Nostalgia, the Magical Yuletide and Us

December 19, 2011

Christmas is round the corner, it is the most delightful of all feasts because so many childhood memories are attached to it. I remember a particular year when ‘Vimal’ showroom had opened on light house hill in our hometown and my mother took all of us sisters there to select material for dresses just before Christmas, and then a trip to our tailor for patterns. The tailor was named Bhaskar, located near the signal light in Hampankatta, opposite the Wenlock Hospital. The creaky wooden stairs made a thumping noise as we climbed up to his shop, scary it was but there was the excitement of new dresses, the anticipation of that day when they would arrive home; so began our Christmas season.

The ‘Kuswar’ preparations were all so exhilarating. The entire process of a single Kuswar, say the Nevrios was divided into simpler tasks like kneading, preparing the filling, rolling out the dough, frying, etc. Since we were seven children, each one of us was a specialist in one task. Loretta and Doreen to knead the dough and roll it, Veera and Hildabai to make the filling; Saira the youngest, and I to taste and approve, and later as guests arrived, endorse!

My mother and our Parish priest made sure that we were all spiritually prepared; yes, we had our confessions on time. Ah! The crib! One particular year, Fr. Reginald Cardoza, our Parish priest declared that the best crib in the parish would be awarded a prize. Our cousin Lancy Mascarenhas came to help us. Every evening we carried stones, mud and what not to build our beautiful crib. Our grandfather had just passed away early that year, and Lancy’s father and their entire family made sure that we were taken care of because my father being a sailor came home for four months, once a year.

The making of the pool, having a stream flow from the hills into the pool, embedding a plastic tube into the hills to emerge at the opening of the so called waterfall, cementing it all, making a little bridge out of bamboo sticks, erecting it in a place that was supposed to lead into the crib, was all part of the crib; then came the tricks of making water flow! A bucket full of water was placed on a raised platform and one of us sucked out the air from the tube and pushed it back so that the water flowed continuously, whenever some guest (or the crib competition judges) came to view the crib.

Once the hills of the crib were built, soot from the fireplace in the bathroom was used to blacken them for authenticity; for the snowcapped hills we used white wash powder, only on the tips of course. One subsequent year, we had forgotten to throw away the remaining ‘snow’ in the evening as we usually worked into the night. The next morning I was horrified to see that it had ‘snowed’ all night! All the hills were white! My Vodlimai smiled and told me that she had completed the task of ‘snowing’ on the hills for us, “Why waste good suno?”

Christmas trees were to be planted and so my brother Denis had the task of bringing a real tree, this was a ritual, digging into the mud and planting the tree. We decorated it with lights, we had not seen baubles on a Christmas tree before, and right on the top of the tree was a star and all this had to be done on the 23rd or the 24th evening to make sure that the tree looked ‘real’ on Christmas day.

Another job we loved to do was bringing real grass found on the edges of fields to use in the crib. The thick grass gave the crib a magical real life look. The last tasks were the lighting and placing of the little statuettes in the crib. The sheep had to be placed in such a way as to show that they were all watching baby Jesus. All of us had our own designs on where and how the sheep and other figures had to be placed. Finally it was the joyful satisfaction we all experienced when we saw how enchanting the crib looked on Christmas Eve as we left for the midnight service!

Our son has inherited our interest in making the crib. Every year faithfully, he carries mud upstairs and makes his little crib in a corner on the terrace. Pumps support his cause of continuous water flow. Saw dust colored with green ink make up the green grass, black ink for soot. “Snowcapped hills? Ha!” is the reaction. The spirit is all there but the camaraderie of siblings has to be made up with phone calls from cousins and visits from neighbors and friends. The Christmas tree is unpacked from its storage and decorated with all sorts of new beautifications. The amount and variety of Kuswar now depends upon my schedule at work, though the cakes do get baked.

Christmas nights are chilly in Bangalore and it certainly promises to be very much so this year with the temperatures steadily dropping in the past few days. Memories are aplenty, all of us have our small families to celebrate Christmas with and its’ not every year that we can all meet for Yuletide. Here’s wishing all of you a great time for Christmas and the year ahead. Cheerio!

 

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Comment on this article

  • Marina, Bejai/Sharjah

    Wed, Dec 21 2011

    Dear Keith and Cynthia,

    Beautiful article! Brought me back to good old times! With the trend changing only memories remain. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

  • Donalod Roche, Mangalore/Ruzai/Bangalore

    Wed, Dec 21 2011

    Dear Keith, An article that really brought back sweet memories of the times gone by of this season of Christmas. Wishing you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year 2012.! This time my Christmas celebration at Purva Panorama, Bannereragatt. You are welcome.

  • DAVID FERNANDES, MANGALORE/BANGALORE. KANAKANAGAR

    Tue, Dec 20 2011

    dear Cynthia
    good memories of your childhood, nice article.

  • anita, mangalore

    Tue, Dec 20 2011

    Perfect article for the perfect season...of the year, It brought so many nostalgic memories. thanks and compliments of the season.

  • Suraj Menezes, Mangalore Dubai

    Mon, Dec 19 2011

    Dear Cynthia,
    For a couple of years my aunt used to be one of the judges for these crib competitions and i have accompanied her during her visits to judge the cribs. I remember visitng your house too. I was very young then to understand the finer points of crib making which my aunt as a judge handled. My only interest was the kuswar, cakes and all the eats that every house would offer during these visits, (maybe the best lot hahahahaha) to please the judge to get higher points in the competition. Yes you have really brought back very sweet memories of the times gone by of this beautiful season of Christmas.

  • RP, KSA

    Mon, Dec 19 2011

    Nice article. Reminds us of our childhood spending time making kuswar and preparing the crib.

  • Richard Pinto, Kodical/Bedore lobo lane/Dubai

    Mon, Dec 19 2011

    Dear Cynthia,
    I witnessed for the first time Chritmas Crib competition and in the year 1982-84 had a few occasions. Ashoknagar Parish during late Fr Reginald Cardoza was vibrant and encouraging. I remember the tough competitors Walter Pais from Kalwai Ward and Michael Feranades from Kodical Ward making every effort with zeal zest and enthusiasm to bring out the best in creativity and fufilling the goal of being the winner. Walter Pais had won twice and this time 1982 was the third time if he would win consecutively.

     Well I was with the opoosition namely Michael Fernandes team and we enjoyed mixing mud and clay and cement with digging of holes for fountains springs everywhere. The tarpualin tents were handing with mud coating every corner to give the authentic look of a Cattle Shed and the fodder stewn everywhere. This is all I can recollect on the occassion of Chritmas celebrations in Ashoknagar parish Mangalore. As you said your grandfather had passed away beg of the year then and similar occurence of sorrow with Pinto family My second eldest Brother Ronald Pinto passed just last week with last ritual rights at Ashoknagar parish and burial at Mother church Urwa. Its coincidental that my mother also passed on 5th December 1997 and Rony on the same date and month.

    Christmas or Advent season is warm and spirited for all of us and brings new tide of happiness and reminds us to share the same with our fellow human beings. ( Religion is man created) Wishing you Merry Christmas!

  • CONRAD, MANGALORE

    Mon, Dec 19 2011

    Dear Keith & Cynthia
    Wishing you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New year. Great nostalgic article on Christmas in Mangalore.
    Conrad/Theresa

  • Reginald Lewis, Bangalore/ sharjah

    Mon, Dec 19 2011

    Dear Keith & Cynthia,
    Lovely article for the Lovely Season. Brought back wonderful memories of our prepartions during the good old days. Hope the trend goes on.....

    ""' Here’s wishing all a Merry Christmas and Blessed year ahead."""


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