March 31, 2018
- A gentle reminder to all the parents of students answering their board or competitive examinations
Folks, while wishing all the class X students a very successful board examination and hoping that all may prepare well for this challenge and come out trumps, may we be reminded that this is a big test not just to the students in their academic life, but an acid test to all the parents who have raised them up.
Every year, we are aware of how much impact these couple of months could have on young children. Be it the lead up to the examinations and the fear factor associated with it, the stress involved while they answer their papers and the pressure prevalent through and through, or the tension that consumes their minds as they await their results and the life defining moment the results that may either lead to elation or deflation. How many times have we come across young children in our family succumb to failure and not be their own self anymore? Or the ones who take the drastic extreme step? Can we have control over it? Oh yes! Going by my personal experience in handling such cases, I have observed that just a bit of common sense and precaution can be best utilised to prevent such concerns. Below are some reminders to all our readers, lest we forget.
Let us...
Not instill fear but encourage them as they set out to answer their papers.
Not lose hope on them but show them how to take it all as a challenge when they fear failure.
Not project these examinations as a life and death situation but as an opportunity to self assess and learn from these experiences.
Not compare them with other children but motivate or inspire them with success stories.
Not stress them out with unnecessary arguments or quarrels in their presence but create a calm and friendly environment for them to prepare with peace.
Not create panic or show disappointment but show support and encouragement when they admit that they haven't performed as per expectations.
Not over-estimate childs results but retain a balanced approach pre-results.
Not force our choice of careers or courses but discuss over with the child about their interests and choices and support them with all your heart and might once their results are out.
Not get carried away by your neighbours/relatives opinions but stand by the decisions you have taken after discussing with your own child.
Not be disappointed over what would have been but be fully focused on what can be.
Not to forget that every problem has a solution and the most successful ones are those who keep finding it at every juncture of their life.
Let us also remember that it is our child that is more important to us than any challenge, competition or our status. So if we wish to see our children live their lives and have a great future marked with success and respect. This is our time to show what we are made of.
Let us all make it count!
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