Unwilling to marry groom of parents’ choice, girl commits suicide


Daijiworld Media Network – Bangalore (SP)

Bangalore, Jul 5: The parents of a girl, who tried to arrange for the marriage of their daughter with a close relative in order to retain property worth crores of rupees within family circles, paid a heavy price for their greed in the form of their own daughter.  Fed up by the prolonged pestering by her parents to marry her maternal uncle who is uneducated, an engineering student named Bharati (22) committed suicide.



Bharati was a resident of Nanjanarasappa Layout in Canara Bank Colony within the limits of Chandra Layout police station in the city. Her father, Gopal Reddy, basically from Andhra Pradesh, had settled down at Nanjanarasappa Lay Out about 25 years back. Reddy, who came to the city searching for work as a coolie, grew as a builder in course of time through his hard work. Reportedly, he had also bought property worth about three crore rupees in the name of Bharati in the city.

The parents had decided to give Bharati in marriage to her mother’s younger brother, Hari. Bharati offered stiff resistance to the proposal. When the parents became insistent, she firmly said that she would not marry for two more years. She also told her parents that she wants to pursue further studies. Her parents however, stuck to their stand that she should marry Hari, who is uneducated. It is said that their decision was influenced by the desire to ensure that the property they own remains in the family, as Bharati happened to be their only daughter.

Bharati had completed engineering course in electronics and communications, and had appeared for the final examination last month. Bharati has a younger brother, Manjunath, who is also pursuing engineering degree course

Reportedly, hot words were exchanged between Bharati and her parents on this issue on Wednesday night. When Bharati did not get up as usual on Thursday morning, the parents went to her room and were shocked to see that their daughter had ended her life by consuming poison. They took her to a private hospital, where she was pronounced brought dead.

In a suicide note left behind in the form of recorded statement in the cell phone, Bharati said she was frustrated at the refusal of her parents to allow her to continue education. She also said that she treats her parents as gods, but was unable to accept their choice of her life partner. “I am ending my life by consuming poison. Please do not admit me into any hospital. If you do, please do not take me back home. You can even admit me to a hostel if I am alive. Never reveal to relatives that I had committed suicide for the above reason,” she said in the recorded statement.

  

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  • Oliver, Udupi

    Mon, Jul 08 2013

    Getting your daughter married to your brother?? this is "incest". this will result in bad genes.

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  • Dexter, Mangalore

    Sun, Jul 07 2013

    Someone please show the parents the comments on this site. What is the point in crying. The daughter has paid with her life for the greed of her parents.
    I hope these parents have now learnt what they have done.

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  • Rakesh shetty, mangalore

    Sat, Jul 06 2013

    I FEEL GIRL TOOK WRONG DECISION. PARENTS WERE RIGHT IN THIS ISSUE.

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  • udit narayan, balangir

    Wed, Feb 12 2014

    What nonsense thing that her parents had done.they couldn't bring a little happy for their daughter.shame to be a such parent who cares for their property not for the happiness of their daughter married to uncle is ridiculous yr how they can do this shame on these type of parents may her soul rest in peace and i wish no one should get such type of parents who have no care for their child shame on them

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Langoolaji
    But the girl has written that her parents are Gods....Do Gods cry ?

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  • Jay, USA

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Now that the son is left and if the parents still want their wealth to stay in the family, what are they going to do, get Majunath married to Hari???
    What a shame, how stupid could these illiterate novae rich ever be, could they ever get life back.

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  • Charles D'Mello, Pangala

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    In this case it looks like parents are at fault. We must also understand their education level. Opposing marriage to a uneducated person is the correct decision the girl has taken. Girl Must not have committed suicide without correcting her parents who lack education (I feel) is not correct. Suicide will not correct the family, it only destroys.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Der Cynthi....
    Athaa Hangaa Phole GHO...
    If he is some distant fellow also there is risk..Yes or no?
    Marriage=Gamble ...Yes or No?
    You have to be a 'Baazigar' in life dear !

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  • Ramakrishna. A., MANGALORE

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Kannada/Telugu film Actress late Saundarya had married the same way that is her maternal uncle inspite of doing the role of liberated woman in many films . This tradition is very coercive even in educated families in old Mysore area & Andhra.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Why is her mother crying?

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  • Langoolacharya, Belman / Washington,DC

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Bhandumam,

    Perhaps she(mother) is feeling guilty.

    Eventhough parents are wrong here,,, perhaps girl could have acted little more wisely...this marrying with maternal uncle is not a healthy habbit but exists for long time.

    I wish she refused to marry uncle and told him and her parents...I dont think at this age nobody can force anybody to marry ....

    I feel sorry for girl and her parents as well.

    RIP Bharathi...

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  • G Z T Kunte, Udupi

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    YES ! Only the Bride Groom alias maternal uncle should be Crying, because now he will not get any other bride.

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  • jesse, manglore kuwait

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Parents r responsible for her death I saw in many houses parents r very much interested in their children's marriage, let them allow their children to enjoy their life and marry as per their choice and some people they don't want to marry and parents do forcible marriage and later they suffer. Parents leave ur children alone.

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  • Vincilla, Kemmannu/Texas - USA

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    What is with our Indian families, build your daughters with good education and to be independent, allow her to pursue her dreams and wishes. Why is that when your daughter reaches to be in her 20's, parents think of their daughters as a burden and want to marry her off thinking thats the end of their responsibility...there is more to life than bein married and dependant.

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  • Cynthia, Moodbidri

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    I don't get it how parents choose, marry with close relative ? There is a genetic risk !

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  • Walter, Bajpe/USA

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Ending the life by sucide is not an answer to parent' demands. An engineering student, by her/his education is learning to solve problems. Indeed Barati had a problem at home. The solution, being an engineer, is to leave home start a new life away from home until the parents come to their senses. Sucide or killing is never a solution to life problems. All those parents shall promote their children to life partners in the school, where they comes across partners of their choice. Relegion, cast, creed, family wealth have no place in the society we live in. We should assist our children's dreams come true that is progress and advancement. We hope the parents learnt from this tragic event. Even students also should learn to follow their free will and communicate with their parents well in advance so that the family is togehter in making the decision.

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  • Leslie fernandes, Brahmagiri, Udupi

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    DEAR BROTHER STAN,
    WELL SAID.
    EXTREMELY DISTURBED BY THE DEATH OF OUR DAUGHTER.
    ATTACHMENT TO ANY WORDLY THINGS LEADS TO IMMEASURABLE PAIN.
    CAN WE EVER WIPE THE EVERFLOWING TEARS OF THE MOTHER?
    NEVER EVER.
    GREED IS THE CAUSE FOR MISERY.

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  • vashal, Mangalore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Morality is disappearing Reason why this chaos everywhere.

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  • shagird, mangalore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    this is one such case.there will be many such girls as well as boys who have been made to compromise because of family property interests.greed has no limits.the family paid a very high price.

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  • Praveen Kumaresh, Bengaluru.

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    This age old tradition of marrying maternal uncle ( mother's real brother) should be stopped, because in most of such cases the age gap is too much and girl is more educated than boy. This tradition exists only in Karnataka, Andhra and T.N only. This tradition of marrying sister's daughter is also discouraged by Doctors as children born to such couple inherits many mental ailments .
    Luckily such system is not prevalent in coastal Karnataka.

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  • Ronald Aloysius, Bejai

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Her mother wanted her daughter to get married to her own brother???

    or just give away daughter to brother?
    is this one kind of human slavery or human trafficking ?

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  • Jacobnelson, Bejai

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    now daughter is no more
    she can give away everything to her brother.

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  • stan, dubai

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    In my great India Ladies always thinks about their family, i.e. her mother, Her Sister,Her brother because of her selfless love to her family she will give trouble to others i.e. Husband, Children etc.

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  • Jacobnelson, Bejai,Mangaore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    noted but not all only few percent.

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  • Jacobnelson, Bejai

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    These Reddys greedy for wealth.

    ''
    ಕಾಸಿನ ದುರಾಶ
    ಅಧಿಕಾರದ ದುರಾಶ
    ಕೊನೆಗೆ ಮ್ರಥ್ಯುವೆ ಕಾರಣ
    ಪಾಪ ಕನ್ನೆಯ ದುರ್ಮರಣ
    ಬಗವಂತನಲ್ಲಿ ಬಾರತೀಯ ಆತ್ಮಕ್ಕೆ ಚಿರ ಶಾಂತಿಯನ್ನು ಕೋರುತ್ತೇನೆ
    ''

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  • Pinto, Mlore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Under various sections of IPC
    No parent can force their wards into marriage before / after they have attained a marriageable age . Age is Different for boys and girls.
    If they do they can be booked.

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  • Pint, Mlore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Forced marriage cont............................The consent of both the parties is necessary. Another adult cannot consent on their behalf. The granting of consent can be disputed or challenged in a court of law. India does not have a specific law banning forced marriages. However, it recognizes forced marriages as a violation of basic human rights.

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  • Jacobnelson, Bejai

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Before marriage parents force
    After marriage in in- laws force
    To bring inn more& more crores

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  • Amin Bhoja, Patte / Riyadh

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    A forceful marriage and it's dreadful results!!.

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  • Charles D'Mello, Pangala

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Parents must know what is important. Property remaining in the family or Daughters life...!!!????

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  • stan, dubai

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    What a great country we have. Muslims can get marry at the age of 18 and Muslim can have 4 wife's, Hindu have a traditions to marry their uncle etc etc. We are called Indians when a other caste marries other cast we will kill them.Realty India is great country.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    blame it all on uneducated COMMUNAL guys without education....

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  • Aslam uk, Abudabi,Mangalore

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Conclusion is, "JEEVAKKINTHA HANAVE MUKYA"... They paid for it

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  • Nawaz Ismail Moolur, Al Jubail

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Very big wrong decision by Bharathi in Bharath desh..Educated people should not decide like this crime..If she is not willing to marry him then she has to be discuss more deeply with the parents again and again then 100 percent the parents were accept..
    whoever going to take this act just think so many times yourself dont be a foolish, life is very precious, make good deeds atleast to your family, dont neglect.

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  • VIJU, KUDLA

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    I REALLY FEEL VERY SAD FOR THE GIRL....RIP

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  • CYRIL MASCARENHAS, KIREM/MIRA ROAD/DUBAI

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    IN ONE WAY BHARATI,YOU HAVE WELDONE..INSTEAD OF LIVING IN THIS DIRTY WORLD YOU NOW RELIEVED FROM ALL TENSION..BUT WE ARE SORRY FOR YOU SUCH A YOUNG LIFE YOU ENDED..GOD MAY FORGIVE YOU AND GRANT YOU ETERNAL LIFE WE WISH..

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  • ISMAIL.K.PERINJE, PERINJE-YANBU/KSA

    Fri, Jul 05 2013

    Utter foolishness from the deceased parent.She was Engg student her would be an uneducated!!!!?Forcing to marry matured women that also against her will is indeed stupid and ridiculous.May soul rest in peace.

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