Karkala: Alleged torture by in-laws in Muscat drives woman to suicide


Karkala: Alleged torture by in-laws in Muscat drives woman to suicide

R B Jagadish
Daijiworld Media Network – Karkala (EP)

Karkala, Oct 9: A newly-married woman on Wednesday October 9 committed suicide by hanging, allegedly due to cruelty meted out by her husband and in-laws.

The deceased is identified as 23-year-old Reshma. She was the only daughter of retired Syndicate bank official B M Iqbal and Shahida.

Reshma married Asif of Hangarkatte on June 9 this year.  She had gone to Muscat with her husband Asif after twenty days of their marriage. However, she came back on October 7, all by herself.  She reportedly told her parents about her troubled married life on October 8 and committed suicide by hanging from a fan on October 9.

Reshma who was born into a well-to-do family had done her BA from SVT College. She had married Belvai Abdul Fasook three years ago. The disputes between them ended in their divorce.  She stayed with her parents after the marriage broke.

Hangarkatte resident Asif was living with his parents Mehrunnisa and Ismail in Muscat. He married Reshma saying that his first wife Shiba had died due to cancer. With the consent of Reshma's parents, they got married on June 9 after which Asif took her to Muscat.

Asif's parents and his first wife's son Ashraf stayed with the newly-married couple in Muscat. Asif's family allegedly ill-treated Reshma and did not allow her to be with Asif, it is said. She was served food in the bathroom and was made to do all the housework, it is alleged. She was insulted and called lazy in front of Asif.  As their complaints increased, Asif allegedly started beating her. It is said that she had told her parents about the torture over the phone. Reshma then came back to India on October 7, all by herself.  Her parents said that she used to weep over the phone while explaining the agony she was going through in Muscat.

Reshma left behind a death note in which she blamed Asif and her in-laws for her suicide, stating that she had been treated like 'servant' by his family.


Tahsildar to investigate the case

If a woman commits suicide within seven years of marriage, the tahsildar conducts investigation.  As per IPC 498, tahsildar Manikya will conduct the investigation.  After obtaining statements from the brother of the deceased Hakil, father Iqbal and mother Shahida Banu, a report will be submitted to assistant sub-divisional officer Yogishwar against her husband Asif, mother-in-law and father-in-law.

 A case has been registered in the local police station.

  

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  • ishrath, hyderabad

    Wed, Jul 16 2014

    perpetrators won't find solace or peace, neither here nor in the hereafter if they are really guilty. taking a woman's life due to such torture is seen by allah(SWT) if not by others. let us watch if she get's justice in this world, if not in this world then in the world hereafter will she definitely get justice. Allah the Almighty is the best hearer and knower of all things. she just din't die for nothing, dear aqeel just wait, god will show them in this world itself.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Sat, Aug 09 2014

    Thank you very much. We still waiting for justice.

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  • Asif, Brahmavar

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Dear Syndicate Bank Staff, please just don't comment because Reshmas father is your colleague at your branch. Instead carefully understand the case and you will have a clear picture. Its again i reiterate that whatever people are commenting for Reshma and against Asif is just one sided one. You all will know the truth very soon. Please wait and watch for the time being ...........

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  • NADEEM, Mangalore / Dubai

    Sun, Nov 17 2013

    How long you want us to wait and watch? We all know the truth only if Asif face legal battle....

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    I don’t feel to reply to a nameless person.But this about my sister I will reply. When you see a prey alone, weak everyone will take advantage, same happens to my sister. You are right “Men cannot be wrong in all cases.. “ But, not in case of Asif. You should hear Sheeba’s (Asif’s first wife) parent. You should read my sister’s death note. You my feeling sympathy!!!. What you heard about 14 pages is right. But nothing in it, all unwanted papers / pages. If you like to read, I can send to you, give me your email id. What may media can do !!!. Asif and his family are now underground – same like genuine criminals.

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  • Anonymus, Madras/Muscat

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    What I heard is Reshma was divorced by her first husband, then married again, went to Muscat.., again divorced by second Husband… Don't feel sympathy for these kind of people anyway… Men cannot be wrong for all cases..

    The allegations put here and shown in media is one sided, what I heard is that the 14 pages document with actual happenings in Muscat is never shown to public.

    let us all Allow the law decide what is truth……

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  • SYNDICATE BANK NAKRE, NAKRE

    Wed, Nov 06 2013

    We all deeply condole for the sudden demise of Reshma Karkala D/O Our beloved staff Mr. B M Iqbal, working in Syndicate Bank Nakre.
    We condemn this brutal torture against women,especially Reshma.Those culprits behind this Azif, Ismail and mehruneesa natives of Hungarcutta,Kundapura, Udupi Dist.Karnataka,India now resides in Muscat have to be immediately booked and hanged so many more lives will be saved.

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  • GTS, Udyvr

    Fri, Nov 01 2013

    Dear Aqeel,
    pray for your sis. and believe in Allha. if law and order dint punish them Allha is there to see to it and punish them Insha allha.
    Your sis mother in law didn't look after her own mother when she was at her end stage, then how come she take care of other girl? May Allha guide all.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Sun, Nov 03 2013

    Thank, Inshallah

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  • Asif, Brahmavar

    Tue, Oct 29 2013

    Dear Aqeel, action will not be taken against innocent people.By just putting allegation that dosn't mean that police will take action against them.God always stands with truth.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Tue, Oct 29 2013

    Twenty day passed. Till now nothing had happen. This is what happens in India. One girl takes her life due to cruelty of her husband and in-laws – no action from our police and government. There is no humanity left in this world.

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  • Rajesh, Mangalore

    Sun, Nov 03 2013

    The fact / truth might have not told to all Media,NEWS, Public. Media,NEWS will publish whatever told to them in general. When it comes out the fact, then the culprits will get the punishment. That time whole world will get the clear picture of her suicide. Simply blaming or writing comments will not decide the case. Truth Always Wins

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  • Hassan, Dubai

    Mon, Oct 21 2013

    Seems like Asif is buying time and asking everyone here to forget.
    But Dear Asif, you are doing this 2nd time . people will not forget you.

    Whatever you come up with your side story, you need to understand that you cant ever marry and destroy one more girl's life.

    Also you must understand that you need to answer god after death.

    My kind request with you is ask forgiveness with Reshma's family and just start a new life and finish this topic.

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  • asif, Brahmavar

    Mon, Oct 21 2013

    Exactly correct what you say. Truth will come out very soon. Just wait and watch...........

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Sun, Oct 20 2013

    We will not leave our hope. We have to see what our police and Indian law dose. We will fight till Asif and his family gets death penalty. Let Asif and his family first come to Indian instead of giving comments. Asif and his family are guilty of Reshma, so his father escaped back to Oman on the day of Reshma’s suicide. Even they did not come for Reshma’s funeral. We will not keep quite. We will fight for justice. We need suggestion from readers on this issue.

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  • Asif, Brahmavar

    Sun, Oct 20 2013

    Dear Salman.You please wait and watch. Thats all i can say for time being.........

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  • Salman Dubai, Salman

    Thu, Oct 17 2013

    We are waiting for Asif Side truth as he has mentioned. As i feel Asif has nothing to say. TV9 has shown all the truth yesterday.

    Please Asif Grow up

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  • kasim, Dubai

    Thu, Oct 17 2013

    Those who missed the TV9 report. Now and then they keep repeating the report. Or google it and see the history of TV9 to see the reording.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Thu, Oct 17 2013

    Truth about this case also been disclosed on TV9 and SUVARNA NEWS 24 X 7 yesterday.

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  • Ameen, kundapura

    Sun, Oct 20 2013

    One fine day the same news channel will telecast the Truth about this case . Till that time Asif will be Villan and Aqeel will be Hero. Lot of Comments and sympathy from the unknown persons. Truth always wins.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Tue, Nov 12 2013

    Dear Ameen, kundapura, I am not a Hero. Hero's sister won't die. If I was a Hero, i could have saved my sister. I am not Hero.

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  • mohammed iqbal, udupi/ dubai

    Thu, Oct 17 2013

    MR. Haneef Shaikh did u.notice that for ur acknowledgment to Mr. Khan for his comment there are few disagree. Poor Asif grow up

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  • Haneef Sheik, udupi

    Wed, Oct 16 2013

    Well said Mr.Khan.

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  • Valeem Khan, Mangalore/ Qatar

    Tue, Oct 15 2013

    Dear Hanif Sheik,

    "Agree" or "Disagree" can be done by one person using different computers.

    So we can be deceived with just what we see with people agreeing to the comments favoring Asifs side.

    So we cant just judge with number of "Agree" or "Disagree's".

    Conclusion: Any number of comments can be written by one person with different email ids.

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  • Haneef Sheik, udupi

    Tue, Oct 15 2013

    Mr. Asif thinks that he has won the case with the help of his sympathizers in the media. Bear in mind, this is not a media trial.

    Those people who comment in favour of As if must know that no one would kill himself/herself unless and until the situation in which the person is living is not worth living.

    Reshma was constantly humiliated, beaten, threatened, held at ransom psychologically and worst of all the ultimatum of divorce. All these happened within four months of her marriage of which two months in Muscat.

    Asif feels safe by living in another country where Indian laws do not apply. His ignorance leeds him to live in a fools paradise. Now for him and his parents the law of Oman apply.

    Best thing for Asif and his parents is to present themselves before the law enforcing agencies in India and seek forgiveness from Allah Almighty and forgiveness from the family of Reshma.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Mon, Oct 14 2013

    Until Asif and his family don’t face investigation of Indian police truth won’t come out and as per the death note they are guilty.

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  • Valeem, Mangalore

    Mon, Oct 14 2013

    Until the great mass of the people shall be filled with the sense of responsibility for each other's welfare, social justice can never be attained.

    So please share the news in Facebook. Let the truth wins.

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  • Asif, Brahmavar

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Yes. What u heard is correct. Truth will come out very soon.Without knowing actual picture people are commenting left right. Wait.... All will get answer

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  • Salman Dubai, Udupi

    Thu, Oct 17 2013

    We are waiting for Asif Side truth as he has mentioned. As i feel Asif has nothing to say. TV9 has shown all the truth yesterday.

    Please Asif Grow up.

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  • sheikh, udupi / Muscat

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    The report published here is completely againt the truth as i know the boys family. Wait till the police finds the truth behind this whole story.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    On the day of Reshma suicide we informed Asif's father and Asif also. If they are not guilty or if they are good peoples why they did not came to see Reshma's dead body or why they run back to Muscat. You are right, we are all waiting for police investigation. To complete police investigation Asif and his family should visit India. Let them come to India and tell police all the truth.

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  • Anonymus, Madras/Muscat

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Dear Aqeel,

    Your words itself is contradicting, she came back on October 7, all by herself. is it true..??? what I heard is that the divorce was signed by witness as per Islamic law on 06th Oct in Muscat... the fact remains....we need to wait for the final judgment for the supreme authority..

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Asif's father and Reshma came to India on 07.10.2013. on 09.10.2013 around 8.00 am we told Asif's father about Reshma's death. Asif's father sent divorce on 09.10.2013 11.00 am via post. We received copy on 10.10.2013.

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  • Iqbal, Karkala

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    If Asif and his family are good / innocent why they did not came to see his wife’s dead body. Why he does not face us and police. Why his father runway? Why Asif is not coming to India?. Why did he send divorce letter after two days of Reshma’s death. We are all waiting police investigation report. Allah should bring the truth in front of us and Reshma should get justice.

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  • NADEEM, MANGALORE / DUBAI

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Let Asif and his parents come to India and face the legal battle if they want to prove themselves innocent ....

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  • Sunil, Muscat

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    If Asif and his family are good / innocent why they did not came to see his wife’s dead body. Why he does not face parents and police. Why his father runway? Why Asif is not coming to India?. Why did he send divorce letter after two days of Reshma’s death. We are all waiting police investigation report. God should bring the truth in front of us and Reshma should get justice.

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  • NADEEM, Mangalore / Dubai

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Get in touch with Asif's first wife's parents and people will understand the torture Reshma and his first wife went through...... Necessary actions should be taken immediately to avoid such incidents in future....

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  • mohammed iqbal, udupi/ dubai

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Dear iqbal
    Whatever u try ur daugher will not come back atleast u can give security n safety to young girls who r getting marriage sooner or later by punishing asif family as well as farzookfirst husband of reshma. If u succeceed in doing it will be great favour to our daughters. Dont give up whole country with you.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Dear Rajesh, Mangalore/Muscat
    All womens /girls are not our Servants. I have clearly written in my comments that she was threatened as a servant / slave (which were also mentioned in her death note). Cooking food, taking care of house etc, every women dose that. We no need to tell any women this. Asif did not keep her like a wife in his house. Womens /girls are not our servants. They make our house. I was with her 1 and 1/2 day after her arrival from Muscat, I have talked her directly.

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  • NP,

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Aqeel, Karkala
    Contact asif's first wife parents(Gangolli). Asif family tortured their daughter earlier. Asif family have a case in court regarding that. I dont know asif personally but his mother is wicked woman and I am sure of all that happened to reshma.

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  • reshma Azeem, karkala

    Sun, Oct 13 2013

    Mr.Asif and his parents should be severly punished for what they have done so that no other innocent girl fall prey to them.

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  • mohammed iqbal, dubai

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    Dear Iqbal and Ateeq

    Its with a very painful heart that I extend my sympathies and prayers towards you and your family. We understand your pain and to have had your own suffer and end her life due to the trauma is beyond acceptance...
    We pray you get extended support from all the sources possible and insha allah justice rendered. If we can be of any help to you please do let us know..we would be more than happy to do our bit.

    With prayers always,
    Mohamed Iqbal

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  • haneef sheik, udupi

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    DearAqeel and Iqbal,
    We all sypatize with you.
    First of all you must understand how the system works in India, but do not lose hope, justice prevails.
    You may do any or all of the following.
    - hire a smart and honest criminal lawyer immediately.
    - approach your MLA, no matter which party he belongs to.
    - get in touch with human rights organization.
    - involve women's rights organization.
    - inform Superidentant of Police.
    - send yr grievances to DC.
    - involve media directly as much as possible. Electronic, print and TV.
    - send a copy of relevant documents to the home minister.
    Surely, Iqbal, you will find a way to justice. Losing hope will become strength of the culprit.
    We all await justice as much as you.
    Ultimately the final judgment must be left to Allah Almighty. Until then people with conscience and good Samaritans will have their concerns with you and yr family.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    Dear haneef sheik, Thanks for your comments.

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  • Azeem, Karkala

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    I totally agree with you but we need to find ways to put them behind bars through legal channel so that someone else should not loose their daughter.

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  • SAM, udupi

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    dear readers, I know Asif's family verry well & these people are responsible for this.keep behind the bars all of his family.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    Dear SAM, Myself Iqbal – father of late Resham. Our Indian law is very slow. I don’t know when our police will arrest this family. We received FIR copy yesterday after 3 days of her suicide. Still charge sheet has not been submitted by police. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have any hope – that Reshma will get justice from our Indian Govt.

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  • fouzia, mangalore l dubai

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    allah will give justice in sha allah ..he will never betray you keep hopes very soon the wrong person who ever it is wrong shall be behind the bar just keep patience

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  • Amin Bhoja, Patte / Riyadh

    Fri, Oct 11 2013

    It looks like her first marriage a failed one and her second marriage a fatal one !!!. A ill-fated marriage on both times!!.'May her soul rest in peace'.

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  • NP, barku

    Fri, Oct 11 2013

    Aqeel Karkala
    This family earlier tortured one girl that is his first wife. However she died of cancer but was supposed to leave him becoz of ill treating and beating. His first wife was from Gangolli. Asif's father is a gentleman but his mother is the root of all evil things hapenning. Aqeel my sympathy is with you

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  • Arif, Muscat.

    Fri, Oct 11 2013

    I completely agree with Rajesh, Mangalore & Asif, Brahmavar. The story is completely different than what is published here. It Is not fair to blame her husband & in-laws without knowing the truth behind. It will come out soon, so plz guys wait till that to comment. Thanks....

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  • jaya, udupi- banneje

    Fri, Oct 11 2013

    FRST OFALL I PRAY WTH ALLAH GIVE A JANNAH FOR HER... MOTHER-IN-LAW (SOME) NEVER THINK THIER DAUGHTER - IN -LAW ALSO SAME LIKE THIER DAUGHTER... THEY THINK ONLY ABOUT THEIR DAUGHTER .. SHE ONLY NEED TO STAY HAPPY WITH HER HUSBAND AT ANY COST... BUT DAUGHTER -IN-LAW NO SHE DONT WANT STAY HAPPY WITH HUSBAND .. THEY NEVER ALLOW, ALWAYS GIVES TENSE.TENSE.. BEHAVING FRONT OF THE PEOPLE THEY NOT DO ANYTHING THEY VERY GOOD WITH HER... BUT INSIDE THERE IS BIG DRAMA ...NEED MONEY MONEY MONEY ONLY...THEIR SON IS ONLY PROPERTY FOR THEM ... HE IS NOT A PROPERTY OF WIFE... HE OR THEY MAKE HER AS A HOUSEMAID.. WHY THEY NOT THINK THIER DAUGHTER AND DAUGHTER IN- LAW ALSO SAME ... WHY THIS PEOPLE BEHAVING BAD WAY...THEY NEVER AFRAID WITH GOD... EVEN HER HUSBAND NOT THE TRUE MAN..HE IS GAY.. HE NEVER STAY BEHIND HER OR NEVER STAND ALONE TO SAVE HIS WIFE..WHEN WRONG HAPPNED THERE,THAT TIME THEY WILL CREATE NEW STORY ABOUT THE WIFE.. THEY BLAME HER AS MUCH THEY CAN..HE WILL LISTEN ONLY FATHER AND MOTHER ... WHY LIKE THAT PEOPLE NEED TO MARRY SOME INNOCENT GIRL AND SPOIL THEIR LIFE.. WHY THY NOT THINK THAT GIRL ALSO HAVE HEART..HAVE DREAM.. SHE LEAVING HER LOVING PARENTS ,LOVING BROTHERS SISTERS AND WALK WITHHIM TO MAKE A NEW FAMILY HER OWN... BUT THIS MOTHER-IN-LAWS AND FATHER - IN - LAWS AND INCLUDING HUSBAND BURN HER DREAMS AND TOO HER BODY... BECUASE OF MONEY ...MONEY...MONEY ...MONEY(MS RITA .. YOUR COMMENTMENT IS TRUE)

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  • Manoj Shetty, Mangalore

    Fri, Oct 11 2013

    Every detail is explained in the facebook.

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  • Anonymus, Mangalore

    Fri, Oct 11 2013

    I read some of the comments that why didn't she discuss with her family and do this and that? A person who is going through mental torture can't think right. Her family wasn't supportive of her to return to the family . What right does a mother-in-law have to tell her son not to be in the same room when they are married? She wants money for them being together? Is she running a business? How would she feel if she was treated the same way? She definitely should be punished and the husband shouldn't be allowed to marry again and spoil some other girl's life. As I read in one of the comment that they should put her husband and mother in law's pic on the news so they can be famous...

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  • mubin, karkala

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Dear rajesh u r writing too much as u were leaving with them. u know everyting whats going on inside their house? If you want know more about them please listen the parents of aasif's previous wife. Then u should know reality of whom you concern.If in the place of reshma ur sister get same torture yo would realise what is in-laws torture.

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  • Asif, Brahmavar

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Some comments are passed here are one sided one without knowing other end.Comments made by Rajesh Mangalore is correct one.Since she wanted Asifs son and his parents not to stay with them and she wanted Asif alone with her which was not possible.He being only son how could he take such steps? She was safely ped to her parents house and they have insulted her saying she is not getting adjusted with new husband.If she was that tensed they should have taken care long back and why they waited till this tragedy? Please understand from Asifs mental agony which he is passing through for no reason. He married to Reshma taking her confidence that she has to take care of his son and family for which she went against.

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  • J S,

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    All sisters should read comments made by Sister Ruby D'souza, Mangalore/Dubai.
    I pray for all sisters that Allha give courage, sabr and protection ..ameen

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  • sumi, basrur

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    i agree with Asia, secondly would like to add few points here, better to inform all parents about this cruel family who tortured a innocent soul. so that no parents will give one more girl to this rakshas in his life again..

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  • christine, manglore/kuwait

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    sad tragedy Let this not happen any other Girls.
    she was emotionally broken before, may still scared how second will work, there instead of positive she got negative people, instead of understanding and adjust her they ruled, harassed, controlled and try to put her in servant place and husband is also under control of parents,again broke and could'nt over come situation, husband planed well.
    when girl was growing if she was independently than she goes husband family stay with joint it will take time to adjust, here in-law has to try first rather than girl, they are elder lived life have experience..all girls are not strong, in emotional. even if she don’t know to work, cook in love she can learn day by day, instead of harrase and ruled,controled if they adjusted with her with love and understanding than life may saved, even she couldent adjust than later she can separate from them too.
    girls parents must think of their feature when they grow they have to learn house work cooking, because when they marry fulfill their responsibility, it is not mean they go wealthy family have servants they no need to do, time may change. white is not only milk, like that up down, struggle come they has to work in patiently if they know they can handle situations.

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  • Kavita, Mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    I am completely agree with you Fouzia. and my question is also the same like yours. WHY THE IN-LAWS DONT TREAT THEIR SONS WIFE AS THEIR OWN DAUGHTER?

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  • Kamath, Karkala

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Dear Mr. Nazareth, you are master in writing complains and win the case right? Why can't u go and do some social work

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  • Lavin Noronha, Paladka

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Here the problem is as Manish Shetty said a open heart..some wives think after marriage husbands are their personal property, they behave like "MY WAY IF NOT NO WAY" these types of attitudes create friction. If everyone learns to love and forgive i am sure there will not be any problems.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Myself brother of Reshma, This morning a register post in the name of Reshma came to our door steps (divorce letter) as Reshma was not present / death that letter went back. Copy of same received by Reshma’s father with all fake reasons from Asif.

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  • Kavita, Mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Reminded me about my past. Samething happend with me, when I got married. I thought of committing suicide so many times but I had a sweet sis-in-law who was very sweet and bcoz of her support I am alive today with my beautiful twins and husband. Why the in-laws(some) treat their sons wife also like their daughter. Atleast the mother-in-law? The daughter-in-law expects lot from her...

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  • Zahoor Ahmed, Karkala

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Well said Sister Asiya.

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  • Ruby D'souza, Mangalore/Dubai

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Really I feel very sorry for Reshma. May her soul rest in peace.
    Even I had gone through more agony than Reshma in my life from my Husband, mother-in-law, father-in-law & from my sister-in-laws. They were torturing me every moment like a slaves & i was working like a slaves in their house.And there was no back up from my fly. I used to explain with my Mom, brother & sisters. But no body was there to console me & nobody has dare to ask with my in laws about their torture.I used to cry every day literally, but no one was there to listen my cry.I am having 1 son he is small he is staying in Mangalore. Still I cannot meet & talk to my son, no proper shelter to stay in Mangalore. B'coz for my son's sake i did not commit suicide. I took courage to Live & sacrificed my full life for my son's sake.Now my son is with my husband. At present I am working in Dubai, My precious Lord Jesus Christ heard my prayer & cry,he lifted me up from the sorrowful grave and gave me strength to live a bold courageous life.
    So my dearest married siters, I will suggest you, plz do not commit suicide live independently,boldly and courageously in front of your husband,in laws & in the society.If u die you will be the loser. Pray constantly to God to give comfort and strength in your life. When you call Lord of God sincerely from your heart, surely he answer your prayers & rescue you from the hands of evil spirits and set you free from all the dangers my dear sisters and you will get victory.

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  • Rita, Germany

    Fri, Oct 11 2013

    @Ruby d souza Dubai,dear sis.,as you said ,not everyone is not fit or has the stability to bear the torture of in-laws or husband.Mostly you see the torture to newly wed Girls in other community .Preveously it was more in katholicfamily. but recently its better so far I know.And poor Girls who are new in house not only badly treated by husbands also by in laws.Naturally husband believes parents.Here the Girl who had the agony once and seeing it repeating again must have seen no other way than ending life.Of course men find Girls fault.otherwise why came the letter from husband ? why he himself come to convince the wife .they were married not very Long.that is not the love but may be the Money they were loving.very sad .she didnt find the real love both times.may her Soul find peace in Heaven.

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  • Anonymus, Madras/Muscat

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Dear all,
    We need to take verdict from both of them but its not possible but I agree the statement from Rajesh from muscat as I have myself witnessed all the act and I have mentioned Mr. Mohammed Asif for uploading all the documents concerned on this to media.. so all the people can know what the fact is..

    He had submitted all the relevant documents and the officials have visited the house confirming that she was physically perfect.


    Thanks,

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  • Asiya, Udupi

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Dear Aqeel, Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilaihi rajiwoon-keep faith on the verse and also on Almighty Allah's justice. May Allah Grant Sabr Un Jameel to your family. It is hard to digest but taking sabr on time is called ‘sabr un Jameel
    There are many ladies who were faced and still facing more problems than this but bravely and wisely they are handling and leaving their life for Allahs cause. Even after having 2-3 children also they are adjusting in life. Also they are strongly facing all obstacles and leading successful, peaceful and rightful and respectful life. Your sister was having lot of support from her parents, atleast she could consider their grief and loss. Some ladies without having any support also bravely facing challenges to lead respectful life. We have to live our life as per Allah’s wish and all kind of trials will come just to see how we will handle it and will take sabr and react. If her in-laws are cruel, Allah has all evidence against them and definitely he will give them punishment for duniya and akhirah.Atleast she could have knowledge of this and have watched Allah’s wrath on them then atleast she could take peaceful breath believing Almighty Allah is with her. I know it is very difficult to take sabr but we have to do this because it is Allah’s order. Suicide is haraam in Islam. Sorry, if my comment hurting your feelings but this message is eye opener for all ladies who is facing such problems and planning to take such steps. Duniya is not our destination. To whom we have to sacrifice our valuable life?! for this kind of evil natured people! Is they deserved our life or tears.
    We have to keep death and Allah’s punishment in mind then insha allah everyone will lead good life, Ameen.
    May Allah forgive us.

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  • Manish Shetty, Derebail/Mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Dear Men, Do you want to go to Jail?
    DO you want your family to go to Jail?
    Don't marry just for beauty, s*x, sympathy or favour.
    Marry the right person, Do lot of check before marriage.
    How to know if she is the normal women?
    Before marriage find out if she can cook then she is the right now.

    Why? Women who dont adjust are kind of feminist and hate to slog in the kitchen, They assume womens place is not in the kitchen but the worlds best chefs are men. Women who can cook have a good family who raises her daugther to keep her husband happy and automatically such women are generous and open hearted.
    This is just a test after that you can keep 100 maids to work in kitchen but make sure she can cook.
    Men should learn cooking also, Why?
    Why not? I do, So all should.
    I am saying is a small test which works.
    One more thing if she does everything and keep you happy. Appreciate it say thanks once in a while. Women are next to God.

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  • Rita, Germany

    Fri, Oct 11 2013

    Dear M. Shetty Mangalore,some how you seem to be having a pretty bad idea about women or experienced some? why should always Girls/women learn cooking and serving men like you´? For a Change what about men also learn cooking to help their wives suppose they fall sick.you know nowadays you cant get maids .We as outsider cant say what exactly happened in this Special case.A woman doesnt simply sueside without very big Problem.Not everybody has this guts to face Troubles.since she was already a burnt-out Person and faces the same Problem again with physical torture that too when one Person is sick (not mentally)was may be too much to bear.All verses from Koran and Bible and so wont come to help in such stage. Good luck if you are looking for one.

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  • Manish Shetty, Derebail/Mangalore

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    One such example above.

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  • valentine pereira, karkala. Muscat.

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    It's very sad to know about the incident. Being her. Father a bank manger he could have taken a Step to come out the problem but her brother has given a clear statement,.
    We better not blame any one but we must think that mental torture only could made her to take her this step.
    So only we can pray for her Soul may have
    eternal life. Even some called it's sin but atlatlas movement she might have felt that and repented so even we can't say it's sin.
    Condolences to her dear once.

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  • Alex, Mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Investigation in cases like this, where there are two parties involved, Police should use "Lie Detectors" or "Narco test", of the concerned to get a lead in to any case, instead of going in both directions from the beginning.

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  • CYRIL MASCARENHAS, KIREM/MIRA ROAD/BOMBAY

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    YHA ALLAH..VERY SAD.WHY SHE HAS TAKEN THIS HURSH STEP..? INSTEAD SHE SHOULD HAVE COMPLAINED TO POLICE..AND FIND THE SOLUTION..SUICIDE IS THE NOT A SOLUTION FOR EVERY THING..
    ALLAH MAY GRANT HER ETERNAL REST..

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  • Kiran, Mukka/KSA

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    She divorced her first husband, then married again, went to Muscat.. came back alone, studied B.A., she's from a well-to-do family, but she did not know committing suicide is a sin in Islam?? She should've been bold & faced life's challenges & should've been a model to the other women in the society.But beeing an educated lady she was coward. She was treated like a servant in her own house is not the genuine reason for committing suicide I suppose. Don't feel sympathy for these kind of people anyway!

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  • Rajesh, Mangalore/Muscat

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Well said Mr.Manish Shetty,Mangalore:-
    "God Rest her soul.
    Lets see the picture from both side since Fire cannot be caused without oxygen and source. There are some women who are grown where parents are not even making them do anything at home. No house work. Then when they get married even to do a simple task looks like a servant for them. Most of women these days are like this and they expect husband to keep one servant. They dont care if husband earns well or not, If he doesnt they run away like this one. stating torture.
    Since she is already divorced before it seems she is not adjustable kind and something is wrong. Since she could have taken divorce rather than sucide.

    This means she was mentally unsound.
    Matter has to be investigated since these days even if husband stops wife from chatting with strange men its called torture and done for dowry." Unncessasary blaming the Husband and his parents, making the issue more complicated instead of finding solution is not correct. Parents lost their beloved daughter, husband lost his wife.This could have avoided by counseling her.   Her brother Mr.Aqeel,Karkala taken it in negative way,bcoz of personal issue. Precaution is better than cure.

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  • fouzia, mangalore / dubai

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    well i dont agree because here the matter is about her in - laws treating her in a bad way .and not about sms .well because you'll are men you 'll blame girls and we blame men ..which is quite natural ...non of them can be blamed ..and also some time girls try sacrificing just thinking about there parents and when they complain finally girls are blamed ...even if its not here mistake .....we sacrifice every thing after our wedding just to keep hubby and in -laws happy but in return we get al this $#it ..and we expect at least some support for our husbands but they too turn away ...which is really sad :(

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  • Manish Shetty, Derebail/Mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Dear Ms.Fouzia,
    Not all the women. Only 2 % of women are like this. Who are weak. Women is the essence of life and the one who holds the family and adjusts and live happily with whatever god blesses.
    This is why women is great.
    Those who cannot adjust, want job, want money, want luxurious life or love failure cases end up claiming mental torture, dowry etc.
    Those who are weak minded and know they are at fault commit sucide and sometimes kill the kids also to teach the husband a lesson.
    Is this the women what we grew up to admire with? Our mothers were not like this?
    Such women in this generation should not marry due to peer pressure. Why to simply spoil life of a man?
    I am not saying all men are good but MEN CHANGE if women is good hearted.
    Is it that hard to be a good hearted women?

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  • fouzia, mangalore / dubai

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    oki know i 100 % agree with you because your previous comment was just pointing at gilrs now its clear thank you :) peace be upon you and the entire world :)

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  • fouzia, mangalore / dubai

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    we girls leave our parents and go to the new environment with lots of expectations thinking that our in - laws will treat us well and keep us happy . but all this incidents demotivate the youth form getting married with the fear that if they are also treated like this ..its seriously a sad part that women don't understand the pain of other women .. well if she would have taken her parents ,society or the police support i am sure they would help here and also she would have a better life .. she must be given justice and this people must be given 3rd degree torture ..and they must me treated like the same way how they treated reshma ..uff heartless people

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  • DAISY, mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    She should have gone for a divorce than suicide. If she wants to punish her husband, should have filed FIR in Muscat or in Karkal. I feel very sad for her suicide. Let Allah give peace for her departed soul.

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  • Ameen, Mangalore/Muscat

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    She could have taken the other solution for the problems given by her in laws,if is true, instead of this wrong decision. Her wrong action made/created more problems to the husband and his parents. Her parent lost their beloved daughter, which could have avoided by counseling her. Allah knows better

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  • Rajesh, Mangalore/Muscat

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    The real story is different than the published one. Media/ roumors makes the Magic. Upon enquiry came to know that she left the home at muscat(very new place to her) without informing her in-laws or husband.This is not acceptable to anyone. Husband found her and brought to home,informed her parents, about her attitude, parents told they will not accept her if she comes back to their home. Muscat police visited her as per complaints lodged by her parents at karkala. Police found she is OK and complaint is false. they told her parents to take care her for short period as she is required peaceful life. Upon arrival at her home may be pressure from her parents,brothers she might have taken the wrong decision, which is totally wrong. She could have teached a lesson to her husband or inlaws if they are wrong. Truth always Wins

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  • praveen, manchi

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Sad.. In laws should be punished if they their injustice is prooved

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  • Valerian Dsouza, Udupi/Mumbai

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Very Sad incident!
    One innocent is died unable to bear the torture!
    I can imagine, in Muscat she was not able to fight, but in her village, looking at their back ground, she or her parents should have fought the legal battle to teach the demonic people a lesson for life.
    Some brides are at receiving end, some time parents, and in some cases bride grooms also in the hands of manipulators!

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    queen and Reshma his wife like a servant in Oman. On 29.09.2013 night I had made a request with Ruwi Oman Police via phone call from karkala to check the health and safety of Reshma, as Reshma informed us that she was stabbed and beaten by belt by Asif. Ruwi Oman Police visited Asif house and told Reshma to visit her home county for few day and come back. But Asif cancelled her visa and deported her to India saying she had made suicide attempts in Oman and if she commits suicide in Oman he will be in jail. In suicide note Reshma have mentioned the detail and mentioned Asif and her mother in law reason to her suicide. We need justice from Indian Law and Indian Govt. Asif and her mother should get death penalty. I request Daijiworld.com and readers to help us in getting justice.

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  • Alex, Mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    May God rest her Soul in Peace.
    I understand the tragedies to live with in laws specially in Indian culture, specially most of it is for money and money and money, that greed which never ends. It is mental torture and whatever some might say the sad part is this torture creates depression to end life with suicide.
    Hope and Pray you get justice.

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  • Aqeel, Karkala

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Myself brother of Reshma, Reshma age is 26 years and her father is still working in Syndicate bank. On October 7th her father in law brought her to karkala forcefully after cancelling her visa in Oman. When she came to our house she was very thin and weak. Same day I took her to karkala nursing house for checkup. Doctor told she had urine infection. We took medicine for that and Doctor told after completing this medicine she will give some medicine for her physical development. About this urine infection Reshma had told us while her stay in Muscat. Her urine infection was not treated in Muscat for 1 month. 1st husband Firzok and his family give her mental torcher and unfortunately her 2nd husband Asif also made the same with her. On October 7th night, 8th whole day we tried our lave best to understand her problems and tried to give her strength. We told Reshma not to worry we will help and do something for her life and will not leave her alone. Reshma told Asif will be coming in November and we can discuss these issue/problems face to face. Mohammed Asif is Asst. Sales Manager in Rusayl Industrial Estate, Azaiba Sultanate of Oman. My sister was not given proper food to eat. She use to eat her food secretly in night 12.30 to 1.00 pm after all family member sleep or she use to eat food secretly in toilet or bathroom in Muscat. In the early days of marriage her mother in law told marriage gold is very less, we have given more gold to my daughter in her marriage. Her mother in law used to say grooms get only if bride make expenses. Asif mother not allowed Reshma to stay in Asif room and told Reshma, Asif will give girls if he spends 100 riyal in Oman. Reshma use to work whole day and night in that house. Asif did not take care of her wife. Asif let his mother to handle Reshma. Asif did not made any expenses to Reshma, even did not took her to hospital in Oman. Asif was treating his sister and sister’s daughter like a queen and

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  • Rajesh, Mangalore/Muscat

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Whatever happened is not correct. the decision taken by Resma is not correct. Findout the truth from both side. Blinding Blaming her husband and in-laws is not correct. Bad rumours spread like hot cake. God knows the truth

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  • Manish Shetty, Derebail/Mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    God Rest her soul.
    Lets see the picture from both side since Fire cannot be causeed without oxygen and source. There are some women who are grown where parents are not even making them do anything at home. No house work. Then when they get married even to do a simple task looks like a servant for them. Most of women these days are like this and they expect husband to keep one servant. They dont care if husband earns well or not, If he doesnt they run away like this one. stating torture.
    Since she is already divorced before it seems she is not adjustable kind and something is wrong. Since she could have taken divorce rather than sucide. This means she was mentally unsound.
    Matter has to be investigates since these days even if husband stops wife from chatting with strange men its called toruture and done for dowry.

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  • Neha Shetty, Mangalore

    Sat, Oct 12 2013

    @Manish Shetty:
    Its mentality like this that drives girls to commit suicide rather than seek help!!

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  • RSRB, Kundapura / KSA

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    She should have gone for a divorce than suicide. If she wants to punish her husband, should have filed FIR in Muscat or in Karkal. I feel very sad for her suicide. Let Allah give peace for her departed soul.

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  • varun, mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    Many indians marry for the wrong reasons. If elders especially boys parents truly act like elders and keep distance from their children married life, many marriages and lives can be saved.

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  • satya, mangalore

    Thu, Oct 10 2013

    A saying says...Marriage is made in heaven...but for some people after marriage life is to live in hell coz of these kinds of inhuman treatment.
    Most of the parents make mistake by not finding out the proper background of groom or bride and they fall prey to the hell lot of problems.
    It is necessary to know the people
    's background.Most of the guys who work in gulf has relationship before the marriage n after the marriage too they keep in touch n the relationship continues.
    Sometimes parents treat the women badly its same like ragging but this his full time ragging.
    Most of the guys lie a lot saying that they are big position in gulf countries and marry a girl n fool the girls family.
    Poor girl it was her badluck n the cruelty she faced through her in laws hope almighty allah will punish the culprits.

    RIP reshma.

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  • N Mukkawala, KSA,Kinnigoly

    Wed, Oct 09 2013

    Inna Lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un

    Parents please stop preferring NRI boys, who are more money minded than Human.

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  • Abdul Rafiq, Uchila / Dubai

    Wed, Oct 09 2013

    May her soul RIP. she could have complain to Oman police about the torture. since she is from well to do family and having parents, why she took such a decision to suicide. My appeal to Karkala police, please Publish Asif's photo in all the medias and people must notice him. otherwise he will marry third time and spoil the life of one more girl. Asif and his parents should be brought in front of justice.

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  • Edwin Nazareth., Shankerpura. Udipi

    Wed, Oct 09 2013

    But this case coming under karkal police station, everything depend upon them how they submit report to the court, if M.vitamine comes in power case will be dismissed, I request honourable court take serious action in this case.

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  • A I DIAS, BARKUR/MUMBAI

    Wed, Oct 09 2013

    Such things should not happen. Hang the people who are responsible to her death irrespective of any religion.

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  • vinaya, mangalore

    Wed, Oct 09 2013

    Very sad story.She could hv asked for a divorce with asif and continue to stay with parents rather than taking extreme step.May her soul rest in peace

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  • Langoolacharya, Belman/Washington,DC

    Wed, Oct 09 2013

    Sad Story...

    Wish she discussed her problems with her parents and found a solution to her problems....than taking this drastic step,,, which hurts her parents more than anybody else...

    ...JH...

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