Dr Alexander Dsouza, Bangalore/USA

Steven,
I agree with u 100%.
Thanx

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steven coelho, bangalore

We mangaloreans always have a habit of seeing the glass as half empty, why can't we be introverts and leave everything to the persons involved, this is a problem between a husband and wife, it is their duty to solve it and we do not have any authority to poke fun at them nor to make it a tamasha. come on my mangalorean brothers and sisters lets look at whats happening in our own house!!!

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Anitha D'mello, Manglore/Bantwal

Like Mr Wilson said, please don't pass your comments or free advice unless knowing the whole fact. No one knows what has happened between them. If you read into the article itself, it shows flaws.

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Kevin , Mangalore/Sydney

Marry for the right reasons...most people plan the wedding but never the marriage. When personalities come together there are bound to be differences. If both prospective parties discuss the outstanding issues like dowry(I do not second this), children, Sexual intimacy, work, religion, family relations etc. in advance then there will be space and scope of living a happy married life.
Hope the marriage facilitators take note and make marriage counselling meaningful

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Charles D'Mello, Pangala

For petty issues divorce is not a solution. In general a third person or a thing is involved in such acts.. We see so many break up in Christianity.. if you guy's think it is for God or helping the poor.....you are mistaken.. It is only for money and it is only for money. If God is one then we do need so many religions Do we...!!???

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Wilson, Kuwait

Guys don't pass your comments until and unless you know the truth.Mr.Henry do you know the Truth?

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Lavina Picardo, Katpady

I point out a sentence given by Mr.Delcill,"Guys choose a good partner", same thing stands for Girls also, pls. check properly wether the man U r marrying is competible or not.Everytime a marriage is in problem, the Woman is made the culprit and onus rests on the Woman to save her family life and marriage, in that course even if it means accepting a man who has no respect for her,even if the man considers her good for nothing moron, still she has to sacrifice her self esteem just because the society says so.How many of you who have commented below can retrospect and tell me that you did not consider your wife a low graded moron when it was shown so by your mother or sister.

How many of you are not carrying the same image of your wife as projected by your family members.How many hapless wives suffer silently throughout their whole life because of indifference of their husbands and in -laws.If a Woman stands for herself she is considered egoistic and materialist.There is a change in Woman's attitude as her education and self dependence has rised.If you do not want a Woman to be independent, then pls. stop your dauhters or sisters from going to schools because same may be the case of your daughters or sisters tomorow, after all she should also know and learn to suffer silently.

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ADV. S. PINTO, Mangalore

I think times are changing in our community. Marriages are just a norm for relationship.Almost 80 percent of the Christian marriages are in total chaos and trouble, due to the smallest issues among the family and couple. I remember a case of one of our Friend who had married for 12 years and had a Son, Left the home and child, even the every penny earned by him in the Gulf country. He was from Neermanrga.I work with lots of abusive cases including Women who do not want husband , but Divorce and Husbands Money ! What a world ! God help us !

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Rudolf, Bantwal/Mumbai

Marraige bond is no longer sacrosanct here. Materialism and ego is ruling the roost. Females earn more than men mainly with the advent of BPO and call centers, the culture of whom many of us would be knowing. These are the times of use and throw. jPeople respect material possesions and use humanbeings. Times are very bad, very difficult to get humble and humane people in this part of the so called highly educated world

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Lancy Moras, Bendur - Jeddah, Saudi Arabia

Very well said by Barbara. Hats off to her and a huge round of applause. Merlapadav the area is becoming a mess now...There is one more worst case from the same area of a govenment servant Teacher who became worst in her family political life. Not important to mention here. Police should speed up their duty on this idiotic act of Philu's husband. Again thanks to Barbara..

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Barbara Bayer, Oman

Dear Daiji Readers,
All express your opinions for and against, which is pointless. In this modern era so many break ups, divorces, etc. All this is because of lack of understanding, trust and true love between partners. Today a marriage is like a business, made to suit one's convenience. Let us look up to those couples married for 25, 30, 40, 50 & 60 years and still living together as two bodies and one soul.

Marriage means becoming one in union. The main cause for marriage disasters today is ego like I, me, mine. I earn, my money, my life styles and so on. If only the ego from both partners are buried and I, me, mine becomes WE, US, Ours then marriages will blossom to the fullest. Please people let us not abuse that sacred matrimony for selfish needs and gains.

Parents too should guide their children into leading a happy married life than entertaining & scheming with their siblings against their spouses. As parents we all love our children, but we got to understand that they too have to start their families. Strengthen them with good advice and guidance.

Even friends play a very important role in marriages. The right choice of friends is very important. Married couples should understand that their relationship takes the No. 1 position before anything else. Together with good understanding, love and trust their surely will have a successful future as husband and wife...

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Leo Dsouza, M'lore/Doha

Mr Ethan your 101% right, do not judge any case by the one face, we dont know how bad could be the other one. The reasons behind this could be end number, first of all let them decide if the girl is not guilty.
MR. HENRY...M'lore is still shining, afterall we all r responsible for that.

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John, Mangalore/Mumbai

Even divorce is not easy as there is lot of issue regarding settlement as the Bride always harssed for more money and more demand even to give divorce

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Dr S Kamath , Mumbai

Very Sad to hear an increasubg number of Divirces,Marital Problems these days .The cause for the problems are following 1.Increasing cost of Living leading to make the wife also earn in addition to work at home and some times wife earns more than husband .Husband gets frustrated and then fights with wife 2. Loss of Joint Family system Hence no Moral inputs from Elders in the Family 3. Bilogically Females have less energy to fight physically 4. Eventhough good cultural ,Moral Values are not followed old ,Dowry system is still found to be good and followed by the Modern society

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Alwyn, Mangalore - USA

"Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."

We can live in two ways in this world. First one is - Live happily in what you have and second one live always unhappy always thinking what you do not have. These days many couple wants to live what they are not having and finding fault in one another. We must have dreams but not dissatisfaction. Mistakes will happen in every ones life but we should hate each other.

The reality may be differing once the investigation is done properly what we read today in media.

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Delcill, Bangalore

There should be pre- Marital counselling since family problems, marriage problems are growing.
Need to get psychological test so that any impairment in brain and psychologically problems or abnormality could be observed before Marriage.

Guys be aware and choose right spouse and don’t make your life vulnerable or disaster. Hence family background is very important, what ever may be life that prefer. As a consequence of marital problems the innocent children will suffer in the family as well as psychologically.
Marriage life is sacred, and respect the loyalty.
Practice: The 5Cs of Marriage life.
Chemistry >>>Meeting
Common Goals >>>Courtship
Commitment >>>Living together
Communication>>>Marriage
Consensus Making>>>Mature Marriage

Thank you !

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joegonsalves, Mangalore

It is a matter of great regret that during the recent past there are any number of broken marriages. It is my opinion that before going to court for divorce and The Tribunal for annulment - the couples should go to a therapist and seek advice. Only after all efforts fail they should think of separating. Better discretion should prevail and one should not have recourse to kidnapping or inflicting pain on a partner. We are in a civilized society and it is time that situations like these are resolved.

Joe Gonsalves

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avil, nottingham

I agree with u suman,,,husband ,wife problems if they wont go well along each other just divorce,,, its a attention seeking disorder,,mlore is not shinning,, its loosing its actual name,, it is known that literacy is more in undivided DK,, its just book knowledge ,, but reality is people r uneducated, thinking level of people is very cheap, narrow minded, communial tension,headquaters of underworld dons, hinduism... Mangalore is not that Mlore which had a great respect till 90's..nothing gonna happen in this chalta hai india,,

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daniel, mangalore

We dont know what is the reason? If you arte desprate anything a person can do Husband or wife. Evrything as a
limit.

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Suman, Dubai

Excellent stories/incidents now a days on Daiji regarding martial issues. Guys, if you can't live together just separate instead of all these public dramas. There is no point at all just continuing meaningless or loveless marriages.

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Langoolacharya, Belman/USA

People,

Where are my brethrens moral policemen of Mangalore,,, BD activists?

Jai Hooooooo

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Lionel dsouza, Bangalore

Mr Henry,
Strict action should be taken for kidnapping only.
And for all other allegations i think me and u r not sure wat has happened between them. If he has demanded dowry why there is no complaint for that.Now when the incident is up parents say "he demanded dowry"
wife has filed a complaint earlier "mentally torturing and threatening her" dowry is not mentioned there.....

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Ethan, Mangalore/Florida

Mangalore is filled with Divorce cases Mr.Henry Misquith please do not support just because one party looks innocent and other does not, Do not try to show you are a shinning example of the society, it all depends until you are in such a situation and how would you or any one would behave, It is very easy for women to lodge false complaints, make false allegations, abuse the dowry laws, but unlike you even the government has started realizing the importance of a family structure, If a family starts breaking then eventually whole country shall break, there are unimaginable repercussions for all, so before supporting something perceive all the consequences associated along with it.

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HENRY MISQUITH, M'lore/Bahrain

What a shame, strict action must be taken against her husband Kiran.
After all Mangalore is shining & progressing!

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