Under pressure to marry, siblings kill selves in Bengaluru


Bengaluru, Jan 20 (DHNS): Pressure from parents to enter wedlock drove two sisters who were pursuing engineering to commit suicide by hanging themselves at their residence in Muneshwara Layout here in the early hours of Tuesday.

Tejaswini (22) and her younger sister Ranjitha (20) were pursuing engineering courses in a college near Channasandra in the City.

Tejaswini was in her final year while Ranjitha was in the second year in the same college.

On Monday night, the girls’ father Malleshappa, who owns a provision store, told them that it was time they got married. Malleshappa also told them that they have selected few prospective grooms who will be visiting their house soon, said the police. But the siblings opposed their parents’ decision and asked their father to stop putting pressure on them.

A heated argument ensued where Tejaswini and Ranjitha revealed that they were in a relationship.

In a threatening tone, Malleshappa asked his daughters to get the boys with whom they were in a relationship to the local police station where he would get them married right away. The argument continued late into the night. Around 3:30 am, Malleshappa woke up and went to his daughters’ bedroom, only to find them hanging from a ceiling fan.

The sisters have left a death note stating that they were upset about getting married at an early age, the police said. A case has been registered in Madiwala police station and investigation is on.

  

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  • nisha, mangalore

    Fri, Jan 22 2016

    None can blame parents, there would be some reason to the father to know about their affair. Girls can think parents afford to give good education means they will look for good future as well. Parent has all right to shout because they who have taken care since childhood.If parents shout children can listen or try to convince. If they loved parents they could think their this step will ruin parents life.

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  • MICHAEL NORONHA, MYSURU

    Thu, Jan 21 2016

    To this day fear grips the Indian girl child on marriage. They give excuses of higher education, work experience etc. The girlchild should be given the freedom to decide her future course once she attains majority. The plight of the Parents too is sad. They desire the well-being of their children but do not know how to convey it to their children. Tragic end due to ego clash.

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  • cyril Mascarenhas, Kirem/dubai/mira road

    Thu, Jan 21 2016

    VERY SAD.PARENTS SHOULD LEARN FROM THIS THAT PRESSURE WONT WORK.

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  • Rita, Germany

    Thu, Jan 21 2016

    Sad as it is,we cant judge really what exacctly the reality was.I am sure Girls didnt have any relationship,but they wanted to get out of the affair saying have relatioship.Even father as he heard about "relationship"insisted of bringing to Police Station and get married rightaway.That was really a pressure.why immediately?does he not have a day tomorrow also.It is not good however to put pressure on the spot.Todays children dont accept as in our olden times.we heard it often.Only some calm and quite and understanding talk helps further.

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  • Oliver, Udupi

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Parents need to be more understanding. when the child has worked hard towards a career goal, she should get a chance to go out there and see what she can make out of it and not get forcefully married off.

    you can graduate at the age of 22-23 . There is nothing wrong in getting married at 25.

    I don't understand why everyone is blaming the girls for making their parents lives miserable. Alternatively, the two girls lives would have been miserable. Parents need to be more sensible since they are more experienced in life

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  • ACR, Mangalore

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Simply gave up such a beautiful life!!.. What will be the condition of the parents after this.. in earlier days if parents shout children used to cry , fight back ,sometimes listen.. but now its not the same. they react and take extreme steps. I feel the boys might have told they are not ready for marriage or never thought of it now.

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  • Jones, Manipal

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    These girls have given a life long punishment for their parents.
    Parents will morn and feel guilty thought their life time.

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  • Wilson, Mangauru/Saudi

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Illi yava lekkacharavu kelasakke baralla.R.I.P.kids.

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  • Ravi, Mangaluru

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    ಹೆಣ್ಣ್ ಮಕ್ಳನ್ನ ಜೋಪಾನವಾಗಿ ಸಾಕಿ, ಸಲಹಿ, ಮದುವೆ ಮಾಡಿಸಿ, ಅವರ ಬಾಣಂತಿತನದ ಖರ್ಚು ಕೂಡ ಭರಿಸಿ, ಅಳಿಯಂದಿರ ಯೋಗ ಕ್ಷೇಮ ಒಂದು ಕಡೆ ನೋಡುತ್ತ, ತನ್ನ ಹೆಣ್ಣ್ ಮಗಳು ಚೆನ್ನಾಗಿರಲಿ ಎಂದು ಭಾವಿಸುವ ಪ್ರತಿಯೊಬ್ಬ ತಂದೆ-ತಾಯಿಯರಿಗೆ, ಅಬ್ಬಾ ಕೊಟ್ರೆ ಗಂಡು ಮಕ್ಕಳನ್ನೇ ಕರುಣಿಸಿ, ಹೆಣ್ಣು ಬೇಡವೆ ಬೇಡ ಎಂಬ ಪರಿಸ್ಥಿತಿ ನಮ್ಮ ದೇಶದ್ದು. 

    ಮದುವೆ ಅಂದಾಕ್ಷಣ ಯಾಕೆ ಹೆಣ್ಣ್ ಮಕ್ಕಳು ಹೆದರುತ್ತಾರೆ, ಇದೊಂದು ಸಣ್ಣ ಉದಾಹರಣೆ ಅಷ್ಟೆ, ಏನಂತೀರಿ?

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  • Rita, Germany

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    @Ravi,mangalore,sorry,Ravi,whether a Boy or a Girl,it doesnt matter.should not put pressure on them.Afterall Girls were still studying.In a calm ,quite ton ,and understanding manner would function better.Father could tell them when they were in relationship they should bring them home and present and talk later about it.On the spot get heated arguements doesnt bring anything.Afterall children too love parents.afterall Girls are not old and study.I am sure they want to work after sudying.Having only Boys has its own Problems.many times Girls have to look after parents ,when Boys move away with wife and children.here it is really sad .They lost both Girls.heartfelt sympathy to the Family.Girls were certainly upset about their fathers decision.May the souls of the Girls rest in peace.Even Girls could wait till next day to cool down.Both made mistakes.

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  • Ronald, Mangalore

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    They thought its too early to get married which i agree. However i think its also too early for them to start relationship?. Its the age that they study and not get into relationships?. May be their father came to know of this and decided to get them married.

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  • Rony, UK

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Its time you should stop judging what others do !! Please...

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  • Dshetty, Mangalore

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    The problem is not just with getting in to a relationship. If some one can kill themselves over such petty things, they would do it from some other petty reason too.
    The solution is to introduce education on how to handle tough situations to our students. They should be trained to think practically rather than emotionally. Things have become absurd with students killing themselves over love, exam results etc..
    Developing the right emotional intelligence is the answer to all these issues.

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  • christine, manglore

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    sad to here about youngsters. parents think being a parents have right to control children, and children think we have our own way to live parents should not control us.
    In some matter children has to think and respect parents too. without parents children not came into this world,they love you.they think about your goodness, struggle to build your feature, and in patiently loving manner speak each other and discourse it can be solved the problem. in hot temper why has to take quickly decision in once, even if parents not agreed they are matured front to take decision,.
    children suicided living behind parents in burning hell fire,once in hot temper father may in anger put pressure, but later it could be cooler and may agreed. life time decision only once cannot be decided, need time to think, ...but girls are hurry. being educated no patience, worldly wisdom lead them.

    for parents listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you no matter what, if you dont listen eagerly to the little, they want tell you the big stuff when the are big. because for them all of it has always been big stuff.

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  • Khan, Mlore / Jeddah

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Being judgmental on parents is the easiest to do at this moment, God knows how they may be handling such a situation.
    Being in relationship is in fashion for college students. If at all any blame it should be on easy access to social media or our movies. My view is that in high schools and colleges they should conduct classes yearly at least on using social media and avoiding misuse of it and career guidance and may be if we are able to stop love stories from our movies we may see a few changes in our future generations.

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  • Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Committing suicide is the act of intentionally causing one's own death and the ways to end life is not limited only by hanging in the Ceiling fan.

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  • Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Both the girls had enough time and opportunity to discuss the matter with their Lovers.(including the parents)
    Love is to live life longer with trust & maturity.
    So sad for such misfortune that ended their life.
    Sometimes love takes more than it gives.

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  • Ownage, Bangalore

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    They should make/ manufacturer ceiling fans in such a way that it should not be able to take more than ten kilo of its own weight anything more than that there should be a siren activated

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  • Concerned1, bengaluru

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    I really do not understand, educated girls taking this drastic step when matter of marriage was raised.
    They were educated enough to talk over the matter in days to come and come to a decision.
    Parents too could have waited till they finished their education. After all they had spent so much money and wanted them to become something in life. In modern days of today, education is more important than early marriage itself.
    Now misery all around.

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  • Stan, Udupi/ Dubai

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    No parents want bad things to their children , but present generation children have the wisdom of selecting their own partners. Pressure on young minds have led to such tragedy. Children should not have taken such extreme step and parents also should not have pressurized them. Fault from both sides and parents are the real loosers. May their souls rest in peace.

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  • gm, mlur

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    RIP Tejaswini and Ranjitha. Message to all: Don't take any decision in anger. Take some time, talk to your friends / well wishers / relatives (if parents are against you) find out some solution then take the decision.

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  • Anita Coutinho, Mumbai

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Very sad news...May their souls rest in peace. God give the strength to their parents to accept the huge loss.

    Dear Youngsters there is solution for all the problems in life. Discuss and share the problems with your family members, friends or close ones. Find the solutions. Don't take such extreme steps in life. Life is gift from God, respect and live it.

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  • Vinayak, Managalore/Dubai

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    May both the souls RIP. This act is only stupidity and nothing else. Parents cannot be blamed for this. Yes, agree that father did put the pressure, but killing themselves is not a solution. At the father agreed to wedlock both of them with the desired partners they were in a relationship. However, father too should have thought of dire consequences. Bottom line, I do not agree of the pressure put by the father and only blame the 2 girls for this stupid act.

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  • kumar, Mangalore

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Marl jokleg.....

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    RIP you yet to see the world girls..

    Taking children into confidence before taking up a topic like marriage should be a priority. Never ever impose your wish on them but once they come to a comfort level of sharing their problem, both parties can assess good and bad of a relationship than calculating one's social honor/ego.

    Life is precious. Do not push anybody to suicide nor go for it yourself.

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  • Antonio DSilva, Kuwait

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Lydia,

    You seem to be heaping all blame on the father/parents.

    What about the two lover boys? Did they commit suicide as well? Don't you think they are responsible too?

    The two boys probably did not even think of marriage or else they would be waiting for the father at the police station.

    I am sure had the two boys stood firmly alongside the girls this suicide would never have happened or there would be four bodies.

    Alas a relationship is only a relationship of convenience and nothing more and it is unfortunately glorified by FB as you can read this famous line 'IN A RELATIONSHIP' on most of the teenage girls' FB profile.

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  • John Tauro, M'luru / Kwt

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Why blame parents only for each and every step taken by matured grown up children? When in a so-called 'relationship’ I don’t think the concerned boys were totally ignorant of the girls’ situation. The girls must have at least informed them about what is happening in their homes. If at all this relationship was genuine, then the boys should have supported and stood by those girls. They could have at least prevented these girls from taking this dreadful step.

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  • Antonio DSilva, Kuwait

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    True Love prevails. It does not drive you to suicide.

    Parents know what they want for the children....more often than not children who oppose their parents' decisions realize their mistakes only when its too late and most often when they cross the age of 35 - 40 after which the love blinds which were on their eyes suddenly fall off.

    If indeed the two boys were men enough and of stature required by the girls' father they would have gone to the police station to claim their brides.

    Alas Bollywood movies last only 3 hours and they always portray a happy ending.

    In real life it grossly different.

    To all GIRLS reading this nasty comment, listen to your parents as only they have goodwill for you. If necessary reason out with them, perhaps they will agree and understand your viewpoint.

    I have daughters and ensuring that they have a good future does not make me a dictator.

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  • Shekar Moily Padebettu, Udupi/India

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    For each and every thing there is a limit.Even parents too should understand that this is not olden days,where an elderly people of the family decide and get their children married.Now the time has changed and children are much much matured enough and well educated to decide about their own destiny. Arbitrary decision of the parents or any member of the family will leads to negative impact and resulting what it has happened here.Loosing two precious lives of the siblings.Unfortunate.Sad.May God grant their departed soul an eternal peace and bestow the family members to overcome this irreparable loss.RIP

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  • Roshan Braganza, Mumbai

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    First of all Rest in peace for young souls and condolences to their family. I blame it on the sheer propaganda that's happening in media demonizing institution of marriage . Left wing female chauvinists like FEMINISTS objectify Traditional practices under false mask of ' empowerment ' . In most of families men are reduced into ATM machines and wives take the control , often threatening with false case . on the contrary intentions of Father here is noble , he just wanted to see his little angels to have a family . what's wrong in that . Often dictatorship is needed to save family from unnecessary 'adventures' . The girls needed proper counselling from parents that Education can continue even after marriage and in no way will spoil their ambitions .

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  • Valerian D'souza, Udupi / Mumbai

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Sad for the death of these children and feeling even sad for their parents.
    Giving freedom is a problem and not not giving freedom is also a problem.
    Taking responsibility of children has become a problem here.
    Not taking responsibility is also a problem many a times! That time blames come on head of the family!

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Wed, Jan 20 2016

    Dictatorship does not work anymore.
    RIP Kids ...

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