Joy unbound: Importance of 'Grand'parents

July 19, 2014


What the Bible says about grandparents: Proverbs 17:6 “Children’s children are a crown to the aged and parents are the pride of their children.”
 
Grandparents have always been important in family life. Becoming a grandparent for the first time is very emotional and also very unique. It can be stressful physically and psychologically but the experience is priceless and so very rewarding. 
 
They have been given the name “grandparents” because, they are really grand. Grand in their cute and majestic appearances, grand in their magnanimous behaviour, grand in their attitudes and very grand in their love and affection. Grandparents is the name given to the parents of one's parents and they are really the ones who pamper the children of the family. This is because after a very long gap of time when their own children were small, they now find in their homes little children to play with. They pamper their grandchildren more than they ever did their own because now is the time they are free from most of their responsibilities. Now they have all the time to pamper, cajole and love the little children. When their own children were small, they had no time to waste on such cajoling. 

Besides, the parents being busy all day have no time from their routines to see to the extra demands of the children and this is where the grandparents enter the scene of the family. Grandparents are such a solace to the children, who are gifted to them as the most loving members in the house.  With grandparents in the family, the children learn a lot more about life than otherwise. Above all advantages, the blessings of grandparents are so very interesting and inspiring, so much so that the children really get a boost to work hard. 

The special kind of love you get from a grandparent is a love you can't get anywhere else. It is an important kind of love – in fact, a very important kind of love. Grandparents can just enjoy children for who they are in the moment. The love of a grandparent is often freer, more unconditional and far less psychologically complex than a parent's love. The love of a parent and the love of a grandparent are different and both are necessary. The grandparent/grandchild relationship is in fact second in emotional importance only to the parent/child relationship. Just ask any child that where he/she wants to spend their family vacations, their first choice would be to go to grandma/grandpa's house, "because it's fun." Relationships between young and old, between grandparents and grandchildren, are important because they make us feel connected. They make us feel connected not only to each other, but to something bigger, to the flow of life, to the past and to the future. This connection leads to tangible benefits for all generations.


Benefits to grandchildren:

The benefits to children of a close connection to their grandparents include: 

Children have a better sense of who they are and where they come from. They have roots, a history, and a sense of continuity and perspective.

Children develop higher self-esteem, better emotional and social skills including an ability to withstand peer pressure and can even have better grades in school. Children need adult influences in their lives, which helps them to mature.

Children feel special. They're "spoiled" a little. Children know that being with their grandparents is special. They don't expect the rest of the world to treat them the way their grandparents do, so it's really not "spoiling." A grandparent's love is the unconditional stuff of fairy tales. 

Children can get undivided time and attention from grandparents that tired, busy parents often can't give them. Children have someone to talk with and confide in. While children may want to be different from their parents, they often don't mind being like their grandparents. This gives grandparents a lot of power and ability to influence a troubled or confused child. Thus grandchildren think that grandparents fill the gap Mommy and Daddy leave out.

Through sharing in a grandparent's interests, skills, and hobbies, children are introduced to new activities and ideas. Grandparents can be very patient, effective teachers. Knowledge, skills, and attitudes children pick up from grandparents tend to stick with them through life more than those picked up from other sources.


Benefits to grandparents:

The benefits to grandparents of a close connection to their grandchildren include: 

Grandparents say they feel a "joyful freedom" in their new role. They don't feel the pressure they felt as a parent. There's a saying that a mother truly becomes a grandmother the day she stops noticing all the terrible things her children do because she's so enchanted with all the wonderful things her grandchildren do. As a grandparent, you get all the benefits and joys of parenthood without many of the drawbacks.

Many people see grandparenthood as a "second chance." Maybe you weren't able to spend as much time with your own children as you would have liked, or made some mistakes you've now learned from. Grandchildren are a fresh start.

Active, involved grandparents consistently report much less depression and higher degrees of life satisfaction. They tend to be happier with their present life and more hopeful for the future. Grandparents and grandchildren fulfill the role of student and teacher for each other, and it's not always the older person who does the teaching. Children like to feel needed, and they can teach their grandparents lots of things – like how to find some pretty cool stuff on the Internet! 

Grandchildren also help you see the world anew again, through a child's eyes. Grandparents have an opportunity to leave a powerful legacy, to make a difference, to send a message into the future through their grandchildren. The relationship can fulfill our need for immortality.


Benefits to Parents:

The benefits to parents when the "grand generation" is a part of their lives and their children's lives are also clear.

Today's parents are often stressed and overwhelmed. A loving, supportive grandparent can give them someone to talk with – someone who's "been there". It's also comforting for parents to know that there are other adults who love their children and are looking out for them. Again, remember that children need anywhere from four to six involved, caring adults in their lives to fully develop emotionally and socially. Grandparents take some of the pressure off parents. 

Finally, there is the tangible support of reasonable physical or financial help when it's needed. Grandparents can be a safety net in today’s modern family. Many people say their relationship with their parents improves when children enter the picture. For example, an overly strict parent suddenly becomes a "softie" as a grandparent. Adult children see their parents in a new light, and this can help heal relationships.

Bottom line: Most parents want grandparents to be involved – not in a judgmental, meddling way, but in a loving, supportive way.





By Jessie D'Sa
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Comment on this article

  • Supreeta V. Shetty, Padubdri/kuwait

    Thu, Sep 04 2014

    Very interesting article.

    A special relation between grandchildren & grandparents will loving, caring and even the bond is far more than their own children. Actually grandchildren are binding the relations more strongly in between parents & grandparents.
    Thanks and awaiting for many more articles to come.

  • wivec shetty, belman/nandalike/kuwait

    Thu, Sep 04 2014

    Very nice to read your article about grand:parents/children.

    Although we know about it, this will be a mind-refreshing article quoted in a special way.
    It reminds us the bond & relation between children/grandchildren with grandparents, opportunity to share or guide in between. More than that in some instances it will be a fresh start to care and opportunity to rectifying the earlier loopholes or mistakes with their own children other than extending financial supports.
    Thank you for reminding many more interesting and most valuable relations in between….

  • Veena D'Souza, Dubai

    Sat, Jul 26 2014

    Dear Jessy

    Congratulations on another well-written and thought provoking article. Though I missed out on this special relationship, I am glad that my children are enjoying their grandparents love and pampering.

    Looking forward to more articles from our dear Mima in the future!

  • Jerry, jeddah

    Thu, Jul 24 2014

    Very good article sister jessy I like it very much, all aged people must read it, not once but many time, all the best good luck to your kalam, God bless you all the best incoming all days, hope we can read more interesting articles like this in future too. All the best.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Thu, Jul 24 2014

    Fr. Ronson Mendonca, Thanks for your comment and detailed explanation of relationship between grandparents and the grandchildren and how badly we miss our grandparents. I want to stress on one sentence where you said "We really need our grandparents to be with us more than ever in our homes rather than in the old aged ones" Yes, olden days, parents, children and grandchildren lived together but now because of better future, children go far from parents so grandchildren lack bonding, love and support from grandparents. In this situation, only parents can play a big role to connect their children with the grandparents. Grandparents come next after parents in children's lives to guide and lead them to be good human beings by educating them about moral values and relationships.
    Congrats. to You on your recent Ordination and a small prayer on behalf of all the grandparents...FOR YOU AND FOR ALL OUR PRIESTS AROUND THE WORLD.....Lord, we thank you for our faithful priests, whose spiritual fatherhood and example of fidelity, self-sacrifice and devotion is so vital to our faith. May they be guided by the examples of Saints Peter and Paul and all the saints. Give them hope in time of trouble and sorrow and steadfast love for you, for their families and for all your people. May your light shine through their lives and their good works. May they grow in holiness, knowledge and understanding of your Truth. Amen.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Thu, Jul 24 2014

    Errol, thank you for your comment. I'm really happy that my effort of coming up with this article made many people recollect their childhood days spent with their grandparents. I hope and pray that our grandchildren too will love and respect us during our life time and miss us after we are dead and gone. God Bless you and your loved ones always.

  • Ronson Mendonca, Shirva, Udupi/ Latur, Maharashtra

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    Dear Jessy aunty. Loved your article. It is a systematic presentation of the importance of grandparents in our lives and what their ultimate contribution is in the eventual formation of our personality. Also how this relationship has a soothing effect on the three main protagonists in this relationship- the grandparents themselves, the grandchildren who become a little spoilt for their own greater good and the parents who in the midst of their stressful lives today can be rest assured that their kids are in safe hands under the care of grandparents. We really need our grandparents to be with us more than ever in our homes rather than in the old aged ones. Thanks for helping me relive my precious memories with my own grandparents. Miss them a lot and pray that they continue to enjoy eternal bliss in God's Kingdom. Rncn.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    Benedicta Lobo, It's better late than Never. Although you are late, You have commented so beautifully, I really felt that my article is worth writing. Children and grand children are our real wealth which no money can buy it. Whether Grandparents are young or old, in both cases they become energetic and strong to perform their role. When grand-children call Aba, Mai, nana or Mima...that is the happiest time of our lives. We pray that all the parents be blessed to be grandparents one day and experience the joy and happiness like you and me. Thank you for enjoying and liking my article, your support always encourages me to come up with more such articles. God bless your sweet family and your cute grandson.

  • Errol A. Pereira, Katapadi-Udupi/Jeddah

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    Nice Article Jessie Bai…Surely, your Article must've made many readers refresh their sweet memories, spent with their beloved Grand Parents...Grand Children always find Grand Parents in their comfort Zone and enjoy their company the most..

  • Benedicta Lobo, Udupi/Dubai

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    Dearest Jess (Mima)
    Though I am bit late to comment but I thoroughly enjoyed the contents of the article how beautifully narrated the grand parents role in grand children's life. Being a grandma I can feel how happy & exited to become grandma when I first got the good news of the birth of our grandson. Most memorable days of my life are first when I became Mom of my 2 lovely kids & then ater 27 years I became grandmom. I am truly thankful to Almighty for blessings me abundantly. Wealth,comfort & luxury is nothing compare to children & grand children. Most touching to my heart is when my grandson calls me MAI which breaks my heart with happiness. Some says after becoming grandma/grandpa we become old which is not true whereas we feel young & energetic while playing with our grand children who keep us always active to run around them. Not to offense anyone Long live all grand parents. Jess keep writing such article which motivate all of us & to feel how beautiful our life is. God bless you.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    Michael, thank you for commenting and for your good wishes. God Bless!

  • Michael, Shirva

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    Hi Jessie,nice article.you have brought out the role and importance of grandparents in children 's life, we hope it will help a lot for present generation. Thanks Keep it up.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    I am really thankful to Daijiworld for publishing my articles as soon as they receive them. I also thank all Daijiworld readers, for taking time to go through my articles and for sharing the thoughts through comments. This particular article, I want to dedicate to two great ladies of my life...they are my children's grandmothers. I have seen both of them helping their children unconditionally when it came to grandchildren. Their love, support and energy was unimaginable!

    Today my only prayer for them is...Lord, bless my mother as you always did and protect her from all dangers and Grant Eternal Rest to my Mother-in-law's Soul and may she rest in PEACE!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    Gerald Noronha, yes whenever we think of our grandparents, we go back to the past and remember the golden days spent with them. "ABA GAR" was the only word we used to say when it's a weekend. Hope our children and grand children too realize and cherish the importance of grandparents in their busy lives. May God bless your family and your grandchild abundantly and may grandparents and grandchild bond be stronger day by day.

  • Gerald Noronha, Belman

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    Hi Jessy..it's very nice to read your article, it has a lot of memories of our past life from the child hood, as we reach our grand parents home during week ends or school vacation its a anxiety to get feel free interest close affection and love with emotions blending protection and guidance, our any tempting questions they give the answers ready with a sense of humour with fun and they do special our taste food now we miss it, so many things, it's an excellent article at our time unified family, but the time is different now, while now it's other way,I thought to go give a visit to my 8 month old grand son at Bangalore, since he is infant can't come and see us here.

  • Anthea Castelino, Mumbai, INDIA

    Wed, Jul 23 2014

    UR most welcum aunty..

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Anna Mascarenhas, Thank you very much for your comment and for sharing your thought with us. Those who have experienced Grandparents love, only they can say it's unconditional and pure. We pray that all the grandparents and grandchildren on this earth, be blessed forever. God Bless you and your family too.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Charles Mendonca, Thank you for the comment. Yes, we need our old parents and grandparents around. God Bless!

  • Joy unbound: Importance of 'Grand'parents, Anna Mascarenhas- Mangalore

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Beautiful article, very well written. I have a live example of a sweet grandmom for my children. My children just adore my mother and also my mother sees that she does her best for them.When I am busy with work my children have my Mom to talk to. Grandparents love is really unconditional. God Bless all the grandparents.

  • Charles Mendonca, Manipal/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Nice article, shows importance of old people at home, so that children can grow in moral ways.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    John Dsouza, thank you for going through my article. Yes, you are right, my article reflects grand past and present dream. Our children are missing the joy, happiness and companionship of the grandparents what we enjoyed in our childhood days. Modern life style and the competitive world has changed new generation a lot. It was a peaceful life style till landline was the only communication....100% true. This computer era and the mobile technology has changed the love style and relationship values totally. World is with grand stores and material things...not with grandparents. I agree with you and this is the only reason I decided to type something about Grandparents and highlight their importance in our lives. Thank you again and my prayers for you and your family.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Manoj Menenzes, thanks for liking and commenting. Your grandmother was a great lady. She was a inspiration to all those who were in her life. God Bless your family and your children's grandparnets.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Johny, thank you for your comment and for liking my article. Yes, we all have great memories of our grandparents although they are far from us or not in this world. May the Lord bless you, your grandma and your children's grandparents.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Matilda Vaz, liked your short and sweet comment and thank you for the same. Yes, grandparents are the real friends of grandchildren and their love is pure. I fully agree with you. May God bless you and your family abundantly.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Martin Correia, thank you for liking and commenting. Yes It's really painful to see old parents and grandparents who are abandoned by their own blood. Young people have no time for the old ones because of modern life style. May God bless your grandmother and you.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Sandra Vaz, thank you so much for your comment. Yes, Grand parents are the only people on earth who sacrifice their whole life for their children and grandchildren. God Bless!

  • John DSouza, Mangalore

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Jessie bai, your good article reflects grand past and present dream
    Theory is better to imagine but the practice is bitter to experience
    Reading encourage to be cool, but facts are sad to hear and bear
    It was a peaceful life style till landline was the only communication
    Advent of mobile technology has changed the love style miserably
    Now grand parents can live with their grand children only in dream
    History is the only consolation to remind and recall the grand past
    World today is with grand stores/things, not with grand relations

  • Manoj Menezes, Shirva/Abudhabi

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Excellent, thoughtful article. Very well written by Jessy. We still miss our grandparents specially our grandmother who had been a great inspiration for us.

  • Johny, Mukamar/Dubai

    Tue, Jul 22 2014

    Wonderful article Jessy...i loved it.i remember my childhood memories with my Grandma.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Gerald Dsouza, thanks so much for your nice comment. Yes I made you think about childhood and spending time with grandparents very week. We had enjoyed our childhood so much but modern life style has no time to think about the past. Anyways, God bless you and your family.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Kamath BV, thank you so much for going through my article and your comment on encouraging and supporting me. Yes I missed on how to keep grandparents happy. Actually when we get old, we expect love and respect from our children. If the parents and grandparents know that they are loved and respected from their children for sacrificing their whole life, automatically they remain happy. If parents keep their parents happy then the children too keep their grandparents happy by loving and respecting as their parents. It's fully parents responsibility to teach the children moral and cultural values so that they lead a descent and well mannered life. I hope it's clear now about keeping them happy. God Bless you and your loved ones.

  • matilda furtado, mulki

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Nice article Jessy,grand parents are the real friends of grand children..they never get tired answering their questions n doubts..touching article. Keep writing..

  • Martin Correia, Mumbai

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    What a marvelous article and reaaly thank you Jessy bai for highlighting the role and the importance of grand parents. I feel pity for those aged grandparents who abandoned by their families and they are living a desolate and lonely lives. After reading your article it makes me to feel very special about my own grandmother (mummy's mother) who had been a rock in my life and today I owe a lot to my grandmother. Looking forward to many such good wonderful articles from you. May God Bless You.

  • Sandra Vaz,

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    That's a very thoughtful article Jessy , beautifully written. Indeed grandparents play a very important role in everyone's life, they love you much more than anyone else ever would. They give you all their time which they couldn't give their own children.
    God Bless and thank you for sharing this lovely message.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Khalid, thanks for your lovely comment. I can understand the pain in your heart for not meeting or seeing your grandparents. I must tell you that you have really missed some very important people of your life. But It's God's wish, we can't get anything against his will. Pray to God, so that you get grandchildren and makeup for whatever you lost. God bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Sheryll D'saouza, your comments really means a lot to me. Thank you for agreeing with me in... how important the grandparents are and how they sacrifice their lives to help their children and grand children. If everyone thinks like you... the world can be a better place. God Bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Michael Machado, Thank you for congratulating me and for liking my article. You always support my topics by giving your valuable comments. Here you have nicely expressed about your childhood memories with your grandparents and mentioned that they were your shining stars. What a great feeling and love you have shown towards them. There is no doubt at all that still you miss them. To feel their presence in our lives we can only pray for them and ask them to pray for us. Yes can't compare anything to grand-Pa's lap and grand-Ma's heart...that is the only thing freely available in this selfish world. God Bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Vincent Dsouza, Joe Furtao and Trecilla Menezes...Thank you for your comments of encouragement. May God Bless you and your loved ones always.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Terry, thank you so much for your lovely comment. Please have a look into my old articles too. Will try to come up with more articles which connect to humanity and love. God Bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Thereza Aranha, I really liked your comment because you have clearly expressed your views that how good it is to live with parents and grandparents and how lucky such people are. You have also said...if we respect our parents...our children too learn to love and respect the grandparents. Thank you for your support,encouragement and prayers to me. God Bless you and your family too.

  • KAMATHBV, BANGALORE

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    I had the fortune of reading your article today,I have just finished reading the article regarding "IMPORTANCE OF GRAND PARENTS". Its a clearly written and thought-provoking article, you have clearly brought out how important these relations are It IS very well-written and contained sound, practical analysis, advice. In fact, You pointed out several things that are very practical & one has to remember for life. While much has been written on this important topic, I still feel Mrs. Jessy you could have also thrown some light on the points regarding how to keep Grand parents happy, how important the love from parents & grand children's "Grand Parents".I still remember the movie "THE MAIL BOX" & movie "BAGHBAN"
    I look forward to reading your next Article. Thank you so much for the wonderful article
    KAMATHBV

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Ambrose D'mello, you being a loving grandpa for 3 lovely kids...you know the real role of grandparents in our families. God bless you and your grand- children. Thanks!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Kevin, my dear son-in-law...your comment makes sense, though it's short. I liked it. You, Dolly and Kaydi made my life complete by making me a Granma.... Kaydi's loving Mima. I thank God for that. May Almighty God protect and bless you always. Thank You and Love you guys.

  • Khalid, Bangalore

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Truly Joy Unbound !!


    Good use of words Jessie.
    I really miss my grandparents , never saw them , never been with them. All passed away before i was born. I have seen them in pics and grown up. More than me my parents miss them.
    Time fly's but Memories haunt.

    Someone Truly Said : you will miss only those who are not in your life.

  • Trecilla Menezes, Pangla / Muscat

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Nice article aunty.Keep writing..

  • Sheryll D'Souza, Udupi/Bangalore

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Such a wonderful article and how true it is. Having our parents living with us to look after our kids is the biggest sacrifice on earth. Even in their old age, our parents stay with us to ensure we have a great career and taking the responsibility of our kids in return for nothing shows their depth of love to us.

  • Joe Furtado, mulki

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Nice article Jessy.Keep writing..God bless You.

  • Vincent Shallet DeSouza, Jeddah/Mudarangadi

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Well Said and Good Article

  • Michael Machado, , Heidelberg, Germany.

    Mon, Jul 21 2014

    Congratulations to you, Dear Jessie. Your article shows a great tribute to all the most amazing grandparents of the world! I remember, my grandparents were my shining stars when I was just growing up but I know that they shine their light upon us still, loving us and guiding us from above through every single day. It seems like just yesterday when we used to sit on their lap listening to their stories and their lovely old songs. They were the most special persons in my world, most kind and warm. I miss them more than words can express but they have left with me the fondest memories of my childhood times.

    Family faces are magic mirrors. Looking at people who belong to us, we see the past, present and future. Grandparents are a family's greatest treasure, the founders of a loving legacy, the greatest storytellers, the keepers of traditions that linger on in cherished memory. Grandparents are the family's strong foundation. Their very special love sets them apart. Through happiness and sorrow, through their special love and caring, grandparents keep a family close at heart. A garden of Love grows in a Grandmother's heart and the best place to be when you are sad is Grandpa's lap! Grandpas always have time for you when everyone else is too busy and he is someone with silver in his hair and gold in his heart!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    John Saldanha, thanks for your short and sweet comment. You are one of the wonderful grand-fathers. God Bless!

  • Terry Machado, Belman/Pune

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Hi Jessie, your article is indeed thought provoking!! You have very well highlighted the importance of grandparents in a family, much appreciated!! Looking forward to seeing more articles being published:) May God bless you & your family.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Shanti, thank you for your sweet comment...will always hope for the best.God Bless!

  • Teresa Aranha Pawa, Belman

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Sweetheart Jessie, Your article on Grandparents, is an revival to our family life. Blessed are those grandparents, who r living with their children n grandchildren, because of their endless prayers, good values n above all God's fear which they have rooted in d family, which attributes to" God's blessings to each one of us." Living with d grandparents, truly a Golden Crown for d entire fly. Nobody can substitute this joyous relationship in today's competitive world. We may have all d material worldly happiness. Our own parents r so busy with their day today businesses but our grandparents r always there for us to listen n to comfort us. So, d message z loud n clear, love n respect all d elderly parents, so that our children r rightfully deserves to get their grandparents love, care n blessings. Thank u so much Jessie dear, for reminding us d importance of our grandparents. God Bless u n ur beautiful fly.♥ Never deprive our children their grandparents love which is due n rightfully
    their treasure.

  • Ambrose D'Mello, Pangala/ Mumbai

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Very well written article dear Jessy. Personally being a grandparent now,I must say that I am reliving the joy of my childhood with my lovely 3 grandchildren now. More strength to your thoughtful topics.

  • Kevin, Dubai

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Very good article Mom, keep up the great work!

  • John Saldanha, Kanajar/Kuwait

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Hi Jessi, read your article, nicely written, very pleasing to read the contents. Please carry on.

  • Shanti D'Mello, Dubai/Belman

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Wonderful article Jessy... I'm sure this will change the mindset of many.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Kurt Waschnig, Thank you for explaining more in detail about grandparents. You have always supported me in my family related topics. God Bless you and your loved ones always.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Joseph, yes our childhood was entirely different than now a days children. We desperately were waiting for the weekends to go and spend time with our grandparents and cousins. Life has changed and our children are missing all that family bonding. Thanks for your comment.

  • Gerald Dsouza, Belman/Dubai

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    nice article jessie,
    i remember my childhood memories.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Senora, I really became emotional when I read the ending part of your comment, said...."It is such a sad sight to see them being disrespected, put in age old homes. How easily people forget the sacrifices that they have made to ensure a good life for no one but their children.." I pray that all children will love and respect their parents as well as grandparents as you do. God bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Jessy Arun, thanks for liking my article. God Bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Dolly, I thank God every moment for giving me a chance to be a grandmother. When I held my little Kaydi in my arms for the first time, I'm sure you remember that I really cried in happiness. May the Lord Bless all our children, grandchildren and the grandparents.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Winny, your comments always encourage me to come up with more family oriented articles. Thank you so much & God Bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Anthea, fully agree with you. Grandparents give unconditional love and support to their grandchildren. Thanks for your sweet comment.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Rita, me too a first time grandmother like you. You have clearly explained what we feel when we are going to be and when we become the grandparents. It's a different feeling. Yes, as you said when grandchildren start calling Mai and Aba, we feel that our life is worth living. Thanks for taking more time to type a real feeling of grandparents.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Movin, I really hope that millions of people see this article and your wish will come true. Thanks and God Bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Joseph Dsa, thanks for liking my article. God has blessed you with two cute grandchildren. I pray that your grand-parenthood gives you all the happiness and joy.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Florine, Violet, Lancy, Anthony, Merline and Kimsen...Thanks a lot for liking my article and for commenting. God Bless you all.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Bianca, thanks so much for your lovely comment. I really agree with you where you said "The joy and the smile you see in a grandparents face that time is truly priceless! God Bless you always!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Rosy, This message was for you which said "yes our parents are a great help when we become parents" Thanks and God Bless!

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Nancy, liked your comment but I felt really sad when u said all the grandchildren don't get love from their grandparents. In that case we can only blame the destiny and continue praying for such grandparents. God Bless!

  • Senora, Dubai

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Really sweet article :)The relationship between a parent/grandparent with their children is special indeed. Many people today do not value their parents or grandparents. It is such a sad sight to see them being disrespected, put in age old homes. How easily people forget the sacrifices that they have made to ensure a good life for no one but their children.

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Nancy, yes our parents are a great help when we become parents. Thanks and God Bless

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Hi Gerald, thanks for your beautiful comment. It said... "when the world is talking about war and killings and strife you remind us of the human kindness". I really liked it. God Bless you too.

  • Kurt Waschnig, Oldenburg, Germany

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    ´As a child grows up, he/she will encounter dozens of teachers, but there cannot be any replacement for grandparents. Grandparents have a goldmine store of knowledge. Not all grandparents may possess bookish knowledge, but they have a wealth of real life experiences and information to share, which is not taught in any of the schools out there. The best part is that you will always see that million dollar smile running down their cheeks as soon as they see their grandchildren. More than often, they see their own reflection in their grandchildren, and despite growing age acting against them, they leave no stone unturned to see happiness in their kid’s life. Some of the grandparents have all the time in the world to devote towards their grandchildren. Some parents make use of this opportunity and leave their child at the care of the grandparents. In this manner, they are able to generate more revenue for the family to lead a better life. They serve as a great link between the past, present and the future. They introduce their kids to the past traditions, get involved with them in the present and help them shape their future. Today, children often look up to their grandparents for suggestions, since they know that grandparents have seen and faced the real world inside-out. Being the most experienced candidates in the family, they are also entrusted with the responsibility of keeping the family together. Grandparents and kids are seen as best pals. Kids often reveal secrets and problems about their life to their grandparents, and the latter offers them valuable advice on how to deal with the situation. In this manner, grandparents make sure that the kids do not cross the boundaries by their actions. Goes without saying, grandparents are very important in our lives, when it comes to imbibing great values in our kids. Kids may not listen to their parents, but they will pay heed to what the old grandma or grandpa has to say. After all, getting advices from the roots of the family tree (grandparents) will ensure that the fruits (children) are sweet, worthy and lovable.´

    Best regards

    Kurt Waschnig Oldenburg/Germany

    email:oldenburg1952@yahoo.de

  • Dolly Dsa-Saldanha, Dubai

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Lovely article, Mom! When I see Kaydi with you, I truly see how important grandparents are to all grandchildren. God bless all you grandparents

  • Jessie D'sa, Udupi/Jeddah

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Hi Jenifer, thank you for your sweet comment. You are the first person to comment on this article. Let me tell you...both your parents as well as Milan's are wonderful people. I'm sure your children will surely enjoy their company. So think about it soon, they are waiting eagerly :) God Bless you Jenifer.

  • Jessy Arun, Mangalore / Riyadh

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Nice article... Keep it up... I liked it.

  • Kimsen Pinto, Mira Road / Kuwait

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Very nice article Aunty..you have brought out the role and importance of grandparents in the best way.

  • Joseph,, Belman

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    It reminds me our childhood, we were waiting for our school holidays to go and stay with our Grand parents, their effort to prepare many types of sweets & dishes for us.It was an great joy to be with them. Thanks Jessy.

  • merline , mangalore

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Lovely article jessy Aunty..

  • Winny, Udupi/Dubai

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Nice article Jessy.You have highlighted the important role Grand parents play in one's life.Their love is truly unconditional.
    keep up your good work.God bless you.

  • Anthea Castelino, Mumbai, INDIA

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Mima.. superb really heart touching article ....."What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life.."

  • ANTHONY, BELMAN/MIRA ROAD

    Sun, Jul 20 2014


    very good article.keep it up.
    god bless.

  • Rita, Germany

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    To have a grandchild ,that too for the first time is the happiness very great.Even before the child is Born the excitement is more than the to be parents.They always try to give tips and their experience to the would be parents.and many times it is taken gratefully and some deny it saying they know and informed about it.still when the child is there These Expression on grandparents face of relief,joy is extreme.some grandparents doesn't have the Chance of having their g.child near to them.Then they look Forward to their coming and want to spend whole time with them till they go back.Grandchild and g.parents are so closer each other than own parents.May be their love,caring,sometimes a extra allowance than own parents drew them closer.G.parents wish and do many times child to give bath ,go with them to playground sing Songs,tell Storys at night,make them happy.This article Shows pure love between the child and grandparents..when child says Mai,we as Grand parents feel we are in Heaven.Aba has always a chocolate extra for his G.child.

  • Movin Rego, Chikmagalur/KSA

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Thanks for Refreshing our thoughts in demanding daily lifespan and evoking importance of the grandparents, this article should reach million people, in this nuclear family life we truly underestimate the real value of grandparents….Nice one Jessy Bai, Keep Writing

  • lancy pinto, mangalore/doha

    Sun, Jul 20 2014

    Nice article to understand loving relationships are ideal for good living environment. God bless all!

  • Violet DSouza, Colorado Springs, USA

    Sat, Jul 19 2014

    Thanks for the loving and wonderful article. It is truly nice and inspirational.

  • Joseph Dsa, Shirva / Pa, U.S.A.

    Sat, Jul 19 2014

    Hello Jessy. Nice and wonderful article you have highlighted. Hope children really understand the real value and importance of their parents when they indeed get a baby.

  • Florine Dsouza, Falnir,Mangalore/Kuwait.

    Sat, Jul 19 2014

    Hi Jessy,This is really wonderful article. I liked it.

  • Bianca Lobo, Dubai

    Sat, Jul 19 2014

    Hi mima :)
    Such a beautiful article.. You were right there, parents don't have time sometimes especially because of how busy they get and that's when the grandparents shower all their love on them. Even now, you would see the kids get so excited about spending their vacations with their grandparents, eat delicious food and listen to stories about their parents and so much more :)
    The joy and the smile you see in a grandparents face that time is truly priceless!
    Very touching article Aunty. Keep writing :)

  • Nancy, Belman

    Sat, Jul 19 2014

    Nice article Jessibhai.

    But all grand children dont get the love from thier grand parents. Some grandparents are biased but all are not same.

    Looking at now a days incidents which take place on children it is better to have grandparents when they grow up.

  • Rosy, Shirva - UAE

    Sat, Jul 19 2014

    Hi jessy Thanks for your nice wonderful article, we should relies the importance of grandparents and their roll in children’s life and family.

  • Gerald D'Souza, Mumbai/goa

    Sat, Jul 19 2014

    What a nice an refreshing article... when the world is talking about war and killings and strife you remind us of the human kindness..... in your special way. God bless you and keep writing

  • Jenifer Dsouza, Abu Dhabi

    Sat, Jul 19 2014

    Liked this article because most of us tend to ignore the importance of grandparents in a child's life.. with a competitive n fast life we are more dependent on outsiders than our own.. the safest hands to leave a child can be grandparents as they are the best to imbibe values n simple lessons of life. Always good to have elders in a family. ..


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