February 8, 2017
Our society is continuously evolving with a variety of changes. There are changes in individual life styles, attitudes, morality, thinking patterns, and so on. Taking holistically, individual culture (that is, way of life) of the person is changing. These changes are galloping at a great speed like a virus. Although change is the norm of the nature and the society, individual has to adapt oneself for the new change. Some people especially the young easily imitate and get absorbed by the new trends. Whereas the majority especially, the adults, and elderly find themselves hard to understand the new changes and get confused, as they are convinced that the earlier traditional ways are the best. They find it hard to adapt themselves to the new trends as they find themselves comfortable the way it was, as they say “in our times it was not so”. They want their younger generation to follow the traditional ways which were set by them as against the seductive, easy going modern ways.
When it comes to the young, they find themselves in a flux of confusion. As they seek for fun, excitement and innovatives, the norms set by their parents seem to be boring and are not exciting. They see themselves in a world of fun and excitement as they are very much updated with the present trends through their friends, media, and social networking. They also see a lot of people, especially their peers gettting into such fads and there is a pressure from them. At the same time, the significant persons around them, like parents, family members are opposed to such fads, and exhort them to follow the norms of the past. This is very true regarding dress, food habits, life styles, friendships, and morality.
The present young are in a world of confusion. They are confused between the modern and the traditional ways. The modern ways are very attractive, sensual and easy going. The young are very comfortable with the company of their peers as they boost and give them a nod that they are right. While at home, their parents admonish them and insist on following the standards set by them. So the young get confused between the standards fixed by their parents and the fads or trends existent around. They are confused between modern and traditional, morally meticulous and morally liberal, strict family life and liberal family life. They see they have a strict parenting against the liberal parenting of their peers. In fact, the young are confused between fanaticizing, seducing world around and the strict traditional society.
Confusion of our young is accelerated by the media, reality shows and social networking which they accept as God’s word. Our young are 'keen observers but lousy interpreters'. They observe everything keenly and take into heart that it is the reality but fail to interpret properly. It’s too late when they realize reality. To interpret and make them realize the reality, they need good parenting. Parenting or guiding by the youth workers involves in interpreting the reality to them taking into consideration their categories viz, how they understand the reality. Parenting involves first and foremost in understanding the confusion of the young, that is, context or situation their young are facing. Secondly, to interpret the things and setting right their priorities. Initially, the young may be resistant and hold on to the ways they are doing. Although they are resistant, they love and respect their parents. Parents cannot leave them on their way, fearing the resistance. If parents fail to interpret and guide them, who else can do so. Right parenting involves in making them understand the difference between the things they see around and the reality within.
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