Using wife as ATM amounts to mental harassment: High court


Bengaluru, Jul 19 (IANS): In an important judgment, the Karnataka High Court has said that using a wife without any emotional attachment as "a cash cow and ATM" amounts to mental harassment. The court also granted divorce to the wife in the case setting aside the order of the lower court.

The division bench headed by Justice Alok Aradhe and Justice J.M. Khazi gave the order recently, while looking into the petition submitted by a woman questioning the lower court's order of not granting divorce.

The bench stated that the husband had taken Rs 60 lakh from the wife on the pretext of carrying out business. "He had considered her as a cash cow. There is no emotional attachment to her and he has mechanical bonding. Due to the behaviour of the husband, the wife has suffered mental trauma."

"The pain inflicted on the wife by husband in this case could be considered as mental harassment. The family court has failed to consider all these factors. Furthermore, the court has not done cross examination of the petitioner wife and recorded her statements," the bench said.

"Considering the arguments by the wife, divorce is being granted to her," said the court. The bench also underlined that in cases of family dispute, the cruelty allegations must be verified on the merits of the case.

The couple was married in 1991 and had a baby girl out of wedlock in 2001. The husband, who was running a business, was struggling to repay loans. This had led to quarrels at home. The petitioner's wife had joined a bank to take care of herself and child.

From 2008, the wife gave money to her husband and he spent it without repaying loans. He is alleged to have been emotionally blackmailing the petitioner to extract money. She later realised that her money was being misused and her husband was not working even after receiving Rs 60 lakh.

The petitioner's wife supported husband to open a salon in Dubai. However, he allegedly did not show any interest and returned to India after causing losses. The wife then filed a divorce petition with the family court. However, the family court had rejected her petition, saying that there was no cruelty involved in the case.

 

 

 

 

  

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  • Dr KUSUMA KUMARI GUNJI MBBS DGO, Nellore Kodyadka

    Thu, Jul 21 2022

    Such relationships based on money does not last long. Sometimes its better to divorce than tolerating another person like this

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  • Karen, Udupi/Mumbai

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    Nowadays, too many people are focused on spending lavishly to show that they're rich in front of relatives, friends, family and everyone is trying to match or outdo the other. That is why couples and families are now committing suicide because with the loss of income, other issues, they cannot compete at all, with debt and other issues. It would be a wonderful gesture if all of us decide to not do anything lavish, ,live as we do in Lenten season, eat modestly, do charity and keep vigil, even for weddings, do not buy new clothes. Maybe our relatives and others who are under stress, someone who is hiding business losses, another financial losses, all can feel confident to speak and come out, instead of committing suicide or killing their families.

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  • Joel, Mangalore

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    The reverse is fine. Cause men don't have feelings we are animals

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  • mohan prabhu, mangalore/canada

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    Something has been overlooked. Was the husband blackmailing the wife. They were married in 1991 and the facts say they had a child OUT OF WEDLOCK ten years later.... If that is true, they should have sought divorce long time ago.

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  • Santan Mascarenhas, Kinnigoli/Bangalore

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    Marriage is the ultimate bond between two partners. We make such a beautiful vow during marriage to love one another for better or worse and in sickness or health. Owing to circumstances, sometimes, the things become strained. There should not be selfishness in the relationship, then that part what we call love goes out of the bond. Here, like any other, the woman wants to be loved, shared and cared. This man is not open and honest to his partner and uses her as a money giving machine. The learned judges have given the right verdict.

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    "There should not be selfishness in the relationship, then that part what we call love goes out of the bond......"...Yes ...you explained it well in short. There are men who think they are only superior in the house. When wife cooks food or anything...some will take privilege of eating first....after, he does leftovers for wife and children....Even other things like clothes/shoes etc. He spends on those what he uses. There are illustrations where he roams with gold and wife nothing etc. There arise discrepancies in the house, especially even wife works. When injustice done, she will not tolerate for long.....and hence she stops contributing whatever she earns. When theres no selfish criteria among both....ship keeps moving smoothly amidst of storms. Otherwise ship sinks evenif the sea is silent with tsunami at the bottom....

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  • real kujuma, kodial

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    this must be an one off case....generally is other way round..all chithra vichithra after 2014...leader himself has abondoned...so morality of other married couple in the country will surely be low..

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  • Kedhar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    This case has to be looked at from a different angle... Bingo Bucks Angle. Heard of Sen- Modi marriage in the offing? What Sen is attracted to is obvious. SO also what the man is attracted to, here, is obvious !

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    Which modi ? My gooooooodnesssss!!....unka income and din come. 👈Attraction is this only

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  • Kumar, Kinnigoli

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    MONEY FROM WIFE TO HUSBAND = US $...... MONEY FROM HUSBAND TO WIFE = INDONESIA ₹

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    Which formula is this ? Please elaborate.... kuch bhi 🙄🙄

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  • OSWALD VAZ, THOTTAM / BAHRAIN

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    I can't imagine this . Wife spending so much money on husband still husband can't do anything. But there are some wives even though they are working husband has to spend for them. In this case wife given so much money that means she Loves her husband. This is called true LOVE . Not Ice Cream LOVE.

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    Ozzy saab.....If both work..expenses of the household to be borne by both ..depending on the salary they get. Some get more and some may less. They should be open to each other. Or best way is open an joint account and deposit there and from there should withdraw for every expense. If a wife spends money then husband gives and doesn't ask the account where she spends. If husbands keeps on giving she will spend only.....Look after the needs of the family and provide them as per your capacity and as per their necessity....

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  • mohan prabhu, mangalore/canada

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    was the husband blackmailing her because of the OUTSIDE WEDLOCK child? May be if he was impotent, he coerced her and now goes after the money.

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    I appreciate court's statement. Now, come on my dear bros to speak against it... If women squeeze money from husbands what verdict you will pass.. ...... ...... Etc etc.....Starting from and starring main heroes Flavs/Rudy ji/ Real kujuji/R³...Rambutan/Nalla sopara...Thane, Brahmvar....udupi, raheja waterfront... Kulur, New york /shankaranna/babu shenoy/chandu karla/Rita bai/tak....takk.....

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  • Rita, Germany

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    Cynthia DK,court has right.He misused the wife as melk cow ,that always has milk so that he can enjoy and relax.Usually man marries a girl ,work and support her and cares.Both have to go together in good and bad times.Shouldnt be one way path.In bad times too support each other.When men like here take loan ,expect wife gives money ,he does nothing for it.then time to say good bye.What he made out of his money ?Which cause he used it ?when loan is taken usually both have to sign .Is it ?without proper income ,give out without any thinking ?No Go.control is needed .Both have to talk before you handle.Same with dowry money .Man expects she brings money and gold so that he can spend it lavishly.Never.Man should be in stage to support and work for it.As a head of family take responsibilty.Not a woman.Woman does it when husband is sick or problems .Not go on taking loan and wife go on struggling to pay back .

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  • k b r, Mangala Uru

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    some / many children and / or housewives think that father / husband is ATM...

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  • Cynthia, Dk

    Tue, Jul 19 2022

    Bro...if they think so.... Husbands/Fathers should show their stand. They should not give money to their wives and children where it's not necessary. Show them the value of money and make them understand how difficult it is to earn one rupee...Blaming no use. Everything in our hands..

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