Jun 21, 2010
After god made heaven, earth, sea, light and all the good things he committed the first mistake-he created Adam. After that he made his second mistake-he created Eve and then he made the biggest mistake of all-he did not create any other woman! Poor Adam was left alone with Eve and was forced to marry her, without an opportunity to look at and woo other women.
I am sure you all are wondering what’s wrong with this guy. Well I am just researching on love. Love is a four letter word which each one of us has experienced in life. I am not talking about mother’s , fathers’, sisters, brother’s, granny’s, grandpa’s, uncle’s and aunt’s (these cover almost all relatives) love. I am talking about the one and only magical word ‘love’. In this article, I will take you around my crazy world of love that is LOVE AAJKAL, in simple English Love Today and Tomorrow.
Let me begin with a brief history of love. I have no idea from where it began and who coined the word, but whoever it was, I would love to hug him and plant two kisses on his/her cheeks. Well everything is legal nowJ. Every religion has its own deity of love. St Valentine for Christians, Manmata for Hindus etc etc. That means religion allows love and when a couple elopes to get married, they aren’t committing any sin. I am sure my mom and dad who might read this will be wondering what the hell their son is up to. Is this a way he is telling us he has plans to elope? No. Be rest assured I don’t have any plans. Not yet J
The concept of wooing the opposite sex is was and will be the same for ages to come. But now booing the same sex is also legal in many parts of the world. A typical evolution of love from 1950 to 2000 is very well documented in Hindi movies. I can’t even imagine the plight of Bollywood and particularly SRK without “LOVE”. This poor superstar would be jobless!!Dilip Kumar in Mughl-e-Azam to Abhishek and John in Dostana depict evolution of love as stated above. The 1970 guys sang songs around a bush, fought villains and saved the girl from evil forces and finally won over the heart of the girl. Lovers always met each other at secret places like outside the temple/church, in the forest; near the well etc and it was always the guy who dominated the relationship. Love gradually became vibrant and colorful in 1990’s as college canteens, a mutual friend’s house, parks became the secret hideouts of lovers and the plot was often thickened with violence in late 1990’s and early 2000’s. Love affairs nowadays start in schools and end when the pair ends up in college. I have quite a few friends who had three partners separately in school, college and then at workplace and sadly I did not have even one in any of the three stages!!!. Amazing
I would like to write a paragraph on evolution of the ways of showing love. The couple touched hands and occasionally kissed their partners on the cheeks. (Well I really don’t know, I am just guessing. My knowledge is purely based on the two roses which came together in Hindi movies).Touching hands and rubbing legs is a thing of past now. Couples nowadays are advanced in their ways of making oops…..showing love towards their partners. I know its none of my business to interfere in people’s personal lives and I am just writing this for a bit of fun.” Play Safe” would be my advice J. It’s not an unknown fact that there are MORAL POLICE interfering and meddling with personal lives in our city, hence the advice.
I always wonder why girls never propose to a guy and always wait for the guy to propose. Some girls do propose and finally just deny it and say the guy proposed. Seriously I believe in love and have decided to wait until a girl proposes to me. You see it will be changing the accepted trends, so that our name will be written down in golden words just like that of Romeo and Juliets, but the other way around. Proposals in olden days were of many kinds- via friend, via letter through a friend and direct. Now the trend has changed, SMS’s dominate the proposals and break ups too, Skype, gtalk and yahoo messenger coming close second. Long distance relations are becoming very high. Sometimes even force is used i.e. the guy kidnapping the girl or the girl slapping the guy across the face.
With proposal comes its natural follower –nopes! Not rejection, it is Breakup. It’s the cause and effect of relationship. One of the few things I learnt in Physics. Hope it really is physics and not chemistry:) People always blame the guy for ditching and it s so damn true. I have hardly heard about girls ditching their guys. I know many girls would be laughing at me thinking about their ex boyfriends and many guys will be praising my thoughts thinking about their ex girl friends. The boyfriend/girlfriend who was the best person in the entire milky way, turns out to be the worst ever ******** (fill in whatever u want) on earth after the breakup. Well one can find a thousand couples breaking up everyday and at least 50% of them will have found another partner the next day. I am not saying the remaining 50% will live without love for rest of their lives. They too will find their true love after a couple of days. You know, it always is a good thing to have some rest in between.
There is a saying love is blind, with many new additions to it like “Its not only blind, it’s deaf and dumb too”. Love happens to everyone .People who got married in an arranged way, might think “What the hell, I have never fallen in love”. It’ rubbish. As SRK says in one of his movies “God has already made someone special for each one of us. It’s just that we have to meet them.” I will add some more to it “Some people meet them before marriage, some just before marriage (I am talking about arranged) and some very unlucky ones after marriage”. The last sets of people are those who file divorces which is a growing trend in Mangalore.
Love is not at all a bad thing, but a lot of thinking goes behind before one falls in love. What am I saying? Love is blind and it just happens as I said in the earlier paragraph. The consequences of this sometimes may turn bad like hurting one’s parents, bringing up kids in a mixture of two religions or many a time none. I personally look at love as a very pure and lovely thing which comes second only to sacrifice. (Remember the hero in Mungaru Male .. I do). Cheers.
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