Extramarital love, fear of damage to reputation drive PDO to end life


Daijiworld Media Network - Sullia (SP)

Sullia, Apr 7: The body of Dhananjay (40) from Keremoole village, who was working as panchayat development officer (PDO) in Madappady gram panchayat, was found hanging from a tree inside the forest area near Balpa in the taluk on Wednesday April 6. There is widespread suspicion that he ended his life because of his fear that his love life outside the marriage might spill into the open and harm his reputation of being a noble man.

Dhananjay also had additional responsibility of working in Markanja gram panchayat too as PDO. He was working in his office till Tuesday evening. After leaving his office on the pretext of visiting the washroom, he was not seen again. On Wednesday morning, his body was found hanging from a tree near Guthigar-Balpa connecting road cross. A pair of new footwear and suicide note were recovered from the spot.

It is learnt that Dhananjay had fallen in love with Asha from Puttur Tenkila, whom he married two years back. Thereafter, he is said to have come closer to a married woman working in Madappady gram panchayat office. This lady is from Sntikoppa in Kodagu district, and her husband is from Kajemoole village here. She has two children, and it is said that her husband knew about her affair with Dhananjay.

After this woman started to tell people that she would marry Dhananjay shortly, both sides met at the house of this woman on Tuesday to thrash out the issue. Dhananjay was present during the discussions, it is said. As the discussions failed to reach an understanding, Dhanjay's wife, Asha, filed a complaint against the said woman in the police station here. Dhananjay, it is said, would have turned edgy over the prospect of losing the respect he had earned from the villagers because of his hard work and polished manners.

It is learnt that the families of Dhananjay and the married woman were not in good terms, and frequent complaints were emanating from both the sides, and the incident had also been referred to the police station in the past. Elders from the area and the locals had tried to end the animosity but failed in their task.

Dhananjay was known for honesty, sincerity and duty consciousness. On Tuesday evening, he had visited Mavinakatte and Balpa gram panchayat offices to hold discussions with the PDO and staff there about the office work, it is gathered.

Dhananjay has left behind parents, wife, two brothers, and a sister. A case was registered in Subrahmanya police station about his unnatural death. The body was released to the relatives after conducting postmortem at the government hospital at Subrahmanya.

In the death note, as per information gathered, he said that the married woman was not responsible for his death. He sought forgiveness from his parents for failing to do anything for them. It is said that he also mentioned about death threats he received from three persons.

  

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  • Alwyn Crasta, Mangalore/Bangalore

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    Dhananjay could not distinguish between 'Love' & 'Lust' (since both have 'L' as the starting alphabet, and had to pay the penalty for the confusion.

    This confusion is becoming more common these days, and there seems to be no end in sight.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    1.As usual in this story one could not make out the 'head and tail'.
    2.It is like that in all such affairs.
    3. one or the other involved, loses life in such cases.
    4. What different a married man or woman find different in another woman or man is a million dollar question!! Everything same ..no??
    It is 'your way of looking' that is different! there in lies the problem...Got the gist?

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  • Jaimini P.B., Manipal,Sharjah

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    Dhananjay should have learned from Kerala CM,Mr.Oommen Chandy..If Dhananjay was in Mr.Chand's seat, he would have committed suicide 1000 times !! This lady Sarita Nair is coming into media everyday,accusing CM of raping her,sexually harassment..Mr Oommen Chandy is smiling like an innocent child !!

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    You know why OOmen Chaandy is smiling..
    1. He is really wishing that he was 'capable' of doing what Sarita is really accusing him of.
    2.He is laughing like a 'innocent child' because that's what usually men do after being caught with their pants down...
    3.Y aren't they thinking from Sarita's angle too Chandy must be thinking and laughing?
    4. Both of them ate 'pudding'he must be thinking..
    And many such small reasons..
    There is nothing to learn from Wooomen Chandy..After all he wears a dhothi and his name has 'Woo..Women 'in it if you infer deeply...
    o.k?

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  • JS,

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    Sarita's angle !!!! aa

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    JS
    Expand not only that but also your name..
    O.k. aa?

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  • Abdul Samad, mangalore

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    Ha..Ha..ha.. wa..wa.. kya baath hai...

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  • Acchu, Mlore

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    He is smiling for her shamefull act

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  • Stan, Udupi/ Dubai

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    Immorality always leads to sudden death.A person should be called good only when he is good at everything.

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  • Rudolf Rodrigues, Mangalore/Mumbai

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    NO HUMAN CAN BE PERFECT, GOOD AT EVERY THING, ALL HAVE THEIR WEAKNESSES!!!

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  • Shashi Shetty, Santhoor

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    There is no real definition of love. The society have entangled love in certain agreements and given morality into it. well, we cannot complain about what society had done orelse human would have been like any animals. we need not question honestly of a person because he had fallen for some relation which may not look genuine for us. RIP to the departed soul.

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  • PAM Suvarna, Karla

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    We are all human beings covered under sex,anger,love,fraud,proud,and jealous,Quite normal some time we are attracted by these,PDO has not made any blunder,He would have convinced his wife and other lady in due course of time,because time cures any problem,he took very harsh decision. Let his soul rest in peace.

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  • gm, mlur

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    You lost everything by committing suicide.

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  • Dev Kumar, Mangalore/Surat

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    Love cannot be defined. Heart moves from one to another in speed more than supersonic jet fighter. It's on us how to control the same. Otherwise chances are more Ozone of of our solar system.
    Kya pata kisse pe dil aa jaye..
    Sabke aadha alag..

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    Kumaraaa..Oho..oho!
    1.Heart moves from one side to another..aa?...What other moves like that?..You have seen heart move..aa?
    2. Love cannot be defined. Poet says so.However 'heart attack' when heart moves from one side to another, like you said can be defined. Is it not?
    3.yes because of No2, many ozone s are there in solar system. what to do?
    4. Adha Alag aa??..That'ss the problem.
    Alag Alag...a big flop..You know no?

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  • Rita, Germany

    Fri, Apr 08 2016

    @Dev,mangalore,Love we say ,you fall only oncein life,other is lust.He was a correct and honest they said.when other woman tried to come near to him,he could have thought of his Family.Just two years back he fell in love and married.again to fall inlove with a married and two children,?where is his conciousness?responsibility?and suecideing he has done great loss and pain,bad Name to his parents, wife.The other woman will survive.A threekona (traingle)Connection doesnt go good.Heartfelt sympathy to his wife,and parents.Did anyone try to findout whether it was a murder?since he wrote a death note,that he had deaththreat?There were new sandels near his Body,where were oldor worn?

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Thu, Apr 07 2016

    Asli kya hai nakli kya hai
    Inko aaj bata denge
    Marte dam tak yaad rahe wo
    Jalwa aaj dikha denge ...

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