Christmas Celebrations

December 19, 2019

Ah, I love Christmas! I love the drawing in of days, the build-up and the frenzy as Christmas looms. I love the aisles dedicated to ‘seasonal goods’ in the supermarkets, the boxes of chocolate jostling for space with mince pies and crackers, walnuts and cheese boards, table presents and decorations. I love festive wreaths: green and red smiley faces of Christmas cheer that beam from front doors, bequeathing passers-by with a little Christmas magic. I love the elaborately bedecked trees visible through twinkling windows, the air spiced with the cinnamon and mulled wine and pinecone scent that is uniquely Christmas, the harassed shoppers, the hunt for presents, the bustle, the smells, the sales, the colours. I love the way glittering Christmas lights lift an ordinary night, embellishing it with sparkle, transforming it into something spectacular, enchanted. I love the smiles on children’s faces, the chocolatey taste of anticipation as they count down to Christmas on the Christmas calendar, each window bestowing a bite-sized treat and the promise of presents galore. I love that I am now living the Christmases I had only ever seen in Christmas cards and read about in books growing up, but I also miss, dearly, the Christmases of my childhood.

I grew up in Kallianpur in the early 80s, and for us, back then, Christmas always began in late November with the announcement of the crib/manger competition by the priest during Mass.

All the youngsters of the parish would set about collecting twigs and mud, leaves and hay, as the flitting late afternoon shadows lengthened and flirted with the evening, to build an elaborate manger in which they would arrange their little clay statuettes of Jesus, Mary and Joseph, the shepherds and the three kings. The best manger, worthy of the birthing place of Jesus Christ, would win first prize. In previous years, we had built intricate fields around the crib with strips of grass and ears of paddy stolen from our neighbour’s field, there were minuscule bridges with streams underneath sporting flowing water that we rerouted from the stream, and once even a little working fountain, which, my brother argued, had not graced Jesus’s actual birthing place two thousand years ago, but which, we convinced him, looked great and would guarantee us third place at least.

In the run up to Christmas, the priest and his loyal band of altar boys would visit all the houses in the parish to judge the Herculean effort of the village children in recreating Jesus’s manger. Our brother, (the lookout by dint of being the youngest), would come running, breathless and panting to tell us the priest had left Ashwin’s house and was on his way to ours and we would embark on a last minute frenzy of watering the grass that was looking a little faded, nudging the hay, that had been pushed away from the roof of the crib by the dog, into position, chasing away the frog that had taken up residence in between baby Jesus and his loyal mother. In all those years of meticulous crib creation, we never won. There was always some crib bigger, better, more sophisticated than ours.

The food at Christmas had a special name: ‘Kuswar’. As November ended in a haze of heat and December slowly rolled in, my grandmother would get out her biggest handi, wash it and put it face down in the courtyard. I would see it when I skipped home from school, glinting in the sun where it had been laid out to dry on the mat. Our dog of questionable pedigree, the latest in a long line of strays who had been adopted by my gran, who hadn’t the heart to turn anyone looking for food, man or beast, away, would be licking his paws languidly while stretched out on his back just outside the mat (my gran would skin him alive if he slept on the mat), and I knew, without a doubt that Christmas was near.

Chillies would be laid out to dry in neat red rows, infusing the air with their potent aroma, butterflies would be darting amongst the hibiscus flowers, happy in the relatively milder sun of December, basking in the gentle swaying breeze, and inside the house my grandmother would start making Kuswar, the kitchen redolent with the fragrance of sizzling oil, frying pastry, roasting coconut, cardamom and cinnamon, a smoky honeyed smell that made my mouth water and my stomach growl.

I loved all the different varieties of Kuswar, but if I had to pick favourites, they would be Nevris, which tasted even better than they looked, the crispy pastry stuffed with a melt-in-the-mouth mixture of coconut, jaggery, raisins, cashew nuts and crushed cardamom seeds and Kokkisam (sweet flower shaped pastries).

On Christmas Eve, we all went to midnight mass, decked out in their best clothes. We would go to bed early the previous night and our mother would rouse us at half eleven, the thick night air infused with the enigmatic scent of rapidly fading dreams, flickering kerosene lamps and barely suppressed excitement. Going to church in the pitch dark, with only the feeble, wavering torchlight manipulated by my brother’s inexpert hands illuminating the way, carefully navigating the treacherous, dew soaked path between the fields, lifting my churidar so it wouldn’t get muddy, I screamed at every blade of grass which brushed against my leg, convinced it was a snake.

On Christmas morning, it was our job to distribute the overflowing plates of Kuswar among neighbours and friends and bring back reciprocal Kuswar in return. We were allocated which houses we would go to, depending on how much each of us could carry.

Afterwards, my gran and her sister, my great-aunt who visited us at Christmas, would count the number of varieties each neighbour had given and begin the mammoth task of tasting and comparing Kuswar that was an integral part of Christmas day.

‘Penny Bai only made eight varieties this time. We made nine!’ my gran would exclaim in glee. ‘We definitely made the most varieties of Kuswar, don’t you think?’

My great-aunt, would agree happily, her mouth stuffed full of Penny Bai’s Nevri. ‘Not as sweet as ours. Tastes oily. And she hasn’t added cashew nuts.’

‘Our Kuswar is definitely the best.’

Indeed, my grandmother’s Kuswar was regarded as the best in the village, if you didn’t count Mrs.Fernandes who had lived in Kuwait.

Once, I made the mistake of saying, while my gran and great-aunt were doing their usual tasting and fault finding with everybody else’s Kuswar, ‘I think Mrs.Fernandes’s Kuswar is the best. And she has ten different varieties as well, one more than ours.’

I shrivelled under the withering looks I received. ‘No, I mean...’ I stammered. ‘I meant to say hers is... Oww...’ This in response to my sister pinching me soundly to stop me digging myself into a deeper hole.

My gran was hyper-ventilating onto Mrs Furtado’s chakuli. My great-aunt had turned away and was stirring the pork with the big ladle made from the inner hard brown shell of coconut, which my grandmother swore made the pork taste better.

Finally, my gran managed to speak. ‘Mrs. Fernandes doesn’t count,’ she said, voice shrill. ‘The stuff she makes isn’t even Kuswar anyway. She puts food colouring in it!’ Her emphasis on ‘food colouring’, making them sound like the foulest swear words.

After that, I kept my thoughts on Kuswar to myself and gorged on Mrs Fernandes’s Kuswar, which I had squirrelled away, on the sly.

After Christmas lunch, to which all our Hindu and Muslim neighbours were invited, we would have a little siesta, our bellies heavy and full of pork, boti, sannas and vorn for pudding, plus, of course, Kuswar.

The scented late-afternoon air drifting in through the open front door would be drowsy and warm and drunk on nectar, fanning us as we lay there, replete with happiness, comfort and contentment.

So, here’s wishing you all a very happy Christmas, filled with great food, excellent company, a good helping of joy and laughter, and a sprinkling of Christmas magic.

By Renita D'Silva
Renita D'Silva grew up in Kallianpur, India and now lives in the UK. Her short stories have been published in 'The View from Here', 'Bartleby Snopes', among others and have been nominated for the 'Pushcart' prize and the 'Best of the Net' anthology. She is the author of 'Monsoon Memories', 'The Forgotten Daughter', 'The Stolen Girl', 'A Sister's Promise', 'A Mother's Secret', 'A Daughter's Courage', 'Beneath An Indian Sky', 'The Girl In The Painting'.

Website: http://renitadsilva.com/
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Comment on this article

  • June Arnold, Surrey UK

    Tue, Dec 24 2019

    A wonderful glimpse of a very different Christmas to those experienced in the UK. Even the walk to church in the still warm evening. So good to hear of other types of celebration, and the description of all the food on offer. But families and people are the same the world over, competing to serve the best kind of food. Thank you Renita for your beautiful and descriptive article.

  • James Rodrigues, Udupi/Bangalore

    Sun, Dec 22 2019

    Sweet memories of the past. Very nice writing. God bless you.

  • Maria Pais, Kallianpura

    Thu, Dec 19 2019

    Very nice Renita Well written keep it up 👏👏👏

  • Irita Sheryl & Bhavna, Kallianpur

    Thu, Dec 19 2019

    Wonderful re! !! You bring out the best days of our childhood. ...beautiful memories !

  • Hilda d silva, Kallianpur

    Thu, Dec 19 2019

    Rennu just wonderful and so nostalgic.Wish Baa was here.Those sweet days are gone


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