March 28, 2013
An eye-opener for those who constantly keep losing things in school, at work or at home.
We live in this age where we believe in doing things fast and completing any of the given tasks before the set deadlines. Isn’t it very natural to keep forgetting to pick up some of our belongings i.e. wallets, laptops etc? It is very unusual to leave our mobile phones in an unknown territory because now they have become a part of our human bodies almost… but people still forget to take them along. And when they return, it is not to be found anywhere!! Well, forgetting to carry belongings is not a crime but what if, you realize that that precious belonging was stolen, and not forgotten or misplaced as you thought earlier.
Dear friends, the cases for things getting stolen at schools, hostels, work places etc are increasing alarmingly as we speak. Over the last few months, I have learnt of various situations, and mind you, they are not burglaries, not armed robberies, and they are not even done by known criminals. In fact, it is a son, daughter, best friend, hostel mate, peer, subordinate who is responsible for something you have just lost. Most of the time our first impression would be “I may have misplaced it”, “I may have miscounted” and forget about following it up. The other possibility is we would blame every other possible individual around, but for the actual culprit. And I am sure; each and every one of us may have started rethinking on our past experiences by now!!!
Well, let me bring some instances on your table.
One of my clients, an urban parent, kept miscounting the money in his wallet once every three days. He is a bank employee, and possibilities of him counting in excess on the previous day and denominations falling short the next morning are very remote. But it kept happening for more than a year. He has only one son who is currently pursuing his 11 grade in a prestigious institution. In course of time, the father realized that he could be the reason for his miscount. As and when he decided to monitor his movements and on constant observation, the culprit was caught red handed. Now instead of the wallet being kept out in the open, the banker started to lock it up inside his cupboard. And now, the denominations are well and truly accurate.
A hostel warden brought it to my knowledge that expensive electronic items, cell phones, laptops, cash, cards and sometimes books kept getting stolen from the rooms. It was obvious to know that the culprit had to be one among the students who resided in the hostel. But exactly who?? Was it the job of an individual or was there a group involved?? On keen observation it was identified that there was one particular girl, who constantly kept falling ill and would return to the hostel during class hours. The authorities kept a close eye on her for a period of time and when they managed to interrogate the girl, they busted up a host of stolen things and information about how she used to execute things.
One of my friends, who is a techie in a corporate in Bangalore, complained that her USB drive got stolen more than once at office. She also observed that two of the times, it got mysteriously misplaced just before a presentation and once it went missing from her laptop carrier after she had saved some crucial information from another source before she could prepare her presentation. She later found out that it was one of the members of a team who had done this only to ensure that she wouldn’t get a good appraisal from her bosses, and they would portray her as “irresponsible”.
These are only a few distinct ones that we should learn about and they will ensure that we look at things more carefully and ensure that we do not become the victim of such circumstances.
Apart from these we may also have come across these cases at some phase of our lives.
Loss of jewellery from our lockers
Loss of attractive or unique articles, antiques, original collections, photographs, gadgets etc
Loss of cash/ cheque leafs from your office drawers
Girls… instances of your favourite, expensive make-up articles, went missing from your bags during your intervals??
Boys… the cash that you collected from sponsorships/ coupons for your college event goes missing???
Vehicle keys and helmets gone missing
As mysterious as they seem, these situations should really be an eye- opener and a valuable lesson for all of us. Stealing has already become a menace, especially by the younger age- groups from 13 to 23, and this is no more a matter to neglect about. It is a serious issue that needs to be first of all, own up to, understand, and take corrective measures to put an end to this. The habit of stealing, is not chronic, yes it could be inherited from the people we know, who have also been successfully indulging in the con job. In many cases, especially in the case of school children, it starts as a necessity and then becomes an obsession. I know of many such people who consider stealing to be a challenge!! An activity to show their smartness, cunningness, and uncanny ability. There are many who are not after money, but only crave to steal unique antiques, coins, gems and so on. But it is no denying that it is a sickness, which follows the philosophy of “prevention is better than cure”. The only need of the hour is to diagnose it as soon as possible.
As a part of a prevention strategy let us consider these recommendations.
Let us ensure that our children pursue their education in those institutions which suits our spending power. For ex: everyone wants their child to be a part of an elite institute. Sometimes, the fee structure is beyond our reach, but still we are determined to admit our child, even if it comes to spending too much for comfort. Mind you, the expenditure does not stop here, the child is now under pressure from his classmates to “keep up” with their elite standard. And when you do not give them enough as pocket money for their daily subsistence and competitive luxuries, stealing would be the most prominent solution.
Most of us do not consider that our own people could be the reason for things getting stolen. We suspect every single person, but for the actual culprit. In such cases, it is always better to deny people the chance to steal. Try not to leave belongings back when you are away.
In addition to this, the new generation is also a victim of hacking, files getting copied from one laptop to many other laptops, which is also no lesser a issue than stealing. In fact, the consequences could be much more disastrous!! So kindly do not share your mobile phones, laptops, tablets with anybody, without your presence.
At office, we should be aware that it is a competitive atmosphere. Your things could be stolen, mutilated, misused as a result of conflict, jealously, and a host of other issues with regards to work place dynamics.
Dear friends, the act of stealing could be the result of a host of possibilities and reasons. And it could be stopped completely with our mere approach towards understanding it more deeply. Most of the times when we have someone with such a problem, it is advisable to correct him/ her before it becomes a habit. If it is not possible to get a solution, we need to seek professional help to get rid of this menace. But most of these situations could be avoided if only we are more educated, reasonable and careful about our people and things in daily life. So let us live safe and secure.
Let us be the shepherds of our own flock!!!