Bangalore: 'Ditched' by Facebook lover, 14-year-old girl hangs self


Bangalore: 'Ditched' by Facebook lover, 14-year-old girl hangs self

Bangalore, Nov 7 (DHNS):
“Ditched” by her Facebook lover who befriended her just one-and-a-half-months ago, a teenage girl reportedly hanged herself at her home in Mahalakshmi Layout here on Tuesday evening. Police have arrested the man for abetment to suicide and rape.

Manoj Kumar, 22, a BCom student from Nandini Layout, was arrested after he was named in a three-and-a-half-page handwritten suicide letter reportedly left behind by the 14-year-old victim.

Hours before the reported suicide, the girl and her younger brother visited a relative near their house. At 3.15 pm, she left him there and returned home.

Their parents were away at the time. When her mother returned home in the evening, she found her hanging with a dupatta from the ceiling fan in her bedroom.

The door had been first locked. Her mother then called her, knocking on the door. But when the girl did not respond, she called up her husband who rushed home and broke the door open, only to find their daughter dead, police said.

Giving the reasons for her extreme step, the girl, who was a class 9 student, said she was “dejected” as Kumar had “ditched” her. The two struck up a friendship after she accepted a Facebook friend request sent by Kumar on September 18. She had joined Facebook on October 29, 2012.

They then began courting each other. On October 4, Kumar called her to his house, an invitation she promptly accepted. When she went to the house, Kumar was alone there. He then “forced” her into physical relationship, police quoted the girl as having written in the letter.


Harassment

The girl claimed the suspect “harassed” her for the phone numbers of her female friends, saying he wanted to talk to them.

For the last two weeks, however, he began “avoiding” her. When she asked him to marry her, he “ditched” her, saying the physical relationship was “just for fun”.

He also told her that he would only marry the girl his parents would choose. Thereafter, Kumar “completely blanked her out” and did not respond to any of her messages, the girl further said, adding that the “humiliation” was too great for to her tolerate.

Police sources said the girl did not have a computer at home or a personal mobile phone. According to her parents, she might have visited Facebook at a cyber cafe.

Initial investigation revealed that the mother had noticed her daughter calling the suspect from her mobile phone a few times. Even she called him sometime ago and warned him against “harassing” her daughter.

  

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Sun, Nov 10 2013



    Stan, Dubai

    very well said.

    Why blame parents. They do not hold a remote control to control every aspect of children's life.

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  • Pasha, Dubai

    Sat, Nov 09 2013

    Soo Sad.. Nowadays husband cheats his wife and wife cheats husband and even good relations break because of facebook. Nowadays there is no value for relationship. Beacuse of this social networking sites it is very easy to propose any body no matter wat age they are. some people who is desparate keep on trying with good messages. they start chatting in friendly way last end up in relation. I feel this social networking sites should be banned.

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  • Roshan Braganza, mumbai

    Fri, Nov 08 2013

    The whole episode merky and coined against this man, whose only fault is bonding with girl. The word ' forced ' now a days used against innocent men, even if the girl is equally responsible and given consent. Suicides depend upon one's mind framework , if he or she is weak and can't overcome the emotions , who to blame. Abetment of suicide clauses is often pitted against person intimately ( eg : zia khan case ) . If it's a true love , boy should have stood beside her , by entering matrimony. Child marriage act can be quashed if a girl has consented and its not void. even if the girl's parents accuse kidnapping , that can be quashed too ( lots of recent cases to read ) . Rape clauses should not apply here since age of consent here turns out to be 15 years for married girls ( it was just one year of wait ) . The feminist advocacy groups who often outcry against child marriages , are silent on the teen pregnancy issue here.

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  • Bharathesh Bangera, Mangalore

    Fri, Nov 08 2013

    I keep mentioning about these kind of instances in recent days. We have gone too far on this way and the youth is already framed like this. It's very tough to change it. We can not blame parents alone because it's too beyond parents' knowledge the exposure youth gets. It's all media, channels, FB, personal emails, mobiles ... all these contributed to the current situation which we are facing. The damage is done and we are paying for it. Unless something beyond planned and uted, we may have to keep seeing similar instances or problems in the immediate future.

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  • Shyam Shetty, Mangalore

    Fri, Nov 08 2013

    @ Navin Shetty, Manipal/Bahrain

    Why Hussain has to read the message properly...just for your information it is not clear. Everyone does not have a super power like you. What if it is the other way around.

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  • stan, dubai

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Some of our readers are blaming parents……. At present each and every child knows what is sex, Facebook, etc. How can you control your child. The parents can give only good guidance if a child asks them but if anyone is doing something wrong they will not tell even parents until the problem arises.

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  • vinaya, mangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Now a days parents don't have time to sit with their children and listen to them.This is one of the reason children go out and make friends with male/female and spend most of their time out with them.
    Children need love and counselling from their parents.May GOD give strength to the girls' parents to bear this loss and may the soul departed rest in peace.

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  • Anitha D'souza, Pangla/Shankerpura

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    This shows parents' negligence towards their children,It applies all of us..At the age of 14 she took this extreme step?Difficult to believe.And the boy who involved in it should get the highest punishment.

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  • veera pinto, Mangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    At the age of 14??? umm. I guess in society parents are just busy working and no one knows what is happening in their own home... this applies to all of us :) Jai ho, busy people.

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  • Vincent Rodrigues, Katapadi/Bangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    This ditcher of love is unfit to live in our society needs to be punished properly for the ugly crime.Thanq.

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  • Sweet Sixteen, Madikeri

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Wonder if the 14 year old went to his house by PROMPTLY accepting his invite,just to meet him or play hide and seek.? Another young soul lost,may she R.I.P.....

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  • Mark, Udyavara

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Very sad & it could be any of our child!

    This happens when a child(ren) think that their parents' advises are useless/outdated!

    It's a tragedy not for her but to the parents and the rest of their dear ones who are left behind to continue with the story & heart burns.

    On the other hand, there's nothing wrong in being a friend. Infatuation/blind love has caused her this drastic measures.

    Boy should surely be punished for the wrong doings. I'm sure our LAW will take it's own course....

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  • RTN MICHAEL MATHIAS SHIRVA ROTARY, PILAR SHIRVA

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    very sad news

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  • Flavian, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Thu, Nov 07 2013


    Bhandarkar,

    In our times. . . . . . . . .


    You have very well explained the virtue of our times.

    Fierce commitment …………………and big competition.

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  • Advice, Mangalore/Dubai

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Piece of advice to teenager and children out there. Never accept friend request from unknown people. There are lot of evil people out there who will use you for there evil purposes. There are a lot of cases of fake account being created in facebook. So just be careful while adding unknown people. you may never know when disaster might strike.

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  • Rohan, Mangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Some faces in Face Book are Masked.

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  • Navin Shetty, Manipal/Bahrain

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Bro Hussain, Read the new properly. She had joined Facebook on October 29, 2012 and he sent friend request on September 18, 2013.

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  • Jaimini P.B., Manipal,Sharjah

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    BLAME BOY & GIRL AND NOT FACEBOOK....Facebook is a site for sharing knowledge and connecting people and NOT for sharing SEX..

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  • Bollu, Mangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    chotuda hudige luvaa..mathe muduvena...

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  • Bollu, Mangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    At the age of 14..she need marriage..!!
    These gals don't want to study and do fame in the society...!!
    Sitting in between four walls..just but nothing dreaming there 'love-boy' without knowing others...!!
    May be it's her karma of last janma..no regret..!!
    How gals from the poor family going to other places for their education and also to do the job...keeping in mind to look after their family members. We should appreciate them..in spite of so many hurdles facing the society.

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  • hussain, Mangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    He sent a friend request on 18th sept and she joined FB on oct 29th..??

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    If youth resort to 'Advance booking' in Love ..this is what happens...What facebook and all? In our times 'One Look' was enough!Ask anybody...And nobody used to hang, commit suicide, jump in a well and all that...There were fierce commitments too and in some cases 'it lasted till the going was good'...All in all a very peaceful and lovely atmosphere...
    Nowadays...you cannot make head and tail of anything...then the police comes in...and there is a demand (rightly in some cases)for chili powder to be put in someone's a.. hole.Girls also ditch many a times now! Wonder what the 'prescribed' punishment would be then! Fernandes Sir...any suggestions?In our days girls hardly used to ditch!They used to cling and never let go!

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  • HENRY MISQUITH, BAHRAIN

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Immature girl.........FB is not a matrimonial site.....Facebook is like a sharp knife which can be used for any purpose. RIP

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  • For Justice, Abu Dhabi / Ubar

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Is new generation love becoming deadly one?

    This rogue deserves aeroplan treatment before landing in jail with harsh punishment.

    Its is quite sure that Criminal lawyers are on top the toes to get him on bail...

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  • Peace, Mangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    It's an advice for the parent's that please do check whatever your children's do on internet and don't even allow them to stay till late night on the internet because mind goes nasty at that time only...

    Take care your children's

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  • Raj Shetty, UAE

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    enchi saawu mare, gift of scientific innovation can siddu will ban facebook now?

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  • Ronald, Mangalore

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    Why ban Facebook? Facebook does not force anyone to make friendship with unknown people. It is up to the individual how they use it. If not facebook he may have contact her over e-mails so will you then say ban e-mail?

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  • Aubb, kuwait

    Fri, Nov 08 2013

    @Raj Shetty, UAE.

    It seems like you are one of those scared of the anti superstition and the black magic bill which is going to be passed anyway !!

    You must learn to accept the positive side of every scientific progress that is taking place before your own eyes.

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  • Raj Shetty, UAE

    Fri, Nov 08 2013

    Can you explain me what is black magic?do you believe in it? then i will say i believe in white magic, does indian constitution have any formula to find what faith is right and which is black, white, brown, green magic?

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  • Aubb, Kuwait

    Fri, Nov 08 2013

    @Raj Shetty, Dubai

    You have once again proven the height of your ignorance!!

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  • R.Fernandes, Dubai

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    He “ditched” her, saying the physical relationship was “just for fun”.
    Now police laati in his a$$ ho.. with little chili powder and tell him that it was just for fun.

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  • Anand, karkala

    Thu, Nov 07 2013

    This is the result of giving a free hand to children during their teenage.

    Parents should take utmost care about their children and educate them properly when they reach this period.

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