Mangalore: Worry about father's ill health drives girl to commit suicide


Mangalore: Worry about father's ill health drives girl to commit suicide

Daijiworld Media Network – Mangalore (SP)

Mangalore, May 20: A daughter, who was unable to bear the agony of her beloved father, who has been not keeping well since some time, committed suicide on Sunday May 19.

Deep-rooted affection of Willetha Lima Lobo (26), daughter of Walter Lobo and Lucy Lobo from Bolpugudde in Kavoor in the city, towards her father, made it impossible for her to watch her father going through sufferings, it is learnt.

Lima used to work for a private firm. Walter, who was afflicted with malaria, is being treated a private hospital here since a week. After the hospital staff conveyed information on Sunday morning that Walter required blood transfusion, Lucy had visited the hospital and arranged for the same. By the time she reached home again, she received another call, seeking more blood. Lucy rushed to the hospital again.

Willetha Lima, perhaps overwhelmed by her own perception of what was going on and negative thoughts, committed suicide by hanging herself at the bedroom. From the hospital, Lucy called her daughter over phone. As Willetha did not receive the call, she contacted the neighbours to check. The neighbours, who visited her home could see from the window that Willetha had committed suicide by hanging herself.

A case of unnatural death stands registered in Kavoor police station in this connection.

 

  

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  • Andrew L D Cunha, Mangalore

    Tue, May 21 2013

    Very sad! Its very important to teach our children the art and ways of dealing with pain and sufferings at young age.

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  • Michael, Moodubelle

    Tue, May 21 2013

    Girl must have been thinking of her future She finally must have come to a conclusion that it is impossible to have a future since her father was suffering from Malaria. She should have been bold enough to tackle the ups and downs in life.Please let us all pray for her soul to rest in peace.

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  • J Dal, BVR

    Tue, May 21 2013

    Some times friends are indeed required during this kind of situations... being aloof brings lots of negative thinking in your mind causing giving up life...
    I feel that she must be very much closer to her parents but not with outer world.. Any person who is known about the agony of others always thinks that the problem of others are more painful than his own/her own.

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  • Eva, Mangalore

    Tue, May 21 2013

    "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven" Luke 6:37

    "Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you shall be judged: and with what measure you mete, it shall be measured to you again. 3And why behold you the mote that is in your brother's eye, but consider not the beam that is in your own eye?" Matthew 7:1

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  • Sagar V, Mangalore / Dubai

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Really it's a heart breaking news. But my question is what about value added education. Today it's a IT era, men reached till Mars, saddest thing is we are became too coward we don't have the gads to face some time silly problems suddenly encountering in life. We need a solid moral education system where it build up our mental ability to face the toughest challenges in life. So many shown their sympathy towards this tragic incident but the alarming us about the tolerance, faith in super natural power or God, trust upon the blood relation, believe in prayers and have the patience. After storm there is calm, after deep dark there is dawn.

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  • Gurudath, M'lore/Mumbai

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Extremely sad..

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  • adviser, mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Many young kids are committing suicide these days. It seems that they don't know how to handle any situation. I blame for this situation on parents. I know they cannot teach their kids to face all kinds of situations, BUT AT LEAST THEY CAN INSTIL BELIEF IN GOD!!!

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  • ANIL BYNDOOR, spain

    Mon, May 20 2013

    sad news may her soul rest in peace

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  • sangeetha sudhir, mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Death is not the solution for all problems......... Problems are common in life we should face it . She is really sweet and a very caring girl. I am sure she would have had best future. I really feel very bad for her parents. How could her mom bear this pain on one hand fathers illness other side daughters death. I pray god to give her mom strengh to bear this. I really disagree with her dicision. This was the time where she had stand beside her mom and help her. Instead She left peace fully but wat abt her parents...... Past cannot be changed. Hope her father gets well soon. Let her soul rest in peace....... WE ALL MISS U DEAR

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  • Cliffy, Mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Very sad to hear this girl taking away her life. Root cause for this is no self confidence and no toughness of mind. Parents should not too much pamper the kids when they are growing and teach them more confidence,courage to live independantly and make them mentally tough. Todays world you need this to survive very much.

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  • Ronny Crasta, Mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    May be a case of depression ? Very sad though. May her soul RIP.

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  • Indian, Bangalore / Jordan

    Mon, May 20 2013

    @ Alwyn Maxim, Mangalore/UAE
    Alwyn I completely agree with you and very beautiful words of real life.

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  • Michael, Mulky/San Fransisco

    Mon, May 20 2013

    In the absence of any male members in the family, she should have realised that she is badly needed, although we do not know if there is any other reason could have driven her to take such a step like financial, personal etc. Having said that, i think girls are very closely attached to fathers and she must have lost courage when she saw him in such situation. But the families suffering will not end there now even if the father gets well soon, because she has inflicted a permanent pain in their heart which will remain till they die. May her soul rest in peace.

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  • Bulsam, Mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
    One should never ever think of such easy way out.
    Life is precious and we don't have the right to destroy it.
    A real tragedy. May her soul rest in peace.

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  • ashraf, bajpe

    Mon, May 20 2013

    :(

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  • Alwyn Maxim, Mangalore/UAE

    Mon, May 20 2013

    @ Mr.Oswald Baretto,

    If this Girl had real love towards to his father/parents, she would not have taken this wrong step. She was not in Prayers, even meaning of the precious life.

    You said right, the Girl should not have selfish and should not put her Parents in Pain n Sorrow. Even the same situation with me once upon a time, when my Loving Mum was ill with Cancer and Doctor given limited time for survive. Same time I was depressed and was thinking, without Mum, No life, and thought of end my life, the same day of my Mum's departure from this world. Before that I openly expressed my feeling with Mum, saying Mum, please do not live me alone, take me with you, without you there is no life. Mean-time My Mum, said to me these words... Son you came to this world through our Love and God has some purpose for that, but If I go also I will be with you always, if you take extreme step, which God doesn't like, I will be not in peace. So l Lived and I brought you up, so the same thing you have to do and ask me to promise her that I will not do any wrong decision. I cried bitterly by hugging my Mum. Later I realised there is deep meaning in Mum's words and change my mind and still am alive but I have great pain my Heart and till I am crying saying Mum, why did you left me alone, call me to your place so that I can stay with you, but my inner voice say's that Son I am with you but you can't see, even some days back I got a call to go to Mum but still saved Because God has his own purpose for each one of us and we have to stay in Grace of God. So my humble request to all, when ever we are depressed and helpless, the only way to come over is " PRAYERS " God has his own plans for us and he will guide to the right way. Amen

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  • Naveen Shetty, Mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    The person who has come to this world has to leave this world one day without fail. We have to decide how we are living in this world whether we try to learn swimming to stay afloat or will get drowned in the water without a try.

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  • Deepak, Adyar

    Mon, May 20 2013

    OUR LIFE HAS BEEN TESTED EVERY MOMENT ONLY THE PATIENCE & TRUE STRENTH IN THE LORD MAKES OUR LIFE VERY MEANINGFUL AND HAPPY. THE GREATEST HAPPINESS ONE CAN HAVE IN HIS LIFE WHEN HE FACES THE GREAT TRIALS. SO WITH THAT ONE UNDERSTANDS THE TRUE MEANING OF LIFE. SO LET US LIVE WITH HIM WHO IS WITHIN & ENJOY HIS BLISS EVERDAY.

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  • Bollu, Mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    What did she defined..when needed badly by her 'parents' she escaped from her task..!! At least she would have stayed-back without doing any work..to give boost to her family..!! It's not called 'affection or love' towards parents..!! She proved herself that she cannot able to face a small problems..!! Don't ever give too much affection to children's so they cannot able to stand one'sself..!!

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  • THERESA LOBO, Mukamar-Sharjah

    Mon, May 20 2013

    I am so very sad. Beautiful girl would have beautiful future. God has beautiful plans for everyone who will trust in Him. By her death her Father and Mother and the entire family in more sorrow and sadness. I just pray for her soul to be in heaven. May God give strength and courage to her parents and family members to bear this loss. May God touch and heal her Father completly with his sickness.

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  • aneesh, manipal

    Mon, May 20 2013

    might be she kept all the problems to herself, without sharing and then when all frustration came to peak she took this step.
    That is why Sharing problems with someone else is so important.

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  • YATHISH KUMAR, ATTAVAR/ DUBAI

    Mon, May 20 2013

    SUICIDE WHEN HER FATHER WAS IN NEED OF HER IS NOT A WISE DECISION.AND MALARIA IS NOT A SICKNESS WHICH CANNOT BE CURED. THE GIRL SHOULD HAVE TAKEN THE SITUATION CALMLY AND TAKEN HELP OF SOME VOLUNTEER BLOOD DONORS AS EVERY ONE IS READY TO DONATE BLOOD TO SAVE A LIFE.SHE HAS PUT THE FAMILY IN AN ADDITIONAL PAIN WHICH CANNOT BE CURED.

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  • Martin, Dubai

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Very Sad RIP… but where is our community leaders , philanthropist? We know where there photo lot of donation and help but no one there poor’s need

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  • Alwyn Maxim, Mangalore/UAE

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Really sad to hear, so senseless girl, very difficult for me to accept the girls action, no mercy at all for her soul. When we are in trouble God hear our prayers, instead of praying to God, she took extreme step of her life, she should have prayed loudly by calling Jesus name with closing doors, her cry would have heard in Heaven and her father would healed completely many miracles with live evidence. Poor Father n Mother, how they will accept this. God Heavenly Father, I beg with you, be mercy upon "Willetha Lima Lobo's " Parents " Walter n Lucy Lobo " Heal our Brother Walter completely from his illness, so that the great support to Lucy, in her sorrow n pain. Lord, you are the healer of Healer and our Heavenly Father, you never said/say no to our prayers, always answer our prayer, grant us favour which, I ask with you today and save this family from the difficulties and sufferings. I ask this in Jesus Name. Amen

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  • J NORONHA , BAJPE/BAHRAIN

    Mon, May 20 2013

    A sad incident.... Now its a double pain for the family members .. as bread earner as well as his sibling passed away...these kind of incidents shouldnot repeated in our society....
    John V Noronha
    Bajpe

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  • Shree Monteiro, Bajpe

    Mon, May 20 2013

    So sad, My heart breaks down , Its very bad to hear that innocent life is lost , RIP to all family members, honestly i feel the same thought when my papa is sick ,
    I think we must join hands togethere and pray for departed soul
    S Monteiro
    Bajpe

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  • Aravind, moodbidri

    Mon, May 20 2013

    yes...she increased the pain for her family...its not the decision as a daughter she should take in this situation...

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  • Oswald Baretto , Bantwal-Qatar

    Mon, May 20 2013


    As per Bible words she will never receive Eternal peace..week hearted girl..problems will come, but this is not the solution..by killing herself she has not relieved any pain to the suffering father..but has multiplied the fathers pain..daiji readers if Iam wrong please correct me..

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  • Mark, Udyavara

    Mon, May 20 2013

    It is a tragedy. May her soul rest in peace!

    I am sure that her father/mother has provided her with the best in life, without causing her of any pain at anytime. Children should be exposed/counseled to the hardship of life so that such natural causes do not become traumatic and end their own life.

    Another beautiful life is lost!

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  • Shivaraj, Sullia/ Muscat

    Mon, May 20 2013

    weak hearted. People have to think solution for complication instead finding this type of shortcuts. may her soul rest in peace

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  • John Cruz Moras, Kuppepadavu / Mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Last month, I was there with the family spend some time with them, had prayers together, everything was fine. Today, my heart is sorrowing hearing this sad news. calm and quite girl, hard working, always smile on her face, no more to the family.it is really hard to believe but reality. May the risen Lord forgive her and lift her to the hevenly aboard, her soul rest in peace.

    John Cruz Moras/Jacintha Moras/ Jaison & nathasha/ Carren, Jennifer & Mark Dsouza.

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  • Wilma Jeevan Monteiro, Manjeshwar

    Mon, May 20 2013

    MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE..... MISS U DEAR.....

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  • CYRIL MASCARENHAS, KIREM/MIRA ROAD/DXB-SHARJAH

    Mon, May 20 2013

    VERY SAD AND VERY BAD DECISION..BEFORE TAKING THIS STEP SHE SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT TWICE..ANYWAY INNOCENT LIFE IS GONE..GOD MAY FORGIVE HER AND MAY GRANT HER ETERNAL LIFE...

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  • Daniel, Udupi

    Mon, May 20 2013

    May her soul RIP. Very sad to hear.
    Not only Love towards father but may be the victims financial situation, other family matters might have forced her.
    The prompt support in any form could /should have extended by nearby one's would have saved a precious life, while the family was in agony.
    Here we feel we are still remain self centered and yet to reach out many...to console and live..

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  • HENRY MISQUITH, Bahrain

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Sad to read, May the soul of Willetha rest in peace. Our heartfelt condolences to all her family members, dear & near ones. Every day we get to read such horror stories taking us to a new low.

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  • Anand, karkala/Dubai

    Mon, May 20 2013

    This is not the right answer to a problem. Naturally, everybody gets emotional when they face unexpected problems in life and strong minds will tend to face it and the weaker sections take this step in matter of seconds.

    It happens when no one is there behind them to support.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Mon, May 20 2013

    I am vary pained at what happened to this family. Now, how will the mother cope up with the situation ? There is no 'Control Z' button once we are dead. All I can say is may God grant peace to her soul and solace to the bereaved family

    Maleria is a curable disease. If people affected by this fever commit suicide, what should AIDS, Cancer infected people do ? Agree that the hospital burdened the family members of collecting the blood etc., but suicide is not a wise solution ?

    Well, now no lamenting will bring a daughter back to life. Hope community people will be there for the family so that even the parents will not contemplate suicide.

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  • Anwar, Udupi- KSA

    Mon, May 20 2013

    It is very sad news which she takes decision it is not solution. There is way to solve the problem she seek help to others. 100% community can help

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  • Naveen D'souza, Valencia-Kuwait

    Mon, May 20 2013

    MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE. SUICIDE IS NOT A ANSWER FOR ANY PROBLEM IN OUR LIFE. OUR MEDIA IS SO FAMOUS NOW A DAYS SPECIALLY DAIJI WORLD. YOU SHOULD APPEAL IN THIS MEDIA AUTOMATICALLY PROBLEM GOING TO SOLVE.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'Lore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Taking way one's life is never a solution to any problem. Life is god's precious gift. he sends you down with a purpose. And unless you complete it to his satisfaction and realize yourself you'll have to come back in this vicious circle again and again.Like Aloka Nathji said she has compounded her father's and her loved one's pain.

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  • Jasmine, Mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Really sad.. Willetha was my junior..Very hard working and committed.. It is really hard to believe that she has taken such a drastic step.. I cannot really believe it... May your soul rest in peace dear.. Will miss u..

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  • ashwith, Mangalore.

    Mon, May 20 2013

    RIP. sad news. todays generation need to be strong like our old generation.Now a days younster's are too emotional.when difficulty comes they can not handle it.

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  • OZY CRASTA, KANNADA KUDRU, DUBAI

    Mon, May 20 2013

    May her soul rest in PEACE, MAY THE GOOD LORD FORGIVE HER AND EMBRACE HER IN HIS KINGDOM.
    What ever she did is out of frustration and the LOVE N AFFECTION towards her DAD.Sufferings is the part and parcel in each n everyone's life, this journey is always a challange to one and all.So, i wish thier family a good health so that they can over come this sad moments.

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  • Valerian Dsouza, Udupi/Mumbai

    Mon, May 20 2013

    So Sad, may be this Girl had loved her Father a lot!
    But, very sad end, may be she was not able to communicate to anyone her pain and helplessness.

    This world is neither the branch of thorns nor bed of roses.

    Here comes the role of religious heads or close relatives or friends who should be eligible to confide with!

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  • Lancy, Mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Really a tragic incident. It is at this critical time we should have faith in the Almighty who will help and guide us. May her soul rest in peace.

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  • jacintha, mangalore

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Hospitals today are matter-of-fact, business like. Treatment to them is a commercial activity.

    They do not assess the ability of receiving news or arranging treatment, of the relatives. 'Pay the bill and then come' is their only song.
    This can be taken by those who have sufficient money as well as emotional maturity. Few who are weak, get exploited (by money lenders), and.. run from pillar to post.

    Some sensitization in hospitals will go a long way in bettering the world.

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  • Sachidanand Shetty, Mundkur/Dubai

    Mon, May 20 2013

    Very sad to hear this news. May God bless her soul with eternal peace forever. Dear Citizens, suicide is not the answer for any problem in our life. God has given us the wisdom to think to solve the problem ourselves. We believe that after performing many good things, we take birth in human kinds. If we depart in between before performing our humanly duty in our life, there is no meaning at all to take birth as humans. Since we have mass media coverage even in remote area too, one such SMS or appeal though any media would reduce the burden of problem to some extent

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  • Aloka Nath, Bengaluru

    Mon, May 20 2013

    By killing herself she has not relieved any pain to the suffering dad, but has multiplied the father's pain.

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