Invisible Wounds and Their Healing

  •   Sun, May 24 2026
  •   By Dr Sr Judy Lewis

May 24, 2026

We see people externally so cheerful and joyful as if they are the happiest humans on earth. But it may so happen that they nurture deep invisible wounds within, which demand healing. It means psychologically they are not healthy and are in need of healing. Healing does not mean escaping pain, rather it means understanding it, processing it, and rebuilding oneself from within. True healing begins when a person stops pretending to be fine and starts listening to what the mind and heart are trying to say. 

1. You are fired, what next?

You are known to be a committed employee, still you are fired, what next? Of course, sudden termination can create shock, humiliation, anger, and insecurity. The mind struggles to accept unexpected rejection, especially when there was no emotional preparation. Recovery starts by allowing the pain to be acknowledged instead of suppressed. Stability slowly returns when individuals focus on rebuilding confidence rather than replaying the moment of dismissal repeatedly. 

2.    Wound caused by losing a Job;

For reasons known or unknown, you lose your job. Circumstances were such that you had to leave the place of work or type of work. You have to make a decision to give up. And it affects your self-worth, you feel emotionally broken and your life gets affected. Healing begins when a person understands that job loss is a life event not a personal failure. Human value is greater than any designation or salary. 

3. Wound caused by debt and financial stress

Debt creates anxiety, sleeplessness, shame, and emotional exhaustion. Financial pressure often makes people feel trapped and hopeless. Healing starts when individuals stop blaming themselves endlessly and begin facing reality step by step. Emotional resilience grows through acceptance, planning, and patience  not panic.

   4. Wound created by damage to your reputation

Being misunderstood, judged, or publicly criticized can deeply wound self-esteem. Humans naturally seek social acceptance, so damage to reputation often feels personal and painful. Healing comes from realizing that not every opinion defines truth. Inner peace becomes stronger when self-worth no longer depends entirely on public approval.

5. The wound caused by divorce or separation

Divorce can feel like grieving a living loss. It may bring loneliness, guilt, anger, rejection, and fear of starting over. Emotional healing begins when individuals stop seeing separation as the end of life and start viewing it as the beginning of self-rediscovery. A broken relationship should never become a broken identity.

6. Wound caused by losing a beloved person through death

The death of a loved one leaves a silence that words often cannot heal. Grief affects the mind, body, and emotions in powerful ways. Some people feel numb, while others experience deep sadness, guilt, or loneliness. Psychological healing does not mean forgetting the person  it means learning to carry love and memories without being destroyed by the pain of absence. With time, grief becomes softer, and life slowly learns to breathe again.

7. Wound created by the betrayal from a trusted person

One of the deepest emotional wounds comes from betrayal by friends, family, partners, or colleagues. Betrayal damages trust not only in others but sometimes in oneself. Healing requires understanding that another person’s actions reflect their character, not your value. Trust may become more careful, but the heart can still recover.

8. Wound effected after the success that results into isolation

Sometimes success brings jealousy, criticism, exclusion, or emotional distance from others. A person who once felt celebrated may suddenly feel isolated. Healing begins when individuals stop depending completely on external validation. Real confidence grows when self-worth remains stable even after applause disappears.

9. Wound caused by the loss of position, power or status

Many people struggle emotionally after moving from an important position into an ordinary life. Retirement, loss of authority, or reduced social recognition can create emptiness and restlessness. Healing begins when a person accepts that human dignity is not dependent on status. Peace comes when life is valued not for titles or power, but for inner balance, relationships, and purpose beyond recognition.


10. Express rather than suppress emotions

Generally, the expressed emotions gradually disappear. The unexpressed emotions do not disappear, they often return as stress, overthinking, irritability, or emotional numbness. Healthy emotional release may come through crying, therapy, journaling, prayer, silence, or honest conversation. What the mind cannot express, the body often carries.

11. Path to recovery: love and accept yourself

People in pain often become their own harshest critics. Healing becomes easier when the inner voice changes from punishment to understanding. At the same time, emotional boundaries are necessary. Not every person deserves access to your peace, energy, or trust. Protecting mental health is not selfish  it is essential.

Conclusion:

What is healing? It is a process from the inside out. It is a journey of rebuilding confidence, emotional balance, and self-worth after painful life experiences. The fact that you are wounded is to be accepted and you have to reconcile with the healing process. Whatever be the cause of your inner wound loss of career, divorce, financial stress, betrayal, damaged reputation, loss of status, or emotional isolation, the healing is possible and you should have the conviction that you will be healed. The pain may leave scars, but scars do not define identity. A healed person still remembers the storm but no longer lives inside it.

 

 
By Dr Sr Judy Lewis
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Comment on this article

  • Richard Mascarenhas SJ, Puttur/Bangalore

    Sun, May 24 2026

    At the very outset let me congratulate Sr (Dr) Judy Lewis UFS for her excellent article on 'Invisible (inner) Wounds and Their Healing'. It's a well written article, down to earth and straight forward in its style. Thanks for placing before us the various types of Inner Wounds that a person can experience in life. Yes, once we recognize, accept and own the wounds - the healing process is possible! Thanks.

  • William, Mangalore

    Sun, May 24 2026

    Excellent article regarding the day to day happenings in our lives.


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