Bangalore: Woman dies after scientist husband slaps her


Bangalore: Woman dies after scientist husband slaps her

Bangalore, Mar 12 (DHNS): A senior scientist working with a petro-chemical major in the City was arrested on Monday for killing his wife.

A schoolteacher at Elements Montessori on Aralur Road, Mahalakshmi, 37, a native of Mumbai, died after Dharmesh, 38, slapped her during an argument over a trivial matter,  in their flat at Mantri Flora Apartments, in Iblur Junction, HSR Layout, on Sunday night.

Mahalakshmi married Dharmesh, a native of Jharsuguda in Orissa, in 2005, in Mumbai, while he was pursuing his doctoral studies. The couple, with a four-year-old boy Vedant, had worked in Amsterdam, the Netherlands, and settled in Bangalore two years ago when Dharmesh was posted as a senior scientist at Shell Global Solutions.

Police said on Sunday, when the couple were watching TV at about 10 pm, Dharmesh got a call from his elder sister that she would be visiting them on Monday, to which Mahalakshmi objected, leading to an argument.

A furious Dharmesh slapped Mahalakshmi who collapsed on the sofa. A panic-stricken Dharmesh tried to revive her, including mouth-to-mouth respiration. When she did not respond, he rushed her to a private hospital and from there to St John’s Hospital, where she was declared brought dead.

Being informed by St John’s Hospital authorities, HSR Layout Police arrested Dharmesh and registered a murder case under Section 302 of Indian Penal Code.

Police said Mahalakshmi’s parents have in their statement said that there were no issues between the couple and supported Dharmesh, their son-in-law, terming the incident an accident. They also stated there was no dowry harassment.

A friend of Dharmesh, who described him as calm, and surprised that he so flared up to slap his wife, said Dharmesh was working as an exploratory researcher.

  

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  • gerald, modankap

    Thu, Mar 14 2013

    The so called family value time bomb will explode in Indian Culture soon !!! we are adopting fast and furious modern culture and there is no time for anyone even themselves !!! look around you guys and dont go for artificial and competitive life

    CHEERS TO LIFE

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  • Rudolf, Mumbai

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    @Mahesh Kotian, bro, leaving medical experts aside, it is a flesh and blood body with delicate organs all over, how will one know whether it is the direct damage by the slap or an heart attack due to sudden shock unless a postmortem is conducted?

    Have you not heard of incidents wherein people have died instantly after falling from their beds and conversely people falling down from a height of four floor surviving with minor fractures!!! This game of life and death is much beyond any medical comprehension, which comes only in hindsight!!! My thought process was same like yours years ago!!!

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  • Mahesh S Kotian, MLR/SMG

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    Need clarification from any doctors in this forum.How can a slap on face of a person be fatal?which is that part which is so fragile?We have seen such things in movies and never heard before.Last time we all saw the terrible slap given by home stay attackers to one of the girl who collapsed but recovered soon. Please enlighten

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  • Lancy Moras, Moushmi Creations

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    Daisy Vas/Pinto, Moodbidri/Canada,

    many thanks for your kind information. Believe me it was neither my fair intension nor my idiocy to hurt any woman's feeling that too of yours. First woman in a man's everlasting life on this planet is his mother and love my mother from the foundation of my heart. Cool madam.

    I am still seeking an fair answer to my million dollar question, Y God created MAN on this earth ?. And there would not have been a SERPENT on earth too. God bless all women who asylum their beloved husbands.

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  • daisy Vas/Pinto, Moodbidri/Canada

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    Hi Lancy,

    I would really appreciate that you love your mother and don’t forget your wife is also a mother to your kid. First of all you did not hurt my feelings. It is not my personal issue here it is overall whole society’s issue.
    I would like and love to see all the men on this earth treat their wife, sisters as same way they love their mother.
    Lancy back to your point. You don’t understand why god created men on this earth. The answer is simple to “protect their family (wife). Don’t question God and don’t try to find answers. As a Catholic you need to understand
    You have taken a vow at the church that you will support each other in sufferings and in happiness. The wife who died of husband is not on this earth to defend herself or tell her side of story. This is not a case of one person.
    It’s universal. Women are losing hope and are helpless to find solution on rape, abuse, honor killing, disrespect .
    Please sit down and have a serious talk with your wife if you have issues or take some help. I wish you all the best.

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  • Lancy Moras, Moushmi Creations

    Thu, Mar 14 2013

    daisy Vas/Pinto, Moodbidri/Canada

    Myriad Godsend for your advise but kindly be informed that I am not induced by your advise. I have niether asked your advise nor stole a look into your family issues. And for God's sake do not bring church and God issues over here. We are so called Catholics know what we are and what are we upto. I have no issues with my wife at all instead I love here in the way I can.

    Take your earthwormed doubt from your mind that I am questioning Lord Almighty. We are from dust and we are to dust. Meet me when you come down either in Mudbidri or Mangalore. We both need a counselling dear.

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  • xain kudla, mlore/dubai

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    What a comment by Shetty? May her soul RIP.This is a very unfortunate situation, the whole family doomed for a small flare-up. I have seen in many a families - our sisters have a double standards when it comes to their husbands family. It happens in many a family and I wish the mothers teach their children to mutually respect their in-laws like their own family. The marriage is supposed to be a union of 2 families and not just 2 bodies. The life is lost which cannot be brought back and Mr. Dharmesh is going to live his life on guilt rest of his life.. come what the law of the land take action. issue could have avoided but, no one can control a fate.
    I appreciate the parents of Mrs. Mahalaxmi for standing by their son-in law. This shows the quality of the family.

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  • Peter Lewis, Brahmavar/Sharjah

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    One thing cannot stop me from commeting. That is forgiveness and love from parents of Mahalakshmi towards their son in law. It also shows how close their relation was and is and will be.All of us should learn lesson from this tragedy.

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  • Melvin, Tallur/Dubai

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    Dear pravin shetty your are one million percent Right man .........

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  • Veena Castelino, Kankanady

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    After reading all the comments could not help but to put some of my comments.
    All of us are parents now so teach your daughters to respect their future husbands family and teach your sons to love their wives family as their own.
    It is usually we parents who say when a girl is born,"Thank god I have a girl who will look after me". And to their boy child,"Oh my son once he gets married he will forget me and go behind his wife". Are we not the one's who influence our future generation. Hence take care when we talk about our children.

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  • Rudolf, Mangalore/Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    RIP Mahalakshmi!! Let Nature give tremendous peace to you and those affected!! This is just an accident!! IT COULD HAPPEN TO ANYBODY, ANY FAMILY, ANY TIME!!!!!!!!!

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  • Ronald D, Udupi

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Every comment is worth GOLD! Yellara mane dose toothu...some are more holes!!! If read properly correct and adjust.... this would could be a wonderful place to live and enjoy!!!!

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  • Daisy Vas/Pinto, Moodbidri/Canada

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Lancy Moras, I was surprised to read your comments. Let the tigress be happy. We women are not tigress. Don't forget we also belong to a family with brothers, sisters. You acknowledged that you used to take anger on your wife after work. Don't expect woment to take pressure of your work when all women now a days work and out. We too have our own problems. Please sit down and think how many hours we are putting for the family. Leave all the tension when you come home and enjoy with family. Once you slap or scream that is too many times. Please let us leave our ego behind and work as one team. Please don't call names.

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  • Leslie fernandes, Brahmagiri, Udupi

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    D, PADUBIDRI,
    SICK YOU ARE.
    PLEASE DO NOT MAKE THIS SERIOUS MATTER A JOKE.
    WHOEVER YOU ARE SUCH THOUGHTS ARE ONLY NEGATIVE AND LOWER THAN HUMAN GROUND.
    KINDLY DO NOT TEACH SUCH VALUES AT LEAST TO YOUR KIDS.

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  • Tony Francis, Udupi

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    There are a lots of cases in our society that the husband's sisters interfere in brother and his wife's married life. In this particular case also I suspectthe samething might have happened which did lead into hot argument.

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  • Still be indian, Abroad

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I don’t know what kind of comment is this Damian if this act is intended then he never takes her to hospital. This is a common reason we fight in our married life when a husband get away with wife family but not wife she always treat them as strangers. If she takes them as her family or visa versa this thing never be happen.

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  • Boggu Bangera, Mangalore/Kapikad

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Ismail Bhai, every one is looking forward to your invaluable input on Benet Navetha Moras, Mangalore, Kuwait, especialy those last 4 Hindi words. Can you enlighten the readers with reference to context? Many like me are poor in Hindi.

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  • damian, padubidri

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I am glad the whole incident had a happy ending "anyways she wont be able to see her sister in law",the sister in law will visit her house for her funeral and husband too because she wont complain about her visit
    SO WIFE HAPPY,HUBBIE HAPPY,SIS-LAW HAPPY!!

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  • Giru santhu vijay vivian gladys noronha, korakambla-bajpe=574242

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    When the life goes on, understanding between the husband and wife reduced..Whatever happened is happened... the person who died cannot be back..but to reduce these kind of incidents some measures in our society to be taken. This is really a unfortunate incident...

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  • vijay, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    First of all RIP to the departed soul. Seems like a major war of words has broken out between husband vs wife clubs. I am sure many men are waking up from their sofas (no more action). You know what folks, both of you (men & women) are equally right and equally wrong at the same time. Can't understand this logic right? That is called "life" my dear friends. It is upto you to make it heaven or hell, your choice. And if you are smart you will choose wisely between the only two choices. Otherwise...hell on earth...and again hell...that will be bad. I think we all make mistakes, but some of us refuse to accept that we did. A little humility will go a long way. Let us give it a thought. Will you?

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  • vijay, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I would like every married couple to appreciate each other and love them unconditionally. Remember folks, life is too short to waste on these silly arguments. For a change lets live in peace and love.

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  • Anand, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    R. Bhandarkar thats really thrilling.

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  • Anand, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Ha Ha Ha I can smell sajjige bajjil through some comments.

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  • Annapoorna, M'Lore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @Simple-
    7th standard pass in Kannada-Now that's not that 'simple' to digest!
    This has brought a 'chuckle'. Even this reminds you of a certain Bhandarkar?
    Moras the 'Tigress' fellow? He is not giving you the full picture because from the way he has written it, it seems evident that he has secured prior permission from the
    same 'tigress' to write (it)!This should really amuse you!!

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  • Gracy Helen Ashok Galdys Monteiro, Bajpe, Korkambla

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I think If both Husband and Wife is faithful to each other than their is no issues, I think total misunderstand,so sad about the kid,evan papa is worried about the kid,this can stop,but what to do its over, This is a lesson to all of us

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  • Rudolf, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Ted, I agree with your views bro!! All these are only to forcibly conform to so as to allow one to live comfortably within the Society!! Or in a conservative society, such people will be treated as outcasts!!

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  • Ted, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    After going through the "dard bhari dastaan" of life after marriage in the comments posted , i m happy i'm still Single. We are living in a technologically advanced generation and concepts like Marriage, Religion, God,etc don't sound logical.

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  • Rai, UAE

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    There is more to this than the story depicted, firstly using physical violence,if he has slapped her this once which resulted in her death, this man must have slapped her before too,there can be many assumptions to this revelation that he slapped her and she died. the sad part is that slapping a woman, be it wife, daughter, sister, girlfriend is something that is terrible and should be looked down upon.

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  • simple, Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    annapoorna, Mangalore
    Henry Moras has detailed other things, how a man may suffer if he becomes arrogant with his wife.
    As for me, as long as i get what I want, it does not matter at all, if i look or ridiculed by others as hen-pecked.
    I have kept it very simple. I hope that beautiful dimple which you got after reading my earlier comment will spread to your other chubby cheek too - make you look more beautiful.
    I have kept it very simple. Have a very good day Lady.
    You have Bandarkar's knack for rhyming.
    I was amused reading that reply.
    I am trying my best to improve my knowledge of english ( 7th standard pass in Kannada medium)
    Hope you will understand.

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  • Stev, Kalmady

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @Simple

    you made it very 'simple' man.

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  • Vivek Baliga, Bangalore/Chandigarh

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    People who tend to bring Competition home within close ones, often end up like this, KPN what you commented was bang on man, irrespective of religion, we are losing the grounds of a morale family system

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  • Shashi Shetty, santhoor

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    This is a very unfortunate situation, the whole family doomed for a small flare-up. I have seen in many a families - our sisters have a double standards when it comes to their husbands family. It happens in many a family and I wish the mothers teach their children to mutually respect their in-laws like their own family. The marriage is supposed to be a union of 2 families and not just 2 bodies. The life is lost which cannot be brought back and Mr. Dharmesh is going to live his life on guilt rest of his life.. come what the law of the land take action. issue could have avoided but, no one can control a fate.
    I appreciate the parents of Mrs. Mahalaxmi for standing by their son-in law. This shows the quality of the family.

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  • Abdulla Amin, Udupi / Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Pure cliche!! Preaching is easier than practicing!!

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  • Nadeem Hameed, Karkala / UAE

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    KPN, whoever you are, you have great moral values.Accept a military style salute from me.

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  • Koni Prakash Naik, Kundapur, Muscat

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Thank you Mr. Nadeem Hameed. I really appreciate honour salute. We can use this forum to educate ourselves and contribute in our small way to the importance of social, moral, family values instead of fighting for senseless issues.

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  • veena, dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    That really true.

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  • Benet Navitha Moras, Mangalore, Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @TED i m totally agree with your point...salute u dr....come up with more points which will support both ...please dont suffer with any pain...just get rid of it live ua self happily

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  • Abrar, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    The strongest of u is not the one who shows his strenght over other, but who controls his/her anger.

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  • Sheetal,Mangalore, Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    May be its an accident,but a life is lost, kid lost his mother at an small age. Just a suggestion to Robin Byndoor, you are writing openly about your wife on daiji forum, does she knows about it? If you have so much sarcatism, hatred and negative feelings towards your wife how you are living with her? Its very wrong to write about your own wife in a public forum, you are insulting your ownself and your wife too. If you have so much bad feelings about your wife then you should leave her on her own and leave your own life instead of writing about her in public.

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  • SAHIL, DUBAI

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Juliet Mai

    Bhandarkar Mamu Election zale dis tavn Padrad Asa, Por munser Padayatre Padayatre Sangon Pod bareytalo, election zale dis tawn tot long Padayatre galagi Monon Dista.Prabhu Mamook Got asonk Puro.

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  • Mahesh, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    When relatives comes, we have to do lot of that thing and this thing. So she was worried when a call came. Some times we do not like any body coming to our house if they are of not good natured. So Dramesh should have diverted that call to come some other day. Now the life is gone, wife is lost. What is the solution??? Never get angry. Learn to pacify the wife, ok. Some other day. Make bye heart.

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  • Lancy Moras, Moushmi Creations

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    A piece of best advise to all kind husbands out here in and around: I used to shout and irritate my wife sith a lot more other tensions in my mind I used to put my anger on her but she used to get my bath hot water ready at night. There comes a neighbor woma and puts her tail into my wife's ears and say "Be strong and do not keep the hot water ready tonight for your husband" (unfortunately it was winter solid cold season). I entered home in the evening and found no water hot and it was so ice cold. I with anger and total frustration shouted at her and in return she told me that she is not going to prepare the fresh food for me from next day if I repeat my best habits with her. Guys, a tiger is a cruel tiger in a jungle but front of beautiful tigress a tiger is Zero. Keep in mind. Let the wives, Tigresses and ladies be happy. Let us leaave our worries to our God and m sure God will be with our shadow.

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  • Annapoorna, M'Lore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @Simple....
    Simply put....You mean they willingly allow themselves to be (hen)pecked to keep life simple!This sure has brought to my cheek a 'dimple'...
    To have a dimple
    Keep life Simple
    There's scope Ample
    Never mind the ocassional 'Pimple'
    Right? Got what you said-
    Madam Simple or Maddanna Simple??

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  • Ted, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    A crime against women is committed every 03 minutes
    A women is raped every 29 minutes
    A dowry death occurs every 77 minutes
    57% boys in India think a husband is justified in hitting or beating his wife
    53% Girls in India think that a husband is justified in beating his wife

    It will take another 1000 years for Indian Men to treat Women with Respect and crimes against Indian women will continue, but today’s women are educated and self dependent so she should not take any of these sh*t from her husband or any men anymore.

    If a husband cannot treat his wife with respect, then the wife should find someone else who can give her respect.

    In terms of Domestic Violence i feel both the culprit and victim to be equally responsible for their actions. The culprit for committing the crime and the victim for accepting the crime.

    India does not belong only to 50% of men, women have equal rights, but unfortunately in India you got to fight for your rights.

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  • shahnawaz kukkikatte, dubai/udupi

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Our prophet said, strongest of you is not the one who outpowers his oppenent but one who controls his anger... truely said.

    If we learn how to control our anger we will avoid unforseen misfalls..the one best way to control anger is to sit down or lie down.. this is my personal experience...coooool

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  • Bollu, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    shahnawaz
    it's true...what u said..we realise all over 'peace' in the world..!!

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  • simple, Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Annapoorna, Mangalore

    Those men silently tolerating abuse by women are not "hen-pecked" but very sensible peace loving husbands, trying their best to keep peace in the house, digesting their pride. It does not matter to them if outsiders make fun of them as "hen pecked"
    Sometimes there is a "extra" limit to that nagging too, then that once he may lose his control and involuntarily raise his hand at her - (in this case also it may have happened) Too much ridicule about husband's parents, sisters brothers and relatives for longer period may happen\result in this kind of incidents accidentally.
    I pity this guy now in trouble. Hope he will be out of his present predicament quickly.

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  • Sankappanna M, Sankalakariya Bahrain

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Padosi ka ghar jal raha hai bhai, chalo apni beedi jala lete hain...!
    Readers comments on this tragic incident reminds me of this proverb. Wah...kya kehna..!

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  • Leslie Fernandes, Brahmagiri, Udupi

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    FIST OF FURY....
    GUBBACCHIYA MELE BRAHMASTRA...
    MAGU HAKKIYA GATIYENU??????
    RESULT OF VIOLENCE IS OFTEN BAD....

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  • Juliet Mascarenhas, Bejai/Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Bhandarkar Maam,
    Ref.Anand Mumbai,He She ,She He , I am lost.
    Prabhu maam, Sahil Saib,Gerald Baaaab any help

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  • GERALD, MODANKAP

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    JULIE MAAI WHERE IS OUR BHANDU MAAM !!! HAVE YOU SEEN HIM IN BEJAI FISH MARKET BUYING "THARLE" OR "SURMAI"

    IS HE LOST IN ELECTION !!!

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  • Vinod Lewis, KALLIANPUR, BAHRAIN

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    It might be an accident, but their 4-year old son will have to suffer throughout his life.
    Work pressure and false pride is ruining our family lives.

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  • Agnello, Mangalore/Muscat

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Every act has a motive except an accident and I think this case is a case of accident where the motive was different. Slapping the wife may not been a best way to solve things and this is lesson learnt for all of us in anger management. Dharmesh should be ordered to undergo anger management and community service to redeem himself and authority should not throw him in the dungeons with hard core criminals.
    On issue of men and women, Yes men are short tempered and impatient and women are patient, argumentative and nagging. If these traits conflict with each other the family suffers. If they unite other families be beware. An advice for men based on a joke I read. ‘After a long argument the wife concluded, do you want to win or do you want to be happy?’ I have made my choice.

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  • Rudolf, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    May her soul RIP!! With utmost respect to all women, most would agree that the entry of a single selfish woman can break to smithereens the lovely relationships in an entire family by her tricks and jugglery!!

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  • Lancy Moras, Moushmi Creations

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Wonderful comment and message from Lydia Lobo, Kadri.

    Take a bow madam. You always come up with some kind of precious metal always. Awesome message and God bless u always.

    Parents fill cow dung in their brains and fight front of their own chilren and ruin the precious lif with countless doubts carrying in either minds will be out towards the door of any court or a lawyer for a forever marital disjointing. Marrid life in this way will become so filthy.

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  • Jaimini P.B., Manipal,Sharjah

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    SITTU NAASHAKKE KAARANA : BHAGAVAN BUDDHA !!

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  • VIVI & GLADYS PINTO, KORAKAMBLA-BAJPE=574142

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    MR. ROBIN YOU SHOULD GO FOR SOME KIND OF COUNSELLING ... THEN ONLY YOUR PROBLEM WILL BE SOLVED

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  • Benet Navitha Moras, Mangalore, Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @Praveen sheety ...u too see in one side n comment rite..u r supporting men n i m vd ladies ...so carry on with ua own comments dont point on my comment i write wt i feel u write wt u feel ...every person has his own point of view so plsssss

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  • Lancy Moras, Moushmi Creations

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I fully second Robin, Praveen Shetty and Geral Modanka's comments and sayings here. You guys are 1000% right expressing your internal worries. I salute your moral fiber.


    This incident is unfortunate but her husband never thought perhaps she will leave and go in this way. It is total unfortunate I say. may her soul RIP Amen

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  • Praveen Shetty, Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @ Benet Navitha Moras

    I agree on your points completely but from my little understanding of about the teaching of the bible you chose to ignore many more things which have been said about respecting parents/elders. Wish you can educate our readers on that as well instead of just writing one side of the story.

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  • McQueen, mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Really unfortunate to see male hegemony in most of the comments here.
    Let me state here that i'm male (unlike my name suggests), and am a married person.
    One act of anger can cause a life time of regret. The husband , (if it is as claimed is an otherwise calm person), will be regetting for his entire life, his act of anger. AND NO AMOUNT OF REGRET WILL BRING HIS WIFE BACK TO LIFE.
    WHAT WE MALE SPECIES NEED MOST OF THE TIME IS ANGER MANAGEMENT, DESPITE BEING PROVOKED. we need to control our adrenaline rush. i'm not exonerating those wives with kives like tongue here. BUT WE MEN HAVE TO CONTROL OUR ANGER.
    its like that beautiful hymn/song some of us sing when we get married. the hymn goes thus.
    " i accept you from the hands of my God,
    You are God's gift to me, a beautiful gift,
    This gift of love, God has given me....."

    to all husbands (old or young) who grunt/gloat about their wives, please listen to this hymn sung by Glen La Rive...its a beautiful hymn

    Eternal rest grant unto that lady O Lord...

    Let her death be a lesson for all of us - husbands and wives alike

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  • Farooque, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    100% agreed.. good comment

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  • Afridi, Mangalore/Maldives

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    BUDEDHIGU...PETTU..HAKUNA..JAGEDE,,HAKODU...JAGE..THATHENDU...PAREESTITHI..UNDU!!! DHUMBAGU...JAGRATHE???

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  • vikas, dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    In all matter, ladies always thinks about the future, but in this respect they think only about the present, that they are nothing to do with their in-laws, but they forget to visualize the future that their childrens also have same life cycle of inlaws, do they tolerate, when their son's wife makes the same thing with the daughter when they grow up. i am sure no one disagrees with the truth, if they do its because of common saying in kannada that 'adi biddaru moogu mele'

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  • Benet Navitha Moras, Mangalore, Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Every man knows what will happen after marriage ...but still they want to get married...if they love their parents let them b single n live their life their parents why they want family life if they dot want to give respect to his wife....man its written in bible as wife leaves her parents n start living with unknown man..same after marriage man will his parents and create his own family ....as woman becomes rare to her parents man also should b rare to his parents love ua parents being far ....n live your life with your own family keep distance with love .....keep the same respect to both families ...husband should respect wife family..wife should respect husband families ....

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  • Joyson, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    Benet,
    Wife wants to keep in touch with her parents everyday but she does not like her husband taking care of his parents or speaking to them. What nonsense. Such wives deserve a big slap.

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  • Annonymous, Somewhere in the world

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Robin, bulls eye. Same as my story. With so many desire and dreams i got married. Anyway i have givenup on this. Will never ever marry agian even in my next life.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Dear Readers,

    Its an open truth that a very few people in the world are happily married. Not all get a partner of their desire/liking but with the education both partners have today and the wealth attached to a marriage, race to domination take place.

    The kind of marriage you have is yours do not lament nor envy others. Both of you adjust and carry on, that is the secret of life. How you live today is a mirror to your children. What you do to your parents/in-laws will be your fate tomorrow.

    Have a wonderful day dear readers because today is not going to return. Do not waste it away in bitter arguments !

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  • Arun, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    My greatest sympathy with the family of girl.

    In our country DV Act and 498a largely misused by women’s to blackmail husbands and husbands family. So many innocent husbands and his family lamenting in jails on account of false cases by filed by wife. Husbands suffering silently and feel shame to share with his friends and relatives what going on in his house. For the sake of his childrens future he keeps mum but on the other hand women tries all her best to defame her husband and in laws. Women want’s husband to dance has per her tunes. She wants her husband to treat her family well but if here in laws arrives at sons house then she get angry. She don’t allow here husband send money to husbands aged parents. But she should realize that whatever she do with here in laws surely she well get in return through her son when she become old .

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  • vikas, dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Its very well said arun, whatever we do with our inlaws it reflects on our children, one day or the other day everyone will become in laws and same treatment we will get from the coming generation, Hence be human being, and treat everyone same in this life, afterall we all know we may not have another life. live together since life is short make it sweet

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  • Vivian Dsouza, Mumbai/Neeruda/Q8

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Dear All,
    Some women think that husband has no rights towards their family after marriage. But this is wrong, Once lady gets married their husband family become the first intimate family and we have right to take care them first, then our owns family. This means that we should not neglected our family too. May GOD guide all married women and bless them all. AMEN.

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  • Dr Urban D'Souza, Udyavar/Malaysia

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    An unintentional act of Dharmesh invited a tragic incident causing death of his beloved wife.
    Readers responses and evaluation of marital problems from each one's side has reciprocated the problems of every married life! Every men and women have their right to live in a marital bond. Few husbands have expressed their anguish of loosing their family (parents, siblings) bond after his marriage! Many a time it is a reality. In most of men's cases, they have seen their mother married and settled with fathers family fully in olden days where for a daughter after marriage, parents house is only a relative's house. Rather girls parents used to inculcate and train their daughter to forget parents house and completely embrace husbands family or house. Those days are gone my dear husbands. Do not expect that kind of sacrifices from present generation. As rightly mentioned by few respectable woman commentators here - How they can forget their connections, emotions and feelings? As Mr P Shetty has mentioned, wife expects to take care of her parents by her husband in turn she do not want to appreciate husbands parents. It is kaliyuga right! In many families of present day, if one of their son in law completely surrenders to wife's family like a daughter in law (reversal of role) and if second son in law never obliges that way, try to understand the fate of second son in law who follows the traditional culture. It is a changing scenario in the present time. In many cases, if you want to blame, do not blame your beloved wife rather the culprits are in laws (girls parents to make their son in law a puppet so that his wealth they can enjoy). Please do not compare anything and also do not follow the great culture of old tradition. Depending on situation, adjust life - even if it is mane aliya, carry on. Instead of spending days and years in jail, very well can enjoy the warmth of mane aliya to keep your wife happy and lucky. Major tragedy for life can be avoided - child need mothe

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  • Praveen Shetty, Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @ Dr. Urban D'Souza, Udyavar/Malaysia.
    I do not agree with your views completely. In marriage both husband and wife are supposed to be equal. My good friend who happens to be from your religion told me few great things which they teach in church but, many married couples fail to follow in their marriage lives. He is a marriage counseling and he told me following things. (Yes, I went for marriage counseling to resolve the issues at home).
    1. In marriage 'two will be one' and both have to respect to each other and both are equals.
    2. Listen to your father and do not hate your mother when she is old.
    3. Respect your father and your mother and God is giving you.
    I wish all husbands and wifes were following this one.
    There is a hypocrisy which we have to mostly blame on our society which is rightly coined the word 'Saas bhi Kabhi Bahu thi'. The tragic is that Bahu behaves differently when she is married she expects her son to devote time, money and energy to her and her family. But the same Bahu when she becomes Saas she expects her son not to dance to the tunes of her bahu forgetting whant she did as bahu. The person who is going to suffer most is ‘Husband’ who gets drummed from all sides.
    I had many issues in this regard in the initial stages and I along with the wife met the marriage counselors to address the issue. The main issue was my wife initially was not even ready to accept there is something wrong in our relationship until we met the counselors. I am sure there are many women out there assuming that they are perfect and their husbands are overreacting to their feelings.

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  • Christopher D' Cunha, M'lore/AUH

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @Praveen Shetty, you have to put-up with it my dear…this is called modern living…..earlier we use to live in a joint family now its micro family (husband-wife & Children), we have become self-centered. We try to show-off our modern (western) living while trying to incorporate our traditional Indian Values.

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  • Praveen Shetty, Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @ Christopher D' Cunha, M'lore/AUH

    I do not agree with you here. We have to face the issue head rather acting as if like there is no problem. One can show to the outside world that everything is fine (In their marriage) but from inside you know the hard truth. You can cheat others but you cannot cheat yourself. If we ignore it one day it may result in disaster and I find this is the main reason for increased marriage discords (including divorces). I ignored the issue initially as one would expect but things were about to go out of control but I convinced my wife of attending counseling from experts which has saved our marriage even though the problem has not completely resolved as yet.

    So my suggestion is don’t act as if like there is no problem. Seek Help!

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  • Gregory Fernandes, Pernankila/Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    The very support of In-Laws in this case to their Son-in-law indicates the arrogant behaviour of Mahalaxmi. There are many more Dharmesh and Mahalakshmis in present day society. However whatever happened is highly unfortunate. I feel very pity for Dharmesh. Who knows what type of agony he is undergoing.

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  • Ashfak A. Karnad, Al-Khobar

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    It happends by mistake, so little bit sympathy is very important. before to comments just think everybody please.

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  • S.M. Nawaz Kukkikatte, udupi

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Now its proved here "Slapping is dangerous for life"

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  • Anand, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Anyways why R. Bhandarkar is missing for the comments is she mourning the loss of BJP in this election or rejoicing the victory of Congress. I hope she is fine.

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  • V D K, Mangalore / Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    iTs really sad…I can myself on dharmesh’s shoes..real unfortunate incident !!
    Yes wives have this problem objecting in-laws or husbands side relatives needs! I can relate to this situation as I have indulged in this sort of arguments often!..
    Yes I lose patience at that point of argument to a extent that I feel I should hit her!!
    Later after long pause from argument ..i do think from wife’s point of view..by then both of our mood would have got spoilt! One ultimate point what we husbands should note that she scarifies every relatives touch..and came to us….!!
    So how much ever we argue wife will be at winning side at the end!!
    But we husbands even after wife winning the argument ..we would never lose because even if she object ..or disagree we will do it as we want…athaa!!!
    This behavior of US is the major major ..reasons for the “offen” arguments! It prick them a lot and they find them self in a miserable state ..and continue to object ..Often and often!!

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  • Anand, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Yere yere na mandebeccha, yere yere na tarek. Seeing the type of comments and arguments i surely feel people out of frustration are going to slap the spouses.

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  • Annapoorna, M'Lore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Praven Ajja...
    What non-sense comments have I made?
    Don't go by the number of 'agrees'
    and 'disagrees' bacchaa! They can be very misleading! To Robin, I have responded seperately. You know Robin personally by the way? How long in the same boat? I sincerely sympathise...as I have commented the 'case'is of common occurence and keeps happening in every household! 'Hen pecked'ones never retaliate, and when some rebellion happens it leads to some tragic events like these...! Now don't count agrees and disagrees- Always have a honest heart and mind! That and only that will help in the long run....Right?

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  • Uday Shetty, Shirva/Doha

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I like your tit for tat approach. Anyway very sad incident. May her soul rest in peace. Punching bag therapy is needed for those who lose temper for trivial matters.

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  • GERALD, MODANKAP

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    MEN ARE UNITED HERE !!!

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  • Mark, Udyavara

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Recruit this guy for Boxing sport. He could perhaps win knocking out the opponent.

    Caution: His opponent be a lady else he will be knocked out in style!

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  • Annapoorna, M'Lore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @Robinji...
    I apologise profusely and take back my initial remarks of you being a 'one time commentator' using a false ID. I appreciate your honesty in coming forward with your turmoil. As I had commented earlier,I understand your position
    perfectly. You have come out in the open with it.Not many are so daring....

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  • Rudolf, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @Benet Moras from the tone of your views, I am sure you are a victim!! You are right to an extent, but do you know nowadays very few females keep quiet and do not hit back instantly, those days are gone where they would suffer silently!! Do you know nowadays increasing number of women abuse their partner mentally and physically, and there are battered men help groups formed too!!

    The above opinion does not mean I support abuse in anyway, but the harsh reality!! Mostly the words spoken are the culprits!! If one controls the tongue many a bad situation can be avoided!!

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  • GERALD, MODANKAP

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    MR.ROBIN BYNDOOR AND MR.PRAVEEN SHETTY YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT !!

    THE WOMEN TAKEN MEN AS GRANTED.

    WHY THEY JEALOUS WHEN WE "MEN" CALLING/VISITING OUR SIBLINGS-PARENTS-FAMILY MEMBERS WHY WE DONT HAVE RIGHT TO SPEAK WITH THEM OR INTERACT WITH THEM. WHY THEY ARE NOT LEAST BOTHERED ABOUT "MEN" FAMILIES ????????????????

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  • Vishal, Mangalore/Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Dear Praveen Shetty, Mangalore, Dubai,

    I can't agree more on your opinion. You are 100% right and look at the response as "agree".

    I too face the similar problem. I have no problem with my wife. she is a gem. But, she wants me to treat her side nicely which I do as all husbands do vis-a-vis their wives. But it hurts me badly when she has a different treatment to my side.

    We husbands treat wife's parents as ours. But wives treat husband's parents as somebody outsider. It pains a lot.

    I have deeply reflected on this issue and now come to the conclusion that all ladies are same irrespective of their education, culture, creed, religion.

    This is the main reason for conflicts in the families.

    P.S.: One interesting point: Please look at the large heart of husbands who (99%) help their wifes' family members to bring to overseas than their own. This is the magic power of ladies. Actually it is wrong to say that they are weak.Emotionally they are 1000 times stronger than men.

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  • George D'Souza, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    PRAVEEN SHETTY,YOU ARE ABSULUTELY CORRECT.THIS IS THE MODERN TREND IN LADIES.ACCEPT IT OR NOT GROUND REALITY REMAINS THE SAME IN MOST OF THE PRESENT FAMILIES.THEY DONT TOLARATE HUSBAND HELPING HIS FAMILY MEMBERS.

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  • Sunil Kumar, karkala/qatar

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Praveen, Robin I too agree with you. It is bad luck of Dharmesh.

    ನನ್ನ ಹೆಂಡತಿ ಕೂಡ ಹಾಗೇನೆ. ಅವಳಿಗೆ ನಾನು ನನ್ನ ತಾಯಿಗೆ ಸಹೊದರರಿಗೆ ಫೋನ್ ಮಾಡಿದರೆ ಕಿಚ್ಹು, ಏನೆಲ್ಲ ಮಾತನಾಡುತ್ತಾಳೆ. ಯಾರಿಗೆ ಹೇಳಲಿ ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರಾಬ್ಲಮ್. ಹೆಂಡತಿಯನ್ನು ಬಿಡಲಿಕ್ಕೆ ಆಗುತ್ತಾದ? ಇಲ್ಲ! ಮಾಡಿಧ ಕರ್ಮ ಎಂದು ವೀಕೆಂಡ್ನಲ್ಲಿ 90 ಎಣ್ಣೆ ಹಾಕಿ ಸುಮ್ಮನೆ ಮಲಗುತ್ಹೇನೆ. ನನಗೆ ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರಾಬ್ಲಮ್ ಇಂಗ್ಲಿಷ್ನಲ್ಲಿ ಟೈಪ್ ಮಾಡಲಿಕ್ಕೆ ಹೆದರಿಕೆ ಆಗುತ್ತದೆ.

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  • Robin, Byndoor

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Nimage 90 haakalaadru bidtaaralla.... Namage no chance... He... He...

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  • Arun, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Sunilravare, Ilige Hedari, Hulige Hedari, Aadare Hendathige Hedara Bedi.

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  • Bollu, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    yake hendatige kannada baruudilava..??

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  • rakesh, bantwal

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    why these wife's try to separate their son from parents and family.Every son love his parents brother and sister and entire scenario changes after marriage.mothers love and caring for 30yrs is nothing for wife's and 1st job after marriage is to kick husbands parents out.every one talks abt respecting women .

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  • Rudolf, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    @Praveen Shetty your views are very honest and not hypocritical or biased!! This is a very unfortunate incident which occurred in a fit of rage! May her soul RIP!!

    As you said majority of women after getting command in the marriage generically hate the husbands family members/friends whilst going overboard in entertaining/gifting/financially helping their families!! Many husbands suffer quietly so as not to spoil the family atmosphere, but sometimes as perhaps happened in this case, the guy lost his temper and slapped in a fit of extreme rage, but immediately came to his senses! The cause seems to be the words of the tongue!! As they say that the words spoken are worse than a slap!!!

    In this tragic incident, the statement of the ladies parents supports further the fact that this guy is innocent!!

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  • Praveen, udupi

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Mr Praveen Shetty Mangalore/Dubai-You are 1000% correct.

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  • Benet Navitha Moras, Mangalore, Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Mr Robin this comment only for you…no man has right to slap or beat his wife
    Every one has right to argue…but why the hell woman should shut her mouth when man argue?
    When a lady opens her mouth man feels bad n raise his hands….
    Your wife has problem with your family members may be you r not giving important to
    Her family members what you guys thinks after marriage, wife should forget her parents and her childhood frnds
    Her feelings and past she has to forget and sacrifice her life to a unknown man?…yes she does that but still man is not happy with a lady whom he is living
    Keep complaining about his wife with his family members and lady should keep quiet for all his nonsense.
    He will drink when he is in tension or he will smoke …guys what woman will do where she will go n bang her head
    Any option? u think even she has to drink n smoke? if she does this who will take care of her kids?.
    She is also human and she also has tensions, problems she will take that on her loved ones she will argue with her husband.
    Blady husbands will never understand their wives…no man has right to hit his wife if he does this then all ladies please give hard slap on ua husband show them what woman is made for.
    poor ladies will die with their feelings n pains
    I hope in future lady also will raise her hand to her husband. Hope that day comes soon to teach a lesson to a man.....i m really sad for this lady....blady man took advantage of her weakness.please ladies support all the woman who is in trouble. give them mentally strength n hopes come out n live your life with all the happiness.no need to bare such stupid husbands dont bother about the society..people will talk n forget.
    this is my real name...kya ukadna hai ukadlo ....

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  • Sanjay, Banglore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    A mother has no rights beat her children will you also. Regarding beating husband if he not man he will be beated, otherwise before raising the hand to beat husband she will be killed.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Benet,

    When a man beats his wife, its your duty as a woman to comfort and sympathize with that woman (which will further strengthen her), not to instigate retaliation in her. Man is not born beast but circumstances make him so. Men are naturally short tempered while women are patient and tolerant. Women in Indian society are expected to go to man's family and live according to their custom, not make him like hers. How correct was ancient custom that parents did not even accept water from daughter's wedded house ! When we reverse the system, problems do occur and we are to find solutions to them.

    Spread love and harmony sweety, not disgust and revenge.

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  • Arun, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I salute Mam for your unbiased views.

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  • nyayakkagi, mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    well said mr.Praveen Shetty....almost i agree wid tr comments... its like "yellara mane dose thoothu"

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  • M.KAPPA, Jeddah - KSA

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    It was his conniption, being angry he could not thought that such incident could happened. May her soul rest in peace.

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  • Shekar Moily Padebettu, Udipi/India

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    This is obviously unfortunate incident wherein sober/qualified husband lost his cool just for trivial reason and slapped on the face of his wife.It should not have happened but happened.It is indeed not our culture.It happens sometimes in fit of rage.Fraction of second is enough to spoil the entire scenario.That is why"kopavembudu Paapada Nelegattu,Koopadholu nenu haridanthe sarvajna".Even when the parents are not suspecting of any foul play Dharmesh could be pardoned.He may be regretting for his act now.However May god in his ever lasting mercy grant eternal peace to the departed soul and give enough strength and energy to sustain this irreparable loss.

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  • CYRIL MASCARENHAS, KIREM/MIRA ROAD/DUBAI

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    HUSBANDS,IF YOU ARE SLAPING,GO LITTLE
    SOFTERWAY.DONT SLAP HARDLY..CONTROL YOUR ANGER..ANGER DESTROY LIFE.

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  • Praveen Shetty, Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    The entire incident is unfortunate.

    But we have big problem with the most of the girls after the marriage which rarely addressed properly. I have been married for more than 5 years now and facing similar problem from my wife. When her parents, relatives and friends come she expects me to treat them well, take them around and accommodate as many times as possible.

    But when it comes to my parents and relatives she asks me to look for a hotel to make them stay and gets infuriated when I take a decision on my own. The same is true when we buy things, sending money, arranging visas etc. for my parents/relatives.

    I am sure many more people are suffering from this. After marriage girls want their husbands to be treat their in laws ahead instead of giving equal treatment to all.

    I expect honest feedback on the above issue because this is a major problem in many households.

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  • Rajesh, Udupi / Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Praveen Shetty, Mangalore/Dubai..you are 100% right..its happening 99% of each & every family

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  • Sachidanand Shetty, Mundkur/Dubai

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    Praveen Shettre, Erena Pathera 100% correct. Aanda encha panpini, baiyag illade povare unduathe

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  • Bollu, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    should find out from 'janmathara' what's actually gone wrong..!!

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  • Rajesh, Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    That sister who was about to visit must be coming for an inspection of her brothers house.Thats why the wife did not want the sister to come.She must have been creating problems between them.That guy was not able to understand.

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  • Amin Bhoja, Patte / Riyadh

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    A sad and unfortunate incident,looks Dharmesh a victim of that time.'May her soul rest in peace'.

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  • Annapoorna, M'Lore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    C'mon Robin Byndoor -At least be brave and give your correct name.
    Robin from Byndoor, Robin Hood from Bhatkal etc,etc,seem like borrowed names for a one time comment...!
    Understand your position though correctly.It's the same case in many places...all kept hushed up though....

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  • Robin, Byndoor

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Annapoornaji.... I am not one time commenter... Check with Daiji that how many times I have sent my views....

    Perhaps Praveen Shetty, Mangalore / Dubai extended my own episode with his stories... Thanks Praveen...

    In addition to that my wife want every information of my office. Whats going on there... Who are all on duty. What they are talking about etc.... I sometimes suggest her to try a Job at Central Vigilance... Why after all she want that info ? What benefit from it ?

    Sincerely, I remains to be Robin from Byndoor.

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  • Praveen Shetty, Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Annapoorna Aunty, Please see the agree numbers and disagree numbers before you make some non-sense comments. We all raise issues of domestic violence against women but no one talks of silent torture of men in their marriage in the hands of wife. This is hard fact but true.

    All married girls need to mind that their husbands are not brought by them after their wedding as Robin rightly said. Usually men dont let out the anger and slowly it will build up over months and years. But when they let it go it may result in disasters like the one above.

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  • Joyson, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Praveen Shetty is 100% right.

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  • Karan, Katapadi/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I agree with Robin.
    Dharmesh is not murderer as he did not intent to kill her.
    Most of the women object their husband from calling their mother or giving some financial support to aged parents or brothers/sisters, which is totally wrong and this attitude often end up in fights. Even the calm husband loose temper when they are tortured by their wives.

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  • VIVIAN JOHN VEIGAS, ADKABARE-BAJPE=574142

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    dEAR JOSSEY
    OUR CULTURE DEPENDS ON HOW WE BROUGHT UP IN OUR LIFE FROM CHILDHOOD.THERE ARE SO MANY WOMEN IN INDIA SUFFERS THESE KIND OF TORTURE SILENTLY WITHOUT KNOWING OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS...THESE KIND OF INCIDENTS SHOULD NOT REPEAT IN OUR SOCIETY...

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  • Bollu, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    rightly told by mahalaxmi's parents..it's an accident..one or other reason he cannot able to control his temper for an while..things went wrong..!! not fault of dharmesh..!! our karmas involved from previous births..unfortunately continuing without knowing..!! brahma shushti..whatever written is going to happen..no can change..!! dharmesh is lucky nothing happened during his netherland stay..here atleast he can fight for his right..!! God save him..!!

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  • mohamed, karnataka/uae

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    What is happened is unfortunate. Mahalaxmi should not have objected, and Dharmesh known that she will object. The family differances should be solved as early as possible and misunderstanding's cure should be first priority than having a dinner. That is why beating wife's face is prohibited.

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  • GERALD, Modankap

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    THIS IS A ABSOLUTE UNFORTUNATE INCIDENT !!! YOU CANT CALL IT AS MURDER !!

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  • Peter, Udupi/Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    KPN india your 100% Correct.

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  • RAJESH, MULKY

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Unfortunately YES to a large extent Mr Jossey. We in INDIA are still at an age where domestic violence is not made an issue especially when the person involved is husband..Boys who grow up their father beating their mother tend to think that it is OK and girls who see their mother suffering silently think IT IS NORMAL..WE as a society must put an end to this kind of trend...who knows how many women are suffering this silently on a daily basis just for the sake of children or family....

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  • robert, bangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    sometimes even a prank call can kill people.

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  • THERESA LOBO, Mukamar-Sharjah

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Very sad unfortunate incident. May her soul Rest in Peace.

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  • KPN, India

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Very tragic and unfortunate incident. May her sould rest in peace.

    But why one should object to Dharmesh's sister visiting them. Now a days most ladies just don't want to believe in joint family system or family values. I know ladies out there are ready to attack me, but it is the reality. Sorry Ladies, but please try to have a cordial relationship with your close relatives, so that our children will start believing in family values, not just Pop, Mom and Kids, there is life beyond that.

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  • AMAR NATHAL, MANGALORE

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Very sad incident. Not only there is no scientific reason for the killing, but also his "petro-chemicals" don't help much in married life but compassion and forgiveness do!

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  • Ashok Veiges, Bajpe

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Its unfortunate, so sad, May soul rest in peace

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  • Robin, Byndoor

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Even the BP of my wife goes up when I talk to my brothers and parents. She is behaving like she had purchased me after marriage. She even can't tolerate my relatives phone numbers arranged in my cell in ready order for my convenience...

    My wife is not even ready to accept I have some personal rights...

    How come Dharmesh is wrong ?

    We talk a lot at Public but we are failed to put our views into practice at home...

    Come on you Mahila Mandala with your views...

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  • Kavita, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Mr. Robin, without reason your wife will not behave like that. Some of your family members must have tortured her or she might have neglected by them... or else no women will act like this.

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  • Charles, Karkala

    Wed, Mar 13 2013

    Robin @Byndoor, I do not think you are the only one in this boat, there are many more who just suffer in silence to keep the family together, childrens future etc. Just keep praying Pal!!! the day will come she will be enlightend to know your value.
    Kavita @ Mangalore, Each women is different & so the men. Sorry Madam, Gone are the days where only women were ill treated and today it more men get mentally & physically tortured by women but get never reported.

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  • Sachidanand Shetty, Mundkur/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    God bless all of us. Now no one can date to beat their wife since they may pretend as died and put their husband behind bar for few days. Though in this case unfortunate happened but I am sure it was not his intention to kill his beloved wife but law is law he is guilt for sure. May God bless her soul to rest forever

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  • nyayakkagi, mangalore

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    R I P... unfortunate accident...

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  • Vasant Raj, Mangalore / Abudhabi

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    Stupid angry does it work within fraction of minute..that is why - SITTANNU SUTTU BIDABEKU.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mangalore/Mapusa/Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 12 2013

    I wonder if women beating is our culture...........

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