Mangalore: Patriarchal mindset should change: Kalpana Sharma


Mangalore: Patriarchal mindset should change: Kalpana Sharma

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Daijiworld Media Network – Mangalore (DV)

Mangalore, Sep 12: “After the rape of physiotherapy student in Delhi and of a photojournalist in Mumbai, the issue of violence against women is being seriously discussed throughout the country. Today, the phrase ‘women empowerment’ remains just a cliché. There is a need to discuss and change the mindset of men. Men’s perspective of viewing a woman as a commodity has to change,” said Kalpana Sharma, columnist and independent journalist.

She was addressing a UGC-sponsored national conference on ‘Education and Women Empowerment’ jointly organized by St Ann’s College of Education and state department of women and child development, held at St Ann’s College here on Thursday September 12.

She further said, “Those who have involved in sexual assaults against women are mostly teenagers. It is time we contemplated how boys are brought up in society. Studies have also found that most of the men commit violence against women as they feel they have sexual entitlement or as a form of punishment. Therefore patriarchal mindset should change. Society is trapped with stereotyped notion of ‘Masculinity’ which should be cleared. Today, women have started to think as well as dream big. Women have contributed to various fields. Even in sports they have achieved a lot."

In her key note address, Ammu Joseph, an independent journalist and writer said, “The situation is probably not very different here in Dakshina Kannada, which as far as I know has traditionally boasted higher women’s literacy rates and educational levels than elsewhere in Karnataka. News reports about moral policing in and around Mangalore over the past few years suggest that patriarchal mindsets are very much prevalent here, with various groups presuming to enforce their outdated notions concerning appropriate behaviour for the young and especially young women.

"Dowry deaths is one of the first issues of gender-based violence I had dealt with early in my career in 1970’s and early 80’s. It may not convince me that education leads to women empowerment. Many of the victims of what was known as ‘bride-burning’ were educated young women married to men from supposedly educated, middle class families. Unfortunately, education did not stand in the way of avaricious husbands and in-laws who either tortured or actually murdered these women who had entered their families in good faith. The census of India 2011 revealed that the child sex ratio had dropped from 927 females to 1000 males in 2001 to 914 females," she said.

Commenting on media’s focus on women she said, “Essentially the latest GMMP reveals that both globally and in this country many aspects of news coverage need to change, if society is to be realistically and accurately portrayed, and if women are to be proportionally and fairly represented in the media. At present, women comprise half or more of the global human population, but they constitute less than a quarter of news sources.”

Dr SR Leonilla Clair Menezes, principal of St Ann’s College of Education spoke on this occasion.

Dr Sr M Shalini AC, superior of St Ann’s Convent, Dr Shashikala A, co-coordinator were present.

Dr Padmavathi M, associate professor of the college welcomed the gathering.

  

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  • john, udupi

    Sat, Sep 14 2013

    bcos people like u r sitting at home n cribbing. y does not all parties agree to 50 % reservation for women in police and other forces. reservation is must for women since they make 50%

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Fri, Sep 13 2013

    Juliet Mai..
    Theyn Asondee...
    Puthachee 'Disht',(Drishti) Kashen Asaa?? Mageer ek' Beauty lies in eyes of beholder' Monthaat Naigee?
    Tashen asonk Puro...Thaaka 'Beast' , Beauty Zavoon Dislyaar Haaven Kaalen Korche??Naigee??

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  • Vincent Rodrigues, Katapadi/Bangalore

    Fri, Sep 13 2013

    I fully agree with Mr.Ramachandra Kini of Mangalore about the main cause for the present situation.The woman nowadays are keen to have empowerment which is a mismatch for the family security.Hope things will improve if we properly train our youth.Thanq.

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  • Ramchandra Kini, Mangalore

    Thu, Sep 12 2013

    Because of the Patriarchal society in India that families stood together. Today because Women wanted Empowerment, the heavy rise in Divorce cases. Do the Women want that ? What is the state of the Children ? Aren't the children innocentof the ego of their parents ?

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  • Abdul Sattar, Mangalore

    Fri, Sep 13 2013

    Do Women want to follow a matriarchal society / culture ? This has brought in a lot of divorce cases. In Mangalore itself the rate is very high. Thanks also to Women's Empowerment. Innocent children are caught in the cross fire of a failed marriage.

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  • Abdul Sattar, Mangalore

    Fri, Sep 13 2013

    Please Note : The percentage of divorces ( since the past 10 years ) has increased even in the Muslim community.

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  • Gladys Mudarth, Mangalore/Canada

    Thu, Sep 12 2013

    Grandmothers and mothers married in the 20th century when there was
    dowry, arranged marriages so on and so forth. Bridegrooms were from 8 to 80 or even 90. Now divorce at the of a hat, black money, apartments, cars.
    Ha ha ha

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  • Alok Nath, Bengaluru

    Thu, Sep 12 2013

    The education and jobs have given the sense of security to women. Earlier they marrying off girls was thought as settling and security even though the husband was good or not. Now because of the surity and security of life girls are in a position to demand the kind of man they want. Even the wedding and settling is not the priority, they even preffer to be singles. So even many parents do not mind having only girl children. But of course many people preffer male child and go for aborting the girl which is very unfortunate.

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  • juliet mascarenhas, bejai mangalore

    Thu, Sep 12 2013

    Bhandarkar mamoo,
    Marli shendi. Kasal chaang census study mahraya.Pray dosh munon distha.
    80's ani 90'santhu disht laike asleli.Thedna 100:85 chelio chend disthali. 23 varsa nanthar 150:33 chalio chand disthath.Henth census mugelia putha lagi nimgiliar 33blm asle kaden 150glf asath muntha.

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  • P.Sheela Shenoy, Bangalore

    Sat, Sep 14 2013

    Most of the speakers on the dais are spinsters / nuns.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Thu, Sep 12 2013

    The in ratio of Females per 1000 Males is a fact. I think it is much less than 914. Moreover good looking females are not be seen at all.For example in the 80's and 90's you could see 85 good looking females for 100 bad looking males...Now the number in 2013 has dwindled to 33 G.L. Females for 150 bad looking Males! I also do 'census study' sometimes and with a clear sense.
    In many a brahmin community nowadays 'brides' are hard to find and this is a reality.'Would be grooms'who commanded handsome dowry and all that are ready to'shell out' anything for a good bride. How times have changed! And for those boys residing in villages it has become doubly difficult. Girls residing in villages too want a 'whiff of fresh air' and want to settle in cities.
    With all this development think the mindset about 'females' is slowly going to change and they will be treasured for all their worth. Very fast changes noticed
    in this aspect with Inter Caste marriages, Shudh Live-In Romances(?) and all being in vogue.
    All in all developments seem to hold the edge for the 'Feminine Fraternity'and they they seem to hold all the 'Four Aces', if they were not holding it already!

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  • Ronald Pinto, Belman

    Sat, Sep 14 2013

    These sort of conferences act as a catalyst for divorces. The percentage is very high compared to the 1980's / 1990's. Women's Empowerment is the real cause of such high rate in divorces. This is my personal view. No need for anyone to get offended.

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