Jun 15, 2010
Parents are God’s image of the guardian protector here on earth. The upbringing of a child is beautifully carved in the footsteps of what a father and mother does. Indian culture boils down to the best dish that can ever be when it comes to respect for parents, gratitude, importance and purpose.
In many countries there are numerous occasions, where the child does not even know who the mother and father is, perhaps never even seen them. Divorces, broken families, shattered dreams rule the roost, the traces of which are unfortunately seen increasingly even in our country these days.
A family will remain only if the father and mother live in tranquility, where happiness frolics hand in hand in homely surroundings. When a child grows up, he looks up to his parents, the way they go about doing things in life and decides things by mixing his opinion too. Here is a little poem depicting a child, the way he looks up to his elders especially parents
Little Eyes upon you!
There are little eyes upon you
And they’re watching night and day
There are little ears that quickly
Take in every word you say.
There are little hands all eager
To do anything you do,
And a little boy who’s dreaming
Of the day he’ll be like you.
You’re the little fellow’s idol,
You’re the wisest of the wise
In his little mind about you
No suspicions ever rise.
He believes in you devoutly
Holds all that you say and do
He will say and do, in your way
When he’s grown up like you.
There’s a wide eyed little fellow
Who believes you’re always right,
And his eyes are always opened,
And he watches day and night
You are setting an example
Every day in all you do
For the little boy who’s waiting
To grow up to be like you.
There are some instances in life where the kids may not agree with a parental opinion, may have cold wars or have healthy arguments. But these are tiny little fights of life which can be considered as a passing phase and must be forgotten with time. Remembering and re-living a bad moment never holds good because a distaste and hatred at home will only break you. We have to realize that our friends will never help us, in times of difficulty.. Relatives are the last people you can approach on earth. It’s generally this way, although exceptions are cited. A home- bound environment is the best that one can ever aspire to have.
If you want to know the value of a parent-kid-home-far from home scenario ask someone…
Ask someone who lost his/her parents in an accident
Ask someone whose parents are ailing
Ask an hostelite who longs to go home
Ask a mother who lost her child due to a chronic disease or a trauma.
Do you want more?
These examples may sound trifle harsh but ... Well its only here that we relate our importance and worth, otherwise it’s a forgotten entity.
I would also dwell into a bit on the issue of f ‘adoption & the way people opine about it.
It is sad that People look at an adopted kid as odd. But is it really justified to have that kind of attitude?
Couples have the courage to adopt an unknown innocent child and raise it as their own child. In such an instance who are we to pass our judgment? But we never improve and find vicarious pleasure in spreading rumors and tell more people that so & so kid of XYZ is adopted & not a biological one. This kind of attitude is not right on our part and we need to change within, our ideology, mindset & outlook. Let us talk about issues which are beneficial rather than indulge in such unwanted and cheap gossip.
All said and done let us s spread life’s bliss in ways that bring us happiness by showing our kindness to humanity and by living a purposeful journey of life.
Edmond Fernandes can be contacted at : edmondvirgo@gmail.com