray God to let present parents including me to guide children at right time with right amount of advice in a right way.

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  • shahnawaz kukkikatte, dubai/udupi

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Alass... Where we are heading to Unimaginable.... Whole society needs to be blamed....Its the result of falling values in the name of modernisation...Human rights, freedom of everything....

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  • MATT FARIAS, Brisbane

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Mr Vasanth Bannanje stop blaming the western culture for this stupidity as if our culture is washed in milk!
    Kamasutra was not written in America or Rome and neither does the west woman had 5 husbands at a time, the cause of Aids epidemic!

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  • V.DSouza, Mangalore/Saudi Arabia

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    I don’t understood what is going wrong with the kids of this generation? How one can think or attempt to do suicide at the age of 11? Why they don’t understand there are so many other things they have to do in their life rather than make love. Dear Kids Do not waste the hard earned money of your parents, Remember one thing first try to achieve something in your life and then nobody is stopping to choose your life partner. People are saying that modern TV and internet are spoiling the kids but there are channels like Geography Channel where one can increase his or her knowledge and internet one who you can get the information on the spot as and when required. I too agree with some people there should be parental guidance, supervision and monitoring is very much required. We too are passed your age and we too understand your feelings.

    During our days we don’t get any pocket money so we don’t have time to think anything else rather than to help our parents in their day today work or busy with some outdoor games that again makes us busy. Now a day’s children’s are totally busy with T.V. Serials, Internet and Mobiles. Hardly see they are playing out in the ground. The Mobile companies are attracting the students with free messages and other offers etc and that is what leading our children to get spoil in their early age.

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  • Vishal, Mangalore/Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    We Indians are very fond of Western culture which has started yielding the fruits.

    We have such a beautiful Indian culture and we run away from it.

    Parents, please encourage Valentines Day celebrations, watching third rate love-serials with children so that children can fall in love without knowing the consequences.

    Finally, now start blaming others giving petty excuses.

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  • DIVYA, MANGALORE

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    PLEASE BAN TV SERIALS.

    PUNISH EKTHA KAPOOR

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  • vasant raj Bannanje, Udupi/Abudhabi

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    This is because of not only TV serials, we are following foreign culture. So many meaning less 'DAYS' are existing now a days. When I was growing,it was not there in our society, we came to know all these 'DAYS' only after PUC. This death will occur in every houses, very soon..If some one tries to show what is right and what is wrong, bloody, we will laugh at him. We will not realize until this kind of incident happens at our house.

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  • Naveen, Netakere/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    It is a heartbreaking news and feel like not ready to accept the facts .

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  • A. D'Souza, Kodialbail

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Nancy, Belman:
    I do not agree with your statement that the parents are always at receiving end, unless of course like when some immature parents behave worse than the child sometimes. I perfectly agree that any responsible parent would be shocked to hear about their little daughter falling in love at this age. Parents are big enough to know that falling in love is nothing strange, special or dirty. It is a part of life. Most children especially girls rely and depend on their mothers for everything.

    This particular mother may not have behaved in a sensible and responsible manner. Being a grown up lady with a little common sense, intelligence mostly her experience she should not have gone to the principal when the little child repeatedly requested her not to. She could have spoken to her daughter about the positives and negatives of falling in love especially at this tender age. Looks like the mother was in a top hurry to make some noise without paying any attention to the sensitivities of a small innocent kid. The TV serials have nothing to do with this.

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  • Chris Ronak D'silva, Christ the King Church Trasi

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    May her Soul Rest in Peace. Very sad because of silly matter she left this planet earth.

    Dear all please try to speak with your kids with loveable words. See this innocent baby kill her without knowing or understanding anything because of silly matter. Parents can discuss this silly matter and sought it with her or make her understand instead of taking complaint to school. School is not responsible for this personnel matter only the parents.

    It is all happening without conversation or enquiry with their kids at home because parents are too busy with their work/ watching TV/ roaming with their friends.

    Growing kids are required parents love and affection especially baby girl. If kids get proper love and affection from their parents they are not thinking of somebody’s love and affection. These things are natural to each and every human being. Each and every parent on this earth planet this is good example to grow their kids with humble and affectionate themselves.

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  • Louis D'Souza, Udupi/Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Stop watching Hindi Family drama serials, Specially that of Ektha Kapoor,(Balaji Films) and you will have peace at home. Along with Parents Childrens are edicted to such serials. Especially on Zee T.V. n Star Plus. Ladies dont want start prayer nor they will serve food untill they finish watching those serials. This little one lost her life for nothing, may be the mother created big noise and girl got afraid n end her life. May God give rest to her soul.

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  • Lynette, Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Very sad indeed. An 11 year old committing suicide is just unacceptable. Parents with young children, please, please devote more time to them. However busy you are, at least one parent spare some time daily, maybe at mealtime, to listen to your children. They have so much to share about their experiences, teachers & friends.

    Listen to what they have to tell you, whether it is their studies or their mischief. Give a hug, appreciate when they are doing well. Be friendly and make them feel they can tell you anything without being afraid of you. It gives you the chance to get to know things on time. Avoid complaining to other parents especially in front of them. Children have to be treated with respect and no child likes to be humiliated in front of his/her friends. A little effort will make you a proud parent.

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  • Krishna Ashok, Karkala

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Very sad news, Those who dont have any girls child they write something this not the time to write or blame anybody we have to be with the girl parents may they have the courage to bear the irpairable lose, may her soul rest in peace
    Krishna Ashok
    Karkala

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  • Dr S kamath , Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Having seen the Life and having trained ,Interacted with thousands of Children in Mumbai in my Opinion .The best Solution to this type of problem is like this 1. Dont Prohibit Children from doing .THis will agravate the Problem Like the saying FORBIDDEN FRUIT IS SWEETER 2. Instead Teach them Good things ,Keep them busy in Hobbies like Music ,Bhajans ,Prayers ,Art ,Dance etc .If you take them to the East the West will be automatically away .Never Beat or Scold the Children they too have self respect

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  • DAPSY VAZ, SHANKERPURA

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Its a sad demise for the chatterjee family.... lets not play the blame game now... serials, events, news, etc are not been forced by anyone... if not at home kids will learn however or wherever they go... may be in school or neighbours or relatives...may be twas a slight embarassment for the child n mother must hav not tried to understand the situation, no mother would like the child being killed herself... lets pray for her soul n for the family who are depressed, rather than blaming for the society.... GOD BLESS THE SORROWFUL FAMILY.

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  • Ronald, Bejai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    IF WE HAVE A LITTLE TIME TO SPEND WITH OUR KIDS,
    THEN NO POINT IN BLAIMING TV & ITS CHANNELS.
    BECAUSE OF OUR MODERN BUSY LIFE STYLE,
    WE HAVE NO TIME FOR OUR CHILD,
    WE HAVE OUR OWN WORK.
    CHILD IS IN ITS OWN WORLD

    WITH KIDS WE HAVE TO BE A KID THEN ONLY THEY ARE READY TO SHARE AND GEL WITH US.
    WITH KID WE MUST WATCH KIDS' TV CHANNELS AND BE LIKE KID.
    WHY SHOULD WE WATCH SUICIDE,CRIME,LOVE AFFAIRS CHANNELS IN FRONT OF CHILDREN?
    AND IT FORCE THEM TO WATCH ALSO WITHOUT KNOWING ITS REALITY.

    IF WE ACT LIKE A JUDGE THEY THINK WE ARE CONSIDERING THEM AS A CRIMINALS & TEHY HIDE EVERYHTING FROM US AND BY THE TIME WE DISCOVER IT WILL BE TOO LATE.

    COMMUNICATION IS A MAJAOR PART:
    SHARE THE QUALITY TIME LIKE BREAKFAST TIME,DINNER TIME WITH FAMILY.
    IF WE/FAMILY STAY TOGETHER,PRAY TOGETHER NO TV CHANNELS CAN SEPARATE US.

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  • Jaimini P.B., Manipal,Sharjah

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Mother at fault.She should have advised daughter in a very sensible manner at home instead of taking this matter to School Principal. She should have guided daughter in a right way by telling importance & differnce of EDUCATION and LOVE. One small doubt.. what was father doing ? Did he know about the note book issue ? If yes..put him behind bar first for taking careless approach !

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  • HENRY MISQUITH, BAHRAIN

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Very sad really, our sympathies and condolences to this girl's family. Parents please take care of your children seriously and blindly do not believe any 1.

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  • Dave, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Over protective parent thinking her child is innocent but the other child is responsible for this trivial infatuation caused this tragedy.
    Instead of teaching her the right way she made mountain of molehill-to the extent it took precious little angel's life in the end. Parents please-put yourself in your childrens' shoes first then realise what they go through before taking any proactive steps in haste & cause all the heart burning tragedy as a result of it.
    May Lord grant eternal peace to this tender soul-& protect all future tragedies from happening.
    It is better to let children have healthy relationship from childhood with their opposite with parental guidance than unhealthy relationships in their teenage life which might cause far more grave errors of lifetime.Every mom need to follow Lydia Lobo's piece of advice.

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  • Rajesh R, Mumbai, Manama

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear Joshny, good comment i agree with you. It may effect due to tv.

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  • Ambrose Naveen , Mangalore/Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear Nancy, Belman
    Parents are there to guide the children and not to scare the children In this case Mom should have handled the situation in a matured way. I am sure every mom who reads this news will learn most important lesson .

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  • Wilfred, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    May her soul Rest in Peace... but Mother should have been Patient to Tackle this issue.

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  • Rakesh Sharma, Bajegoli/Karkala

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    At the age of eleven..people learning to study..surprise to know she is writing diary..something fishy it looks like..can child of 11 reach fan..to commit suicide?..something hidden..in this matter..where she can get all the things all of sudden..to commit suicide!!

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  • Jawar D'Souza, M'Lore/Doha

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Very sad incident, it would had been good if the mother would have talked to the child and created a sense of awareness. It's really shocking to hear such small child commiting sucide.May God rest her soul in peace.

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  • Ranjitha, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Its happening because of parents. They are not taking care of their children's they may busy in their life. They must be aware about their children 24/7 then only it will solve.

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  • JRAO,

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    We cann't understand why the so called Moms come to the conclusions that children fell in love being criminals by loosing all patience in tackling the matters. It shows her way of narrow thinking. All mother wants their first baby as a boy but the same mother looks other boys on the negative.

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  • Prasanna , Mumbai, Bahrain

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear Joshny, mangalore/kuwait
    Very good comment i agree with you. It may effect due to tv.

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  • Aina, Mangalore / Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    My heartfelt condolences to this b'ful little gal. Let her soul rest in peace.
    Although I am stunned by the fact that an 11 year old gal can acutally tie a knot so tight that she could hang herself to the fan.How did she manage to do that? I dont mean to blame anyone but this is really really strange.

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  • shaffi mukka, riyadh

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    The solution for this is ban the co education system.

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  • Ananda , Bottu Daarekatte Bantwal

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    It is the effect of Ektha kapoors bundle serials.Ektha should punished.

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  • raaz, manglore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear Tony Pinto, Manglore - Mumbai
    very well said Today Subhash Chatterjee tomorrow it will be tony pinto.....

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  • HENRY MISQUITH, BAHRAIN

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Heartbreaking news..why parents do not take care of their children seriously.
    Our sympathies and condolences to the family.

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  • C K DAYANANDA, MANGALURU

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    For TVs serials and Movies, the theme is only LOVE STORIES and nothing else. People have become the captives of these love stories and have forgotten all other beautiful things in real life.

    All LOVE STORIES should be banned some time so that the people develop a positive attitude towards their life.

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  • M.Bhat, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Mr.Pernal Mangalore,
    You are right. Rinku Patil case happened about 22 years ago and the guy Haresh committed suicide on the railway tracks.
    This suicide of the young girl is sad indeed.

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  • Riyaz, mangloe/ksa

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear Joshny, mangalore/kuwait
    Very good comment.Its the effect of TV serials.

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  • Tony Pinto, Manglore - Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Very sad day for parents dear Vivian, Dubai you blame for TV serial why not you blame for Valentine Day / ROSE DAY / LOVERS DAY in School colleges and others Children are watching all this events and feel to do the same which is seen in this NEWS i can say Western culture slowly started showing the effect IN INDIA. Today Subhash Chatterjee tomorrow it will be us dear brother Vivian hope you have family.

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  • Nancy, Belman

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Unbelievable and Shocking!!!!

    I dont understand why parents always at receiving end??

    Is correcting parents mistake? Can't parents have right to ask/correct children?

    Why these children dont understand parents feelings?

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  • Lancelot N. Tauro, Manglore - Doha Qatar

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Not only TV serials, even some bollywood songs like Sheela ki Jawani I am sexy for you, Gul Batthi kamre me do Pyaar dho, makes growing children to divert their mind into devil thought and action. Now mother is responsible for daughters suicide.

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  • Jacobnelson, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    MOTHERS SHOULD ACT WITH DAUGHTER AS A FRIEND SO THAT THEY CAN SHARE THE FEELINGS AND SOLVE THE PROBLEMS!

    WITH SON FATHER SHOULD BE ACT AS A CLOSE FRIEND SO THAT SON WILL SHARE ALL HIS FEELINGS!

    OTHERWISE NOTHING BUT WE ARE POURING OIL TO THE BURNING FIRE TO DESTROY EVERYTHING.

    HOME IS A FIRST SCHOOL FOR KIDS.

    IT SHOWS THERE WAS A BIG COMMUNICATION GAP.

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  • Deepak Dsilva, Paladka/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Parents should understand their children's mentality and counsel them as per situation. This is the example that childrens can go any extent. Very sad story of such a young Kid.

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  • Joshny, mangalore/kuwait

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    This is nothing but TV effects. Stupid stories they show and spoil the real life style of common peoples.11 yrs kids in affair its shocking this is nothing but coz of movies and serials.Now a days u cant even watch ADs with kids they are so dirty, exposing then forget about serials and movies.I think if serious action is not taken up right now exposing and love stories on TV these kind of stories will increase.

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  • H M Pernal, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Ulhasnagar is not in Mumbai. It is in Thane Dist. May be 20 years back Ulhasnagar was in news for burning alive Rinku Patil , a student appearing for exams, i think SSC. The boy Haresh Patel who was in love with the girl was upset when girls parents objected their relationship. He poured petrol and kerosene on Rinku and set her ablaze in the classroom itself in filmy style. Jo mera nahin woh kisi ka nahin ho saktha! Later he too committed suicide sleeping on railway tracks near Ambernath.Ek Dooje Ke Liye! Now this Story , again Exam time and love story. Not only Mumbai all adjoining cities have now become Hadson Ka Shahar , Mumbai , Navi Mumbai , Thane , Ulhasnagar , Kalyan , Vasai , Miraroad etc. Night life , crime syndicate almost everything.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    We have lost Sayoni nothing can bring her back. I offer my hearties condolences to her family and pray that they come to terms of accepting the reality and that her soul rests in peace.

    I have a request to today's parents - its true that we are too busy with our work, have little time for our children - despite all of this, a little cuddly chat with your child can make up all that both of you lost. Lessen the gap, come down to their level for a moment and get them into confidence they will tell you all that is privately going on. If you haven't done it already, do it now ! I don't boast to be a perfect parent but I surely have experienced what I wrote above and I am content with the results.

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  • yusuf, Mata / Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Dear Vivian, Dubai. I feel you are right. Some parents cant live without serial. May her soul rest in peace

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  • vishwa, mangalore\bangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Western culture slowly started showing the effect. You read any news paper now you see only Divocse, lover killed the husband, murder love etc

    God only save Our culture

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  • Vivian, Dubai

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    I think their parents are watching suicide case TV serial , films at home..otherwise wise how come 11yr old girl got idea to commit suicide.????.....May her soul rest in peace.

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  • Peter, Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Clear sign of Generation Gap...

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  • naveen, kottara

    Tue, Mar 15 2011

    Very sad i hope this is not described as generation next may her soul rest in peace

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