Daijiworld Media Network – Mumbai

Mumbai, Jul 2: From the incessant “why” questions to sudden emotional outbursts, what often leaves parents, teachers, and guardians exasperated may actually be a reflection of healthy mental development, say psychologists and child behaviour experts.

According to experts, children often display behaviours that appear challenging on the surface but are vital indicators of cognitive, emotional, and social growth. These behaviours, while frustrating for adults, offer glimpses into the evolving mental faculties of young minds.

Take for instance the habit of repeatedly questioning everything with a curious “why?” Though it may test the patience of caregivers, it signals the child’s developing reasoning ability and thirst for knowledge. “It’s a child’s way of building logic and making sense of the world,” explained a local school counsellor.

Similarly, behaviours like saying “no” often — especially during the toddler and teenage years — are not merely defiance, but rather signs of growing independence and personal identity. Talking back or engaging in arguments, often viewed as disrespect, are in fact early signs of reasoning and negotiation skills taking shape.

Mental health professionals further point out that taking time to make decisions, showing strong preferences, or even emotional outbursts reflect an individual’s journey toward self-regulation, empathy, and self-awareness.

“Even daydreaming or focusing heavily on one interest shouldn’t be dismissed,” noted a psychologist from a leading Mangaluru-based institution. “These are signs of creativity, imagination, and developing focus. Such tendencies must be encouraged within healthy limits.”

Another behaviour often frowned upon is tattling or reporting on peers. However, psychologists clarify that it usually means the child is beginning to understand concepts of justice, fairness, and accountability.

Experts are urging parents and educators to approach these behaviours with patience and insight, offering guidance instead of reprimand. “Recognizing these signs for what they are — a child’s inner world expanding — helps in raising emotionally intelligent and resilient individuals,” they added.

As society becomes increasingly aware of mental health, there is a growing emphasis on understanding childhood and adolescent behaviour through the lens of development rather than discipline. This shift in perspective could play a crucial role in nurturing a healthier, emotionally balanced generation.