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Bengaluru woman's rebel 'matrimonial CV' goes viral

  •   Tue, Mar 03 2015 05:01:02 PM

Bengaluru, Mar 3 (Agencies): A 23-year-old engineer, Indhuja Pillai, from Bengaluru has created online buzz by breaking the stereotypical idea of getting married.

As her parents put her profile on a matrimonial site, Indhuja created a website for her own marriage, marry.indhuja.com. Indhuja clearly stated that she won't grow her hair to become a perfect woman. Moreover, she also claimed her gender to be 'tomboy' and her marital status as 'married to self'.

As she uploaded the rebellious 'matrimonial CV', it soon caught the eyes of the internet diggers and it soon went viral. The straightforward throw of words fetched about 230,000 page views. Many women came forward and vented out the same experiences they are facing all over the country.

Indhuja, also called IP, said though she is not a 'marriage material', she can commit to it. While giving the description of what kind of groom she is looking for, she wrote, "It's better if he is NOT a family guy. Extra points to the one who hates kids."

IP's website carries the banner quote: "People want to survive. I want to live".
  

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  • zulfi ali, mangalore/ nizwa

    Sat, Mar 07 2015

    Its been quiet sometime seeing such people, who look life in a different angle. IP has done what she thinks it is to be. I appreciate that straight forwardness. good luck for your future endeavours ms. IP

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  • sudhi, byndoor

    Fri, Mar 06 2015

    "Extra points who hate kids" - This is definitely very bad. If everyone hates kids has she imagined what will happen to the world. It is our love and affection towards kids that makes them look at the society in a positive way and they will give the same back to the society. This simple thing she doesn't understand. Her background should be inquired. Who knows how she has treated the kids who will making lots of noise and childish wrong things. I hope neighbours keep kids away from her.

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  • Anil, Dubai/Sullia

    Thu, Mar 05 2015

    Offcourse Lydia Lobo , I would have passed same comment !
    As per her post she need one man as body guard not as husband ,Just imagine if your wife say same what you will do , (Please dont take personally )

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  • Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait

    Wed, Mar 04 2015


    R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    'similar interests'
    Flavian are you interested in knowing now?

    Nanhi kabhi nanhi

    Time is not in my favour.

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  • john pinto, mangalore/dublin

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    PARENTS SHOULD NOT FIGHT EACH OTHER IN FRONT OF CHILDREN, THIS MAKES A PERMANENT SCAR IN THEIR MIND. AND THEY THINK IS THIS A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE?

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  • Harold D'cunha, Mangalore, India

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I liked the way 23-year-old engineer, Indhuja Pillai created a furore in the mass media.

    When her parents had put an advertisement in newspaper for her alliance, without her consent, Then she had created her own web page, "marry.indhuja.com." and clearly mentioned her gender to be 'tomboy' & her marital status as 'married to self'.

    Day by day, the girls & women are becoming bold. Gone are those days, when men used to suppress women. Thanks to education, job security, exposure to the world, inter cultural integration etc etc which has given more confidence to the girls..

    We wish Indhuja all the best and hope she will find her soul mate, as per her desire.

    There are many boys, who are broadminded, hailing from inter caste, inter community family back ground metro brought up, who like open minded girls as their life partners.

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  • Nithin, Mangalore/SA

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    @ LYDIA..,

    I do agree to certain statements of yours ..., Whats your take on the statement she has made "SHE CANNOT COMMIT TO IT" .., No relationship can fruitful unless there's commitment...!!!

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Why are you wasting your time behind non-committal people Nitin ?

    Don't you have any better objective in life to keep yourself occupied ?

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  • ravi nayak, byndoor

    Fri, Mar 06 2015

    same question to you?

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  • Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait

    Wed, Mar 04 2015



    Bhandarkar,

    Boss, I had same thought about you. What actions prove, words will not.

    By chance, if she has gone through your comments, you will be fixed.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....
    I thought over it over several pegs
    yesterday.
    What the girls 'say they are'...,'they are not'!! They always enjoy 'fooling men'....
    Induja after all may be a prize catch!!
    I have made a very 'deep study' on this yesterdayo.k.!
    For the benefit of mankind and without expecting anything in return!
    If 'time' was by my side..I would have...
    Now forget it!
    God bless Induja and the man who tries to 'woo' her....

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  • V V**, bAHRAIN

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I read her profile. It is full of contradictions ..She says, she hate kids? She is not a marriage material? not a family guy? she might need a psychiatrist or may be Drama Queen/attention seeker.Whats the big deal.
    She isn't only Indian who suffers from identity crisis!!!!!!

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  • Rita, Germany

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    @ V.VBharain,she never said she hates Kids,but said a the who hate Kids.There is a vast difference.but let them decide.her choice.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Meet me. All your rattling will stop.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    This was not to Induja. This was to dear Nikita! I love kids by the way!!

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  • normal being , kulshekar

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I did click her site and found nothing normal there.
    So its ok. Secondly, she is neither from Bangalore nor
    from any village of karnataka, you
    better correct that. We don’t like to get aligned
    With supernormal species. We are ok as we are.
    She wants to live and we are ever ready to leave her.
    Man goes by the appearance but god weighs the intentions.
    In her case both man and God hit the bulls eye.

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  • Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait

    Wed, Mar 04 2015



    Of course she looks like a woman. She is a tomboy and believes only in living.
    There is a difference between Love for life (survive) and Love for living.

    Good for time pass.

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  • Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait

    Wed, Mar 04 2015



    Lydia Lobo,

    Madam,

    I have noticed that you are talking very sensibly.

    What was your choice when you got married ? Arranged or spouse of your choice.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Flavian, we were introduced by a common friend after noticing similar interests. We took a year to decide marriage.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    What were those 'similar interests'?
    Flavian are you interested in knowing
    now?

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  • Raj, Dubai

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I feel sorry for the person who marries this lady. All the best bro.

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  • AR, Ullal/Muscat

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Beautiful girl, so sad. it would have been better if her parents hated having kids instead of having this lonly child.

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  • yogesh, bombay

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    She doesn't look like a woman in the first place!

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  • CJV Mangalore, Bangalore/ Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I think at 23 most of the girls think like Ms Pillai. But when they get close is 30 view changes

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  • Renex, Udyavara

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    The first question that arises, that too being a man, is she worth marrying?

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Renex,

    Let us turn your question around - are you worthy of marrying her ?

    Many of you especially men, will not like me asking this question. But, the time has come gentleman, that girls have reached such a position that they can choose the type of spouse they want than walking to the 'Fere' or alter with no choice left like a lamb lead to the slaughter house.

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  • Zandy, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Most of us laugh, 'he he he'. But your laugh is different, 'vhe vhe vhe'. What's with the extra v?

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  • Vinod Bangera, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 04 2015


    Lydia Lobo

    We have seen your biased attitude in this forum since long. In your mind a girl/woman are never at fault. Any elopement, love & sex scandal you will never miss the opportunity to blame the boys. Now when this girl talks against the blessing of childbearing and expresses freedom of life (not living) you do not find anything wrong in her. Condemn what is not logical and which goes against normal blessed family life. Thank God her mother did not have such attitude.
    The time may come someone would grab the opportunity, uses freedom of life and dumps her.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Mr. Bangera,

    Have you not heard putting all eggs in one basket is not a wise decision ? I am a docile follower of this advice and flex my time to grasp information from various sources.

    Read below know what her parents' reaction was to her blog, yous and mine are secondary.

    Qutoe :
    "Some comments tell me that my story has given the writers the courage to fight back," she said, adding, "My parents were aghast when they heard about the site. But when they realized the language was sober and what I've written is true, they were fine with it. Now, my mother goes gaga about it."
    Unquote

    Please note, I may be biased when it comes to men but I don't abuse or insult them. You are a product of male dominating society, it will take generations to change the mindset.

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  • Anil, Dubai/Sullia

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Join nithyananda ashrama , all your condition will be satisfied

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Anil,

    Imagine you are related to her. Would have still said the same to her ?

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  • Af,, Mangaluru

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    not having the kid fine there are hundreds babies are there in the country as orphans just adapt a child.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I am surprised, majority of the opinion givers are males. Some are disturbed by her not wanting to have a child, some affected by her asking for a non-family-like man. What does this indicate ? A man wants her to be mother of his children and he wants to remain a child of his family. Isn't this too not stereotypical? A custom carried on by generations after generations ? If one woman refuses motherhood, doe the continuation of human chain end ?

    So, can't a woman too make a choice ? Ignore her you men, she is not your cup of tea. She will definitely find a man like say.. Ratan Tata.. who never married but retired with plenty of money and time to spend with a wife like her who also worked all her life to fulfill her ambition.

    Man or woman, one does not restrict to his/her habits and fashion throughout their life. Especially when someone starts to gray hair on his upper lip, a thick mustached man temporarily becomes clean shaven. I, a saree clad long plaited woman changed to shirts/trousers to boy-cut after matrimony. Why ? My spouse got irritated by both of these. So, leave it to individual's personal choice. If one has to change, it will happen at any point of your life. You can command/demand/order your choice on a partner you publicly accepted as your spouse. Naturally procreation is the basis of a marriage but those who disagree with it do go about it openly like Ms. Pillai did.

    She deserves freedom to decide what she wants, as some commentator said, she is honest to have said it in advance than playing with a guy's life by marrying him and placing the demands afterwards.

    Good luck Indhuja, you live a life of your liking, of your preference. Be happy.

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  • Vinayak Ranade, Pune

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Good if she is true to her views, good she is not spoiling and continuing the next generation by not making her clones, good she is not spoiling life of her partner, there are many who likes 'no strings attached'

    but number of such minded girls has to be reduced, and kept in check, they are danger to continuing human race, same like gays and lesbians.

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  • KKS, Mlore

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I commend her for being so open about her choices and not playing with any guys life after marriage.

    She is clear on what she looking for. If anyone is interested can approach her. This is much much better than some girls opening their mouth after their marriage....

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  • Rita, Germany

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    when you read and think deep into her advt.weband saying,there is a different meaning to it I feel.when she says "not when he is a Family man" may indirectly ,that many men would like to have a wife who marry,look after a home,and Kids stay at home.she wants most probably to work even after her marraige ,hate Kids may indicate that she dont want Kids early ,soon after marraige,first have some freedom ,then Family may be.and rebellish wants to plan her marraige as she wants ,not how parents want.or she is as she writes a tomboy,that not typical housewife may go out of typical wife.dont want to grow hair if husband wants or finds Long hair is beutiful.It is all hidden hints and find someone has to findout her code and when she is pleased then may marry .Why not try one of you guys to hack her code .?it is a atypical matrimonial cv.

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  • normar being, kulshekar

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I appreciate her, she has spoken her heart. wonderful. who cares what is good? but then what is true is always good, what is good need not be always true. of course she has freedom to vent her feelings. I appreciate her. she does not care what is true.she is wonderful. she is brainy...she says boy should not be family guy wow what a statement ...I appreciate her....did she ever ask her mother...before posting such f....in cv? she is really great all the women like her should be proud of! she is leading the women ...but where?
    she is really great......prefer someone who hates kids....poor choice of words here...she could have said one who does not love...kids...but who am I or u..to ...tell her to polish her English....if her dad had the same brain like her...? she is really great ...she has spoken her heart....

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  • Antony Fernandes, Mangalore/USA

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Prashanth, Surathkal

    As you said "Only thousands abandoned their child, out of this may be at least 80% abandoned because they became mother may be out of wed lock". Still its only thousands Sir!

    Billions became mothers, millions still waiting to become mother and to love her own Gods gift and still more may be under going various procedures by way of medications, prayers and so on, do remember. If you are married OR going to get marry "NEVER REFUSE THIS GREATEST GIFT OF GOD".

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  • Jessie, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Very well said. Having kids is NOT a compulsion. It's their personal choice...And, it's a wrong thinking that you'll come on street or will end up in orphanage in your old age, if you don't have kids. Last week, I visited an orphanage and every single person had a family, then how did this people land up in orphanage? Sad, but it's true....Getting married doesn't mean you have to have children....It's a choice that couple make together. if they don't, respect their decision. Just because, you like kids and you want to them to look after you in your old age, doesn’t mean you can force your thinking on others. Live and Let live!

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  • Muhammad Beary, mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Marrying or not marrying ..or choosing your partner is your personal choice...but having a kid dont say no,it is a blessing...life can go happily without kids till 40..but after that you may feel vacuum ...after 50's there is need of someone to take care of you...That is the time we understand the importance of kids...there is limitations for rented caretakers....nor money or your partner can bring those happiness what you get from your kids..You look after kid while it is young...your child will look after you when you are old...Those who doesn't fulfill or doesn't get this above two opportunities are biggest loosers of this life...To have it is a blessing

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  • Rita, Germany

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    @M.Beary,mangalore,I agree to what you say.unfortunately todays world has changed.and with it the preveious thoughts of having a intact Family,caring for parents at home .instead parents are pushed up in homes.as you say rented People.some dont like old People at home.caring them take them their time and last.many elder ones are also not always making them easy.I heard many times during they seek Girls to marry ,first Thing they ask whether he has a old mother at home,when yes then not possibe.Thats present.of course,when Boy and Girl should learn properly before marraige ,instaed of seperation later.many times both have their own aims like this Girl,even though bit other than normal.But it is her wish.she could have informed her parents before her advt.I hardly know any man in India who doesnt like ,or dont want child.It will be hard for her to find I feel .but can also succeed of her choice.

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  • Lavina Dsouza, Udupi/KSA

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Well said, Sir.

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  • Ppd, Jordan

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    she is kind of rebellion. she wants to go against her parents wish.but funny thing is she found the way by creating websites and publishing her views openly.that too against parents.this is just for the sake of publicity.cant she convince her parents and say no for marriage.this is just for publicity and next year she may be having plans to join big boss who knows

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  • Dev, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    She is 23 & her mind is not perfectly evolved!
    Every one has their own ideas & thoughts, at that age they think they know everything & they will remain the same till their old age or till their last breath.
    But growing is not stagnant process or nobody knows how she might evolve & change her philosophy.
    Until then let her enjoy the present & as Bhandarkar rightly points out what's the use to grow hair if something inside doesn't grow?
    I have seen many regret their earlier decisions & put up brave face & say grapes were sour anyway.

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  • Anil Rodriguez , Kundapur, Dubai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    she is a idiot and unfortunately media likes idiot, he shouldn't be family guy. means parents should not be part of family, he shud hate kids, well most men as well as women hate woman like you

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  • RP, Bahrain

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    I met so many fack people in life,One of my friend is extraordinary,he can pool anyone,he got master degree in that,
    RP

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  • Antony Fernandes, Mangalore/USA

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    I hate this one particular sentence "Extra points to the one who hates kids" this is something extreme. If this was came to the minds of her parents, todays this girl would not have been there!!!

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  • Anthony Lobo, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    50plus aged men might have responded to her CV. This is what the men need no kids, no responsibility of the family, just live life.

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  • John Anthony, Mangalore / Doha

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    What is wrong if she is symbolically pooh poohing the stupid idea of advertising in a matrimony website. Take the pun guys. And then it is her choice. I had a laugh.. do not expect someone to live their life the way we want or we dictate. Life is to live and she wants to live it this way. Get going.... and live your life. Cheers

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  • jimmy noronha, Bellore, Lucknow

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Somewhat sounds like a case where men should shun where angels fear to tread!!

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  • essell, India

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    She is sincere and open. Not wearing mask. Who are we to judge her? Much much better than creating problems after marriage.

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  • Darryl Lobo, Mangalore/Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Against human values..

    What if her parents hated kids...

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  • fiza , dubai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Rebel you being educated girl why are you ashamed of being a girl ..? and people who don't have kids know the pain but you .. HEARTLESS Lady

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  • Prasheesh Kumar, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Marriage is made in Heaven,
    Marital Life is made in Hell,
    and Divorce is made on Earth !

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  • Rohan Pinto, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    All that I can say "Its my choice babe.... "
    I respect her style and feelings...

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  • kripa tellis , mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Who are we to judge if family life is good for her or not? It's her choice, her life and her decisions. We are a bunch of people judging her. Hilarious this is!!

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  • Meghna, Udupi

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    It is a true saying that says most people listen half understand quarter but say a billion! before judging on her character i wish people had studied why she did it in the first place. Firstly she created that website only bcoz her parents forced her to get married like others and she dint wanned to them to think she dint help (even if it was sarcastically). she dont actually want to get married was behind all her comments on "not marriage material" or "not a family guy" or even "hate kids". Everyone is unique in their own way and she is too. she has just put across herself out there and her creativity is to be really appreciated.

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  • angelina, kuwait

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Nikita I fully agree with your points of views.

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  • vellano1, Mumbai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    I like the brutal honesty of this girl, and trust me she will make a better companion! Alas, I am overage, married and have my own kids to lookafter -)! vhe vhe vhe

    but as they say, marriages are made in heaven.. and I am sure, she will find her right match..wish her luck! its extremely personal subject and there should be good understanding between the two than anything!

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  • Dr Indian, Mlore/London

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Good to read a sensible comment from you vellano .Appreciate it.
    Makes a good change from the usual biased,opinionated ajjikathe we have to put up with. No offence intended.
    Take care

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  • adrianne, Kundapur

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Vellano I wish these men who have commented be counselled by you. Typical indian men, with a crooked and illiterate mentality. I say these men who are opposing this girls views please grow and every individual has her own identity and live the way she wants so dont over react. I truly appreciate this girl and kudos to her for her brave confrontation. She will be the best partner whoever marries her. Another thing you men those who have opposed to her and given your illiterate comments peep into your own minds and families and dont dig into other peoples affairs . We live in a democratic country and dont dictate terms. Our future generation you wait and watch will not want any kids because when we see the aged homes and ashrams will old people having children abroad and doing well have no time for their parents. Leave alone this sporting girl. Think over it. Hats off to you girl.

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  • Reshma D'Souza, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Something is wrong somewhere....

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  • Real Mangalorean, Mangalore/ Jubail

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    "It's better if he is NOT a family guy. Extra points to the one who hates kids." - Better marry a Impotent!!
    Apne pathi ka nasbandi karwale:P

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  • Dr Indian, Mlore/London

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Not having kids can be a choice as well,nothing abnormal. You don't have to be impotent to not have kids.
    The the only purpose of life is not just to breed. That sort of thought process is the main cause of the problems of our country.
    Quality is always better than quantity my friend

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  • Real Mangalorean, Mangalore/ Jubail

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    I agree with you sir, but the points she highlighted "NOT" a family guy & he should "HATE" kids, was only terms on which i commented.
    Thank u for your wise reply.

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  • Hussain, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    U dont need anything then y u want to marry

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  • Muzammil, Raichur

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Btw, she's not from Bengaluru, she's from Salem (Tamil Nadu), she's just working in Bengaluru.

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  • prakash, mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Looks like she dont want to take responsibility, but her parents have pushed it to her to get married/ dont understand what is the stereotype in this.Does not look she has been rejected or depressed because of that. She has written about marriage but defys all the values of marriage. Therefore best is to not to married and spoil other partners life. Or she should he a perfect match which is difficult in any marriage.

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  • Lexy Saldanha, Mangaluru/Sydney-Australia

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Nut case, trying to get attention and cheap popularity, there are plenty of such women here in Australia and other Western countries, but we never knew this madness is copied by Indian women.
    Best choice is to be single and enjoy life & career, why bother looking for a partner or marriage. Ms. Indhuja Pillai with your set conditions you will never find one. Grow up and be matured & realistic.

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  • Flavian, Mangaluru/Kuwait

    Tue, Mar 03 2015



    She is not normal from any perspective.

    The day when her skin shrinks and the cheeks crumple, she will realize worth of leading a normal family life.
    Better to use and discard.

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  • Adil, Thekkatte

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Lot more to come when world is nearer to finish ...

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  • Suman, Bengaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    May be she is not able to bear a child, so proactively she s that she does not want a child.

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  • Nikita, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Well to those of you who are commenting against this article got to just catch a breath first. Literally, Induja has her own rights. She can babble to the whole world what she wants and what she doesn't. Her stand shouldn't effect you.(Though right now I am rightly effected by your negativity). IT'S NOT A CHEAP ACT. SHE ISN'T A SICK MINDED GIRL. She might not have predicted for her website to go viral. So it clearly isn't sick. And attention seekers excuse me? A good egoistic character never sets any one off. And i feel sorry for you people who don't appreciate her approach. Induja, i love for the fact that you are pretty much audacious. All the best :)

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  • Indian, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Sister at least have respect for motherhood....(that's why i mentioned she forgot how she came into this world..sorry if i hurt you again..)
    After reading your comment still i am firm that she is sick mined, wants to get attention only...

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  • Rohan Pinto, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Indian.Mangalore If a man remains brahmachari , Is he sick minded? Sickness is there within our nature,customs, etc etc..
    Try to respect each one's feelings

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  • Prashanth, Surathkal

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Exactly.. i second you... people commenting against her are actually living life for others. "What people will think" if i do this or that. Common, as long as you are doing nothing illegal you have every right to live your life.

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  • Shankar, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    As Induja and Nikita has got their rights, everyone in this forum too reserve their right to opine.
    So dont feel sorry for any views,cheer up.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    1. I have a Hunch.
    2. I have a Gut Feeling.
    When I have this both together I am never wrong.
    Here Nikita, I think is the same girl who wrote an article on 'Valentine Day' in the Special Columns. About 'Love Multiplying Manifold' after marriage and all that. Nikita Ferrao if I am not mistaken.
    Now I think she is praising this 'atrocious audacity' or something of Pill Hai.
    Call it a 'change of heart' or what?

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  • Shankar, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Salutes to your memory Sir. Just to check whether your skill is gender specific.... What was the title of the article i have written on special columns? and whats my surname? ))

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  • Nikita, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Dear Madam, (R Bhandarkar)
    I'm a humble youth, who doesn't have the flair of writing like you do! And I'm certainly not a ferrao :) Here though, when people have their freedom of speech, I see you have condemned a person who shares my First name, who you think has written this comment. Way to go madam!

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    1.What makes you think-you do not have a flair?
    2. What Humble?
    If at all there's a 'mistake' is that you 'jump'...errrrr..jump to conclusions very soon.
    Moreover you have accused me of condemning.Can you 'pin point' my condemning?
    All your other doubts, rattling problems (or any other) will vanish ,once you meet me.Why wait in suspense? Give it a go....Why long way to go?? You are in any case a 'girl' right? Not 'Nikhita Miller' the Australian 'off spinner' surely?

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  • Oliver Machado, Udupi - Sharjah

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Appreciate her genuine and open mindset.Everyone is unique and we all have our individual wants, needs and desires.May she find the most suitable proposal and succeed in her marital arrangement.She and her partner can always make changes to their lifestyles whenever they chose to do so.People change with times.Wish her the best,God bless.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Married to self-Yeah?
    Then climbing a wall- mounting a horse would be very easy....kid stuff...
    oopsy! She hates kids doesn't she?

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  • jerry , bengaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    whatever may be the news item published by Daijiworld, I come here to read the comments especially that of R. Bandarkar. dear bandarkar you r gifted with the quality of humours...keep up. your satires, jokes n poems make me laugh n smile. all the best!

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Thanks mate.....
    Nothing like cheering up anybody through writings...
    God bless....

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    why 4 disagree? Nonsense.
    She is married to self means..she has a 'man in her'.O.k.
    Plus the 'Tomboy' factor.
    When she has that 'man potential' she will tap it.
    Men are expert climbers and mounters. Study papers second it.
    So what is wrong in what i have written?
    Nonsense disagree fellows.
    Mard hain Tho- Saamne AAke Toko- Peeche se Nahin....

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  • Societal Web, Dubai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    and in this sick society, these things catch everyone's attention quickly !

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    First reading only-I thought big-big
    o.k.? That she might be a mix of Madhuri-Kareena-Priyanka and all that.
    Until I saw her photo.
    She is far far off from the mixture! With her thoughts she is bound too!
    The mixture I alluded to here is nowhere near Latha Rego from Matadakani.....Road!
    So you know how this Pill Hai looks!
    Isn't it correct what our elders said then?
    That your thoughts reflects your looks and vice versa....

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  • Nikita, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    I'm rattled for the fact that you critiqued her looks..

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Meet me. All your rattling will stop.

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  • Nikita, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 04 2015

    Haha. Lol sure.

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  • Societal Web, Dubai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Remember you were kid too kiddo.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    I have seen such kind in my days too. Nothing new. Some cases are like this. Pretending and all that.
    Such kind should be encouraged to play...
    Lagori, Kutti Dhone, Ais Pais...Hide N seek etc. Slowly everything will fall in place.
    What 2,30,000 page views and all that for this nonsense.

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  • Gokul, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    I agree it's girls choice and she has choice and freedom to do what she wants. Our country needs bold women who can contribute to the society by moving up the corporate ladder, or sports, politics and all walks of society. But letter from this girl looks weird to me. Freedom is one thing, but unreasonable demand is another. She wants a guy who does not like his family, does not like kids, and has a beard and good personality. So does it mean that having these demands and expressing it in public makes women bold these days. Then what is the difference between this girl and men who demand that he wants a girl who is not working, wears only saarees, cooks at home, and does not go out without his permission and so on. Here man was also expressive. Here girl has only imitated low standards which Indian men had in 19th century and even now to some extent. Imagine marrying a girl who does not give me freedom to shave, same as girl marrying a guy who does not give her freedom to work or wear any dress.
    True bold couples are those who provide freedom to their partners, and individual space and always have mutual love and trust for each other.

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  • Dinesh, Kulai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    She is more interested in her startup company Tripgator and want to market it well.

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  • DL, Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    I feel sorry for her. She is really unfortunate not to have realised the importance of kids. To have kids, to love them and to be loved by them is such a blessing.

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  • Indian, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    She forgot ..how she came in to this world..why you feel sorry for her my friend...

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  • Prashanth, Surathkal

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Sir..there are thousands who give birth to child and abandon them..
    at least she in honest in her views..whats wrong in it?

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  • DL, Mangalore/Dubai

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    It is still understandable if she wants a guy who doesn't want to father a child. There are many who don't want to take that responsibility and it's upto them. But he should HATE kids? Really???

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  • Simon, Bangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    i feel sorry for the man who is going to marry her..

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  • Indian, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Sick minded girl wants to get attention with a cheap act....these days you can find many such people including politicians , celebrities...

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  • CONRAD JOHN TAURO, SHIRVA/UDUPI/DUBAI

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    She looks very happy.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    Don't judge by the outer.
    See inner..or rather 'see thru'.
    These rebels....A day in limelight in any case. 'Ek Din Ki Be gum'...
    All these 'viral fevers'...hmmmmm

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  • R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    "It's better if he is NOT a family guy. Extra points to the one who hates kids."......
    What she wants is then ...
    1. A Vagabond or at best a No Mad'. Is it not?
    2. Also one who has ' d r o p p e
    d' on the ground and become big just like that'.
    3. 'Hates Kids' is a give way in any case.
    4. 'Grow her hair' to be a perfect woman? What's the use of grown hair if 'nothing else' grows?
    5. In any case you exhibit your wares openly. Nothing is hidden-everything out in the open.
    In this era there may be takers for this kind too. Who knows?
    Looks like an 'old age home' case at the outset...in any case.

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  • Shankar, Mangalore

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    in the first place, why the hell she needs a 'marriage'??

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  • Raj Amin, Udupi

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    good point bro...

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  • India First, India

    Tue, Mar 03 2015

    If she is already married to self then why she is looking for a man again ?? Number of attention seekers are growing now a days. These are all hot news now a days!!

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