Puttur: Newly Married Woman from Kadaba Ends Life in Dubai


Daijiworld Media Network – Puttur (SP)

Puttur, Dec 6: Smita Rai (25), daughter of former Dakshina Kannada Zilla Parishad member, N K Narayan Rai, resident of Pai Compound, Kadaba in the taluk, committed suicide in Dubai on Sunday December 4. Her marriage was conducted recently.

Smita is survived by husband, parents, and two brothers. Family sources said that Smita's body is expected to reach Madikeri, which happens to be the native place of her mother, on Tuesday, and that funeral will be conducted there.

Smita married Navin from Parpunja near the town on October 16 this year. The function had been organized in a marriage hall in Darbe here. Within a few days after her marriage, Smita had left for Dubai with her husband.

It is learnt that Navin had left his apartment on Sunday afternoon on some work. On his return at about 7 pm, he found that Smita, who was alone at home, had committed suicide by hanging herself from a ceiling fan. In a suicide note left behind, Smita explained that she had resorted to this extreme step, as she was overtaken by guilt at not being able to marry a boy she had loved, when she was studying in a college in Ujire in Beltangady taluk.

  

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  • tesfaye, ethiopia

    Fri, Dec 09 2011

    I am sorry !

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  • Bhuvith Shetty, Bc Road

    Thu, Dec 08 2011

    harsh decision, she was my sister's neighbor in sharjah. :/ i could just say that she was in the verge of extremity of sadness. May her soul rest in peace.

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  • hippy , Mangalore/dub

    Thu, Dec 08 2011

    May the soul rest in peace.
    The reasons for this incident could be (1)Homesickness(Of her boyfriend) since girl had travelled to dubai from India. She went through a turbulent home sickness thoughts of the boy she loved .
    (2)There was nobody to help or convince her which made the things worse.
    (3)Boy in india must have been in touch with her which kept her wounds alive
    (4)Girl did not understand that these strong thoughts she is receiving merely are fictious and false and simply a homesickness . She did not realise these will die off gradually as she gets involved in home matter.Unfortunately she took a wrong hurried step due to desperation.
    I say these thoughts are false because she had a opportunity to run with the boy before marriage which she did not do or She would rather refrained to come to dubai by giving some or other excuse rather than extreme step of suicide. Its looks it was all ok till she come to dubai until she went through turbulent thoughts of past. Unfortunately all ended up in a loss - loss-loss-.

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  • Indian, U.A.E.

    Thu, Dec 08 2011

    'Marriage' is a very big responsibilty in our Life.It is a union of two souls in order to lead their life smoothly both in sorrow and happiness.
    STRICT ADVICE TO PARENTS: I am sure that all parents will come to know if his/her daughter or son is in love (atleast by checking their mobile phones, behaviour etc). YOU should respect their feelings. PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE DON'T FORCE THEM to get married with some one even if he/she is the BEST because it is a CURSE to marry a person who doesn't LOVE you.

    In Smitha's case I would say she would have atleast informed her husband before geting married. Atleast her Husband would have supported atleast not uniting her with her lover but atleast by AVOIDING this marriage.

    TRUST me! words cannot explain the pain of her husband, Who knows he might be the best son of their old parents, Fullfilling all the responibilities and dreaming to be the best Husband :(

    POOR Guy is in trouble now and I am not sure if He will have courage to marry again.

    Every PARENTS should give time to their children to make decission . It is not parents fault to find the best spouse but it is a big mistake to FORCE. If you really wanna force. Please force them to join INDIAN ARMY, NAVY or AIRFORCE. atleast they will sacrifice their life for the sake of the country then I am sure would be a proud PARENTS.

    We children should always respect our parents dicission but please DON't spoil some innocent life- like Smitha's husband.

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  • ad, mangloor

    Thu, Dec 08 2011

    Marriage goes beyond building a relationship by two, not just because LOVE, whatever that love purport to be.

    Marital relationship is coming to sense. Its a foundation not for two but for those around you and society and like community as a whole.

    Look at the animal kingdom for display of sense, albeit one may call it instinct.

    Several here argue that driver/ coolie no matter. Yes, perhaps true but it goes beyond.

    Our societies have built by classes not classless predominently.
    Most of the times,the rich mingle with rich, the poor mingle with poor, the coolies mix with coolies, the drivers with drivers, the johns mingle with Johns, The black mingle with black, the browns mingle with browns, the chinse mingle with chinese, film stars with filmstars and I can go on and on.

    Its all boil downs to onething the comfort level not to self alone but those around you, mixing and matching, culture or otherwise.

    The arranged marriages are meaningful to society and those other than arranged are self comforting to say the least. I can say a marriage is not between the two , its between two families, If the two families are not comfortable with each other, then the marriage has not accomplished its objective in true sense.

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  • Charles D'Mello, Pangala

    Wed, Dec 07 2011

    Gone is history...can we try to correct our present and future generation, by our valuable comments...!!!??? please..

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  • saritha d'souza, kinnigoli

    Wed, Dec 07 2011

    why she killed herself?.she could have ran from her house with that boy and got married.she spoiled life of that boy who married her even she put parents in deep agony.if she was really respecting her parents she could not have done this.

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  • C K DAYANANDA, MANGALURU

    Wed, Dec 07 2011

    Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore

    You are right. But, people do not accept the truth.

    A marriage is not only a relationship between the boy and the girl but also brings the two families together.

    That is why our scriptures have given more merits to arranged marriages than the love marriages.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Dec 07 2011

    I wonder why family respect just applied to some class of people ! Why did it not apply to Kalpana Chawla, Indra Nooyi, Helen, Gauri Khan, Aishwarya Rai, Shilpa Shetty, Kiran Rao ?

    Neeraj Fernandes, perhaps you can answer this ? The men they married were not driver/coolie but they were not from same religion/caste either ?

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  • Anil, Mangalore

    Wed, Dec 07 2011

    It is very easy to blame her but the real problem is our soceity and culture.Girls should be trained to be tough and fight for their right and get well educated.

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  • arun,

    Wed, Dec 07 2011

    well said , wish it will be a eye opener to all the parents

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  • M.SHAMEEM ANSARI, BAHRAIN

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Shocking Incident!!
    Words seem inadequate to express the sadness i feel.

    May God give her eternal rest and may her soul rest in peace.

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  • Khalid kunthoor, Dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Very sad,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
    May god give courage, patience for her parents / family members and her husband to come out from this shocking incidents.

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  • Candle, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    If you succeed in experimenting death it ends with suicide.But what you gain ? nothing.Are you there to explain about your experience ? no not at all, then what is the point of suicide ? By taking such a haste decision who is going to suffer ? Before deciding to die you need to go through lot of mental war, you need to make up your mind, you need to have a lot of courage.So then why can,t you use the same attitude to live.Why can't you challenge ? Like brave girl or boy. Once you ended your life everything is finished.If you live you have so many chances to come out from this turmoil.Even though you have married out of your interest you still have a opportunity to explain the situation to your husband or wife and find some solution.Many people have done that and succeeded in life.Death is not the solution at all, it is a defeat.This is not called sacrifice for the love.This is a shame.Blaming parents is the easiest thing one can do. You are not mature enough to understand your parents and their love towards their children .Once you reach their age you will realize their unconditional support and sacrifice.

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  • Susan, Moodbidri, Canada

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore
    your comments suits to india where drivers,coolies are paid very low. where as here in Canada truck drivers and construction workers paid high coz their job is recognized as tough one.

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  • Louis , Kuwait

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Well said M. P. Rai, a student falls in love means just lust n its not love. They don't have any right to do love n romance, using patents hard earned money, which runs in lacks nowdays. They are not matured enough to choose a life partner. 1st finish your study, then choose a life partner when u stand on your feet after attaining maturity. Once u love or promise some one never brake your promise at any cost. Even parents cannot stop you. When u have enough courage to fall in love u need to have guts to inform your parents boldly. Suicide is not the solution. If parents does not agree there is law which supports you.

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  • Molly, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore
    Re: maria moodbidri comments-who cares religion in big cities? religion is only a talk in rural & small towns. i strongly feel that if someone has 'promised' their lover abt marriage, then getting married is better than betraying!!

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  • Shekar Moily P, Udipi/India

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Extremely felt sad but no comments.Only pray to rest her departed soul in peace and deepest sympathy and condolence to the bereaved family.May god bestow bereaved family a great strength to sustain this irreparable loss.

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  • nagaraj gurupura, mangloore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    smitha dhaye incha malthal panpinane onji prasne .madmedha dhube elladakleg theripaduvalda e aanautha thathdandha ? undhu pura nevana alena aanet dever athe bharether ,alena athmogu shanthi tikkad

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  • IMRAN, MANGALORE- JUBAIL-SAUDI

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Love is blind, and also it weakens the decision making system of the brain, Dear Youngsters.... PYAAR KIYA THO DARNA KYA, try to reach your love and make it yours, if not then don’t feel like you have lost life hereafter, that is your stupidity because you have vibrant life and live it as it comes, who knows tomorrow you will get somebody who loves you more than what you lost, But don’t waste your life taking a harsh decision for the low feeling, just live life, concentrate on the other part of the life and don’t think just LOVE IS LIFE.

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  • Mike, KSA

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    No doubt that it is a tragedy. For any compelling reasons, if the marriage could not have been avoided, then she should have explained the matter to the husband himself and requested for the amicable seperation. In most of the cases, I am sure that husbands would agree to this, because there is no meaning in continuing the rest of their life with the person who does not love them.

    It is prudent and highly praiseworthy thing in this incident, that there was a suicide note. If it was not there, by this time the husband would have been framed with homicide and dowry death.

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  • Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Lancelot N Tauro, Manglore - Doha Qatar: I didnt said they are not Human beings.. Even they are my friends.. okey then come up and give ur daughters hand in one Driver or any other from other religion and be the guide to socity. Will you do this Sir then I will be the first to appreciate it. and definitely on that day I will be the First to Wish you and appreciate ur work. I hope you will do this if you are good hearted.

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  • Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    santhosh, mangalore:
    What I meant to say is people shud love according to their values in the society.
    Just think your a Crorepathy and ur daughter loves a poor guy or guy from other cast/religion. Will you allow her to marry? Just answer this question.. and if yes please email me ur daughter's invitation card of her marriage. Thank you in advance...

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  • Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    M.P.Rai, Bajpe: Well said by you Sir. Respect for ur comment. the statement by you is 100% true. Now a days parents are required only till 18 years after that they want to run behind Love (infact Lust and not a love) and degrade their parents status or values in the society. Why these youngsters doesnt understand this fact of life.

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  • Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Robin DSouza, Bangalore:

    You might come to know who is frog in a well once ur in such a situation.. till that time chilled up dude... I am not saying that Im going to be very strict... but still there are other possible ways to show others how to live their life...

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  • aithappa moolya, mangalore/dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Oh My God! Not again! One more precious soul lost due to the immature behavious of her parents.
    I request each and every parent to ask their children whether they actually like the boy or girl to whom she or he is getting married.
    I really feel for the innocent groom whose life is unnecessarily disturbed by this act of young girl.
    May her soul rest in peace.

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  • Kiran, mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    MP Rai, you hae given a good lecture to the girlz and boyz However, you forgot the reality that the girl needs to spend next 40 or 50 years with the man and not with her parents. 25 years is just nothing compared to the coming 50 crucial years in ones life.
    I feel very sad for this girl who lost her life when she was just about to start it.
    Parents these days are very selfish and society we live in make them selfish as credibility and prestige is being questioned by the society! good or bad she would have had a life if she could have had the one she loved!! or she may had to end it even if she was with the person whom she loved! god only knows! some are lucky to get a life and some are not!

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  • Rudolf Rodrigues, Loretto/Mumbai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    It is very easy for people to say that we should marry off the girl to anyone whom she falls in love with. The parents have the big responsibility of giving her to a person who is suitably educated and from an identical status. These filmy happenings are not practical in real life. There are n number of cases where the girl in question has fallen in bad times after going against their parents. Counselling by family members and professionals should be done. I remember a recent incident in Mumbai wherein a girl in love was not allowed to get married to the boy whom she loved. In a fit of rage, the boy killed the girls mother (who was opposing their marriage) and subsequently threw him before a train!! These sensitive issues should be tackled with utmost caution and tact!!

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  • Sachidanand Shetty, Mundkur/Dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Dear all Girls, you have courage to commit Suicide but not to tell your loved Parents about your pre-marriage Love Affairs? In all three religions, we believe that taking birth in Human kind is the ultimate and sacred of all re-birth cycle in this beautiful creature but ending your life without performing your all duties being a human kind is a Sin too

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  • Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Maria, Moodbidri:
    I am not sure whether u are married or u have kids and that too Girl. But will you do that I mean what you said in the comment? Definitely no. Anyways you said what is wrong then incase if you are kid does that then please call me for your Daughter's wedding. I will be using this email ID (fernsneeru@gmail.com). please do invite me. We do say we will give 100 % choice to our children to their partner but it is easy to say but difficult to follow.

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  • John Maxim D'souza, KULUR , MANGALORE, DUBAI

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    IT IS REALY PAINFULL INCIDENT I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY PARENTS ARE STILL FORCING TO MARREIGE UNWILLING BOY OR GIRL, EVEN LOTS OF SUCH INCIDENT HAPPEND IN THE PAST YET PERANTS DOING WHAT THEY WANT ( RICH FAMILY STATUS ) NOW SEE THE RESULT WHAT PARENTS EARNED. ( MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE )

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  • Jimmy Noronha, Bellore,Kulshekar,Lucknow

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Why did Smita marry Navin in the first place? She should have straight off told her parents that she was in love and declined to marry Navin. Sorry to say, but hasn't her suicide resulted in the destruction of four lives? She ruined her life, Navin's life, the boy she loved(provided he too loved her) by not marrying him, and who knows if that boy she loved would ever be happy with the girl he would marry and thereon cast a lingering shadow on her life as well ? May her soul R.I.P.

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  • Abdul, Udupi / KSA

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Died person is died. But her husbands life is spoiled because of his wife. Now it is his turn to struggle with dubai police to clear the things and even they may suspect him. It seems now a days sucide cases are increasing. But, why?

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  • Rudolf Rodrigues, Loretto/Mumbai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    It is very easy for people to say that we should marry off the girl to anyone whom she falls in love with. The parents have the big responsibility of giving her to a person who is suitably educated and from an identical status. These filmy happenings are not practical in real life. There are n number of cases where the girl in question has fallen in bad times after going against their parents. Counselling by family members and professionals should be done. I remember a recent incident in Mumbai wherein a girl in love was not allowed to get married to the boy whom she loved. In a fit of rage, the boy killed the girls mother (who was opposing their marriage) and subsequently threw him before a train!! These sensitive issues should be tackled with utmost caution and tact!!

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  • ISMAIL.K.PERINJE, PERINJE-YANBU/KSA

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    May Smitha's soul rest in peace....It is premature to judge the reason for the death and her death note looks very strange.

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  • thanzeel, dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    I Feel realy sad about this incident my side one suggation for the parents:NEVER GIVE YOUR DAUGHTER IN MARRIAGE TO A GUY IF THE GIRL DONT WANT TO MARRY HIM .

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  • paddu, mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    These are the effects of western culture. This is the right time to implement indian culture and tradition in our education system.Jai ho bharath matha...

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  • satish pai, mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    I feel really sad about the incident .My Deepest Condolences to the family of the bereaved s Family .My request to Narayana Rai and family member , if you need any help in dubai plese conatct me on my mail - satish_dubai@rediffmail.com

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  • santhosh, mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    mr neeraj do you know in mangalore so many auto drivers have graduated some works in banks in the morning then they work in the evening in rickshaws. so don't judge by profession judge by perfection of human being.

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  • Jeevan, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Maria, You did not get the point that Neeraj is trying to explain. He explains the point of view of parents and their dreams. But what you said is also right. If all people think like you then there will be no issues on this. Anyway, untill and unless people learn from examples it is difficult to control such things.

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  • abdul jabbar, puttur/dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    this is very sad news for all,,pls don't make like this other lovers,, pls tell to perents directly if u having love.

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  • M.P.Rai, Bajpe

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Girlz/Boyz should Think of their parents who has given birth & raised them with so much love & care.
    In Smitha's case Her parents spent 25 years to raise,Educate & for Marriage.....She should have thought of those 25 years B4 Ending her life for a Boy who she hardly knows for 3 or 4 Years...& also all Boyz & Girlz.. Choose a Person & love according to you & Ur parents Status,Choice & Dreams.. No Parent in this world want to see their children's Unhappy after Marriage.
    Its very Sad...May her soul R.I.P
    I Pray 4 Navin..God Bless him & Give him d Strength to come out of this A.S.A.P..& Live happily..

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  • Amin Bhoja, Patte / Riyadh

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    A tearful tragic event to the parents and also to the husband.Parents think about the future of thier childeren always ,even big or small .Sometime decision goes wrong, we decide someting but fate decides otherwise.Condolence to the deceased family ,
    'may her soul rest in peace'.

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  • M.P.Rai, Bajpe

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Girlz/Boyz should Think of their parents who has given birth & raised them with so much love & care.
    In Smitha's case Her parents spent 25 years to raise,Educate & for Marriage.....She should have thought of those 25 years B4 Ending her life for a Boy who she hardly knows for 3 or 4 Years...& also all Boyz & Girlz.. Choose a Person & love according to you & Ur parents Status,Choice & Dreams.. No Parent in this world want to see their children's Unhappy after Marriage.
    Its very Sad...May her soul R.I.P
    I Pray 4 Navin..God Bless him & Give him d Strength to come out of this A.S.A.P..& Live happily..

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  • Mohd , Abu Dhabi

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Dear Arman please clarify me what is the mistake of her husband? from whoes mistake he is suffering now?

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  • Nasir, Bangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Very tragic end to an innocent life, if at all she was counselled! RIP Smita!!

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  • Reshma, udupi

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Dear Parents please talk to your kids and come to a good conclusion before you marry them. Do you kno w how much now her hubby to suffer in Dubai what all legal terms he have to face i really feel pitty for him ,he will suffer entire his life and he is paying the cost for nothing .... God Bless you my friend

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  • Santosh, Kuwait

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Very unfortunate to hang herself to the ceiling fan which are hard to find in Gulf countries. Suicide in Gulf countries are not so easy in India as most of the buildings have central A.C.'s and no wells to jump. Only they have to jump from the apartment or take poison. These aspects makes someone to think twice before they commit suicide in Gulf. But in Smitha's case it was different.

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  • Robin DSouza, Bangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Neeraj F. you are wrong dude.. do you know the story of a frog who lives in a well.. ??? if NO.. then.. you need to grow up n should know the story

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  • RTN MICHAEL MATHIAS SHIRVA ROTARY, PILAR SHIRVA

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    very sad news. may her soul rest in peace.

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  • Reema Shetty, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    She looks like happy bride in the pic. May her soul rest in peace.

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  • Naina Rai, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Dear parents.. I know this is not the right time for suggestion but atleast learn from such incident...pls give your children the freedom to choose their life partner of their choice...If you want to seee them happy i know not all dare to take such step & even if they do marry they wont be happy but just pretend to the world to be happy...My heartfelt condolences to the family..

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  • shruthi d harsha, madikeri

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    OMG....... cant just digest smitha really miss u lots,y you have done this how could u do this???? we were roomates & classmates in pu and also cant just think that c is no more... very much fun lovingly n jovial gal she was... god needs to give her parents and brother & husband strength.may her soul rest in peace.

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  • Wilson, Udupi, Muscat

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Dear Parents and All my Friends - I humbly request the parents to ask your daughters whether she is in love before you decide to give her hands to other guy whon she doesn't wnat to marry. The girls won't tel because they think their family will be against her love or because she doesn't want to disappoint her family.
    Guys Marrying, Please ask the girl is she loving or willing to marry him. Instead of all this happening after marriage.

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  • Lancelot N Tauro, Manglore - Doha Qatar

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Dear Neeraj Fernandes what you mean coolie,Driver are they not human being? Why are you discreminating profession in family matter? Give up your inferior quality dude..

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  • seema, Mangalore,Dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Its not easy for anybody to forget & marry other person if he or she truely & unconditionally loves sombody. But the porblem with this girl was that she could not stay strong with her parents while tiaking an important decision of her life. If she did not want to marry another boy, she could have stayed single. now after marriage, that is also after joining her husband in dubai, according to me she has taken entirely wrong step.Poor guy her husband, all his dreams must have shattered. And i really feel pity for the girl. She did not have the guts not only stay against to her parents, but also to do suicide in front of them. its shows the stong love and affection she had towards her family. such a innocent and beautiful girl.

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  • Maria, Moodbidri

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore
    What'z wrong in marrying bus, truck driver? r they not human? money comes & goes.. what is imp is happiness! what is the wrong in marrying other religion boy or girl? as long as boy's charecters are good.i know some couples married within religion and they hv issues tooo!

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  • Maria, Moodbidri

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore
    What'z wrong in marrying bus, truck driver? r they not human? money comes & goes.. what is imp is happiness! what is the wrong in marrying other religion boy or girl? as long as boy's charecters are good.i know some couples married within religion and they hv issues tooo!

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  • vasanth kulai, kuwait

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    very very sad very tragic end of the life my heartfelt condolence to her famiely members

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  • Cynthia, Moodbidri

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    This shows how good Indian culture is. girls hv no voice to ask her own parents, to marry the boy she loved. in one hand we talk abt stars n moon and on other hand becoming more selfish towards girls.

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  • Jaimini P.B., Manipal,Sharjah

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Smita Rai's decision made everyone UNHAPPY.

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  • Kuppendare Suleiman, madikeri /dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Very sad,May god give courage, patience for her parents / family members and her husband to come out from this shocking incidents.

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  • mohammed, udupi/dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    i feel she might have spoken to her parents before getting married, may have informed them about her wish but parents might have done so much drama like not eating food, sitting and crying full day n keep giving lectures on pride and honor of their family and all that stuff, so assumed that she can compromise in her life later she realized it was her mistake.i strongly feel this is what is behind this tragic death, may her soul rest in peace.

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  • S.M. Nawaz Kukkikatte, udupi

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    RIP to smitha, But its very sad to say spoiled Naveen life. Parents should responsible this incident.

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  • Neeraj Fernandes, Mangalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Deepest condolence from my side to the family of the diseased.

    Arman, Managalore: and all others: : You people say that the parents should have permitted her / or any parents should permit the gals to marry odf their choice. Now think by standing in your shoes. If your daughter is loving other religion Guy or loves a coolie or loves a driver of rick/bus/truck will you permit her to marry her? If possible think and answer this question. It is easier to comment on others but when suchthings happen to us then we will do samething what Smitha's parents did.

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  • varadhraj, magnalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    She could have informed about her love to her hubby before commiting the relation.
    If she has told and hubby married knowing it then its husbands fault.

    Now who achived what by a death

    she lost her life and her hubby will suffer for life long

    parents will have to bend down thier head in front of society.

    There is a infulence of todays media on peoples life poeple dont have patience at alll take decision without thinking.

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  • Arman, Managalore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Mr.Mohd.....Please don’t say would be better to suicide before Marriage? It would have been better if she would have married a guy she loved. Hope We humans understand this for better life in this world.

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  • Dr S Kamath , Mumbai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    I feel really sad about the incident .My Deepest Condolences to the family of the bereaved s Family .This is not the time and give any suggestions whatever has happened was bound to happen no body can do any thing for this But this is an eyeopener to the Parents of the Girl Child AS SAID BY MANU : NEVER GIVE YOUR DAUGHTER IN MARRIAGE TO A BOY IF THE GIRL DONT WANT TO MARRY HIM .

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  • ASIF NADJE, UJIRE/ DIBBA, FUJAIRAH, DUBAI

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    It is very hearttouching for me. Me and Smita studied together in SDM Ujire. We were like family memebers on that days.
    After hearing this news I coudnt control my tears. RIP Smita. We miss u lot.

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  • Anil, Dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Oh dear, why did you do this in Dubai and gave additional tension to your husband. ...

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  • Saiduddin , Vijayadka/Dibba Fujairah

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    love is blind
    RIP smita

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    This will continue to happen as long as our society looks up at a daughter as a burden. Irony is that parents take so much pain to raise and educate them but never liberate them to be employed and marry a man of their choice. No argument will bring Smita back. I pray that her soul rests in peace and the man who married her and the one who loved her do not follow her.

    Suicide is cowardice bravery is accepting challenges and not succumbing to pressure - may it be a woman or man. This makes me to applaud the girl who left the altar yesterday. Wish Smita had done that too she would have been alive today though it invited readers' ire !

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  • Mohd, Abu Dhabi

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    would be better to suicide before marriege than playing with others life.

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  • AZAM SHEIKH, BIKKARNAKATTA/MUSCAT

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    very sad news. RIP

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  • Padmanath Kotiyan, Manglore

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    May her soul rest in peace.

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  • Rahul Pujary, Manglore - Dubai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    My heartfelt condolences to her family members may her soul rest in peace really very tragic end to an innocent life.

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  • cyril mascarenhas, KIREM/MIRA ROAD

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    VERY SAD,BUT WHY SHE MARRIED AND SPOILED THE LIFE OF HER HUSBAND?

    CYRIL MASCARENHAS,KIREM/MIRA ROAD

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  • Rudolf Rodrigues, Loretto/Mumbai

    Tue, Dec 06 2011

    Very tragic end to an innocent life, if at all she was counselled! RIP Smita!!

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